 Ladies and gentlemen Tony Gaskins here. I Hope I wasn't on here with a hot mic like the politicians be Because I don't know how people on here before I got on here. I guess they had a waiting screen. Let me see Okay, all right They go November's very on say I'm a I'm ready. I don't know Male or female hi mr. Gaskins does a book need to be copyrighted before submitting it to an adder If you go to somebody you know It's not that big of a deal. It's not like, you know Unless you wrote the next X man or spider-man or something like that if it's your personal story came about it Really, you know, it don't benefit them to run off on the plug But if it's like a fiction book then you could go to copyright.gov and copyright it but I Won't copyright mine. Let me just Until it's time to get published. You know, it's not that Not that big of a deal. Somebody legal system too strong today for somebody to try to run off with this Stuff and build a life with your story Make sure you put the hashtag Q in front of your question The divine Yep, do it the same way do it just like as if you was looking to date somebody one of ways to teach yourself self love Wave the black queen queen take the free course 10 steps to self love Take the free course 10 steps to self love And it's free Baby daddy and I got in the argument said a lot of mean stuff I'm crap s to him Didn't speak for two weeks Mother's Day Got me to watch emotional letter and other stuff Why? Y'all gonna have to ask some a little less specific question, you know, I don't know your baby daddy So really don't know why he'll do all of that, you know, y'all try to phrase your questions in a way that Kind of speaks to multiple people, you know So that I can kind of take an angle that when I'm answering your question I'm answering 10 people question, you know what I mean? because if it's too specific then that means you need a one-on-one session and I can't really You know, I don't want to mislead you or say something the wrong way When it's the question so specific Put the hashtag Q in front of your question Hi Tony my ex and I broke up two months ago and he still lives with me. I know he moved on. Do you think? He's trying to keep me stuck He may be trying to keep you stuck, but you also keeping yourself stuck You know, you keep yourself stuck by allowing him to live with you and and sometimes what you got to do It's you got to take the L if you want to be By yourself you want to move on with your life. Sometimes you got to just Count it as a loss break the lease and leave Otherwise you will be there And that I already have a podcast. It's called the Tony Gaskin show It's over a hundred episodes on there, but I don't really do it just cuz it's already a hundred episodes over there And you know, I'm just not really one of them people that Just like the run around with the head cut off doing a million things at once so being that now I'm on YouTube this is my podcast So you just listen to it just like you listen to a podcast You don't have to look me in the face, you know, just put on YouTube out. Just let the video play So you to build my podcast now But I do have a podcast talk called the Tony Gaskin show and it's over a hundred episodes on there answering people questions Um Maybe they say neighbors Left a couple letters out of there Fixing my car says it's free after offered to Should I pay him regardless or be cool has a girl in a coat and a kid with a lady told me about his life, but I don't Talk much like you instruct us to Yes pale Anytime a man do something for free a lot of time you coming back for Another favor You talk about sometimes you have to start over Courting dates, etc. How does this happen when you're living together for four years and have kids together? You still do it the same way, you know, so go get a babysitter friend or family member go out on a date on Friday night putting kids down for bed and Me and my wife do it all the time. We put our son down to bed and we get us a cheese board You know that the they call it shock cootery. I Don't know who come up with that name and some people try to say it proper chicutery is cheese and meat on the board and Get your glass of wine if you drink wine Me I'd be drinking ginger ale And with a little splash and wife make me a drink and We sit and have us a date so you got to be creative It ain't it's not about trying to be all fancy and make it Comfort more harder than it is put the kids down and y'all sit down and have a Netflix and chill Popcorn chocolate is it possible a woman would know her husband who her husband is when she meets him the problem is that a Lot of women think they know who their husband is but the Bible say a man who finds a wife finds a good thing so The man gonna know you're his wife before you know He's your husband The problem with a lot of ladies is that they think a man is their husband, but it's really Because they're tired. They're frustrated. They desperate. They're ready for love and they say God told me that's my husband and Be lying on God because God ain't told you that God gonna tell that man that you're his wife Then it's gonna be revealed to you It's a man who finds a wife and then you you have to accept him when it's in your spirit when he's shown you that He's husband. He's husband material. He's husband ready. That's when you'll get that that piece Miss gala. No The chat we just leaving questions in the chat just put questions in the chat You know, you know, you don't have to greet Everybody we know you here. God bless you But you got to think about it if it's 600 people on here and 600 people say hey How I'm gonna see a question. So the moderators they delete the excess stuff to make it just the question so don't take it personal and If you do We we okay, all right, we need help for the self righteousness This is a Q&A for the question put the questions in the chat All the extra y'all leave it out. So the people with the questions I could get today questions Thank you. Appreciate you for understanding. We just trying to make this easier for those who in need and need to get Question off Is there a time period of dating too soon after a breakup for women? It depends on how long you were in the relationship. So what you got to realize if you with somebody six months Then it's not gonna take as long for you to heal as if you was with somebody for six years It also depends on how much work you're doing. So if you're reading a book a week You're gonna be able to heal faster than if you're not reading books If you watching a video on love and relationships every day You're gonna heal faster than if you just stand away from anything that's gonna teach you something or help you go to the next level So it really determined is determined by the amount of work that you put in But you don't want to just go from and this what this what we do men and women a lot of times We will literally break up with somebody today and we'll be with somebody tomorrow and that's what you don't want to do How to make my baby daddy understand that I am not his woman anymore He thinks because we had a child he has ownership over me and thinks I will be forever stuck. He is a grown boy You know the way to make him Understanding and get the picture. You just may not want to go there. You may not want to block his number You may not want to get the restraining order. You may not want to call the boys in blue You know how to get him to understand but you allowing him The space to stick around and chase you and to be there because you don't really want to take the gloves off But if you really want to leave It's a way you could say it. It's a way you can look at him for him to understand so it's really comes down to you know You really getting serious about wanting to be done and you know how to get him to get the picture Because you know him Some people you got to use certain vocabulary Some people you got to give them a certain look some people you got to have a certain person call them You know how to get them to leave you alone, but You leaving that door open And entertaining is there a time limit to complete the entrepreneurship with a purpose Purchase today. Hey, God bless you. Thank you for getting the entrepreneurship with purpose course um No, any course you get on tonygassesacademy.com you have lifetime access to You know, God forbid, you know, something happened to the website or something like that or You know, God forbid business Something happened with business, but as long as the website up you have lifetime access If you lose access just email in sometimes people put a typo In their email address and then try to log back in and it's dot con instead of dot com I gave advice to a male friend of mine He said he needed to process all of what I said and proceeded to be distant for a couple days. Not sure what this means Um That he needed to process and it's just a friend. So you read too deep into it So what you got to ask yourself is do you have feelings for your friend? Do you like your friend? Because you should be okay if he needs time to process it. That's just a friend. All right But it just mean he need time to process Later joy god bless you now Now where is czar The z eight r I think it's my first time seeing that on here A guy told me that he feels i'm inexperienced To deal with a man like him. I told him I wasn't Cut out to deal with any But to love and respect one Was I wrong? No, you weren't wrong. You weren't wrong And with them abbreviations. I really can't tell too much if you were right or wrong, but I'm we're gonna say you weren't wrong. We're gonna say you weren't wrong I'm a lesbian god bless you now How can I meet good men in low mid 30s when most people who see me think I am just out of high school I am nearly 30. I even try to dress maturely try online dating and don't like it. Thanks Don't worry about the online dating stay away from the online dating And the fact that people think you just out of high school. That's a compliment That's a compliment and and I remember telling another lady on here You may have to go to a image consultant You may have to sign up with an image consultant go on my mentor dot life Look through the latest pictures find one that's dressed Adultly, but looks young and you like her look She might be a brand coach or confidence coach hire that coach and talk and talk with the coach Always tell women change your hairstyle. Put your red lip on They say everybody can wear a red lip. Listen, I've seen some everybody with a red lip on you