 I love that you let me have crushes and I hate that I'm using the word let here but I just love that that side of me that finds other people attractive or enjoys that is just so un... it's you're so unbothered by it. I just feel like in you I have a partner who really accepts every part of me and that includes a part of me that you know is attracted to attraction. I like the flirtatious energy. I like connecting with new people so I don't like that about you. Happy Valentine's Day. Why? I don't know. I'm annoyed with Shannon right now. She's micromanaging and changing everything after I spent hours doing stuff. Well it's the perfect vibe for the video then because you could just roll that into things that you don't like. So a few years ago we did a video that was all about the things that we love about each other. I gained so much just from already getting to know you on a deep level and just watching you. There's a lot of people here on this world. What's wrong? This is so amazing today. What? You're so sweet. I love that video. I know. It's a beautiful it was it's lit beautifully. You should watch it again. You might really like it. And then a couple years later we did things that we hate about each other. Jared never gives out compliment. No you don't. This today. Today I even set you up. So I thought for this Valentine's Day we would do a mishmash of the two together. Yeah. Marriage edition. Marriage edition. That means it's special. More love. More hate. I mean maybe I near it. This video is sponsored by Audible. The only service that gives members access to the world's largest selection of audiobooks. If you like audio you're going to love Audible. So why not give them a try for free. Audible has a 30 day trial where you will get your first audiobook plus two Audible originals at no cost. Audible originals are exclusive titles that range from literature, journalism, fitness and more. This year I want you to challenge your intimate self to be more confident, educated and edgy. Let me help you by listening to my audiobook The Game of Desire read by me. Visit Audible.com slash Shambudy to start listening now or if you are in the U.S. you can text Shambudy to the phone number 500 500. Again that's audible.com slash Shambudy or text Shambudy to 500 500. Who want to go first? Rock paper scissors for it. All right let's go. Rock paper scissors go. Rock. Okay. Oh it's me. How do you beat you? Okay damn. I thought you agreed. In no particular order top of my list something that I really love about you is the natural smell of your balls because it is a scent that is associative so it reminds me of you and there's also something very like animalistic about it. How up in arms would women kick if men started selling perfume of the scent of their balls? Scent of their balls? This is a thing though it's not a complete it is not different. It is different. It is not different. Let me tell you why it's different. Why is it different? Because the smell of vaginal fluids is actually awesome. I actually enjoy the smell of your private parts. Yeah. Is that on your list? Yeah. Let me see. What's I love the smell of you. Oh tell me more. Tell you more. Yeah that's what do you like about it? That's it. That's it. We're in the video. This is the outro. On my hate list is that you show me memes and videos that you know I'm not going to care about. You got to stay with time though. I know but I there's a lot of things that I look at that I know is not in your wheelhouse that I'm like this is just for me but you will stop me whatever I'm doing to call attention to something that you know I'm not going to care about. Yeah but now you're aware of it. How many times do like I show you something and it's brought up in another social account that you get to chime in now. You made me watch 40 minutes of that laughing dudes videos. I had to watch 50 versions of. How do you not like spice atoms? Like just got faded. Oh my list of hate. I extremely dislike how hot you love the house to stay at. Just a nice heavy medium of just scorching is where you like your entire house all the time. Yeah I would acknowledge that this is probably our greatest incompatibility. Yes. I think that temperature there's something either very wrong with you or very wrong with me. No I'm the majority. I don't think you're the majority. I am the majority. I don't think you're the majority. I think that. How about this how often do you go somewhere and someone goes wow it's so hot and you're like I'm fine. How often does it happen? Never. You're a liar right now. Oh yeah okay. You are a liar right now. You're right. You're telling me that doesn't happen. It happens. It happens it does. I just think that you definitely are sweaty. You've gotten better though. I used to flip to insult me that like that's what it is. That's what we're doing here. I used to refer to you as a glazed donut because there's always this. Because you have the house on scorch. That's why. I didn't have it anywhere else. I love the look on your face when I first see you. So for example on Friday I came to that restaurant and you're with a group of friends. The look on your face when you spot me is like such a joy and it goes too full too because when I see you I will realize like my shoulders will drop without me being conscious that maybe I'm doing this. The second that I see you I just feel my body ease. So like if I see you on set and like you remember you came to the Playboy shoot. Yeah. And that moment and I just look over and it's just like your face there. Oh wow. I love that anything that you do anything that you attack you're always constantly evolving in it. So if you are trying to grow your or if you're trying to get smarter in a certain area you are diving into it you're constantly changing and evolving. You're constantly always like even down to like whatever you're watching whatever your entertainment is is centered around whatever you are studying and trying to grow in. I think that you have a really unique ability to like constantly have the drive to expand and to grow and evolve and I think that that's like a really quality follow up. Thank you baby. I hate how you respond to criticism. Yeah. And I think it's something that you have to work on. I do. You're doing amazing right now. Is this on purpose? No. I know that that is an area that is annoying to me. I mean hence this damn setup. Yeah. Okay. Well I have nothing else to say then. I hate I hate that you always have two