 Hi. Hello. Welcome to Sunday morning coffee. It is Sunday and I hope you don't have to do a ton of stuff today. I hope you get a little bit of time for yourself and our topic today address the stress. I hope will help inspire you to do just that even if you do have a busy day. Okay. So we're going to catch up on the last week events that full moon. Oh, she was a doozy. Like we're talking full moon epic. So lots of people in my life had meltdowns and including and friends had lots of stuff going on and like every single day I didn't have just one friend that needed to talk to me or that wanted to chat with me. But I had multiple ones. And so I'm like, oh, theme. Everybody's got this. This energy that it's not just it's not bad either it's not necessarily bad stress. It's like good stress to like things are happening things are opening it's January there's new opportunities bubbling up that you maybe didn't expect there's a new class you're starting. Or there's also endings. So endings and beginnings are really coming to fruition right now and it's really a bridge time. This time of year usually is anyway but this year I'm like, oh, I'm bad. I love you. I'm going to be here for you all year long. This entire theme for me in my work on above life channel is about empaths and about support for the empathic heart and soul. So this is there's a lot there's going to be a lot about that and we're going to we're going to chat we're going to come together and we're going to chat about that so on Sunday morning coffee today address the stress is about coming into the awareness that stress doesn't just happen to you it's not just something that hits you in the face like a big gust of wind in a rainstorm. You know it's not hitting you like waves, although it feels like that stress is something that is an energetic surge. So if we think of it that way it is natural. It is a surge of energy a boost of energy in a particular area of life that maybe you didn't plan for, or maybe you did plan for, but have all these additional expectations parameters experiences that are feeding into the energy around that or the boundary around that what might might look like or how that might feel for you. So there's an anticipation that comes with that that is not controllable. You cannot control that that that that epicness of the energy as it comes right you just you can't. So by the time you feel it it's it's too much it's overwhelming. So it's about really the address the stress is really about managing your energy, not controlling because you don't really have control over not much nothing. But you can navigate and manage and balance and you can get balance and you can find peace and you can find peace in the pain. Even if you're struggling with pain the last few days I've definitely had some heart some some chest pain some pain in my chest right on my right side. And it's not like it's not from the surgery it's just from the the regrowth and from the stretching and from developing new muscles and reconnecting old ones. And there's a stressor with that like I feel like I'm like oh that's weird oh that's new oh that's different and trying to feel into my body and find what the new baseline is. And so too with all the energy and the things that are happening in your life, instead of feeling attacked by it or surprised by it. I'm going to suggest because this is what I've been very clearly instructed by my healing team for me. And so I'm going to share it with you and if it works for you great and if it doesn't find something that does because you will because there are so many things that can help with stress management. Energy management okay and that is to have some practices rituals or routines that you're doing to manage the energy. So you're keeping up on a daily basis with where you're at energetically so that when something comes at you you have the ability to kind of move with it. And it's not it's like you're prepared like you have some some muscles some some energy management muscles some stress management I can handle it muscles. If you're not using those muscles then you can't okay so here's a here's a story so in cardiac rehab they tell us all sorts of stuff about myths about heart attacks and things like that I did not have a heart attack. I am like the unicorn in the bunch because I had an aortic dissection so it's very different. And they're all like wow you're badass you you had your chest cut up and I'm like yeah I'm so cool wish I wasn't that cool but anyway. So they told us that the thing is when people are out shoveling snow and they have heart attacks and why the increase of like people's visits to the chiropractor or back injuries or heart attacks happen. During the winter months more often is because people who are never exercising stretching taking care of their backs or their hearts at all are just going out and shoveling snow lifting heavy snow and doing major major cardio workouts and cardio impacts the heart. And so it. It's not shoveling the snow that causes heart at heart attacks or back injuries. It's the fact that the people that are doing it haven't prepared. Don't have a baseline of management. So instead of controlling circumstances or situations or people are external factors which we all know we can't do you have any teenagers. Have you had teenagers. Then you know I'm talking about right you can't control me you think you can you can influence. And so right now we're going to influence our stressors by preempting them by creating a new baseline of of