right It don't look good on everybody, but It'll take you out that, you know High school category Desiree one god bless your ex was not communicating in a way that brought me a sense of comfort and security Tried twice and I left both times. He contacted on mother's day with warm wishes. I did not respond. Should I Know you should not Yes, your ex You tried twice already You didn't feel comfortable. He didn't communicate in a way that made you feel comfortable He is a man. He know how to talk to the screen when the football game on he know how to talk to his boys He knows how to talk to you, but didn't want to try to talk to you There's one thing women have to understand about a man. A man knows how to communicate But he'll play dumb and he'll have a poker face If you're gonna fall for it, but he know how to say what he need to say Because you know a seven-year-old tell you could tell you what he need to tell you So you know a grown man could tell you what he need to tell you Let me see Is it possible to run someone away that truly wants to be your husband? Absolutely because what you have to realize in the four levels of love Which I don't know if I put this in one of my books yet But this this my four levels of love lust like love self love See in this love stage is where we could love someone and they don't love us back And we'll stay but when you step into self love that means you can love someone Selflessly, but you also love yourself enough to walk away if they aren't reciprocating the love so Just because you could meet your husband and if you're not ready To meet your husband and you still broken you still hurting you still got attitude issues and all it is Yes, you can run your husband off by not being ready because if he is truly tapped in the self love He's gonna let you go love you from a distance. He gonna say listen I refuse to be belittled talk down to disrespect it I'm out of here and he gonna move on by this business. So yeah, you can run anybody off You know just cuz somebody meant to be your husband don't mean that They meant to put up with all of your issues that you refuse to address and heal Sonny god bless you now Tony if familiar familiarity breeze contempt what advice would you then give to married couples to keep things fresh and interesting? Especially since you mentioned before that men like variety To be honest with you when it comes down to marriage and a relationship staying fresh That man really got to be all the way in A woman you could do cartwheels in your thong You could get you a pole. You could slide down that pole do three sixties on that pole You could get the pole ice cold and lick it get your tongue stuck on there Wrap your legs around there flip upside down If that man is not into the relationship It's not gonna work. So it really honestly for a relationship to work It take that man being all the way committed And so in order for a man to be committed What he has to realize is that he has to keep dating and courting his woman So he got to keep pushing the bar What I do is I look at my wife's love languages and I speak them all so last night every night she lay down And she she sleep that way. I sleep that way. I go to bed later than her So when she lay down, I sit up on the bed and I massage her back with this hand I might be on the phone studying with this other hand, but with this hand I'm massaging her back The day, you know, she'll have some shoes come in next week. It'll be a shirt come in We'll leave At night we'll go Right to do a takeout. We'll get the takeout sit in the car and have a takeout date in the car So the man has to be able to lead with love be Consistent and keep trying to win you every morning. I'm still sending my wife. Hey love. Hey Baby miss you. Love you because she got the bed before I'm out the bed So that's the man has to do that then when the man does that the woman receives And then reciprocates and so You know Speaking his love languages my one of my love languages acts of service So I'm sitting here today. I've been in my office all day working And I'm coaching clients then I'm just kind of in here relaxing while my wife doing her thing I'm watching youtube. I'm playing a little xbox. I'm really not a gamer I'm in here getting torched on the xbox playing against the computer But I just do it just to relax my mind. My wife brought me breakfast She brought me lunch in here and she brought me dinner in here Acts of service is one of my love languages. So where I just spoke her love language physical touch quality time You know gifts words of affirmation She speak my love language. So that's what it has to be. That's what a marriage is Mama tears telling y'all no comments in the chat Y'all just put questions in the chat So I could just scroll through here and see all the hashtag q hashtag q And I'm gonna try to okay. Lady joy. God bless you. Zahra is South Africa I just joined in okay Over in South Africa. I was talking to dj spoo earlier today. Um in johannesburg He was the first guy him and nico And luanda booked me to speak in South Africa in 2013 Made me an intercontinental speaker when I was 29 years old Paid me the most I had ever been paid. I think to that date um So I love South Africa now on the what part of africa, but I also spoke in Nairobi, kenya, too Them brothers they'll bless me brought me over there to speak in Nairobi Young brothers 22 years old and acquaintance, and I had a conversation about her ex A couple of years ago fast forward two years later. Her ex reach out to me. I didn't realize it was him She found out now She is p off p old I don't say that p word just gets us that sound nasty to me sound like cuss word to me, but Yeah, yeah, yeah, she see she don't believe that you don't know who he is Honestly, I don't believe you don't know who he is because women Women watch me on this hill Women recognize me by the back of my neck They'll see the nap you see the nap on my neck They'll see the nap on my neck Doing a swim move tonic asking tonic ask that you I'm like high in the world. Did you know this was me? From the back of my neck I just thought that was you I mean they have I have 10 10 darkest this hill They'll see me through the 10 tonic asking I'm like, how you know so women so good with men faces and names and memory That your home girl She don't believe that you don't know that that's her ex boyfriend when he hit you up Because she told you his name. She probably showed you his picture So that's why she ticked off So you're gonna have to really pass that lot of text to test to let her know I honestly had no clue that it was him because you didn't tell me his name or you didn't show me his face You're gonna have to have that kind of evidence if she told you his name and if you saw his face Give it up. She ain't gonna believe that Ain't nobody gonna believe it. She needs god bless her now. Bless it. She needs FR01 bless you now. Hey Tony, I broke up with my ex after one week of being together Now I want him back. I know he loves me, but He does not want to have that conversation with me. How can I get him back? Thank you Um You broke up with your ex after one week of being together Okay, yeah Now I want him back. I know he loves me Yeah, yeah, I think you played yourself on that one to be honest with you because To get a couple things straight for one y'all was together one week So he does not love you. He does not love you It take a man about a year before he starts to feel love And it take a man about three to five years to fall in love. So one week y'all was together. He don't love you Another thing he let you get away Another thing is you left him. So if so if you had to leave him in one week, y'all ain't meant to be together Y'all ain't meant to be y'all didn't even have a honeymoon phase. Y'all went straight to war zone. Y'all not meant to be together So I would let that go and move on with your life. Y'all not meant to be together Anytime you break up in one week y'all y'all You wasting your time Miss low key god bless you. What does it take for a man to develop character? And integrity and is integrity a turnoff for a grown boy And is integrity a turnoff for a grown boy. I'm such a fan of yours miss low key god bless you. Um Now for a man to develop character It first take a desire. He has to have a desire To develop his character, but then also he needs accountability So if it's not a friend then it's typically going to be the woman in his life Holding him accountable. So if he's doing stuff and you not holding them accountable, then he's not going to grow Unless a friend or a mom or somebody else hold him accountable, but it first takes that desire And integrity is not a turnoff to a grown boy Um, it's a turn on but he just is not ready to grow So he respects it, but he just can't get on your level, but it don't turn them off. It just more so pushes him off Um, okay, I asked I answered that one Kim marino god bless you talking to a guy Talking to a guy with a girlfriend six months told him I don't do messy stop communicating He came back with all ties cut with a girlfriend and no loose ends good or bad um For one, you don't know if all ties is cut So he could tell you all ties is cut. He may be on a break right now He could be on a two-week break month break Come and secure you lock you in once he gets you comfortable go back to her So whatever you do in this situation, it's a gamble So you're going to have to be able to keep your eyes open Ears to the street crossing t's dotting eyes really on your p's and q's to make sure That if you dealing with him, there's no signs of an x You don't have to really be locked in paying attention Um boo baker god bless you now 10 year relationship. I didn't want marriage We just got back from vacation. He wants to try again. I forgive but don't forget I'll bring up the past if situations resembles how to address past issues and move forward Um, it's gonna be a choice So anything you do in life. So when you address the past issues, you talk about it He tells you what he did why he did he give you an explanation Then you have to receive or reject Point blank period is that simple you receive or reject and if you're going to move forward It's just you making a choice. It's not a potion that you put in a bottle It's just you saying, okay. I choose to forgive And to forget what forget means is that you forgive the offense And then forget means You don't remind him of the offense So if you keep bringing it up and you got to keep bringing it up talking about situations