 Just showing off the NARC survivor face mask. I don't know if you've got yours yet They have been up for a few months so far and We have sold many of them. I have to get one myself They're really good. It's really high quality material. So If you would like your own NARC survivor face mask You can go to the store Teespring.com Slash stores slash NARC survivor Any way sis are off limits Many of you have been on this channel for a while. You've been watching my videos and Hopefully those videos have been helpful to you and And Yeah, I'm sure many of you I've been healing you've been focusing on getting back to yourself maybe you were lonely before but now you're okay with being alone and Maybe you're in a good place now. Maybe you might even be thinking of Making new friends or even dating you might be thinking about these things and of course you know that is Perfectly natural even though you may have been through what you've been through There is nothing wrong with that there is nothing wrong with Wanting to try again Wanting to meet someone new Wanting to be in a relationship There's nothing wrong with that at all As long as you've taken the time To get back to yourself To focus on healing self-care Self-love and enforcing strong boundaries As long as you have taken the time to do all of that There's nothing wrong with getting back out there and Dating again There's really nothing wrong with that at all But as the title of this video says Narcissists are of limits you can date people I'm not saying that at all, you know, that's That would go completely against everything this channel stands for Because I am all about freedom I'm all about people coming together Having a good time. I'm all about that Just not with narcissists though Okay After everything I've talked about in my videos Everything you should know about these people That is the last thing you should be doing You don't want to do that and You know, I'm not sure why anyone would want to do that if you've healed I mean the only reason why you would go back to a narcissist Is if you did fully heal So that you know, those are the only the only people who are going to end up back with Narcissists are those who haven't healed themselves. It's kind of like Before I start talking about this, I just want to Show you think we got cut off there Yeah, I just wanted to show I am drinking that there is anything that wrong You know, if you want to have a drink when you know, I enjoy a drink sometimes myself, but Well, actually not for a few years now, but anyway Yeah Going back to narcissists having this urge to date them again, it's like Let's say you You used to drink a lot maybe you used to smoke Whatever it is It might have been an addiction it might have been something you do a lot and Maybe it was quite unhealthy for you, it wasn't doing you any good It was affecting your life and if you go back to that again, I Called it would take is if you had one drink again Well, if you smoked one cigarette Suddenly you're right back in it all over again. It's like the addiction Comes back the trauma bond Everything that you worked so hard to overcome All of that just comes right back and that is why This message is so important because if you entertaining narcissists again and And you get pulled back in Whether it's one from the past or someone new it's just gonna happen all over again Everything you went through Everything that drove you to find my videos You're gonna be in the middle of that all over again and Sometimes when we look back we think it's it wasn't so bad But it was bad. Just remember everything you went through The anxiety The depression the increased Quartus or levels the adrenal fatigue the memory loss Maybe you had seizures Maybe you developed other addictions from this alcohol Smoking drugs Maybe you were even suicidal And if you get involved with a narcissist again You're just good to you're going to end up right back there Where you were before it's not going to do you any good They don't have your best interest in mind But I get it, you know some narcissist The image they present to you. It's Really good at fooling people this image that they show it's You know, they try and display someone who is This attractive Charming fun character Everything you could want right, but if you've watched my videos you should know that's not who they really are and You do find that out that goes by Seems like fun in the beginning And you validate that this image that they portrayed to you because you want that to be them You wish that was them But deep down You know that it's not you want them to be everything That you want That's never what they're going to be It isn't real all they can do is just reflect back to you Whatever they think you want to see and as long as you're willing to entertain the illusion They'll keep feeding it back to you, but it's just like virtual reality once you take the headset off And you're back in the real world You realize that nothing they displayed with what nothing that they displayed to you was real so You're just gonna be wasting your time nothing Good it is gonna come out of being around narcissists Whether you're healed or not They'll still be there and that's why you need to enforce strong boundaries You need to say no No, I don't want you in my life. I don't want you around me. That's what you need to say You know, maybe not those exact words of course, but You know, you just need to make it clear that you Don't want anything to do with them because they're not gonna be any good for you That's why I just felt the need to make this video Narcissists are off limits and sometimes gone by you spend plenty of time focusing on yourself Practicing self care Practicing self love you've healed Maybe you're ready to date again That's fine But date someone else who is also healed don't date these narcissists They will ruin your life and one day you will regret that it will haunt you so yeah You know, I don't recommend doing that Narcissists are off limits, but yeah, let's focus on something a Bit more positive now has anyone in the chat here managed to heal to a certain level and Have they been dating and managed to find someone good. I'd love to hear a positive story here Now I mean, of course I can understand it's It's not always so easy to get these stories on here because usually those who do heal You don't tend to hear from them They've got no reason to come on here anymore unless they're Just trying to help other people Sunshine State says yes with your help. Is that yes? You've you've been here then or you've been dating Lisa says not yet Sarah says yeah another knock That's not what I wanted to hear, but it's it's good to accept that you know to know To have that awareness, you know instead of just validating the illusion and just wishing it was Whatever you want it to be Alex Andrina says yeah two years and a half No dating just chat with people Yeah, there's nothing wrong with that Chattom with