a wellness in our flow of energy so you can manage your flow and so I want you to do that. Try that that's what my team has told me very specifically so. To manage the energy of so and I've been really open with you guys to on above life channel on my Monday videos about like about the things that have been impacting me to like with the post surgery and how there's a risk of depression and they talk about that in cardiac rehab to it's very common to have and especially for people who've had near death experiences. It's there's a common. And it can happen anytime in the first year or two is that there there can be a depression like well what am I doing with my life am I doing enough am I. You know and there can be guilt and there can be guilt like why did I come back and I didn't want to come back and I'm not you know I just don't feel it doesn't feel I don't feel right or whatever you know what I mean. And so I've been really really open about that about talking about that and one of the things that that came up just this week. I had a regular doctor appointment a regular doctor on Monday and I talked about that here and I was able to chat about some things and. I am kind of weaning off one of my medications because I'm getting a double whammy with some of the side effects like. Double whammy and even my sister said when I was visiting with her she's like yeah you do seem kind of just. And I'm like yeah and the doctor said it's the medicine like oh okay so we're going to wean off a little bit of some of my medicine. In order to do that I need to make sure for myself because I know me I want to have a plan and because of the empathic nature of things right now and because of my empathic nature. I committed to myself to be doing things like meditation every day and I have been I've been doing pretty well at that this morning I didn't do it. Because I wanted to talk to you guys because I have a full day but I wanted to talk to you guys first. It doesn't have to be a long meditation doesn't have to even be 20 minutes it can be five 10 minutes but just a meditation every day. To kind of go into that place and feel what the baseline is where am I at right now. Let's go inside and soften the energies and feel good and have some yummy goodness inside like what your natural state is is a beautiful blissful state that's the natural state of you I know it's hard to believe but it's true. It's really true. And so that is one big thing and I'm not talking deep meditation you have to become a Buddhist I mean I'm serious you guys like don't be all like oh my God I have to do it for an hour. No five 10 minutes did you not hear me and I am like the master of meditation it's easy it's not that complicated don't make it hard don't make it hard rule number one do not make it hard. Don't make it difficult. Oh you know what you guys I didn't even check to see if my sound is working is it. I hope it is. Can you thumbs up me make sure I'm not talking to myself. It looks like it's working. Can you thumbs up me. And the chat high in the chat hi nice to see you. We're just I'm just starting with the meditation one. Make sure you can hear me. Thank you. Hello buddy. Patay thanks for being here I know it's not easy for you right now. Thank you thank you thank you my dear. Okay so if you can't make it don't feel bad. We don't want to promote guilt in this group. We want to encourage you taking care of yourself and it is what it needs to be for you totally respected. Okay so meditation is one of the things I decided to do to help manage the energy ahead of time like to manage my stress okay because obviously I've had a lot of stress this week and I have a kid like a 22 year old that's like moving out of. One place and moving into another place and is freaking out because roommates are leaving and they're taking all the stuff and so she can't microwave. Oh my God it's the end of the world there's no microwave. I'm like oh my God girlfriend you're gonna have to do it old fashioned style like turn on the oven. There's this thing that's called the oven. And you don't even have to put it inside you can just cook on the top of it the stove top. Oh my gosh but like the freaking out right and so I'm like oh my God my stressors and that's probably why I'm feeling a little bit extra on the right side right. Can't just be muscles. I mean I have been working out a lot but it can't just be muscles. So the next piece is yoga yoga or a stretching scenario so stretching could just be reaching your arms up. To the sky and stretching with one arm going higher than the other. Right arm up high and then dropping it down and left arm going up high and you don't have to stretch super far you could just a little bit and then put the arms up together and then just drop them to the side. Stop here for a minute and take a breath and then drop them all the way down to the side and then shrugging the shoulders back. I don't know shrugging the shoulders forward. Maybe I know. It's as simple as that. Seriously. So I'm doing yoga you guys know that I've talked to you about that I've chatted with you about that I've missed now two days. Scheduling stuff different things. And that's fine because I've done other things instead. So it's okay. It is okay. Not today I need to do that too before I get in the car and drive couple hours to go bring a bunch of shit that I went through of mine to give to my kid who's moving into a new place and need stuff so I'm making that journey and I did it all by myself. I collected all the items