 Hey there, hey guys, this is Robby. I wanted to open up a bit today and talk to you about the transformation that I went through over the last few months getting married, got married and just completely changed my philosophy in terms of the way that I conduct my business and my life I was I was extremely extremely introverted for a couple of years because of some really bad things that went through some problems with ethics and It was a big deal. So the purpose of the goal of the video today is to really Take you through some major epiphanies that I had that completely changed everything for me and that allowed me to become Much more successful much more confident and just happier in general. So the the way it started happening the way the change started happening was I Would always try new things and I'm a person that's never satisfied and I always want to try out new stuff But I would never consistently work at something enough to start seeing results So I would sometimes focus on one major area like coaching or web design or working for a company or Getting an online business But I would just I would never stick to it because I would always feel like I need more, you know It's just not enough You know, I just I need more shit. I need more stuff to do. I can do more, you know, and I would always feel Like it wasn't enough and I would just quit it would just feel sick tired and quit and then It's just a shy of like four months ago. I've had this big big epiphany in that Maybe I shouldn't limit myself to a thing. Maybe, you know, and that's like the most common advice you get It's like, oh, don't spread yourself in. Oh, just do one thing and do it. Well What if you do many things? Well, what if like me? You know, you're a good coach and a good web designer and a good programmer and a good lecturer and you like to write and But you know, just many other things and you just good at all of them, you know, I'm not the master But you're pretty good at all of them. Why would you limit yourself to only one thing? So I start actually looking at myself as like as a brand as like something that that is Infinite that has limitless potential. Now again, it doesn't mean I'm gonna do dancing classes tomorrow Because everything is like Everything builds on top of each other. All of them are synergetic But the idea is not to I learned not to limit myself to one thing and when that happened A big change started happening. So my energy level went through the roof. Like I just started feeling Non-stop energy like and I would just bounce from one thing to another and I was already making decent money working with businesses and helping them promote themselves and Building them landing pages But suddenly when I went back to also lecturing and coaching people and coaching businesses It just really going all out on Facebook and YouTube and Instagram marketing myself on Cora Things started really really growing and that was an incredible experience for me because the way my day looks today is I Promote my lectures and then that feels amazing and then I work with my Clients businesses and that feels amazing and then I coach people and that feels amazing and every single thing I'm doing is giving me more energy It's making me feel better and better and better and just building on top of each other. So there's a massive importance to the idea of Just going all out and just doing everything and this might not be a message for everybody because some people They just want to specialize but some people like me Just need everything so This is the first big epiphany. I had another one was the distinction between Motivation coming from passion and winning and motivation that's coming from taking responsibility So I've always had a lot of problem Starting things not starting but but actually going through on things. I'll start something and I would just stop in the middle and What I realized was I was very dependent on how I feel on feeling good and Feeling like I want to do something and if I didn't feel like I want to do something then maybe there's something wrong with it and Eventually what I realized was there's basically three ways to increase your motivation Considerably so the first way is what I call the slight edge way it's based on the my second favorite book of all time called the slight edge slight edge and It talks about how tiny habits can actually create massive changes and that's the way the world works and It's small daily tasks that nobody notices and they don't have almost any Results in the present, but they're gonna lead to massive Results in the future like if you do five minutes of meditation every day or read five pages of a good book every day Or just do two sales calls a day. Whatever it is small small actions lead to massive results and I've done this method consistently since age 18 till 21 or 22 and it helped me Come out of perfectionism and really build confidence in my ability to get things done The next phase of motivation for me was the massive action phase where I basically just created like massive commitments to scary shit like Like if I don't get 500 people to my lecture I'm gonna lose like ten thousand dollars or I'm just gonna fly to Europe and you know Whatever happens happens and I got to get successful become successful So I really Went all out on that but the problem with that was I just kept burning myself up so I took massive risks and it didn't always work out and when it didn't it was super super painful and But that was a necessary step and today. I'm at a like this really much more developed paradigm of motivation We're actually to look at motivation from a place of Responsibility so for me today my motivation actually comes from responsibility take your responsibility so as you probably know I'm married and like everybody I have a family and I'm deeply deeply committed to my marriage to my clients and what I learned was When you take responsibility It gives you the motivation because you don't have a choice in it so if you right now you want to be a musician and What you do is just start collecting a big list of people that are interested in your music and I can teach you How to do that so contact me for that You're just gonna feel very very Motivated because you don't have a choice because you already Created like a commitment with many people that you're gonna give them quality music and send them your music when you start doing it or when you For example book an event book a music show again You're committed you don't have a choice and you can tell it's real because when you talk to people about that And you say why are you not motivated? So why don't you like build a list of people that are interested or just book an event people like Oh, that's like. Oh my god. That's so much because they realized like there's no choice once you create a commitment. You're there What happens is you get committed you take action because you don't have a choice And then you start winning and then you want to take more commitment because you're like winning So that's just the way the motivation thing works, and it's really really awesome. That's like my current paradigm for that Another big lesson is to just say yes to everything so and when I say everything I don't mean The things that are you know what I I'll just go ahead and say say yes to everything The problem is people say no way too much like people say no to adventure to experiences to clients to opportunities to