a few people It's good to socialize These knocks want to keep you isolated Someone says not yet Sunshine State says I have a new very kind and very understanding and patient man He does help me a lot Wow, that's really great to hear. You know, it's good to know that You know people are finding People out there who are not knocks. I hope that Tells everyone who's watching this that you can do it too. You can hear from this you can set strong boundaries and Meet someone who is going to respect respect you you can It is possible And there are still good people out here not everyone is a knock Not everyone is toxic Sylvia says I think I'll be single for the rest of my life. That's what knock once Alex Andrina says I am still afraid of dating, but I healed Lenny says had to drink To held out with him he was drinking all the time Nearly made me addicted to alcohol but quit that completely Also, thanks to the Lord. Thanks for sharing that Lenny That does happen, you know, they They get you involved in all of their weird habits and It can become a part of your lifestyle as well because otherwise they feel like they're doing something wrong Unless you're a part of it should have known that was coming God's favor says how about you in this? I'm not really interested in dating You know after everything I've been through I don't know. I'm not sure if I said already in my videos. I Let us feel like I'm already fit for a relationship Not now at least that's not to say that I haven't healed to some level Most of the time I Do feel really happy I Enjoy life Despite Everything that goes on I still find Plenty of time to smile and laugh and just Enjoy this gift that God has given me, you know, I feel blessed to be here On this earth, I feel blessed to have everything I've got I know that all of you can get to that place too Because it's not about life just being perfect and our life is never gonna be perfect anyway, it's You're always gonna have ups and downs You're always gonna have bad days, but you'll know how to turn those bad days into good days You'll know how to laugh Despite what is happening around you and I know you can all get to that place. I was in a really dark place As many of you may know I was suicidal I didn't want to live anymore. I just wanted to end my life Just for what's the point of even being alive? No one loves me No one cares about me just completely useless Not good enough for anything Yeah, that's literally what I thought about myself. I hated myself after everything Now, you know, I look at myself now and I think You know, I know I know I'm not perfect You know, I know I've made mistakes, but at least I can see that I'm trying to change and take responsibility for Where I ended up in life and the people I surrounded myself with and that's what it's about, you know, sometimes Things happen. We make the wrong choices At some point we have to hold ourselves accountable. It's so easy to blame everyone else But that's not going to change anything When you hold yourself accountable Your life will change. I can promise you that and that's not saying That other people weren't to blame You know, maybe they did something to you that's not taking any weight anything away from that but at some point You've got to say to yourself This is what happened This is where I am now and what am I gonna do about it because otherwise You're just gonna find yourself stuck in the same place For the rest of your life and nothing's ever going to change and I know that's not what everyone wants to hear But it's the truth No one's coming to save you that person that you've been waiting for Is you I'm not your hero. I'm not here to save your life. I'm here to teach you How to save your own life because that's really what it's all about We can only save ourselves first you have to believe Somewhere inside of you that has to be that belief When I was suicidal at some point I believed that I could get through it if I didn't I Wouldn't have So that belief is so important When you believe you can do anything and I know it's good to have the support as well You know, we do need people around us Support us. I mean, that's why this community is here and even I myself. I had someone who coached me Who helped me to believe in myself and now that's my role on here It's to help you to believe in you and that's why as many of you may know I'm now offering My YouTube coaching sessions I can coach you to do what I do to build your own successful YouTube channel or website to help millions of people around the world to make thousands of dollars Every month Even every week because I know you're all capable of that Sometimes all we need is someone to believe in us so that we can believe in ourselves and I'm all about that, you know working together collaboration, that's why recently I now Employee and operations manager and I have a team that I work with I've got a team of editors I've had graphic designers people who did the logos The banner the video intros the merchandise collaboration is very important and When you have the tools When you're given the tools Maybe one day we could collaborate maybe one day We could work together one man can only do so much when there's more of us There's more we can do and there are definitely going to be positions available With knock survivor people to work in the admin administration people to work in the sales people to Translate the videos into different languages All of these positions need to be filled and those of you who enroll in the YouTube coaching program and You inherit the tools The other ones who are going to qualify most For these types of positions That's where we're gonna look first but despite that you will be able to Create your own successful YouTube channel or website With the tools that you were given In the YouTube coaching So if that's something that interests you you can book a YouTube coaching session for the website It's www.knocksurvivor.uk You can book either 30 minutes one hour or 90 minutes and for a limited time There is a discount available a 20% discount But that's only on one-hour sessions So if you're quick you should be able to get the discount of 20% Just use the code NS welcome 20 All in capital letters and that will give you 20% off the one-hour sessions and do remember when you book a YouTube coaching session You will need to mention in the notes That that is what you are booking Rather than a regular coaching session, but yeah, I'm all about working together I'm all about collaboration Together we can build so much Just look at what we have built already. We've managed to create this community With over 100,000 subscribers over 22 million views we've achieved so much Together we did that and I know that together We can achieve so much more we can build so much more and I know that many of you can do What I've done. I know that you are capable of it That's all for this live video tonight Thank you all for joining me and you all have a good day