went through all the stuff packed a bunch of stuff up and put it into boxes and at my sister's house the stuff that I went through that was mine. I took some of the things that that I had there to give to her. If I'm not using them she might as well use them you know it's not that exciting you know Goodwill is a great place to buy a bunch of shit just so you know that you need like housewares and stuff like that. You know bowls and plates and stuff like that and so it's no big deal like half my stuff was from there anyway. And so packed it up and I was up and down and up and down and up and down her stairs yesterday so much I had so much exercise. I didn't even walk on the treadmill I didn't need to because I was like oh my God and plus I was carrying the bags and stuff like that. And I was carrying boxes and things like that not heavy boxes. I'm smart I'm not going to hurt myself. But I did a lot and did all by myself like in a good way I mean I had help I had support if I needed it but I did a chunk of it just by myself and it felt good you know. And so today I'm going to do all by myself to drive it up to her and then have her and there's no way because everything like things are heavy so I'm going to have to have. I've had a little help with the big stuff I've had some help with the big stuff so anyway my point is. Like not exercising but like stretching just stretches you guys stretches getting up off your booty. If you especially if you work on the especially if you work on at home and you got it like you know we'll go your butt get up and move around that sacred chakra. Oh I got to show you my as my shirt Sunday morning coffee shirt coffee takes the bitch right out of me which is probably not true actually. Anyway, so it's like one of my favorite shirts you guys have seen me wear multiple times but I had to share that I'm wearing today as I'm driving I am going to stop and get a Dunkin Donuts they have a pink velvet macchiato and it is really good and it is crammed with sugar. And it's very sweet and it's very yummy and I like it. But so stress management. I'm not avoiding sugar. I'm not avoiding yummy stuff, but I am introducing a routine that's going to help me when I go see her and or when you know month or non she asked me for 800 bucks to pay a render something and I don't have it. I want to honor my boundaries and hold my space and not feel guilty or bad or perpetuate energy that's connected to stress that pulls us down guilt energy, or expectations of others, or you need to be the same person you were four months ago. I'm not fyi I'm not even fucking close to that at this moment in time. Other people who have not gone through what I've gone through do not understand that. And I noticed that sadly. I'm like, I don't just go back to the way I once before it doesn't like I don't just pick up where I left off and keep going it does not work like that when you have life defining experiences. Don't cut yourself some slack do do two things pick two things that are going to help you. Manage your energy in a way that works for you so what is that for you I'm going to challenge you with this on the Sunday morning coffee to help you address the stress. Okay, by saying what is that going to be for you is it going to be reading an excerpt out of your book. Every night, or every morning, is it having an app on your phone, like the good news network, or having an app on your phone that gives you a quota day, or maybe you have the Channy app, where you get astrology for the day, something like that like what are you going to do to kind of align your energy. Put yourself in that kind of state of awareness of what your pure self is, which is good. Something that is is is uplifting the baseline is is positive or hopeful energy. I'm not saying be ignorant to anything that's going on in the world I'm saying when you start out what are you going to do to give yourself that best opportunity to be at your baseline and have your baseline be positive that is supportive for you and intuitive and what your soul wants for you what you're healing team what your angels today I almost did a Sunday morning coffee about angels because they're everywhere right now and I'm like cheese. We I mean they are all over the place I'm like, okay guys you're you kind of freaking me out just a little bit you're everywhere you are everywhere right now. Wow, that's kind of cool. So maybe tomorrow on above live channel we'll have to have a conversation about angels for our Monday Monday talk, maybe we'll have to do that. So what is it that you're going to do, I mean maybe you're going to use oils, maybe you have essential oils maybe you love lavender or maybe you have an essential oil that you just love right. And you haven't used it for a long time or something maybe it's been in the closet or the cupboard in the bathroom or something take it out. And maybe you use that in the morning maybe you smell that and you put a little bit on your wrist and rub them together. Maybe you do that. So that creates a tone that sets a tone or a vibration you're choosing your frequency. It doesn't mean you're going to stay in this blissful state and you're going to be in this little bubble all day long. But it means at least you're starting making some choices right out of the gate or realigning yourself like if something something's going down at work and you're like oh my gosh you just had a meeting and you're like oh everything's crazy. Maybe you open up your drawer and you dig out your Denise Lynn gateway