 in a long-term relationship you're dating. It's not a disabled person, carer, dynamic kind of thing. And so I'd be really wary around doing things for your partner if they haven't explicitly asked you to. I find that my skills, my life skills, my independence tends to drop when people do things for me that I haven't asked them to. When people do, so maybe they I'm depressed and my executive function isn't as good as usual, you know, perhaps maybe I get a bit more support in general for just life things, trying to manage my mood, trying to keep me on top of things. And that's all good, but even in that state there are some things that I would