 Hello, I'm Neil. This is the type of dad vlog. It's day 22 all the twos It's a day 22 Like I read somewhere that that it takes 21 days to form a habit. I Don't feel like I've formed a habit yet with this daily vlog Basically, I show up every day here on YouTube to share with you the joy and the happiness that we're trying to find through my family's Wanton spending all of us as a unit and I'm trying to share that happiness with you I hope it's working for you to 22 days in This was going to be a very very quick video because we only spent on one thing today I just take a shot of it now We had a top-up shot in the big chain supermarket put down as a draw of 10 what's not to like about reduced Chinese meals and Pretend Japanese sushi, but there's something else I wanted to share with you because it happened a few weeks ago I listen Just relentlessly to anything that Seth Godin produces and he has a podcast. It's called the akimbo podcast It's brilliant. I'll put a link in the description below But they they choose two questions every week. I imagine that one or two people sending questions I was shocked that Mine was chosen and I wanted to share it with you because his answer I think is beautiful and I'll put words on the screen so you can read along with them, too Hi Seth, this is Neil Mosse calling from Hampshire in the United Kingdom long-time listener first-time caller I have a son and he's 10 and in under a year He's going to go to high school big school and We have a culture in the UK that that is pretty much the time when we give our kids a smartphone It's under the the pretext that they will need some way of Calling home if they get into trouble to and from school but I Can't help feeling as a dad that I'm effectively giving him the equivalent of a pack of cigarettes and On the surface it it looks like My options are obvious, but I'm really curious Seth. What do you think my options are at this stage? Am I helping him to effectively do the equivalent of starting smoking or am I helping arm him to develop himself in the industrial smartphone complex Really interested to hear your thoughts on this. Thanks again Seth This is such a poignant question and I really appreciate you asking it I guess I'd start with this. What is parenting for? That 12 year old at 13 year old in your house. What is your role in helping that person become who they can become? Well one model which seems like the easy short-term model is to help them fit in To help them go all the way into the center of a gang of other 13 year olds There's enormous pressure on 13 year olds to do this The question we need to ask is does fitting in the most lead To the best life to the happiest long-term outcome or is it okay? To challenge our kids encourage our kids and push our kids to not be the one Who's the lowest common denominator to not be the one who fits in to learn? What it feels like to turn to people and say no, I don't want to do that Because without parents, that's really unlikely to happen So you're probably guessing what my answer is here. We know a lot about the efficacy of smartphones We also know a lot about their side effects It seems to me and your mileage may vary That a kid who waits two years or three years longer than average To start diving deep into the maelstrom of Instagram and Facebook and the rest of social media Probably comes out ahead on the other side. I don't know no one knows for sure But we do need to answer the question this parenting. I'm doing what is it for? Because if all you want to do is encourage your kid to fit in that's the easy path Thanks again for listening. We'll see you next time It's lovely, isn't it? So that's it. If you've reached this point in the vlog. Thank you Why not leave me a thumbs up to let me know that someone reached this point in the video That would be lovely and if you haven't done so already I'm Very grateful for everyone who has subscribed because each subscription takes me closer to that magic golden 1000 subscriptions I guess that's part of the social media addiction that That was talked about in the podcast. I've learned nothing at all but What I have learned is that if I reach a thousand subscribers YouTube start paying us some pennies So thank you for Taking us closer to that and I'll see you on day 23 tomorrow's tight-walled dad vlog Can you please help my daddy get 1000 subscribers just click in the space? Thanks. Bye. How was that?