oracle cards. Now like oracle cards and stuff everybody thinks that it's like no big deal everybody's doing it everybody's using them it's no big deal. And I would say if you these are really easy ones these are non denominational people should not at all be offended or afraid of them and run the other direction. But who knows people are offended by a lot of random things like because I do yoga somebody might get offended. Oh okay I'm going to manage my energy. They're probably just envious because they can't do that yoga move or something. But anyway so you could do cards. I would suggest Louise Hay has a couple decks like power of thought cards or wisdom cards and they're super general. They're just like affirmations that's all they are. And that's all they are but they're good and lovely supportive and gentle. So this is the one I just pulled from this deck and this is the one I think I have this on my link in my description. The gateway oracle cards Denise Lynn you guys know I like Denise Lynn because it her stuff is grounded. Like she's in reality she's not just like oming all day in the fields okay. Hearing messages from spirit. I am a clear channel for messages from spirit. Here you go. I just talked about angels right. Would you say that that is an affirmation that we should talk about angels tomorrow. We're going to have to remind me just in case I forget but yes I think that is. Yes yes I believe that's true. Okay there are also lots of motivational speakers. You can find one that fits your jam. I like Simon. I can't think of his last name. Simon. He does stuff with businesses and stuff too but Simon Simon he wrote. Oh my gosh I can't even I'm blanking out but Simon I can't think of his last name. A lot of people like Mel Robbins. I'm okay with I like some of her stuff the way she talks about stuff but some of her stuff. Her I'm not super in alignment with necessarily. I don't know I don't know but some people really like her Mel Robbins. There's other ones too who do you guys listen to in the chat share them with each other. Lisa Nichols yes yes. That's a powerful inspiring woman for sure. You know there's the old school Oprah's obviously. I wonder what Cheryl Richardson is up to lately. She used to be a really good like self care coach. Connected to Louise Hay. Louise Hay is old school you guys she's in heaven she's in the afterlife. Louise Hay has a lot of great stuff too. Oh my kid is calling me I'm gonna have to just a second. The one I'm supposed to go see. Okay so who else I'm trying to think of who I've been digging lately I've just been pure into my own stuff whoever my team is my spiritual helpers I've been reading on women who run with wolves and I just got a new journal to go with that. Beautiful journal to go with that and it doesn't have lines for the first time ever I have a journal without lines which is kind of interesting a little scary but interesting so there's lots of stuff that you can do that's inputs that are positive I used to always say positive inputs in my coaching so create two two things that can help you and now this intent of this is to help address the stress before it starts it helps to give you a baseline that is more supportive because if your baseline is oh the world sucks and this year is going to be a shit show and everybody's going to lose their jobs and I hate taxes and I don't have money and I can't do this and I can't do that and I can't go to Florida because of politics so I can't do Disney this year oh my god my life is just awful I haven't you know worked in four months I mean oh my god if I'm doing that I'm gonna when stress comes at me from other people when my kid has stress when my friends have stress and when my clients have a lot of stuff going on how am I going to handle that I'm gonna be like oh yeah you're right you're right yeah yeah life sucks what what like that's not no no no so we have to create a baseline where we're at right and then we have tools though that can help us and it's really simple stuff like anointing like an oil essential oil or an incense that's burning like I have an incense burning right now that's called cinnamon twist that's that whole sacred shocker vibe going on I have a white candle on my altar space that's glowing right now just lighting a candle taking a minute light a candle take a minute and breathe and stare it into the candle and just open your your heart and let your the energy of light just imbue within you that connection easy boom boom boom easy easy easy easy peasy lemon squeezy as we used to say when the kids were little so alright my dear friends thank you so much for being here on Sunday morning coffee cheers I gotta get rolling rolling rolling rolling out this morning on the Sunday and I look forward to talking to you tomorrow let's talk about angels that sounds great another resource for you to help you manage energy and that's all really stress is whether it's good or bad or whatever we can judge it all we want but it's there and it exists and it can cause illness and it can cause foggy brain it can keep you keep you unmotivated and stuck and we don't want that and you have a choice on that you can influence that yes you can I know you can I totally believe that you can we can okay alright okay so I hope I've inspired your spirit today filled you with some hope and encourage you to live your life this is your life after all and you get to live it decide what's best for you just love it thanks for being here thanks for the thanks in the chat great to see you