resemble So you got to bring it up that means that you have not forgiven And that means that you cannot be in that relationship. It means you wasting your time So I've done things to my wife. She's done things to me. We don't talk about that today We don't bring up our past mistakes We don't bring it up because we have forgiven and we've forgotten what I mean by forgot I still remember everything. She still remember everything any lie any disrespect You still remember it, but you don't bring it up That's what forgiveness is and if you cannot do that that mean the relationship over The other part of this is y'all been together 10 years Y'all relationship been over nine years ago So now you got a friend with benefits that you're going on vacation with But you blocking all your blessings He blocking all his blessings because y'all dealing with each other Out of a soul tie and y'all not even meant to be together because when you've been together 10 years And you didn't want marriage It's a reason you didn't want marriage and that's your system trying to tell you This is not your husband But you wasting your time and you with him out of fear of being alone and having to start all over That's what the issue is. Coco. God bless your boyfriend Just got a car that he can't afford and will start school on loans Ask him if moving out his mom's house is going to happen and he says yes Am I wrong to feel like he won't be able to provide anytime soon? No, you ain't wrong. You ain't wrong You don't need to talk day rams to tell you that a soul's arming to tell you that you ain't wrong That old broke man living with his mama got a car. He can't afford and finna get through the loan He don't need a relationship. He need a budget book. You hear me? You need to buy him financial peace You need to get him Send gift him the credit karma out Or the fico out that man now He upside down. So yeah, go on about your life that man to have That man will be selling your shoes and dresses at the swap meet to try to make money to pay that car note That's like my cousin uses still my grandma insure My grandma tell me to go get a insure my cousin stole all the insure selling it in the streets Stole a boost stole addresses Selling in the streets. That's what that man will be doing to you. Now when you see somebody financial Literacy is not there and you trying to grow Just just gone part ways because that'll be the one thing right there that it turned into everything Chee, no kind of stuff I'm gonna beauty. God bless you now Tony both me and x 23 With him for five years Okay, since 18 recently found God and decided that I wish to be abstinent He says we are not on the same page spiritually as such. He broke up with me thoughts. Let him go. Let him go Let him go on by the business Let him go on by the business. He did your favor. God trying to spare you. Let him go Don't chase him. Don't let him come back Dang yeah, God bless you just had my first coaching session. How long does this process usually Take willing to do the work just curious all my relationships have been Toxic every individual is different. I can't give you, you know a certain time every individual is different So, you know, it might take you It might take you four months it might take you four years It depends on how the depth of that relationship It also depends on your coach Because on your name. I don't know if your name sound familiar to me So different coaches got different styles. So You know, that's one thing you got to fill out Do you feel you've got some some type of movement in the session? If not, then you might need to try another coach Ladies say so God bless your height on this should women balance dating multiple men while not having The dating multiple men energy in order to attract the right man. No, you shouldn't know you shouldn't Um And you ask that question the same way I answered it before as if you didn't heard me answer Before and you asking me just because you want me to say it directly to you If you have not heard me answer that before you spot on because that's the way I answer the question Is it's okay to date more than one man If you just dating meaning going on dates talking as friends and you're not Uh in an exclusive relationship a man has not asked you to be in an exclusive relationship and you're not sleeping with the man But if you don't feel like you have the energy and that's not What you feel comfortable doing talking to uh tom dick and harry then just talk to tom And you just got to be strict with tom and then when tom act up And show you he's not husband material then you could just talk to dick When he act up then you could just talk to harry But some women are built in a way that they could go on three days Not sleep with any of them none of the men ask her to be exclusive And she don't mix up and confuse their name and she just see it as These are potential Love interests who's shown some interest i'm a brand i'm an entity and i'm doing my interview process And then i'ma choose Which one i want to deal with And so some women comfortable with that And if you're not then don't try it because you're gonna disrupt your spirit and block your blessings Amber god bless you um Hi, tony. I've been dating someone for a little over two months And he has not asked to be exclusive. We speak for an hour a day No sleeping together should i ask him how he feels about us or just assume He's not interested In more he's 36 um It's not time yet. It's only been two months. So you give it one more month You need one more month and you will take a man about three months before he knows He's feeling out. He's talking to you every hour a day. So he's giving you a good time It's a good investment He's trying not to rush it trying not to spook you out. He might not want to come off like a creep He might be all the way in and ready But just trying to give it a reasonable amount of time. He might be sneaking and he might if he on youtube He might know who i am. He might have heard what i said so You still got time you got about another month to feel it out Asia god bless you now i'm broke up with a guy who was pessimistic and unstable with jobs No car sleeping on friends sofa age 32 Man of integrity treated me like a queen tried to make it work But two turned off was i wrong to leave Now this all the same man Because this this sound like two different men now because a man of integrity who treated you like a queen But he pessimistic and unstable with jobs No car sleeping on the friend sofa um That sound like two different men and the fact that it sounded like two different men know you weren't wrong to leave You were not wrong to leave You can't deal with no pessimistic man sleeping on the couch man You need to have all the hope in the world you need to be optimistic as you could be sleeping on somebody's couch You need to be listening to marlitha king's speech every day you sleeping on somebody's couch You got room to be pessimistic on somebody's couch. So, you know No, you weren't wrong to leave that Shanese god bless you glad to be a part of the blessed tribe blessing a god bless you And i could have swore i saw two of them blew things up there and you two done the lead Okay, here go simply robin i see you so if i stayed even though we both weren't equally yoked does that mean god tried to spare me And i messed up Yep Yep, if you stayed and y'all weren't equally yoked you messed up you dropped the ball Now y'all let me scroll up i kind of hide here. Let me see Okay, i see jenna. I missed jenna question um Get jenna jenna. I caught you now jenna Jena we're ready to get hot jenna over there. I'll sell him out Ready to get blocked by sharer caramel kisses Hi, tony. Can you give a little insight as to how men feel About and deal with their wives aging if a man is in love should If a man is in love should the wife be anxious jenna god bless you now. Thank you for that blessing to be honest with you When a man in love the wife is like wine See my wife like wine. See now that i look at my wife as she aging she looked better every year When i look at her high school pictures i'm like You cute But now you fine see she like wine when a man not in love A woman is like a soda that the top been left off of it So it's a beautiful thing The age where the woman you in love with because just that you know that skin get richer You know and that body You know that that that weight start to set that metabolism start to slow down You hit me that rotund get back down Get you some you feel me something to squeeze on back there and Stuff get better with age If a man is in love When he's not in love He read it a cheat Toi koi god bless you now part in your life Shanice pinched and god bless you now Shanice. I saw your name earlier God bless you now You ain't scamming credit cards You dropped a bag on me tonight now god bless you now part in her life lord part in her life I think Shanice over there got people credit card. Hey, let me bless Tony with my auntie card Let me bless Tony with my uncle card Whatever you doing over there Shanice god bless you now stay safe Stay safe. Keep your head on straight Pull out in her life lord. Why do some guys have multiple baby mamas? Sometimes two with the same woman and then add more to the plate opinions um It just lost and confused. It's just a man who He he's looking but he don't know what he's looking for And he grew but he was not raised So he come up kind of cold come up kind of rough Raised himself and so really didn't know What really a wife looks like and he's doing the thing that he know grown folks do But not really considering the consequences because that's not how he was raised to think like that He just lived in the moment because he survived a mold and he's looking for whoever going to be there To give him a sense of peace in that moment And if you know skeeding off in that woman gives him a sense of peace and consolation to forget about his pain And his issues and his failures in life. Then that's what he's doing. He's just living in the moment So that's that type of man is when he's young now He can grow and change and mature and start to have foresight start to have vision You know start to have a sense of purpose But when a man is kind of hurting and lost and just kind of trying to find himself That's that's what he does. He uses women as a teddy bear But see that teddy bear that he had when he was six he couldn't get that teddy bear pregnant But when this woman is the human teddy bear Is consequences with that