 Do you have any moments in your life where you look back and your skin starts to crawl from embarrassment? Personally, yep, I have. I would say I probably have 10 or 12 recurring ones for a long time really bothered me and It's so great that I get to talk to people in my work But if you are One of those people that has many of those cringe memories that come back Just realize you're not alone We all have these and I want to give you a little bit of a feedback in terms of how you process these memories Because they're so intrusive. They're the you could be in the shower one morning And just this memory pops up into your mind of one of the cringe moments that you felt deeply embarrassed and awkward in Maybe you have a lot of regrets and a lot of shame tied up in it Now what's driving these memories is a fundamental core belief It's one of the three core beliefs I talk about And it is the belief that they're in being defective in that there's something wrong with me shame guilt Are tied up in this now In terms of processing this One exercise. It's not an easy exercise to do is just One day in journaling what I invite you to do here is to sit down and Write down, you know, you can call this journal entry cringe moments or something right where you look back in your life and you look at in sequence the Moments in which you felt that really skin-crawling embarrassment Usually, of course, it's around other people The bigger the group of sometimes the more intense it can be Just to write them down and to see we're going to do like a stock take here and evaluation of How many of these moments are there for me? and How often do these thoughts intrude on my life because They pop up seemingly random, but For many of us they happen so often that it can kind of become an issue, right and it can really start to erode away at our sense of self-worth now the secret to this if there is a secret is How how do we let this go? How do we process it? And I know many people have approached this differently I know many people have Tried to like reframe memories or change memories even which to me seems a Little bit difficult to do. I don't think it's about that. I think it's it's about looking at the memories and Here's the thing. Here's a secret You have to give yourself complete permission to Experience moments like this What I'm really saying is It is how you are perceiving these moments in your life and using them against yourself That is the main problem Give yourself complete permission To experience moments like this in your life. You have to give yourself permission You now I know what does that mean give yourself permission You have to come to terms with the fact that you're allowed to do that That thing that made you your skin crawl Okay, and it's a reason I'm talking about this is it's like we don't often talk about this I don't hear many people talking about this issue And it's it's one of those things that can know away in the background with us sometimes So for me personally many times like public speaking I've given loads of talks over the years Many of them most of them almost all of them have been good few of them have been cringe-worthy a few of them I have really made a like anxiety talk over or something and I Found it difficult in those moments and how I was processing those experiences was Dysfunctional right so that needed to be worked on and ultimately when you look at it Give yourself full permission allow yourself to do it It is how you are viewing these memories That is all important and if you realize if you give yourself complete permission Really to even celebrate the fact that that's what I did that happened to me Okay, I Can guarantee you that this won't matter so much, but I'm going to say it anyway. No one else is thinking about these moments not one soul right and But if they're popping up in your awareness again and again Really the issue is okay. I need to learn to let this go. I need to learn to live with this memory And it's in full for giving yourself full permission To be a person that's allowed to do that thing that awkward socially awkward thing that happened You said the wrong thing. Maybe you had an anxiety attack or Something like that said something wrong Maybe you were asking something out on a date. Maybe You said something wrong in it in there like a job interview or something like that Giving yourself permission to have these experiences Will mean that you're going to free yourself up to be way more creative and Open to risk in the future But really the most important thing is that these memories that pop up and they're like a thorn in your side sometimes They will start to fade off. In fact, here's another thing I would invite you to try every time a memory like that pops up into your awareness Amplify the memory Really go into the memory proactively because usually what happens is when these memories pop up We want to get away from it, right? what we need to start doing proactively is when these memories come up amplify it welcome up that memory and celebrate that moment of your life See it as one of the Best moments in your life That's what I mean by embracing it this issue is so common for us, but We don't talk about it that often and I think That tells us that we're trying to escape these moments, right? We don't want to look at them Many many people usually successful people Component people have had these experiences. I've seen a lot of them online of People kind of have an awkward moment, so whatever So you're not alone in this, but you need to learn to celebrate these moments Really give yourself permission to be a person that's allowed to do that I'll leave it there today short video, but I hope that was useful. Take care