 Hello everyone, welcome to another Not Survival Live video. Today I am by the lake, although you can't see the lake right now. You can see the gardens. I don't think at some point these fountains will turn on, so I'll try not to stand close to those. But yeah, in this video we're going to be talking about when you stop giving in. An artist does this. When you stop giving in, at some point you have to stop giving in because all this time you spent with them, you did everything you could to make them a better person. You gave them everything you had, all of your time, energy and money. And they happily took that from you, even though it didn't even seem like they appreciated it. They took it for granted. But yeah, they took that from you and you thought you were building them up. You thought you would make them into a better person. You thought maybe one day they would understand. Maybe one day they would appreciate you. But that day never came. And in the end you got fed up and you just thought, what's the point? Why should I help you? Why should I build you up, upgrade your life, try to make you into a better person when for one thing you don't even appreciate it. But today we get a thank you. And aside from that, it's not making them a better person anyway. Because when you look at it, they're just using you. And whatever they get from you, they just turn around and throw it back in your face. Once they've drained the life out of you and you've got nothing left. That's what they do. Narcissists. They just take everything you've got and then they give you nothing back or return. Not even a thank you. So yeah, at some point you get fed up playing that game and you stop giving in. They may ask you to do something and you just say no. Or you ignore them. You give them a taste of their own medicine. You give them the silent treatment. And yeah, they don't like that. When you ignore them, when you ghost them, when you go to a contact, they hate that. They can't understand it. And yeah, they will try to punish you. They will try to get revenge. But not only that, they will try to get what they want. Because remember all narcissists really care about is getting what they want. And if they can't get you to voluntarily, willingly give that to them, then they are going to find a way to extract it from you. Whether you like it or not. And to do that, they may involve their flying monkeys. They may start a smear campaign. They may coerce you. They may pressure you into doing what they want or giving them what they want. And if that doesn't work, they may even file a lawsuit. And that's how many of you are dealing with alimony or child support cases. That's just typical of a narcissist. That's what they do. That is exactly what they will do. When you finally stop giving in, when you finally give up. And I know it doesn't sound right to say you finally give up. But trust me, when you are dealing with a narcissist, that is the best thing you can do. You need to give up as soon as possible. Because it's not going to end well. You can try as much as you want. You can hope as much as you want. It's not going to make a difference. It is not going to make things any better for you or them. Things will gradually deteriorate no matter what you do. So yeah, when you finally stop giving in, when you finally give up, that's what they're going to do. They're going to come after you. They're going to try and give them what they want some other way. Whether you like it or not, they will force you. I mean, it's really when you look at it, it's like a child. You know, these are underdeveloped human beings that we're talking about. They are emotionally stunted at the development of a child. So as I've said before in a previous video, it's like imagine you're with your child at the store. Your child may be only three or four years old. So the child may want a toy. And first they're going to try and be nice. They might say, Mom, Dad, I really want that toy. And maybe you got them a toy the day before. So this time you're going to say, No, I'm not getting you another toy. I just got you a toy yesterday. You need to appreciate the one you've got. But if the child really wants that toy and they're not happy that you said, No, what are they going to do? They're going to throw a temper tantrum. They're going to go crazy. And they're going to do it in front of everyone because they're going to try and put you on the spot. They're going to try and embarrass you, humiliate you. And they know exactly what they're doing. They know exactly how to pressure you. And you know what? It's no different to the narcissist. That's exactly what they do. They try to publicly humiliate you. They try to put you on the spot, embarrass you. It's exactly what they do. So yeah, that's all you really need to know. When you stop giving in, this is inevitable. That's what they're going to do. But yeah, the best thing you can do is to stop giving in right now. That is what I advise you to do. Because trust me, it isn't going to get any better. The more you point to them, it's just going to get you for worse. You're just feeding the beast. That's all you're doing. You're not building a relationship or healthy marriage. You're feeding the beast. And the more you feed that beast, that beast will control you. Trust me, I know I've been through it myself. I think I've fed the beast one too many times. And yeah, it's affected me. And it will affect you if it hasn't already. But that's why I'm putting this information out there because I'm hoping that at least some of you will not experience the true depths of what a narcissist can do to someone. Trust me, the more you point to them, the more you're feeding the beast, the more you're going to see the devil inside of them. It's not going to make things any better. It will with a normal person. If you're in a relationship with a normal person, I've said it before, give your partner, family member, friend, child, give them what they need. That's what they're supposed to give to them. And then you will help them to grow and develop into the best version of themselves. And when you point to them, they will have more to point to you. That's how it works. This is just the basic definition of a relationship or marriage. You point to your partner or your partner pours into you first. It doesn't really matter. But one of you pours into the other. Then the other pours back. Then you pour some in again. They pours them in back into you. And together you grow and develop. You build a relationship together. And that does not happen with these narcissists. That doesn't happen with them. Instead, it's just you pouring everything you've got into them. And they're pouring nothing into you. And they're draining the life out of you. But the problem is you're not even building them up, really. Because they have this void inside of them that can never be filled. They can never be satisfied. Just why no matter how much you point to their cup, no matter how much you do for them, it doesn't make a difference. They're never happy. They're never satisfied. They're never fulfilled for anything you do for them in their lives. So stop. Stop feeding the narcissist. Stop feeding the beast. Stop giving in right now. Yes, there may be effects of doing that. But trust me, that's inevitable. At some point, you're going to burn out. You can't do it forever. So you might as well just stop it right now. I think there's some fireworks here. Wow. Very loud. Very beautiful. Perfect timing as well. Just as the sun went down. Hope you like that. Just to finish off this video with a little fireworks display. Beautiful. Yeah, as always, I hope this message was helpful. I know it's a bit dark right now. You can barely see me. So I'm going to end this video here. If it was helpful, please give it a thumbs up down below. Share your thoughts in the comment section. Subscribe. Coaching session with me. Just go to my website. It's NARC Survivor.co.uk. Any other inquiries, you can email me. It's coaching at NARC Survivor.co.uk. And also, check out my Instagram as well. There's new pictures of videos every day on there. It's NARC Survivor YouTube on Instagram. Alright, thank you all. I look forward to talking with you again in another video very soon.