 Well, hello and welcome to understand men now. I'm your host Jonathan Asley of Jonathan asley.com And I'm so excited to be shooting this short video for you today The topic are you the one are you the one for that high-quality man? Are you the one for that high-quality man really quickly if you've got some questions? You'd like to have answered based on this video. Please post a question below I read everything that comes in most everything and I do my best to respond So if you have a question, please post it because I want to hear what you have to say Okay, are you the one no one a high-quality man seeking? So what occurs to me is when I think of the term high-quality man I'm not sure I really like the verbiage of quality But what I mean by high quality is what I'm talking about is an emotionally mature man an Emotionally mature a man a man who has taken charge of his life. He takes Personal responsibility for his choices his actions match his words. He's learned how to resolve conflicts in a Healthy mature manner in other words every relationship is going to have friction in it. It's going to happen So does he know how to resolve it in a healthy manner? I mean, it's not about being right It's about being happy in the relationship So they listen to what you have to say and they accept what you have to say also these men have a level of Empathy in other words, it's not just feeling your feelings, but they also care about your feelings In other words, your feelings matter. They have a level of empathy They can also they can feel it and they care about your feelings and also they have a level of transparency Transparency in other words They're not avoiding their own problems and they're certainly not avoiding the challenges in within a relationship So if you have some genuine questions or concerns that you can lean in and ask because he's willing to Share them and I can tell you ladies if you're feeling fear about opening up to yourself In other words opening up into the relationship I definitely want you to check out my book what the heck is self-love anyway What the heck is self-love anyway and read the chapter? If it's sincere and from the heart you can never say the wrong thing to the right person I'm gonna repeat that when it's sincere and from the heart you can never say the wrong thing to the right person So I've just laid out emotional maturity and what I want to invite you is if if you're the one You're also going to mirror that level of emotional maturity You're going to your actions match your words you take personal responsibility for your choices You have victor consciousness and not victim consciousness meaning you're an empowered woman you're able to communicate in such a way where you listen to his point of view and accept his point of view and Keep in mind. It's vice versa. In other words, you're you know how to fight fair You have that empathy where you care about his feelings and you're also Transparent because that is what a queen demonstrate a queen demonstrates empowered energy In other words, she is sovereign to her own experience and if you're not familiar with the book the four agreements the four agreements a Queen embodies this she's Peckable with her word she doesn't project. She doesn't Accept the projection of others on herself. She doesn't make assumptions about other people She's not in the state of Comparisons with other people and she's constantly doing her best That's what a queen does and if you're seeking that high quality man, and let's just call him a king right now That's how he's showing up as well Showing up in your sovereignty because there's nothing more attractive to that. So when you couple that with chemistry Bam, you've got some the makings of a really awesome potential relationship Because the high quality guy is seeking that kind of woman, you know, there's an old phrase Women are batshit crazy. I mean there's this video called the crazy hot matrix out there But we almost expect a level of Emotional immaturity from women because we've been so conditioned that women oftentimes can be very volatile in relationship Now I'm not saying you're that way. I'm just saying we've been so conditioned that way It's one of the reasons why there's a phrase I used to say in my marriage It's easier to get forgiveness than permission Let me say that one more time. It's easier to get forgiveness than permission In other words, it's easier to go do something that you know, you're getting in trouble for it because it's easier to get forgiveness and permission But we do that because when we ask for enough first off We should never have to ask permission for anything, but we have this already built-in expectation You're gonna say no to whatever we want So that's what's sadly deceptive in relationship But when you're in your queen energy in other words, you are sovereign to yourself and He's also sovereign to himself that high-quality man that emotionally mature man coupled with an emotionally mature Queen if you will Wow, that's an amazing combination if there's chemistry In fact, I'm not a big fan of the website e-harmony, but I do like their messaging when you take Compatibility with chemistry and put it together ban You have the makings of a great awesome relationship, but it starts with that level of emotional maturity And if you haven't done a deep dive in the book the untethered soul the untethered soul by Michael singer The untethered soul by Michael singer. I highly recommend you read this this book Awakens you to your queen energy. It awakens you to your empowerment now before you get into this book I highly recommend only read one chapter at a time only read one chapter at a time It is very Powerful content. It can only be absorbed a little bit at a time. It's 19 chapters So it's just gonna take you three weeks to get to it By the way, you can read a chapter in the morning and a chapter in the evening if you want to condense it You can certainly do the audio version as well But I highly recommend that because this is gonna shift that mindset Into that queen energy and then you take the four agreements and then you take my book What the heck is self-love and you are going to explode by becoming that juicy attractive person out there For that guy that you have chemistry with It's available to you But you have to step into your sovereignty you have to step into your queen energy Because king and queens they're teammates in relationship. They are doing it as a team It's not him in charge and or you in charge You are both on this path of co-creating a healthy juicy happy relationship together And that's what a high-quality man is looking for and that's how he knows you're the one All right, as I said before if you have some questions regarding this video, please post a comment below Also, if you're interested in private coaching There's a link to schedule a free discovery call with me to see if working with the coach is right for you And also I have a fantastic group called midlife love mastery. You may want to check out um And a lot more so I'm going to wrap up this video as I always do giving you a big gigantic john them bear hug if I have your consent Oh, thank you Wishing you a wonderful day. Thanks so much. Bye. Bye now