kind of consolation How do I prepare while single not to be so sensitive? I really don't know. I really don't know. Um It's just human nature, you know, you're gonna have to be sensitive Feel the sensitivity and then what you want to do do the opposite you want to snap Don't say anything And and get your test on your job get your test in traffic get your test When you're talking to your best friend You sign up for coaching with me and you're liable to get your feelings hurt But a lot of my clients they know Tony he's gonna talk to you gonna get to your blood roll, but it's out of love And they keep signing up for most sessions because they know i'm not gonna lie to him So you deal with your friends or whoever you're dealing with to get your thick skin because It really comes down to it's not about being sensitive because we all sensitive It's about the emotional intelligence what you do when you feel pricked Okay, I see you should need should need to come back in here with the bag Hello, well, I've been missing for a while just showing my appreciation. God bless you You need to get three donations tonight. Now you two need to have a give a Hall of Fame because it's it's a few of y'all that Billy be blessing me Curls god bless you now boyfriend six years and two kids His mom hated me from the start Claims bad vibes and could be the reason why he waited so long for marriage Why he's waiting so long for marriage he now wants to but I fear Monster and law Super toxic and he won't set boundaries love him Ain't gonna tell you what to do, but that's gonna be that's gonna be painful She could very well be the reason he done waited so long. It's been six years and now he ready to get married So what you're gonna have to do is you're gonna have to sit down and talk to him You're gonna have to sit down and talk to him and let him know that he's gonna have to set boundaries with his with his mama You're gonna have to you know, let him know he's gonna have to set boundaries and he's gonna have to get things in order, but that's uh That's gonna be something he got to do And if he can't do that then You might be signing up for something that's gonna be real painful because if a man can't You know take that out of the mouth from his mama and Get what they need to be Then that's gonna be kind of painful Uh The pianist Been asked to marry three times soon after soon after we end up breaking up very limited intimacy I'm tired tonic your thought. I knew they weren't right for me Well, you got to learn what you haven't learned know what you don't know and you got to keep getting the knowledge So what you're gonna have to do is It sounds like to me you're going from relationship to relationship, but you're not watching the game film So when you watch it now when you play a game After the game you watch the film You watch the film to learn What you did wrong So you're going from relationship to relationship, but have you sat down With a professional and look at that relationship to identify the red flags The things you miss what you did right what you did wrong And then learn from it before moving forward it sound like that's what you're gonna have to do Simply robin god bless you mr. Tony. What do I do now? I'm 23 Not afraid to say I messed up because now we live together. We both go to church Today serve together his family and I are getting close, but it's kind of confusing Well, you don't put the cart before the horse Y'all living together and y'all going to church Now one thing you did not say that I feel like you would have said is if it was the the situation I feel like you would have said we don't sleep together. You would have put no sex. You didn't put that So if y'all living together and sleeping together And y'all going to church serving now you all the way wrong because you playing with god And what the good boy tell you is that It'll be better for you to not know the lord Then for you to know the lord and choose to do wrong I think the good boy say it'll be better to tie a stone around your neck and dive into the deep ocean than to know the lord And do wrong spit in his face. So now the question is are y'all sleeping together If y'all sleeping together, you are all the way wrong and you need to correct the situation Toy koi god bless you. I've been with a man for 10 years He has different women at his house nightly. He was honest. He wanted to sleep with me with no commitment I accept it. I want more He says he doesn't want exclusive should I let him go? Toy, um, I'm gonna read you. Let me read you question again. Let me read you question again Okay, I've been with a man for 10 years 10 oh 10. Okay. That's a 10. Okay. Make sure that and say one 10 years He has different women at his apartment at his house nightly Okay, different women nightly. Okay. What I'm reading is std soul ties He was honest and said he wanted to sleep with me with no commitment Okay, so he wanted to be friends with benefits wanting to flip you and talk to you so deep Okay, I accept it Okay, so you thought you were gonna play him and end up playing yourself. I want more He says he doesn't want exclusive should I let him go? Okay, he don't want you but you wondering if you should let him go Okay, I want to read your question again. Make sure I wasn't missing nothing Toy, um, yes, you should let him go. You should let him go. You're 100% absolutely because What you playing with you playing with your life you're gonna end up with hill Okay, he'll this hiv Okay, he got a lot of soul ties. You're getting sexually transmitted diseases distractions diseases Demons everything start with a D. You getting it transmitted to you. Okay debt everything dogma dogs Dilution everything start with a D. You getting it transferred to you and them std's And it's been 10 years Come on now. You it's somebody waiting to love you, but you first got to love you you got to love yourself first Okay, mommy and me. God bless you. I'm in the dating scene and men tend to stop communicating with me Is there a way to set boundaries without pushing the man away? um Yes, there is but if you if your boundaries push a man away that means that's not the man for you If anything you do in life what you're gonna realize is you got to go through a bunch of nose before you get to a yes If you're looking for a car if you're looking for apartment if you're looking for a house If you're looking for a new pair of shoes Anything you're looking for in life. You got to go through a bunch of nose before you get to the yes so don't question your Boundaries and your standards if you know you're operating from a good place you being an honest fair person And all of that and men are falling off if you know That you're doing the right thing then it's not you It's just that the caliber that you own you going through grown boys to get to the grown man I rest god bless you now If a man has everything you are looking for but he is not as spiritual would you continue? With the situation I read my bible all day. He says he wants to be more spiritual um Well, see the question what you got to ask is not about his spiritual level, but Is he doing the right thing? So If he's living in opposition To the holy bible then you move on with your life But if he's not necessarily doing wrong, but he just don't read his bible the way you read his bible Then here's somebody you can still Deal with and grow with because everybody you always going to meet people That's on a different spiritual level. You're not necessarily going to meet anybody that read a bible just as much as you read your bible Or talk to god the same way you talk to god or have the same relationship you have with god. That's That's rarely going to happen Lady joy god bless you. Hey tony. What if loose booty? 901 is my mom launch the book Busy with my phd Legs closed healed and doing me, but she tells me to relax my standards Well, you just don't listen to her You know sometimes you got to realize that your mama dealing with things that you're not dealing with And your mama done been through things to get you where you at So for time god bless you now. I see you're blessing right there In the chat So you just got to understand that you don't have to Listen vc. I see you're blessing right there those gifts. You got your wife for amazing. I was smiling as I was watching I'm sure she was happy and grateful. She deserved them and more Hey god bless you. She showed happy. She was like babies. Thank you for making me feel so special on mother day Hi, tony. What is equally yoked? That's a christian term from the holy bible that just basically mean that y'all fit that you Same beliefs, you know that you on the same page that you meant to be You know in the bible it also could imply being from the same country or You know having the same belief system things like that So it's kind of like you unequally yoked if your belief system your foundational beliefs are different But to the mama question You just got to love mama and just okay mama. Just smile or not and go and do what you know That is right. Don't dishonor her. Don't disrespect her. Don't call her loose booty nine or one Just smile or not. Okay. Yeah, mama. You're right. I do need to You know lower my standards. Oh, let me hold on. Let me see who that was and now Uh train of p. God blessing Lucristo styles I have been hurt badly in past relationships due to being left while pregnant at 17 I have deep pain. I pushed down. I noticed I sabotaged and destroyed relationships. How do I heal from this? You're gonna have to do the work See when the pain go back like that you're gonna need therapy And then when you feel you got the handle of therapy and your therapist feels you got the handle Then you may need to go to coaching to where you start to turn the pain into purpose Whether that's writing a book whether that's mentoring young girls whether that's Learning the ways of men learning what a real man is what a real relationship is getting specific relationship coaching But you're gonna have to do the work on another level than what you're doing. So being here, this is a good start, but When it's like that you got to be one on one. You got to go a little deeper my mentor dot life That's dot life not calm my mentor dot life Love I am god bless you if a man asks me what kind of movies I like It always seems like they try to agree with everything i'm saying Yup, that's what a lot of men do that's what a lot of men do or he could just like what you like But you know, that's what a man he he want to be a