 Well, no, but I feel like lately the last year has been really like all Work crazy like not taking a break not whatever. Yeah, you know, and that's been kind of hard Yeah, it's been a Learning curve. I mean just learning how to like work and maintain everything especially with you because you're like So in it over on Ryland's channel Shane and Ryland just opened up about their relationship And now that all of the Jake Paul series is over they opened up about how Shane might be a little bit of a workaholic And how they're trying to maintain their relationship But this is an excellent excellent mental health topic for all of us Everybody this is Chris from the rewired soul where we talk about the problem But focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel my channel is all about trying to help you with your mental Health so what I try to do is pull different topics from the YouTube community or pop culture to try to teach you how to Improve your mental and emotional well-being so for any that kind of stuff make sure to subscribe and ring that notification bell So yeah, I don't even think I'm subscribed to Ryland But based on the videos I've done and when I look and research on YouTube YouTube was like yo boom Check out Ryland's new video that he just posted with Shane. It was like life update. I'm like alright. I'm eating lunch They're about to do a little mukbang action. Let's do this thing together You're that comfortable eating it in front of each other. Are you kidding me? So I sat down and watched it and they brought up a very good point like that I think we should talk about and it's something I've wanted to talk about for a very long time because I am a workaholic And maybe that's why I like Shane's hustle so much And you know his passion and his dedication and all that because I can definitely relate But this can definitely be something that is challenging for our relationships So anyways, here's the clip where they kind of talk about the rough patch They hit while Shane's been working really really hard on his whole series Well, no, but I feel like lately the last year has been really like all Work crazy like not making a break not whatever. Yeah, you know, and that's been kind of hard Yeah, it's been a learning curve I mean just learning how to like work and maintain everything especially with you because you're like So in it, which is great. I mean it really is because it's changed everything and you love what you're making which is Everything that anybody could ever want You know what's interesting? We've never really talked about our issues Which is good, but like in on YouTube because I feel like I thought you meant like in real life I was like, I hope so we're like started to like quite the long haul with each other to not have talked about any issue I have a few more No, we don't really do that, but I guess that's a good thing So I guess people don't know because it has been a rough like six months because I've been working a lot and then I Haven't like been showering and I've been like staying up all night wearing the same shirt for the entire month That you work. I mean it's because you and our schedules are 100% off because you'll start editing at 2 p.m And then you're so deep in it that you don't go to bed until 7 a.m and then it's It's been like a patch of like learning how to work and navigate a relationship, but luckily I think We love each other enough to want to fight that fight, you know, yeah, I mean, I think I feel like we're gonna have a really good life I'm excited Well, I would hope so one thing I will say is it is kind of interesting Like I remember throughout watching the this jake paul series like rylan wasn't in it That much a lot of it was Shane and andrew but rylan wasn't in it that much It was a few times when they you know filmed some parts at the house and rylan was there and morgan was there And you know a lot of us, you know, we thought about you know, like shane houses mental health And he's going through a lot, but on the other hand like what's rylan been going through right? So I think I think what they said and how they kind of ended that part was like Yes, like absolutely like rylan is in it for the long haul and he knows like he knows that Shane's got to work and like Shane is now taking this time off Which was you know kind of a mental health break for him But he also gets to spend more time with rylan which is awesome But rylan can kind of see that and one thing that makes relationships difficult Is when one person is that kind of workaholic and the other person is trying to pull them away from it And it can get really difficult like I don't know if you've ever been in a relationship Where you're working and like the other person wants you to make money and have a nice house in a car and like I know I've been in relationships like that They wanted all the things that take a lot of work, but they didn't want me to work And it was really I'm like, what do you want me to do right? So it's nice to see how their relationship is where rylan kind of sees that shane is doing this thing And it's something that he loves and then shane is taking some time to spend with rylan Before shane jumps into his next venture So yeah, what i'm always trying to do with my channel is take things that you're already watching and say like hey How can we learn from this? What what's happening in our lives? Like can we relate to this? What can we work on? So I am a workaholic and I also have a beautiful girlfriend named tristan I have my son dylan as well as everything else and you know, I have a lot of people ask me about Work-life balance. How do you do this? So I I have a brain that just goes goes goes, right? When I'm not doing something like my brain tells me that I'm being useless That's when I can slip into depression Sometimes I get anxious like I have to be doing something and this can be an issue This can be a very big issue when I'm trying to find work-life balance because Even when I'm spending time with like tristan or my son or friends Like my brain is like no chris. You should be being productive right now So if you can relate to that like I'm gonna try to tell you like how I kind of cope with that How I find balance and all that good stuff. So I want to break this into a few different categories. All right, there's work There's my son. There's tristan and then there's me. All right So yeah work is something like when I I I'm I'm competitive I'm always trying to be the best and I just work a ton, right? I'm always trying to reach the next level Doesn't matter if it's with youtube or with uh, the company I'm working for whatever it is I work work work and I take work home with me I do stuff on the weekends The new treatment center that I'm actually working for by the way subscribe to our youtube channel I'm gonna link it down in the description But anyways, even the new place I'm working for like I did some work not last saturday But the saturday before I brought tristan and my son down there on a saturday to do some work, right? And uh, the therapist I'm working with she's like yo chris take some time off And it's just it's just for me. That's difficult like for me it is like Every day for me is just a day like i'm not one of those people who wakes up on monday And I can't wait till friday or whatever like every day is an awesome day, right? Some days are, you know difficult, but every day is awesome and like I just don't i'm not in that place Like I talked about in my brand-in uh Video with that he did with l like i'm somebody who just loves what I do So i'm not sitting around all week like oh man. I can't wait for the weekend So I definitely have to dial it back like because I work work work work like and you know a lot of it If I had to just kind of evaluate myself You know a lot of it might be because you know I grew up didn't have that much money I never had that many things or anything like that and One of my biggest fears is not having money one of my biggest fears is being broke So like that's one of the reasons I work so hard is so I have a cushion Um tristan and I talk about it like she gets anxious about money too And it helps me learn how to save money But anyways, that's one of the reasons why it works so much and it's important too Like I have goals and dreams and stuff and I know I talk to you guys about how happiness doesn't equal things Like me. I don't want a big mansion. I don't want a fancy car or anything like that I just like knowing that if crap hits the fan like I have a cushion. You know what I mean But then I have my son. Okay. I have my son And you know, man, what he's such he's such an awesome kid But he understands my work ethic and my hustle but My my dad used to work a ton and he didn't spend that much time with me So my mom was an alcoholic. My dad raised me and like I know that it affected me So I try to be very mindful with my son about how much I work Because I'll be honest with you. There's some weekends where I'm just like Dylan I got to do a bunch of work just hang out play some video games for a while. I got to do this, right? And it's tricky for me. So for me, those of you who don't know me I'm a recovering drug addict and alcoholic. I've been clean for about six years Well, my son was three years old when I got sober and There's there's still guilt that lingers around from that even though I've been sober longer than I was addicted in my son's life And my son doesn't even remember that but there's this guilt that kind of lingers around And something I try to teach people is like just know that feelings of guilt are a call to action Okay, so if I ever feel that guilt And I try to do something about it And what I mean by that is I go spend time with my son Like I'll go hang out with him like this morning before I took him to school I just sat in the living room and watched him play Fortnite And I was like cheering him on and we were just laughing and having a good time Like I just wanted to take some time and do that like The way I manage this kind of work life balance is that I have to just create Time slots like I am an organized mess of a thinker and I just have to say, okay Here's some time. Here's some time. Here's some time. All right So then then you got Tristan Tristan the love of my life the most beautiful amazing girlfriend on earth And it's crazy because she is just so so so so supportive Just so supportive, but at the same time like I can't take advantage of that I need to find balance with her like she deserves time with me She deserves time where it has nothing to do with youtube or it has nothing to do with work or whatever it is She's even called me out sometimes like chris. You're talking too much about this and I'm like, yes I get it like I have to dial it back like she deserves time with me and You know because of how supportive she is like I owe that to her. I owe that to her. So, you know recently Just like last week or two like our schedules have been screwed up just because I was out of town and then She had to stay home for the weekend and all that but like I try to designate time for her So like we see each other on the weekends So me and her will just like binge watch Netflix and we'll just hang out and we'll watch youtube videos or whatever But like I try to spend Dedicated time with her But she knows how my brain works because sometimes we'll just be like, hey, let's watch some youtube Then something just ignites that fire on me. I'm like baby girl. I love you. Like give me like 10 minutes I gotta go record a video, right? And she's like cool with it and then I go and then like what while I'm editing videos or hanging out or whatever I try to You know Stay active with her and keep conversations or get her involved with my editing process And that's something I do with my son