 thing I think I should mention as well is sometimes it's actually better for your mental health and more autism friendly not to advocate for yourself that completely goes against the whole theme of this podcast but I think it's important to always kind of qualify a message. Sometimes I look at a situation and I think to get the adjustment that would work really well for me I'm going to have to speak to about five different people I'm going to have to justify myself five different times I'm going to have to wait to hear back from this person to speak to that person and suddenly that's actually more damaging for me than going through the thing that I was initially scared of just by getting a very basic support if I'm having to speak to a million people to get it and the chances I won't be that helpful anyway I think you know what it's better to just cut your losses and to go through the initial thing it will cost less energy