conversationalist He want to create chemistry. That's why I'm trying to tell y'all about how some men know how to create chemistry But if you feel that he just saying that then that's when you know, he's trying to create chemistry Alexandria mays god bless you. I am dating a guy who said I am too proved Because I changed the subject if it ends on sleeping together We did not sleep together yet. Should I lighten up To make it spicy. Nope No, a man telling you that you too proved is a compliment Because you don't want to hear you too loose So it's better to hear you too proved than you too loose So when you do that you showing yourself to be Wife material because you showing him like listen playboy Don't come talking to me about no sleeping together by you know SES when you don't even know me like that home boy like chill out calm down get your life together So when you check him on that you let him know i'm a queen i'm royalty I'm a wife talk to me with respect. Don't be talking to me like you talked to loose booty 901 You go chop it up by all that with loose booty 901 when you come over here to royalty How your purple and gold ready and talk to me with some royal conversation? So that's what you telling him and so A man will call you a name or you mean or you rule Or you prove a man will call you that with the hopes that you'll take it personally And that you will feel Disrespected and that you'll do what you're doing right now. Should I lighten it up to make it spicy? Absolutely not Because you get it spicy. It's gonna mess around and get hot And it get hot Okay, then you're gonna be dropping it like it's hot Then you drop it like it's hot then you finna be popping it out hot pregnant all right with a baby daddy instead of a husband so Don't make it spicy. You keep it mild you keep it mild you keep it cold And you keep it proved And as as he step up and he show up and he become a man That's gonna turn the heat up in the kitchen The more manly he shows that he is Even to be god bless you. How does a man know he found the one? Um He will know Just because it'll sit with his spirit It's no formula to it. It's no it's not No man could really put that into words because no one can fully describe love if somebody could fully describe love They don't know what it is so Love is is pure love is god. We can't fully describe god like people call god the universe the spirit All these different names, but a man won't be able to just put it into words So he will know and you will know It's that's a that's a spiritual connection. That's not something that is for articulation. That's spiritual So you'll know you'll be wrapped up in it You'll be swept off your feet and you won't have to ask somebody a question And a man who finds his wife he's gonna he's gonna be very intense And direct and he's gonna be trying to lock that situation down Uh yashia god bless you Been entertaining old boy for five months and he's 14 years older than me He is childish go days without talking when he's mad and has not taken me on a date He gambles every weekend. So he says do you think it's cuz I won't give it up Um, no it has nothing to do with you And that's so many red flags you gotta Uh, you got a fire truck. You got so many red flags in there So it's been five months And he has not taken you on a date And y'all go days without talking when he's mad. What do he have to be mad About within five months. He don't even know you He barely he don't even know your middle name Don't even know where you were raised at It's only been five months and then he's 14 years older than you So you 14 years older and you getting mad Inside of five months to go days without talking He playing you like a parker brother game board. You hear me? He he old and immature Old and matthews and immature and the reason why I say that Is because when you 14 years older, even if that's 34 and you 20 When you 14 years older somebody you get mad and give a silent treatment and you gamble on the weekend That's a grown boy. That's a grown boy You you wasting every second of your time that you stay with him You wasting a second of your life that you're not gonna get back And one day you're gonna be on your death bed and you're gonna say I wish I could trade that five months in to do something else So listen to me now And make make make make a new decision Um J. God bless you nine from Canada. Okay broke up with kids father last week Four years no commitment. I recently moved two hours away. He calls once a day. I don't answer Would you say he's truly interested? Is there anything I could do to make him commit after this alone? You're gonna need you're gonna need coaching. You're gonna need coaching. You really ain't gonna be able to pull something off like that But to be honest with you, I don't think you want If a man and put kids in you and he still don't want you after four years And nine the fact that you two hours away now he called you you got to remember It's 24 hours in a day. So the call you once a day don't mean nothing What would have meant something if he would have showed up and done what he had to do so that you wouldn't have to Break up with him What would have meant something is by the two-year mark? He would have married you Being that you the mother his children that would have meant something Now that you gone and he calling you he's trying to keep you stuck Because he don't want his children calling another man daddy because of his ego is in the way That's the only reason why he calling you but he don't want you because if a man wants you He's not gonna be with you longer than three years and not marry you Now y'all gonna hear me say that over and over on this here channel if y'all alone here But please hit him on that right there now and I'm saying that with love You got to move on and I don't know how Canada work But I'll be sending that child support I'll be sending that child support. Hey, that's similar Canadian dollars you mean Because you know played around for four years wasted time to hack here child support Uh Call my leader god bless you now for that blessing now y'all hold on now. Let me go ahead and see If I miss anybody and this here chat because it's a chat filling up and y'all forgive me for the vip line Got thick and I was trying to get them in the club before 11 and uh Trainer p. I don't know if I saw your god bless you uh sandy mendez God bless you now dating four months got into an argument about social media and he took phone from me And insisted he look at all my messages I said no, but he still took the phone broke up But was I wrong to say no to giving him my phone? Uh, no, you were not wrong because y'all only been together four months And your phone is something for your husband not for your boyfriend If you voluntarily give want to show somebody your phone to show transparency and they want to do the same thing Then that's fine because that's not a form of abuse if y'all voluntarily Agree, but when somebody's sneaking in your phone and y'all not married or somebody taking your phone and y'all not married If you stay with that person in marriage that's going to turn into That right there. Okay. That's that's a precursor You hit me So that's what you have to understand about a situation like that. So you you were not wrong Uh for breaking up and you were not wrong saying no to giving him your phone Now I told my wife I was gonna be on here an hour I'm gonna see I'm not y'all don't send no more blessings up there to the vip line Let me go right here in the regular chat and uh answer some of these questions in the regular chat Okay, Stephanie will come in right at the same time. All right, Stephanie. God bless you Hi, Tony dating someone for a few months exclusive. He is one year divorced married two times before I have never been married He is a business owner very busy. We talk daily see once a week Get along fine. He says he would marry again, but I don't know That's a complicated situation Stephanie What you're gonna have to ask yourself is what has he done To change since them two marriages Well, does he talk about his life coach? Does he talk about his therapist? Does he talk about the books he's reading? Does he sound like an intellectual that is learning and growing? If the answer is no, then you will probably be marrying the same man the last two women had the divorce and Y'all talking and stuff is pretty regular But that don't mean nothing because you could be a band aid. You could be a rebound. So it don't mean nothing Okay, I say don't y'all send no more blessing But hey that what the Bible say now press down run together and shaking over y'all still gonna bless me And then here go see law here go see law see love is a is a VIP nine because she really be Blessing me. She really be blessing me um Roxy weather spawn blessing to you and the first lady starbucks on me this week Hey, god bless you now that that 35 out of 99 with my wife at 35 might last a day I had to buy stocks and starbucks. I don't win them both stocks and starbucks My wife be drinking an ice caramel macchiato. Hey, thank you so much. I'ma show tell her you sent that blessing Jacqueline Thompson god bless you now. Okay, another canadian Now I've been thinking about moving up there to count it. I heard y'all got free health care And I like the way that true true Who helped true though or whatever that man name is that y'all have up there in canada that be talking and he looked like a movie star He made me feel better than Who I'll be listening to over here in america. I ain't gonna say no name But I've been thinking about moving that old canada Give me some of that free health care Good good night. Mr. Gaskins. I have received an email about the entrepreneurship Course I'm interested in starting my food service business Would your course suit my line of business? I am in canada Um, no, it would not Um, if not, it'll give you some fundamentals and the fact that the course is Uh, not that expensive. It won't hurt you but Entrepreneurship with purpose is more so it's not just like a business course it's really for people who want to be like You know, you want to do something in the purpose-based space like serving Or like if you were open a soup kitchen, you know, it's talking about Turning pain in the purpose of messing to a message your venture is more so entrepreneurial. Just like business So what what I would recommend is Let me see food service business I probably got some food service people that could do some consultations with you that would be