 That's the first picture I could find in the family photo albums of me This is actually taken in Florida not too far away from here I think when our family went to Disneyland You can see a big difference in body language from the left picture to the right picture If you guys were watching Joan of Varro this morning. He was talking about you know, the Self-medicating hug. I'm doing that to hide my scars. I'm doing this to raise up the size of my Right arm make the bicep look bigger. I was a skinny kid. I was about six foot two at that age hundred sixty pounds About five years later 195 pounds solid muscle It took me a bit to figure out what it was But it was myself holding myself back It was some bullshit story that I told myself that these scars were preventing me from Interacting with people being social being around women. I was a virgin till I was 19 I didn't really kiss a girl till I was about 18 I remember I was super excited when I was around 16 I went out on a double date with my best friend his girlfriend and her friend And I was super proud about what I did in the backseat of the car I was like, did you see that? He was like, what would you do back there? I was holding her hand I didn't have a lot of confidence. I didn't have a lot going on I didn't know About my own strength my own capacity my own ability to become a better version myself I really worked on my own shit and let go of the stuff that was holding me back, which was skin deep So the first thing that I transformed was what was under the skin Pick up heavy shit put it down. It's not fucking hard Move more eat better Not hard a lot of people make excuses about that about their self-care. I'll talk more about that later on Turns out every like 20-odd-year-old needs a rottweiler and a dumbbell and some shitty furniture But oh and probably an entire bucket of baby oil whatever I put on myself there But I at least had the confidence to sit open chest open back wide shoulders apart I had confidence and it was a shift in mindset when my parents took me to the six kids hospital in Toronto They took me into the surgeon to do Reconstructive surgery or do a consultation for it And the surgeon went through what it would take to fix the scars redo them try to make you look normal and all that bullshit And I walked out of thinking myself well the juice isn't worth the squeeze the results don't seem guaranteed Sounds like there's going to be a shit load of pain. I don't remember the actual accident. So it doesn't only bother me Huh How about if I just accept that this is who I am And I can change what's under the skin. I can make myself a stronger version of myself I can pick up weights and modify my body That's what I did And then I came to realize that scars are just proof that you're stronger than what tried to kill you Some powerful shit. Whatever's holding you back right now I know everybody's in this room for their own reasons But there's people in this room that want to resolve or reconcile Something that's held them back from becoming about a version themselves become stronger to become an entrepreneur lose weight Whatever the hell it is Whatever the fuck that is It's just some scar Chicks dig scars If you know how to process them, you know how to manipulate them, you know how to own them You can bet you really can become better So what I did, uh, this is about two years ago I wrote this bucket list item to say that I wanted to make a body cast To preserve the scars that held me back in my mind's eye my entire life So that's a body cast up on the wall. Does anybody here? Does anybody here? I know a few you guys watch my videos. Just show hands who's seen stuff on my channel Okay, so it's more than two people. Awesome Um, that's on the wall in my home office. Some people comment in the comments of you What do you have that, you know, Roman cast on your wall or the or it's it's kind of darkened over the times really Why do you have a cast of a black man's chest on your wall and sort of thing like that? That's what it is You can't really see it in the picture But the way that she did it that day so that was me before and then as she was covering me up It captures it in very very distinct detail. So I'm very proud of having that on my wall That's why it's there for those of you that have seen the video Lesson number two