 Well, hello and welcome to Understand Men Now. I'm Jonathan Asley of JonathanAsley.com and I'm so excited to be shooting this short video for you today. Our topic, if he wants a serious relationship, he'll do these four things. There's four things he'll do if he wants a serious relationship. Okay, really quickly, if the content here resonates with you and you're interested to speaking with me, check out the link to a free discovery call in the description to see if working with a coach is right for you. So what are those four things he's going to do if he wants a serious relationship with you? So it's interesting. I was actually speaking to a client of mine who's now in a fully entrenched serious relationship and we were just kind of reflecting back on the beginning of the relationship and what helped progress this relationship along to where it's at. And I do believe that there's a good chance that you're going to be getting married or engaged in the very near future. So one of the things that she shared with me that he does, and this is something I've shared in previous videos, is one of the first things he does is he's continually checks in with her on a regular basis. He checks in with her and not checking in with her by saying, hi, what's going on? How are you doing kind of things? Because those are such passive things, or even things that say, I'm thinking of you, which is actually kind of sweet, but he checks in with her. He checks in with her feelings. He's continually checking in with her feelings. And that's a man who genuinely wants to be in a serious relationship. Someone who actually cares about your feelings and checks in with your feelings. And so that's one way you know the man you're with is serious about relationship. He checks in with you and he checks in with your feelings. And if you're feeling off, he leans into it. He wants to be supportive. He wants, and by the way, your feelings could be a reflection of what's going on in your daily life, your professional life, your health, your family, your friends. He wants to check in with those feelings because he genuinely cares about your feelings, okay? Number two, he doesn't have to be right. He doesn't have to be right. In other words, it's not about his way or the highway. A man who's serious about relationship recognizes that a relationship is a two-lane street, a two-lane street. And so a man who genuinely want is serious about being in relationship. He knows how to do something that I call fighting fair, fighting fair. In fact, I recently was reading the book Hold Me Tight by Sue Johnson. Well, not recently, within the last few months. I was perusing it out. And I've had this book for years. But one of the things she's really big on is learning good what's called conflict resolution skills. Conflict resolution skills, knowing how to resolve conflict. So someone who doesn't have to be right in relationship and they want to actually solve problems within the relationship, he leans into the relationship from those contentious places. That's a man who's serious about relationship. You know, it's interesting as I'm looking at the camera right now. You can see the picture of my son there, Conor, all these pictures here. By the way, for those interested, I have something called mixed tiles, which I replace, these pictures get replaced all the time. This is a picture of my mom and dad. But as I'm looking at that photograph, I'm feeling a little bit sad today. Because in the case of my son, Conor, for those who follow me know he passed away a couple of years ago. And I realized when I was picking out the tiles today, I can't get a new tile. I don't have any new pictures of him. I can always take new pictures of my oldest son, Colin, but not my son, Conor. So I was just feeling, I just saw that cute little picture of him and made me think of that. By the way, go to mixed tiles. This is not a promotional video for them. Go to mixed tiles to get them. And if you have already done so, please post a comment below. Okay, the third thing a man does when he's serious about relationship is that he operates from a place of teamwork, is a place of teamwork. In fact, that one client I was telling you about, the boyfriend is constantly, what can I fix at your place? What can I do to make your life simpler? He's always leaning into teamwork. These are men who are genuinely serious about relationship when they can lean in. You know how big I am on leaning in? Because I don't like the leaning back. I had to throw that in there. Also, I haven't cursed yet today. So I'll say the word fuck. This is just my new thing I'm doing. I switch it up all the time. But a man who genuinely leans into teamwork. And this is most likely a man who's genuinely loving on himself. And for those that you know, after Connor passed away, it encouraged me to write a book about loving oneself. That's why I wrote my book, What the Heck Is Self Love Anyway, as a way to lean into our sovereignty, lean into our power, lean into our desire to be in a fully committed relationship. And so if you need some love and support on that, check out the link below to my book. That can definitely help you. Because a man who also is really serious about relationship and this is the fourth one, the fourth thing is he's progressing the relationship forward. He's, you're not having the second, you know, when you're with this guy, you're not watching this video. Let's think about this. When you're with this guy, you're not watching this video because you don't have to analyze the relationship. The guy you're with is progressing the relationship forward. If you watch my video, my previous video, I talk about the dysfunctionality within men. And sadly, most men haven't learned the skills to be in a healthy, happy relationship. This is why I'm such a big proponent of women buying this book called Eight Dates by Dr. John Gottman and Julie Gottman. This will teach you the mechanics to a healthy, happy relationship. Most men have no clue what a healthy, happy relationship looks like. And they haven't even leaned into commitment. I'll shoot a video. My next video will be about commitment. Because this is where you're dealing with these kind of men. So if you're watching this video, if I mean these skills and I'm teaching you these four things to watch for, chances are you've got to say, if I'm not experiencing a man who's progressing the relationship forward, I have a choice. I can either progress the relationship forward or I can move on. Because there's no sense in settling in a relationship that's going nowhere. Have you settled in a relationship that's gone nowhere before? If you have, please post a comment below. And tell me, did it fucking suck to be in a relationship that's not being progressed along, that's not moving along? Yeah, it fucking sucks. There, see, I did curse. I want to encourage all women to step into their power, step into their sovereignty, step into their self-worth. Because if you want a man who's serious, then you do all these four things and then lead by example. Because these most men are clueless, not all most. All right, I think you get the gist of where I'm going here. If you have a question, please post a comment below. And I'm gonna wrap up this video as I always do. First off, giving myself a big, gigantic Jonathan Bear hug of self-love. I'm gonna reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay. I'm gonna ask you to turn to someone or even a pet and give them a hug of love because hugs are a great source of love and we can all use more love in our lives. Thanks a bunch, bye-bye now.