good to talk to I'm trying to think if I know somebody in, um In in canada Sabrina god bless you now, but I would write in to support and see let me see food service We might have somebody In the food service. That's a coach on my mentor got life That can help you out but entrepreneurship purpose if you got a coupon code from the email today It won't hurt you because it does talk about and it could give you ideas on how to Take that profit and give the profit purpose Like where you going to donate your nonprofit that you're going to start And things like that crystal god bless you now Okay, okay Now y'all let me get a few of these here questions in here And um I'm gonna look for certain type of questions now that I could answer that could feed everybody um mismanagement send an email in to support and um We'll have somebody audit you your page on my mentor dot life and give you some feedback My kid's father and read in the vault I got every way that you can make the page better. I got blogs in the coaches vault So when you log in at the top of the page, you'll see vault click on vault And read those blog posts to tell you how to make your page better Keyleth Crawford god bless you now. I have a bless even the god bless you. Keyleth. God bless you Okay, okay now y'all All right, y'all gonna keep on hitting up there. Okay 10 irons god bless you are there any exceptions To if he doesn't call you every day. He doesn't want you If he under the sea with Nemo If he's under the sea 10 irons or if he is deployed in Iraq afghanistan Abu Dhabi Abu Dhabi if he is somewhere to where he don't have phone reception phone service. He get locked up He's in the jailhouse And he need to use his one phone call to call his mama to get to get him bailed out Those are exceptions to the rule, but if the man is in the free world And he living up there, you know, he living over there uh And he in the free world then that's um It's no excuse for him not to call you every day if a man wants you he's gonna call you On the cold and the cold want this question. He'll ask Nicole it just they just they they feel like your family kind of feel like you a hot mess And they just ready for you to get married They just want to see you married because they your family feel like you don't have enough room to be picky So you have to sit down and talk to them and say why do y'all keep telling me I'm too hard on men What are you trying to say to me? Are you trying to say that I'm looks challenged? Are you trying to say that I'm not worthy? And why would you say that if you my family and you love me your family trying to say Listen child You ain't got no room to be as picky as you being Your aunt glinda you see how she looked And she had to get and she didn't got married to that cheating man So what you out here doing thinking that your stuff don't stink? That's how family could be sometimes So you got to sit down and check family talk to them let them know they throwing your energy off and they being disrespectful but a lot of time family just They trying to love you But they just don't always do it the right way How often should you see someone work schedule make it complicated to see Each other sometimes more than once a week You only need to see somebody once a week So if your work schedule mean you can't see each other twice a week, then that's okay Okay, now y'all still sending blessings up here now ain't gonna argue with you now You know how people be like man, I can't accept that Man ain't gonna be able to accept that man. Why you giving this money? I don't want this money You know how people be when you trying to bless them That's how y'all do me when I say hey, I'll hold on on super chats up there and y'all keep blessing me So I say lord, okay Let's do what you do Rose god bless you now. Sorry Tony You mentioned that most relationships end because of cheating Do you think this is because of men having grown boy tendencies or was it a matter of them not marrying their wife? But rather their placeholder like you say um It's a mixture of both because Even a grown man still is tempted So i'm a grown man and I married my wife But see the adversary the devil or whatever you call it It's still gonna tempt you because he's gonna tempt worthy soldiers. That's in the battle So the devil's still sending temptresses to me, but So it don't mean that I didn't marry my wife just because people temptation still showing up knocking saying hey, here I go here I go But the man when he goes from being a grown boy to being a grown man For me, I'ma tell you what it is for me Is I tapped into my purpose So a man kind of have to have like a trifold Defense to where you got god You got love In love and you have purpose. That's what really what a man has Um cartel Is a long-term relationship? better than marriage A long-term marriage is better Then a long-term relationship because the long-term relationship could be 10 years But then you just could walk off with no consequences But when you get married and you want to walk off its consequences alimony spouse support divorce lawyer divorce court split and assets You got to really know you want to leave When you sign that dotted line And so what I was saying about the man being faithful is a man has to have and I tell my wife I used to tell my wife all the time. I said baby. I'm not just faithful to you I'm faithful to god Because I could cheat easily I could cheat easily and not get caught because you could be on the road It's so easy for a man to cheat But I'm faithful because I know god watching me 24 hours a day And I know my blessings come from on high My wife ain't blessing me. You see, I'm saying y'all giving me blessing right now But that come from the favor of god. That's some nudge in your spirit say man Bless him with this bless him with that. So I know my blessings come from god Now would you want to listen to me if you know I was a cheater If you know, I'm cheating on my wife and I'm in a full flair to fare right now If I was if I'm in a full flair to flair a fair and I'm on here giving relationship everybody You won't want to listen to me. You won't want to send me no blessing. So it's also my purpose That keep me faithful because I know that it's people counting on me So that's why when a man become a coach in the community He know them kids counting on when he a school teacher when he a president When he a supervisor when he got purpose People counting on him that helped him stay faithful when he has love When he's in love that helped him stay faithful And then when he has fear and reverence for his creator that helps him stay faithful So I got that tri fold defense and that's what keeps me faithful But temptation is still going to tempt everybody everybody going to be tempted And what happened with the temptation is it get greater and greater and greater The devil know not to come at me with loose booty nine or one that does not attract me The devil know not to come at me with a woman that shoot her shot at me that don't attract me so That I read a throw up in my mouth if a woman come trying to haul at me because i'm a I'm a real man a real man pursues So what he gonna do is he gonna send a classy respectful well dressed Woman who ain't sending no vibes But yet She look good and everything so i'm two steps ahead. I say okay. He finished in this kind of test When I meet that woman and I pass that test. All right. He finished in this kind of test my ultimate test probably gonna be somebody like If beyond saying jay-z breakup and she come to me for coaching And she in a session and she say man if I just only had a man like you And then the next day I catch my wife in a lie but see The bible say whatever there is temptation. There's a way of escape So the lord already showed me that not to say that it'll be that specific person But lord already showed me the scenario that's gonna happen. This how you're gonna get tested be ready for it Here's your way of escape because god tempts no man. That's the adversary that tempts you So see that's what that's what you have to realize Is where a man mine is because see you could talk you could meet a man And he could be all this pan african mess and all this shaman lavalin third eye and pineal gland and talking all this deep stuff But if it ain't dealing with his purpose And if it ain't dealing with a fear and reverence for god that he understand how things work with character and integrity Then keep it moving because he gonna cheat Uh, kai god bless your ex Who I still care about text me saying he missed me and asked if I still love him Two weeks later. He tagged some girl in a facebook post calling her baby dog or normal behavior since we're not together. Here dawg Here dawg Here dawg Here dawg All the way dawg Here dawg he nasty. He spit on people gray That's kind of man. He spit on people gray That's kind of man. He still people flowers. He go out there to the cemetery to see his family He still somebody family's off they tombstone put on his family tombstone You got to block him you got to block him because he nasty for that come and get your heart stuck get your heart confused got you paying $10 to submit a question got you tired up worrying about him And then he go and like the other woman on facebook call her baby After he didn't come and got you stuck froze still wondering what in the world he's doing. He come and send you a mixed signal The up in all your momentum and then go call another woman, baby here dawg Miss management god bless you now. I appreciate all you do to help us out. I know you often repeat yourself But please be patient with us god bless you and your family. Hey god bless you now Thank you for recognizing That that I'll be getting a lot of the same questions trying to answer them in a different way I really thank you for recognizing that Grandma god bless you now. Do that mean like are you a glamorous grandma grandma? Now, that's what that means. That's real creative now uh D love I'm supposed to be gone 16 minutes ago. Now i'm gonna be on here about 5 10 more minutes I just try to i'm gonna try to answer some of y'all questions in the regular chat now Hey, mr. Gaskins, y'all hold on I'll send me out some questions in the regular chat and somebody hit mark there across the head with a blessing Gentleman, let me grab your question right here. Hey, mr. Gaskin How to stand firm in your non-negotiable when it comes to your faith and waiting till marriage When people say your standards are too high They told jesus his standards were too