desires to Interests to their imagination So just start saying yes to everything like I never say I don't say no until I have to and that's something that I learned from Grant Cardone Whenever somebody wants to work with me I don't care about the terms like obviously I'm trying to get the best terms But if somebody's like hey dude, I've only got a hundred bucks and that's like all the money I've got I Won't say no. I'll just find a way to make it work like oh, okay So you have only have $100 awesome. So let's do like ten sessions ten minute sessions every week or something I just I don't want to say no to anybody. Oh, you think you can take enough money Whatever and the reason for that is because there's a quote that I really like by a guy named Julian Blunk He didn't make up the quote, but he taught me the quote and the quote is The the road of excess leads to the palace of wisdom know what is enough until you know what is too much so you can only develop real wisdom and knowledge of your limits and boundaries by Going overboard. So taking up too many clients too many You know working too hard at your job On too many dates too many experiences Too much by actually crossing that line and you'll be surprised because the line is much further than you think So I initially thought like oh, I can maybe handle like five business clients at the same time And I got to five and I said wait, maybe I can do 10 and I got to 10 That's it. Maybe I can do 20 and I'm reaching there very very fast. So I'm just constantly learning about my boundaries and the reason for that is because I keep saying yes to everything And yeah, sometimes you make mistakes, but as long as you keep your ethics in line as long as your Ethics are in and you're actually You know Making sure that whenever you make a mistake you admit it You don't just or fix it and you don't just hide your mistakes. That really changes everything So as long as you keep your ethics, there's really nothing to worry about Now the next major lesson that I learned It's from a book called win bigly by a guy called Scott Adams An amazing book probably the best book I've read in three years and it's about Trump and how he used master persuasion skills to actually get to the White House and he teaches you the guy teaches you like many techniques about persuasion and influence and the biggest one I've learned the one that really changed everything for me is Something called the high ground maneuver So I had a big problem where when I would get like hate comments from somebody saying I suck or Or doubting me or somebody from the past that maybe I did It always haunted me like I would always I get very reactive and I didn't know how to deal with it So I always wanted to get attention and I always love to like go all out even though I'm an introvert I just love exploding out and just getting tons of attention Because I'm kind of narcissistic and I love it Even though it's again, it doesn't come naturally But again, that would always hold me back like let's say that I have a bad client from two years ago That maybe didn't end well. I would always fear like oh my god What if he sees my stuff and I get like a bad reaction again from him or what if people think I'm an idiot whatever and The the high ground is probably the most life-changing persuasion so the way it works is You use it whenever a situation a social situation isn't to your advantage like for example My partner who I'm doing lectures with is also a stripper and the tantra teacher. So One time we're promoting the lecture and some guys said oh How am I gonna why why do you think I'm gonna take it life advice from a stripper like just kind of like this really condescending Comment at the top of the post. So everybody would see it because it was like a 10,000 plus views video. So I Just responded and I told him look dude Danny is a human. He's not just a stripper a stripper He's a human being and he went through many things in life. He's been a sniper in the army He's done crazy deals The guy has lots of life experience and there's lots of things to learn from him We're not only defined by our jobs, but also by way what we went through So it would actually be a great service to you to not judge people just based on one characteristic So that's one example and that worked amazingly The high ground maneuver the high ground maneuver Steve Jobs used it and he used it when apples phones the iPhone 4 used to drop calls So every time you would put it in a certain angle It would actually drop calls and this is Apple. This is like the Mercedes of bones so this was a huge blunder they could have really made Apple fall and die and the way Steve Jobs handled it was amazing what he did was The press came up to him and said do you are you ashamed that your phones didn't don't work and now what he said was Instead of apologizing or say oh, we'll fix it and if he does that, you know, the problem is Basically, they're gonna let they're gonna remember it forever. So what he did which was amazing was say look We're all humans and human beings make mistakes. We're not perfect and our phones are not perfect But we keep trying and we keep working to improve at them and make the best products on the market And so when he said that All the air went out of the room and there's no more room for humor So, you know, you did the high ground maneuver well when there's just you can't go back to the Raise the level of the argument Like once I said what I said he can just go back to his argument full statements that everybody agrees with And one by one and then you you end up with Call some sort of a call to action or call to agreement. So let's say you're late on your rent and your Come on you need the only the money and it gets like really pissed and emotional and you're scared of that so what you'd say is look, dude It's in my my best interest that the rent gets paid and it's in your best interest that the rent gets paid Happen instead of fighting. Let's think about how we can actually make this happen and let's Let's get some agreement going Can we move the part where we solve this and so for example by saying this You neutral this is you neutralize the situation because you just said a Bunch of things that are generally true that you cannot argue with that are facts And then you went on with your agenda, which is again to reconcile and just move on So if you go back to oh, but you do Sounds like an idiot and because that's how you frame the situation really really strongly So anytime you're in a situation in life. That's not to your advantage You can actually use the high grounds maneuver by Scott Adams. It will change your life. It will make you feel so really good exposure and Fortunately I have to wrap this up, but again the main changes have had This year the main personal epiphanies have had Are number one not you have many many desires many things They want to be good at do them all become a person of many many skills and by doing that will have Not by doing Not by doing Possibility is the source of motivation and finally the high ground new tons of attention amazingly So and that was me for today so much for listening Thanks for all the four people here in thousands So again, thank you all like this if you like the video comment if you got any value from it I really really appreciate you watching this and let me know if you need any help contact me I'd be so happy to help you guys and again. Thank you for watching