 My name is Sam Bakhnin and I am the author of Malignant Self-Love, Narcissism Revisit. The masochist has been taught from an early age to hate herself, and to consider herself unworthy of love and worthless as a person. Consequently, she is prone to self-destructive punishing and self-defeating behaviors. Though capable of pleasure, and possessed of social skills, the masochist avoids or undermines pleasurable experiences. She does not admit to enjoying herself. She seeks suffering, pain and hurts in relationships and situations. She rejects help and resents people who offer help. She actively renders futile attempts to assist, or ameliorate, or mitigate, or even solve their problems and predicaments. And these self-panelizing behaviors are also self-purging. They intend to relieve the masochist of overwhelming pent-up anxiety. They are cathartic. Masochist conduct is equally aimed at avoiding intimacy and its benefits, companionship and support, as it is at punishing herself. And so, masochists tend to choose people and circumstances that inevitably and predictably lead to failure, disillusionment, disappointment and mistreatment. Conversely, they tend to avoid relationships, interactions and circumstances and people that are likely to result in success or gratification. They reject, disdain or even suspect people who consistently treat them well. Masochists find caring, loving people, loving persons, sexually unattractive. The masochist typically adopts unrealistic goals, and this way she generates underachievements inevitably. Masochists routinely fail at mundane tasks, even when these tasks are crucial to their own advancement and personal objectives, and even when they adequately carry out identical assignments on behalf of others. The diagnostic and statistical manual gives this amusing example, helps fellow students write papers but is unable to write her own paper. So when the masochist fails at these attempts at self-supportage, she reacts with rage, depression and guilt. She is likely to compensate for her undesired achievements and happiness by having an accident. By engaging in behaviors that produce abandonment, frustration, hurt, illness or even physical pain, some masochists make harmful self-sacrifices uncalled for by the situation and unwanted by the intended beneficiaries or recipients. The projective identification defense mechanism is frequently explained with masochists. The masochist deliberately provokes solicits and incites angry, disparaging and rejecting responses from others in order to feel unfamiliar territory in her comfort zone. When she is humiliated, devastated, hurt and defeated, she feels good.