cents to give. Really? I hate it. I hate it would be on a topic that is totally I know you're not an expert kid. You are the queen of that. Your father is the king of that. I know as you were saying this I was like this is my dad that's not me. Your father is the king of it. You are the queen of it. You think every topic I have to have some type of takeaway? There's something that I wrote this from something that happened this morning. There was something that I know Shannon's not an expert in. It was something that had nothing to do with her expertise and she tried to tell me the scientific reason on whatever we were talking about. Like thank you for that. I'm going to write this down now because I know you don't know shit about that and you're just talking. You're just you're just talking. Talking because she has lips. I love and I was going to use the word authentic but I actually think unfony is a better word. I love how unfony you are. I never see you with people and think who is that. Yeah. There's like you know you get around certain people and they're around a new group and you're like you don't have a French accent. You're the whole laugh change. Your whole laugh change. You're just nothing. You're so unfony. Yeah. That was why I chose you as a fuck buddy years ago because you were such an authentic lover. I never felt like anything was canned. You weren't saying things that I had heard in porn. You weren't acting out in a way that felt like a reflection of how you thought you were supposed to behave. That's because you put in so much self work for your personality to the point where you being your authentic self is always the exact perfect person to be because you genuinely are kind. You genuinely are empathetic. You genuinely are interested in others. You are funny. You are bold. Like so you bring that side of you and even though there's like little tweaks in different environments I know the difference between stage you and friend you and family you but there's like a cohesive through line through all of it. Yeah. And I just I never look at you and say who is that guy. That's cool. Who's that guy. Is that how it goes? Who is that girl. Oh. That wasn't even the right beat. Like you did like a Frank Sinatra version. Who's that guy. I just it's kind of sounding like an insult but it's not. I really love how large your eyeballs are. It's like I don't know why it might be maybe I have like an eyeball fetish but it doesn't sound as good. No it does. You know I'm doing the human development course right now. So there's a there's a thing. It's baby-ishness. So I'm attracted to babies is what you're saying. I don't know. I feel like everything that I say is just getting flipped into insult. In a positive way that there's we like animals or small things. We like things with big eyeballs because it makes us want to take care. It brings out your nurturing side. Oh yeah. Well I love your eyeballs. Do you know what I also love about you? What? I love that you have finally gotten into audiobooks. Yeah they're really good. You get the hype now. Yes I understand. I feel like years of me being like this is the way. Yeah. 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Again that's audible.com slash Shanbooty or you can text Shanbooty to the number 500 500. All right so my next one for hate is going to be I despise and I'm actually kind of jealous. I despise how fucking happy you are in the morning. It is the most I'm not a happy person in the morning. I need like two hours of just like silence but like that one thing as soon as you wake up and you're just like smiling and staring at me it pisses me off so much like I'm just like why are you so happy we just woke up. When I'm not here I know that you're gonna miss. Oh yeah wow are you just depicting that you're gonna die before me? No. I mean I'm like traveling. I said when I'm not here you're gonna miss this like. I hate that you choose car music that is in zero consideration of me. Why? Because if I'm in the car with you yeah I will think what's music that I could play that would be appealing for both? You don't think that. You'll play an Eminem album. You'll play some like 21 Savage albums. No these things this those are one times like that album just came out or something. Some Kodak Black album. You know I'm not going to enjoy. No but I don't do that on the every day I do that when the album comes out I always take a listen but you're gonna have to just love that part because I'm gonna be playing a new album regardless if it's Celine Dion or if it's goddamn Eminem. But it's very rarely Celine Dion. Yeah but she hasn't came out with an album just making a point just making a point. I I love that you have the ability to balance extremes like polar opposites. You have your brain power can handle two contrasts and like understand both of them. Like it is the strongest quality a human can have. And so like if you're coming in and I like I have like an attitude or something or I'm like pissed off because the Uber driver got me carsick you're able to take it in and be like all right you know what I know I'm angry because he just came in and didn't say I but I'm able to understand that something else had happened that has nothing to do with you. So holding those two truths are like extremely like probably what's going to make us be able to last forever. Years ago I met this woman and this was when I was still in my long distance relationship and I'm like you and your husband just seem to really get along because he came on set and it's really vibe. She was like yeah that's my person and I was like yeah I think that that's that's cool you know I'm in a relationship and we have that in moments and then she looked at me and she was like yeah you know I also had an ex that was like that and I loved them. I really loved this person with all my heart but if I really thought about it I didn't like them the reason I knew that my husband was my life partner is I remember three years into our relationship looking up and just being like I like this motherfucker yeah you know what I mean like yes love happens and you know love in many ways is almost a given if you have a romantic bond with somebody but to genuinely look at that person and like them like I look at you and I'm like I like that motherfucker yeah I really like you I think like like is actually more powerful than love because everyone can fall in love you have to choose who you like yes so fuck love I love you