 The narcissist will never expect you to do this. This video is for victims who cannot leave the relationship for whatever reason. Maybe you're financially responsible on the narcissist. Maybe you don't have anywhere else to live. So you are stuck with the narcissist, which means that there probably isn't going to be much peace or joy in your life because the narcissist always finds a way to destroy that but there is a way to regain your peace and your joy. There is a way to regain control of the situation without having to fight, without having to argue with the narcissist and the way to do that is by playing their game, by engaging and participating in something according to their design, intentions and conditions that they have imposed on you. It may seem nonsensical and unintuitive but it works. I know that many of you who are watching this are good people. You have a kind nature. You don't want to manipulate anyone, not even the narcissist and this tactic may seem evasive and deceptive but you have to accept that the narcissist is manipulating you and as long as you are being honest and truthful with the narcissist they have the advantage. So to level the playing field you need to manipulate their emotions and you can do that by playing their game by pretending as though you have the same priorities by pretending as though whatever is important to them is important to you as though you share the same goal or objective because by doing that you will be able to have a greater influence on them you will be able to influence and direct the behavior and the course of events. Many victims try to set boundaries with the narcissist they try to tell the narcissist what they prefer or what they don't like but that never works. It never gets through to the narcissist because they only care about themselves so you have to make them believe that you are acting in their best interest as though your intentions and objectives are designed to benefit them because that is when they will start to listen to you when they believe that they are going to get something out of it but to do that you have to jump on their frequency you have to see things the way they do no matter how irrational or unrealistic it may seem because it doesn't have to come into fruition you just have to make them believe that you are working towards the same goal because then they are going to have no reason to argue with you they are going to feel more at peace which then allows you to keep your peace you have to take away the resistance and let them think that they are in control let them think that they are better than you let them think that they have the authority despite how counter-intuitive it may sound because it will then give you the control all the narcissist really wants from you is total submission to accept their goals and ideas as your own and once you do that they will be more accommodating but then there is nothing for them to fight for you have to be fake just like them you have to act like you are the cause of the problem whatever they want you to be just mirror it that is how you manipulate the narcissist it's very easy you just have to understand that all they really want is to feel better than you so give them that opportunity and then you will have them in the palm of your hand they will calm down because you have given them a narcissistic supply the reason why the narcissist is always so difficult with you is because you refuse to give them that supply you refuse to make them feel better about themselves but when you willingly give that to them you will have them wrapped around your finger because you are propping up their own grandiose perception of themselves so now they believe they are better than you there is no need for them to put you down there is no need for them to make you feel small once you accept that ideas have perceptions without resistance once you tell them what they want to hear because they will not understand you unless you understand them but they will never really understand you because they don't see you as a real person they see you as an object but the narcissist will never expect you to do this they will never expect you to manipulate them they targeted you because they thought you weren't that type of person they saw you as an open book but when you play their game and validate their false self that is when you can regain control in the relationship because you are feeding their ego you are making them feel better about themselves and then they feel no reason to shut you down because now you have become a component you are an essential part of the machine you shouldn't feel bad about doing this because remember it is for your own safety you are doing it to survive you are not doing it to extract money or resources from the narcissist but when this is done correctly it can be a powerful tool it can help you to protect your mental and emotional health until you can develop your exit plan and then you are free to do whatever you want thank you for watching I hope this video resonated with you please like, comment, share and subscribe if you would like to donate my paypal link is in the video description coaching inquiries you can email me at coaching.narcsurviver.uk thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon