 Someone who doesn't cower away, that's for a few days. Doesn't cower away, that's good. That's huge. That is huge to me. All right, so today we are here with Andrea again and we're going to be talking about a subject that I think is a pretty important one, not just important but it's something that's not talked about a lot because in today's society with feminism and a lot of the me too movement, you see a lot of the news, there's a lot of negativity towards being a man or being masculine and stuff like that. But there are also a lot of really good qualities. So we're here with Andrea and we're going to talk about all the stuff that makes men great. The stuff that she likes about men and we're going to focus specifically on like things that she can't get from like say another woman or for herself, because I think you're a great example of like someone who's, you're very independent, I mean you're pretty, you're good looking, you're like on top of your shit, go get a hothead. You're a person that like they would look at and a lot of guys think, okay, what could I provide this woman that she can't get from herself. For a long time men were the providers in the relationship, they were the ones with the jobs but you don't need a guy to do that for you. You can do that for yourself and I've seen you not only do that but travel by yourself, do a lot of things by yourself. So what do you get from men that you can't just get from yourself besides, you know? Buddy. Buddy. Okay, so besides a d, good question, what do guys provide? Well I love love and affection, right? Giving me attention or they're undivided attention when we're hanging out, right? If you're, if I'm going out and traveling on my own, I can't share that with anyone so I want to share that emotion with someone or feel protected. Feel protected, yeah. You mentioned that a couple times, protection. Protection. And that's a good thing because it's like, you know, that's something that you don't necessarily need, you don't need a guy protecting you at all points in time because you're very capable of yourself. But I want. That's the thing. But that's what you, yeah, that's what you want. I don't need it, sure, but it'd be better if I had someone there to make me feel safe and make me feel protected. Like, yeah, throw me in a bar and someone calls me in bad name and knock them out. It would be a lot nicer. Instead of me throwing some punches, a guy, you know, a man to back you up or make me feel like, oh, he cares about me, right? That's like really attractive to me is that they care enough about me as a person to want to do something to make me feel like I'm special enough to preserve or protect. Yeah, yeah, for sure. Yeah. I think anyone wants that, right? Is to feel special or feel like they mean something to somebody. Yeah. And a little bit, not only like verbally, but physically, the nice arms, they don't have to have like super big muscles or anything, but I think just knowing that they're there and they can protect me and hold me. I want to be cuddled. I love cuddles. I'll be a big spoon if I have to. But I will. But you prefer to be the little spoon, right? Well, yeah. Everyone prefers theirs. I wonder if there's any women out there that like to be the big spoon. Sometimes I do if it's hot because then I can just... I can just back out if you need to. I can control, yeah, how all the temperature is, but yeah, to make people safe. You keep moving back, I think, is what it is. No, I don't. Because you're secretly trying to get out of the camera. Bye. I literally don't like the spot. You're inching back. I do. I'm going to catch you on it next time. Fine. Yeah, so one thing that you mentioned before that I actually want to talk about is consistency. What about consistency do you like and how does that look? Yeah. Your relationship. So it's a very topical conversation. Very topical conversation. I think it goes back to reliability and I can depend on you and you're showing me that no matter what happens, you can be the person that I know that you can be that's valuable to the relationship and that we find both of them. How many bikes are there? Everyone has a bike. It's a nice day. Everyone has a bike. So that's interesting that you mentioned that because a lot of... This has been kind of the tale that's old this time. Masculine and feminine energy, they're different. So what I was telling you before, which is that a lot of the deities that we consider feminine like the earth or nature, mother nature, they change. They can be unpredictable at times, but the masculine energy is usually more consistent. The sun is almost always a masculine figure because he rises at the same time. And the moon is feminine too because it changes. It changes a little bit differently. And maybe that's also why. There's phases. There's phases of the moon. And women experience phases too. A lot of times. A lot of our control. It's a real thing. It's always a volatile emotion. And that's why it's attractive for somebody else to keep that consistency because we're riding the waves on our own time. It's nice to have something that we can rely on that we know is going to be stable. Yeah, exactly. We talked a little bit about you like it when a guy shows you attention. But is there a point where you he shows too much attention and then it becomes bad? Yes. I think if it's early on in the relationship, I want someone to show me that he cares. I want someone to do that. But I also need to trust that it's because he knows who I am. Personally, I don't think he can... So you don't like it when a guy goes in too quick because you think he's making an irrational decision? Exactly. I don't trust that decision because I haven't shared enough for you to feel like that. You don't know me. I don't know you and you don't know me. So if you're being that forward with me already, that means you might be doing that to anybody else because it's just a girl in front of you. You don't really, you know, you haven't... Like literally all he knows is that you're pretty and you have a vagina. Yeah, and some boobs. And some boobs. Yeah. So for me it's like, well, you're not ready to make that decision and it's also kind of a decision-making process. So if he's just like attracted to the next thing that he sees, then for me it's a girl. He's going to fly away like a little butterfly. Yeah, it's not a reliable, again, that's a reliability. Someone who doesn't cower away, that's for a few days. Doesn't cower away is good. That's huge. That is huge to me. How do you notice that? Like what do you see when, like let's say you're on a date, how would you know if that guy is like going to be a little bitch? A little bitch. Without, for lack of a better term. I think the parent to say on the first date, I think that's something that comes out with a lot of different actions. If you're bringing a topic that's sensitive to you or to me, to a guy and they're kind of shying away or dodging a question, they're pivoting from what the answer could be, whether it's good or bad, that's a little sign of cowardness to me because you're not facing the facts. You're not standing your ground. You're not standing your ground. Yeah, whatever it is, it's your hiding from the question. Yeah. And yeah, what it could come out to be. I think that's part of it. And not taking ownership for your actions. So if you did something, not everyone's going to be perfect, but if you can help the other person understand why maybe you did that, that's helpful. But if you just completely ignore it, you're a coward. Like you're a coward. You know what's one thing that I recommend guys do? Come closer. One of the things that I, there is a concept called breaking rapport, which is where you're talking to someone and like, a lot of times people, they instinctively want to get along. They want to like have the same, Oh, I like that too. Or that's, you know, that's awesome. But like a lot of times when people disagree about something, that's where you can really see that person's character. You know what I mean? And so sometimes I'll recommend that a guy kind of intentionally do this, where he just, he says something that isn't always like the nicest thing, but it's something, it shows you kind of who he is and how he reacts in the situation. And if he stands his ground, then it shows you that he's, you know, well, also he's being authentic and honest, but he's not a complete pussy too. Yeah. Because that's huge too, right? You want something somewhat authentic. And if it just so happens that everything is aligning and you guys are agreeing, that's fine. But say something a little bit extra or something more that kind of shows why you yourself believe that particular position or why you like that particular thing versus just saying exactly what the other person is saying. Cause yeah, you don't want someone who's like exactly like you. You don't want to be able to have that conversation. And it goes back to the trust thing too. It's like, what can I trust what you're saying? Cause it's really, you're just taking the words out of my mouth. Absolutely. Same thing. Absolutely. Okay, cool. Well, I think we got a lot of stuff. Anyway, thanks for watching you guys. We'll bring Andrea on another video at some point. I'm not sure when. Alright, cool.