too. Like my son. He hasn't been as active on his youtube channel But like one thing I try to do is like turn my my work and what I'm doing and getting the people involved in it So it's kind of like two birds one stone, right? but then then see this is why this is such a great anxiety topic because Now you're starting to see all the balls on juggling, right? I got work, right? I got that ball then I got my son and then I got Tristan, right? And on the weekends, I have my son on the weekends I'm with Tristan and there's literally days like on saturdays and sunday where it's like Me and Tristan will watch like two or three episodes of something on netflix and then like I'm like Hey, I'm gonna play video games with dylan for a couple hours, right? Like I segment the time I'm like, are you cool with that? Are you okay? Like, okay, cool. Cool. Now make sure dylan's okay. I'll make sure she's okay And I don't know I'm very fortunate that both dylan and tristan Have found that kind of balance with me and they know How I am what I do and all of that but we also try to go out and do stuff. For example This saturday we're going to this thing called vegan village where all three of us are gonna go there I'm not bringing a camera. I'm not gonna vlog it or you know, take pictures. Well, I might take pictures But anyways, like that's just the three of us time and we get to talk in the car and Hang out and all of that and go try some awesome food at this vegan village thing here in las vegas So I'm constantly doing this juggling act and like I hope at this point in the video like I hope if you're someone who gets overwhelmed easily and you feel like you're You're too busy and all of that like, you know, look at what shane's doing like shane has the luxury Of taking time off like he just did this gigantic series like most the most successful You know youtube series in history that wasn't on youtube red, right? And he's taking time off to spend with rylan and like, you know, one thing about tristan too is She knows my vision, right? She knows where I want to be. She knows where I want to go She knows like what I want to accomplish and she has my back 1000% So like, you know, when I am in that workaholic mode like shane gets where it's editing all night or doing whatever like Tristan always remembers that big picture. You know what I mean? And like I love her for that And you know, we're doing this together like we're a team and like I'm so grateful that she supports me But the last thing I want to talk about the last part of this whole work life balance is me What about me time, right? Like I can't just always be working. I can't just always be spending time with my son I can't just always be spending time with tristan I also have to set aside time for me time and that's a huge part of mental health And like this is something man. It just popped into my head like when we're talking about youtuber burnout This is the kind of stuff. That's why right This is why health is so important and why I do these things and when I talk to all of you and more youtubers are watching my videos And I hope if you're a youtuber watching this video, you're learning something from it because I also need me time I need time away from work. I need time from my away from my son. I need time away from tristan All right, and what I do is I read I play video games with my friends, you know Right now I'm living by myself. So I have tristan and dylan on the weekend So I do get a lot of me time right so I I like the freedom of doing whatever I want But I will be making videos soon because in about two weeks. Yes two weeks Tristan and I are moving in together and I have concerns. I have worries like Shane in this video talked about them moving, but they've already lived together They're just moving to a new house But this is gonna be the first time tristan and I have lived together We've been together for about two years almost and there's things that I worry about right because for example When I'm trying to have me time when tristan is over I feel guilt and a lot of that and this is something where we have to be very self aware It's not tristan. It is not tristan. It is me It's me like for example when I play video games with my son. I'm like, oh my god Like I'm thinking the whole time. Oh my god tristan is so bored on the bed I wonder if she's mad is she angry like that's what my crazy brain does But I have to remember that's not tristan. That is my brain, right? So one of the concerns is when we move in together Finding my me time like is she gonna have her time? Am I gonna have my time and all that and this is important when it comes to our mental health I have to recognize what places my brain goes to not recognize. I have to be mindful of it because in the reality Tristan likes her her time too tristan, you know has school. She's going back to she went back to school for social work She likes to draw. She likes to watch, you know, her own shows and youtubers She loves to just sit and lay with her cat, you know what I mean? Like one of the reasons that tristan and I work out is she is not super needy So she needs her time as much as I need my time So if these are things that you struggle with I hope you can start acknowledging where your brain goes But anyways, like I'm really glad that Shane Dawson and Ryland Adams gave me an opportunity To discuss this work life balance because I know it's it's really important for anybody anybody watching this Like I want to be an example of somebody who works their butt off But also has a good work life balance and I want to kind of walk you guys through how I accomplish that All right, so let's do this down in the comments below Let me know if you struggle with work life balance Do you struggle with being overwhelmed? Do you struggle with feeling guilty for how much you work or anything like that? 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