high. They told apostle paul his standards were too high They told farrow told moza you asking for too much Joseph brothers told him you not finna be running no country you god not finna exalt you We finna throw you in this ditch boy and then we finna sell you you see what I mean? Nobody will see your vision That god gave you Ain't nobody gonna understand what you waiting on and what you see if god didn't get him your vision because loose booty 901 She ready to get on her bike So she don't believe what you waiting on gonna come so she gonna tell you your standards too high Because she stay on her bike But you know you waiting on the real deal You know you got a woman's influence and you know what you deserve So that's what you're gonna get and then when you get it everybody who told you you weren't gonna get it Going to be sitting there jealous of you by nape fingers uh crystal I mean synthia blinks god bless you now how to help Younger sister but not overstepped form soul ties with grown boys drug dealers manipulators Etc current the dating a mama's boy. I don't think she knows her work Or that close to home for me That's how my little sister is and you see what I do You see what I do full time My sister's little sister go through the same thing your little sister go through but what you got to do is you just got A supporter you got a supporter because one day She is set on learning the hard way and one day She gonna be broken But not all the way And she gonna be ready to listen to you and if you turn your back on her before she hit rock bottom You'll never get to reach her so you love her and you support her you never condone what she's doing Every time she talked to you she needs to hear a little bit of your disdain for her situation but Just know that One day she gonna be in a place and she ready to listen Wild flavors and ecstasy Make some own wife and he let me say that she's like Where are you gonna phone with in there? Wild flavors and ecstasy Why after leaving a toxic relationship? Does the family keep reaching out? Left my ex and his stepdad keeps contacting me through different account. See now You got some caveats and nuances in there when you say step daddy See that ain't his daddy See that's his step daddy Step daddy'll touch you And you know what I mean by touch you Step daddy'll touch you Okay, so step daddy could be reaching out because he say man my stepson foolish But this thing here he didn't let go. Whoo. That woman looked good. I'm finna getting this woman inbox on this fable And see if she Will do some strain for a piece of change The other side of that is he could be telling his step daddy to hit you up Just to keep you stuck keep you confused. See how you asking this question The plan working So it keep you stuck it keep you confused it keep you wondering You just got to cut all time block his step daddy block everybody move on with your life Okay, that was Cynthia. I saw Cynthia Message right there glam mom bless me Yeah, I got 10 moments. I got the gold now. Let me ask somebody question my kid's father do not call or support the kids His mother does not hold him accountable But wants the children to stay for the summer me and her have a decent relationship. What do I do? If they have a good time and they like their grandma and they like being over there, let them go You know if y'all decent and you know and what not and as long as they're not going in a bad environment Okay, let me see you here crystal. I see you God bless your man wants to rap at 30 grown boy or live out dream Now it now It don't matter if he want to rap As long as he want to pay for a studio time with his job If he wants you to pay for his studio time or he want to do illegal activity to pay for the studio time Then you need to go on about your business if he want to rap smoke Smoke weed then go about your business because it's a difference between a dream and a fantasy See a dream is rooted in purpose A dream rooted in purpose and reality. See a fantasy that's rooted in pleasure You won't clout. You want a ball. You want to be a boss. You want to be in the club making the rain That's a fantasy a dream is if he want to be a rapper to get a platform to start a non-profit Organization that help put kids through college. You see what I mean? That's a dream So you got to determine if this is a dream or if a fantasy and if it's a dream He's gonna work to make it happen. He ain't gonna be wanting to live off you Or do he take shortcuts to get there when you want to take shortcuts to get there you chasing a fantasy Okay, now y'all got me tired now. Okay, and y'all sending the blessings up there. All right. Hold on now Hold on. Let me catch up now. I've been a let been an 11 year relationship before We had before we had but hold on now Before we win Been in a 11 year relationship before we I asked him to be honest before we wed. Okay, wed. Okay. Forgive me. I'm thinking winstead before winstead I asked him to be honest before we wed I'm country. So we got it. Well, I wed and then really in my vocabulary like that We wed he lied and told me After two years of marriage He told me God told him to tell me the truth about several infidelities. I left Was it a mistake? No, it wasn't a mistake sister because you left after 11 years The mistake is the 10 years you wasted You give a man one year One year your time If he don't know what he's doing with his life in your life by that 12 month mark It's time to make move the mistake wasn't 10 years What you just did right now that was the right thing, but you gave him 10 years too many Karen Warner is god bless. I have been doing better and feeling better during this quarantine But just a few days ago. I started feeling lonely again, and I'm afraid this feeling is coming back How do I overcome this? You're gonna have to intensify the work. You might have to work one-on-one with a coach Get that work in you're gonna have to create a day schedule So it's just never a lack of time. It's a lack of direction It's never that you bore you just not inspire meaning you don't have purpose and direction So in this here situation start your company what your logo look like what colors do your website? See what I mean get going take life coach certification join my mentor dot life start helping other people Speaking into their life serve your purpose Romans 828 god bless you now Now I've seen somebody disappear up there on the chat now. I'm gonna try to go find you um Because I saw somebody up there disappear winter god bless you have a good night toni You mentioned a woman having standards and being classy is wife material, but what else makes a woman just that? Uh, that's all that's all because you got to realize what standards encompass everything Standards and classy that encompass everything that mean that you emotionally intelligent you got great temperament You ambitious when you got standards you humble when you classy you respectful you loving your kind When you classy so being standards and class standards you got a relationship with god, you know your faith So those two things really encompass everything Now y'all hold on somebody has sent a blessing up there that was Of a lesser amount and they deleted it Miss low key here it go react reflecting on your Previous response. I don't trust a man who does not have a godly wisdom It's highly that he will give in on those temptations, right? You absolutely right You absolutely right me personally I've never seen a man be faithful on his own strength It so me personally Um, okay toy koi asked the question to a man who sleeps with a different woman each night Is he just greedy or have mommy issues? It ain't about greed. Okay, cuz He trying to catch the z Okay, he trying to catch that Hill about them. So He got issues and it ain't necessarily mommy issues. It could be daddy issues. It could be All kind of issues, but he got issues point blank period I read in a woman's I read a woman's influence. Danielle. God bless you now and now missus right Are locks attractive to men? They weren't mentioned in the hairstyle They're long and well maintained If they long and they well maintain see what's the track of the men is cleanliness So whether you got locks whether a lady told me today, I deleted a message though because uh, I ain't like toner That that it ain't called dread. See well from we call it dread. We call it dread locks And this is how people get all into the trying to be she said ain't dread is called locks And so like what you said locks because she said dread means something else Yes, and well from we call it dreads. Okay. I don't know y'all want to be fancy with your locks But a man about cleanliness you have ball head You can have a ball You can have a larry You can have a tanya. You can have a lace front You can have whatever kind of hairstyle you want if it's clean Then And it's To kill A man gonna be all right with it because it's different styles, you know for different Different men um Oh See that toy koi. I ain't missed. I just answered your question But see you to jump the gun Tony you skip my question if a guy sleeps with different women each night is he greed or have mommy issue? So now you don't bless me twice being impatient when you see all the other questions up there You finn make it by two Tony I see you got a hundred other questions up there, but you skip my question y'all see how Some of y'all could be y'all women. So now you don't bless me twice now. I ain't mad at you Now don't go doing no charge back Don't call your car talk about oh, I ain't mean to do the other one. That was fraud I'll do no charge back now since you since you was impatient But I answered your question because see what happened is when you put that amount when you put the five dollars or less You too They give it a time limit and they are deleted. So while i'm answering one of the other ones Your question or disappear and go back into the chat And i'm looking up top up here Let me see So y'all y'all hold on. Let me see if i missed any more of them Other questions that disappeared on me. I think I got them. Damn mom. Okay All right now I got time for about two more questions. I got to go. I'll supposed to be on here our man and y'all Came in here and hit me like that Thank you to the person that sent me a cash out. God bless you that right there. God bless you now What do you think of a man who portrays to be godly? But it's still watching them movies and sleeping around Now for those of y'all that ain't been here what she's talking about