 I feel like first-year marriage, we did a really good job sex-wise. Yeah. Why can't I think about it? Huh? Why do I think about that? This video is sponsored by Squarespace. From websites to online stores to marketing tools and analytics, Squarespace is an all-in-one platform to showcase your brand, build your business, and connect with your audience. Can I just say a massive thank you to Squarespace for partnering with me all of 2019? I undoubtedly believe that Squarespace had a massive hand in my growth this year, and I want you to play around with them for free to see if it can boost your 2020. Go to Squarespace.com for a free trial, no credit card necessary, and when you're ready to launch, go to Squarespace.com slash Shambudy because that is how you will get 10% off your first purchase of a website or a domain. I grabbed the vlog camera. This is our morning. I was thinking why don't you just sprint out of here without announcement. You see, you guys have watched the Michael Jackson or Kelly, right? No! Don't! Congrats to having love. And to be honest, I wouldn't have it any other way because it's made me fall in love with you and see you as a partner in such a beautiful, meaningful way. Really? Do you feel that way about me? I do feel that way, but I've always felt that way before the busyness came in. Always gotta one up somebody. I just know in the comic session. It's not the comic section. This is the thing that Jared, if I have you guys picked up on this, he always messes things up just a little, little touch. It's frickin' water, yo. It's water. It's frickin' water, yo. Who says that? It's felt natural. If we don't make a baby tonight, there's no hope. Cutest husband. Look nice while you're being cute. Did they see you? I don't need to see this. I'll let you see. You see what I'm saying? This is why I don't even like doing videos with you because you always gotta like, you always gotta like bring it in. You're a bad actor. I'm a character. What? Hey there, lovers and friends. Do you know what today is? I do. Do you know that song reference? No. Do you know what today is? I know that. But you didn't say it. What comes next? I don't know the words. I've heard that. You knew the song. You would know what comes next. I've heard that. I heard that. What comes next? I don't know what comes next. I can't think of you, but I've heard the song. It's our anniversary. I've heard the song before. If you heard the song, you would have known those next lines. Speaking of songs, what song would you choose to represent our first year in marriage? I would choose, I don't know who the singer is, but Will Smith did a remake of it. The Just The Two of Us song. Oh, okay. I tried to slow dance with you to that song and you were not into it at all. But... Really? You were like, when is the song going to end? It's a very long song. It's a very long song and it just kept repeating over and over and over and over. It's borderline brainwashing. So what I would choose is Samba Party. And I think like in a weird way, I wouldn't say that that is necessarily like the connection that we have, but that song represents our entire marriage until we die. Like that is the storyline. The whole thing, like from the beginning to the end. Yeah. So like when one of us dies, we have to put it at the funeral. Oh, wow. You know what's interesting is when you told me that was a song you would choose for us, that to me is the song I would play if we got divorced. What? Because it would be like sorrowful joy. Like that song, you described it as a rainy day in LA. Yes. So that's how I think about that song. It's like a reflective song after the rain and you're just walking. Like the rain is over and now you've got to rebuild again. So that song is some, I get it for a funeral. I also get it for a divorce. I don't get it for our first year of marriage. Wow. Maybe I should shoot a different song. No, it's good. That's our first year of marriage to you. I understand. It's not death. Maybe it's death to my single self. Do you feel like it's been in death to your single self? Do you feel like you show up in the world? Like, I don't feel that way either. No. I feel like first year marriage, we did a really good job sex wise. Yeah. Why can't I think about it? Huh? Why do I think about that? I was just trying to figure out like where you're comparing it to like. Well, I'm just thinking about in the scheme of people's thinking about how marriage changes your sexual relationship. Oh yeah. I feel like we have really stayed true to us and we have enforced it. It's just felt like a natural progression of where we were before and how we are now. What was the first year for you like? It definitely was the same. It felt like a natural progression of building block on top of what we already have. I can't lie. I love saying my husband. Actually, when we were at your shoot the other day, me and Lose were talking and then he was like complimenting the gloves that you bought me. And he's like, oh, where'd you get those gloves from? And I was like, oh, my husband bought it for me and he was like, don't be that fucking asshole. He's like, that's so annoying. And he's like, I know who you're, I know Jared just use his name. And like once in a while it just feels grand to say my husband did this for me. The other day we were somewhere and I was right beside you. Oh, that restaurant. You were like, oh, when my wife comes, she'll tell you. And then you're like, oh, she's right here. And I was like, oh, you call me your wife in my absence? Like that felt like a stunt. What for you has been our biggest struggle of the first year of our marriage? I think the biggest struggle is balancing work and love life. I feel like we both have a pretty bad habit of scheduling like 45 hour days. And then combining that together is like too much. So like we're just constantly working. So an area that I feel like has been the biggest struggle and I say this knowing that it's bullshit of me to say this, but I feel like the disparity in the amount of physical affection that we require is still a problem for me. What's with the shrug? Cause you'll never be satisfied with that. That's not true. I don't think you'll ever be satisfied with that. Well, we probably won't just base in the fact that you just don't like to make out. So like that is always going to be a conflict that like this is a natural area of dislike for you and it's an area of severe passion for me. Well, I mean, maybe you need to get a cuddle body cause I was like, we're at the brim right there. Right at the brim right there. We do a lot, we do a lot of cuddling. We do a lot of cuddling. But not much making out. Why do we need to make out? Cause it's just a joyful activity. Eighth grade activities. 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I feel like our work relationship has really improved this year and I think that our understanding of what each person's strengths are and also where we can rely on each other has definitely improved this year. I think we get into less work arguments overall. Yeah. And like we have different creative visions a lot like the way that I like things to look versus you and I feel like we now understand that about each other. So if we're doing things for you like your opinion wins default I don't argue with you and if we're doing things for me it's the same thing. So what do you look forward to in the future of our marriage? I think next year is going to be our best year ever. Why? Why? Why did you say that was such a concern in your face? Well why like the second year being the best year? There's so much more years after that. Why would that be the best year of our entire marriage? So far in life. Okay, okay, okay. I'm not saying year two is going to top your 40. Yeah, like there's a lot more years that we got to live through. Okay, what I'm saying next year we're going to buy a house. I'm putting it out there. Yes, I agree. Next year we're going to start a family. I'm going to put that out there. I feel like next year we're both going to be more settled than who we are. I think we've been becoming for so long. I think our relationship has been becoming. I think as individuals we've been becoming. And I feel like towards this fourth quarter and that's even for me. Like this last month has really solidified this year. I didn't know what to make of this year before that. I just felt so confused, emotional, ups and downs. And this last month it all kind of clicked into place for me. But I feel like next year I'll be so solid in who I am, what I want to present and I think who we are as a couple will also have that same solidity to it. Yeah. What I think is really great about when we got married is it is the end of the year. So in addition to reflecting on our growth as a couple it's just the time to reflect on growth overall. So I feel like we get to use these anniversary videos as an opportunity for people who either are married or are not married to also join in the reflection process. So I would love to hear from you. What was something this year that you want to take into next year? And what is one thing that you want to leave behind? That's a good one. I'm pretty good at this. Oh my gosh. I can't even give you a compliment. Let's go. Happy anniversary. Happy anniversary.