them movies. She's talking about per Okay PORN, but we don't say the word because you two like to hit you toy court god bless you now No charge backs. All right now. Do no charge back A man who say he god damn and he's still watching per You got the wrong You hear me I'm talking about get from around him because you know how When people used to be saying man, let me get from around you for the light and strike you Remember what I told you The worst type of person you could deal with is somebody that say they know god And they are in willful sin. That's the worst kind of person. I want my sin to be an accident I want to stumble upon the sin If somebody said not plotting how they feel the sin and they talking about they know the lord I'm finna get from round you you hear me because when the wrath of the lord hit you I don't want to be nowhere near Because whatever that's finna look like because see when you plan with god that heads of protection get taken from around you So that mean you get robbed at any moment. You get in the car wreck at any moment You can get scrubbed by lightning in real life people get scrubbed by lightning in real life The deer could attack you a bear Anything can happen to you when god take that heads of protection from around you because you keep playing with his name I don't want to be nowhere near you. I'm getting away from you and I'm gonna be Praying that you get your sense together So never deal with somebody that say they know the lord Going to church reading a bible quoting scripture and then in willful sin Meaning they plotting and they planning how they finna sin No Because ain't nothing good coming to him Queen v. God bless you now. I started dating boss a year ago I got the gold I am 27. He is 47. I never invited him over Only went to his house Only went to his house recently find out about new woman He said he wanted us to figure out a way of being together I called and told her the truth Okay, so now y'all got all kind of uh drama going on over there. So You dating your daddy. Well, you step daddy He's 20 years older than you So what you two young to understand Is a lot of time the boss Sleep with the employees And he able to sleep with you because he the boss So you job scared. So you feel like if I turn him down I'm gonna lose my job So now you need to be in the me too movement The other thing is you feel like well if he the boss he got a bag So if I put this thing on him I'm finna have a bag and I'm finna be The coat owner and I could fire this chick over here that keep looking at me sideways So see you have ulterior motives You didn't think that that just was random love that just came up because Somebody who old enough to be your step daddy, you know that man is too old for you So you got to think about this this situation right here. You played yourself And then when you played yourself you called a new woman to tell her the truth She doing the same thing. She trying to come up on the bag because he a business owner And so what you got to do you got to cut him off, but you you're gonna have to change jobs You don't have to change off because that job right now. I got a ceiling on you You got a ceiling on you you might need to find your purpose and step into your purpose but they got a ceiling on you and um If you going through a divorce does it make sense to get remarried After your divorce after your divorce and after you to heal Uh, yeah, it made sense if that's what the lord got for you. The lord might call you to be a Uh, pasta Paulina, you know, a pasta paul was single The lord might call you to be a pasta paulina and start ministering the women that's going through a divorce Ministering the women, you know, that's what you might be called to see love God bless you now for the laugh. You can have a Larry that was hilarious. Okay And now see long, you know what you talking about but a Oh, you talking about when I say you can have a ball You can have a Larry I just figures a hairstyle called Larry since y'all call one on my bob. I know what the bob is Sharon God bless you now. Okay in Canada. Okay three Canadians on here Thanks for the peace of mind when I tune in just a bit of true, though Stimulus stimulus from being on the front line Thanks to heat on it Okay, yeah, so that's his name true though. True though or true though I'll be watching them. I watch them live on youtube and I'll be like man. I wish we had somebody like that in America that's poised You know got his natural skin color not In the tan spray At young fit Vibrant I'll be looking at counters are like Mac and y'all send money y'all leaders over here Britain the cold God bless you now. Hi Tony. Love your content. Do you believe in getting hitched in under a year? No, I don't If a man knows that you're his wife, he will know in under a year but just for the sake of safety because a man who Cuckoo for cocoa puffs he will want to marry you in under a year to trap you Okay So just out of for your safety you want to give yourself at least 12 months To be dating this man on a daily basis meaning y'all talk an hour a day And y'all see each other at least once a week for a two to four hour date So y'all spending seven no eight to eight the um 10 hours a week eight to 10 hours a week Talking or spending time together. That's every day because that means consistency That means that you all in 24 hours in a day if you can't make one hour for the person that you claim you want to marry Then you shouldn't be dating So every day y'all talking and then y'all see each other once a week So yes, that means if it's long distance Mean what it means Richard god bless your tony you mentioned temptation as being the hardest thing for a man But if you being a faithful man of god struggle with this doesn't it then become near impossible? Um, yes, it's near impossible But see this what you got to realize That's the power of jesus christ Who the whoo that's what you got to realize see everything impossible without christ See with christ you become a new creature See, that's what god get the glory. See everybody gonna be able to listen to this because they don't understand See, that's what god get the glory See if you could do it on your own ain't no need for god If you could do it on your own ain't no glory for god Ain't no glory in your story if you could do it on your own power But see the the level of growth that you need See a woman might be able to be faithful without god, but can she be healed without god? Can she be whole without god? Can she be confident and emotionally intelligent without god? See a man may be emotionally intelligent. He may be Whole he may be confident, but can he be faithful without god? See me personally I don't believe a man could be faithful without god If a man come telling me he don't need god to be faithful Get from around me because you're a liar Because uh, are you crazy get from around me, bro? Because you're gonna get struck and i don't want to deal with you because you leave any women on a bike One day one i'm gonna come With that work and i don't want to be with you at the club Playing the video game when she come to pop off to get her episode on snapped to get her episode on lifetime moving network I got to go so i hang around faithful men You hear me Because and these men that's faithful guess what every man i know that's faithful That that could tell me he's faithful or he asked in it. I could look him in his eyes And know whether he lying or not And the men who faithful guess who they got? G-o-d So that's what you got to realize. It ain't meant to be easy It ain't meant to be easy Because that's what the devil job is to make stuff hard on you Martina god bless you now asking a question for kim riches and kim riches and as husband drinking 13 years living apart He's in a a but still calls drunk once a month divorce Yeah, it sounds like that, but you're gonna need coaching uh, lydia Pre-pastor tonic god bless you now lydia. You're gonna need coaching. See the q&a Not really for marriage the q&a for dating And simple questions in marriage, but when the q&a not for divorce. I'll say that you can ask marriage questions But when it comes to divorce you got to make sure you turn over every stone You got you came you can't leave nothing unturned. So you need to do coaching You need to do counseling you need to read the books you can afford you need to take the sessions I mean watch all the videos one of these days when I get the time I don't have more than an hour a day to shoot a youtube video But one of these days when I get the time i'ma just do a relationship series A marriage series and i'ma just post all the videos in one day y'all gonna be like what the world's on it doing And i'ma just put them in a playlist for the married people because reason why i can't do a lot on marriages because 70 percent of my audience is single So that's that's obviously who god called me to to help people be prepared for marriage so that they marriage can last Whereas for those of you already married it's marriage channels. It's marriage coaches. I can help you now my book Could help you but i'm really called to the ounce of prevention Still to the pound of cure So for those of you married you can apply a lot of this stuff But if you at the verge of divorce you're gonna have to sign up for one-on-one coaching with me So we really could work through this here thing Hey god bless y'all. I got the gold now. I got the gold lydia god bless you now I really appreciate y'all for the love and support now I did a live the day because yesterday was mother's day and I couldn't do our normal sunday live So the day was the makeup and then I probably what i'ma try to do is make my live days sunday Tuesday Wednesday thursday Because i've been doing fridays, but that's been too much for me And then saturdays, you know, I that's another chill day So i've been doing saturday lives, but it just don't feel right with my spirit So i'm thinking i'm gonna make live sunday Tuesday Wednesday thursday that's what i'm gonna try to do But my schedule is fluid so i may have to change that so if i'm going live I'll post it 30 minutes to an hour before I go live. I post it on the community page But hey god bless y'all. I really appreciate you. Thank you for all the blessing and love and support you sent me And uh Well, I'll be back tomorrow with my normal daily video Y'all take care now. I have my wife in a closet behind me talking to my son Let's see how I turn this thing off now. They changing this thing up Oh youtube