 Just welcome back to why in the morning we are coming to you live from the white 5-4 studios in Nairobi We're on channel 376 on dsdv so you can watch as a cross Africa I go by the name of by Moses or it's very one every social media platform and it's always a pleasure It's time for your favorite segment strength of a moment where we highlight stories of queens who are doing amazing stuff For the world and to the world and for themselves as well. I give it up for aster who's a founder of Royal Widows and Offence Foundation Thank you. All right your camera is number four So a brief intro with a credential Zako Zote Mr. Wanjiko Cabeni wife to the late corporate we Christian bokeh who was a KDF Dead back in 2016 January. I'm a mother. I'm a business lady I love Jesus as my personal savior And I'm the founder of Royal Widows and Offence Foundation Royal Widows and Offence Foundation Yeah, all right There's the story that led you to starting this foundation Royal Widows and Offence Foundation is very interesting Yeah, or very sad. I don't wish what to put there. I don't wish adjective to put there But before that I'd like to know how was it being married to to a soldier? Considering they went to Somali. This is the first time. Can you ever went to war? Yeah Somehow it's very difficult put in mind that time during that time. I was single. I didn't have a baby But I was a member For a whole year Two months ago Then I did only come out for two years The journey was not that smooth Do you get to communicate? Yeah, time to time And I could be a journey and I can be a member of Vita and Asubuya and I could be very early in the morning that you want to end up Vita to come here So you are just there. You're just there and you never know what kind of Frontal message you're going to get yeah from the other people. Why are you interacting with some of the people you was working with? Yeah, I was calling some of their friends and just asking him them. How is my husband? love the woman Filled I'm Most of the time I'm going to be at work, but I'm asking my resources in Aliyah. So for me He was preparing me for anything. Yeah, that was powerful around this time We'll come and share this story Because it's very hard to be a young mother with a with a newborn and you don't know if your husband is going to come back home Okay, my I had few friends and my my mom and my my my sister who are very close to me during that time all right, so Imagination you can lose your husband in any other way apart from the bullet No, you never imagined another way. No other than the bullet like we'll say ma if he ever leaves me The bullet yeah, but this was not the case What's that? We could if I took a Somali like one week ago He started complaining about backache and stomach Then I got a journey. So I got to my house I come back home and the pain was too much So I come I come to the end of the hospital because I'm a panna So I pick up the food and I come home and I take care of the child Kuru dekwanyuma nilipata a mianguka and Kuru de namuliza what is long a kanyambia from upper back a kundachini hadis key So nige nikam pulumbak a kwakiti nikam panguza Nikam pelika hospital memory Kumpereka memory akwa admitted for the first week. He was diagonalized with kidney failure the second week a kind I see you and that time I see you You know and really fast Go first a caro dekwawad and the third week He was no more Three weeks. Yeah, all it took was three weeks Diagnosis the first week second week I see you I can really what I can really I see you. Yeah, then he died then he died Wow, he was at the Memorial Hospital How old was your son back then at this time that time he was three years old. Yeah All right, but you working at this time. I was doing some small business system. You're a small business woman All right. So after is that a doctorie a kubreke news I Actually, we've died to kill and I see you but I need to be cool cool is a one doctorie Come on is a kufa not to see same. I'm a kufa My she is the end of the layer So do you see my she is the end of the layer But I can't show my tea for almost a sink sound so none of them back a circle me But nearly corner sense. Kitu because I cried the whole day Nika Rudin your bunny and I called my mom. I come over here Talk to God. I'm going to go with leaf because Leo has a fungua much old. I don't care. I don't even be a chuchote So Nika lala Niki on a horsey wasi very early in the morning. Do you need to addition me in the hospital? Do you need to be your same? I can be your husband is normal Yeah What do you do next after this will you find anything? Nidrama and then you're gonna You son at this particular time Okay, the time my husband I come gone joy. It was December 20, 2015 So before after Christmas. Yeah, I'm still a wakazi early in the morning. I'm burning so it could be the knee. I'm your sister Oh, I got one go because he namestiana nasing a corner and I'm total hospital I kill a sicko so needy one a couple a cost is tango So I cut it in the big wasi money. We call him a lot and I'm to go on go And I leave it to me come on. I can't be gone rango taken. I can't be gone. Do rule and to work on They come up a week if he's normal Yeah Wow, when you say wakamka niena the husband yeah, yeah, the husband the family the whole family This must have been a trying time for you So all right, so being that we're gonna find a be a Sharon dog and Ogo and all these things The the burial the organizing of the burial really close mind. What is particular point? No, because after I'm a kufa to the end of a memorial to Kanga lia Mweli and We kill if I look at who I'm a lala Take some time You think I'm a cherry Actually, hi cool. It's like a drama to me. You can take your time. Yeah Because See kufkiri. I'm to make up all almost eight years And I was a core he's normal and for me. I was not ready for the death of my husband He was very young can imagine it was that he has so Terrific a memorial and to Kanga lia Mweli and And it was unbearable to me and also to my son to come here to come back and then to come on cherry and The whole of December 2015 nearly spent in a one-hung who's been tally peke angle. It was the first born of eight So those two Eight they never bothered What we could just come over to account of care the mother I could just cut out to not account of care So me mean to leave me gone and I am back at the last time But what kind of a kufa Nillion what women is in gila hospitaly? Mama can I could you not gain a lot of work and is in gila water come a footy? But can I am be a one attack a key phone go your number and I may want to throw out So I told my mother, I'm going to be with you for a whole month and one week. I'm not interested in money or anything. I don't want to spend money on anything. I told my mother, I'm going to be with you for a month and one week. I'm going to be with you for a month and one week. I told my mother, I'm going to be with you for a month and one week. So I had to go and report at Boruboro. So moving forward, I told my mother, I'm going to be with you for a month and one week. Right after the burial, you went into depression for a year. Wow. So this year, how was this year? After a week of living, now the depression is gone. Because this person is normal. He went to see me. He told me to eat. We just left there hopeless. I was left without school fees, without land, without food. It was very difficult to go home and eat at home. And the depression was gone too much. My mother was sick and me. The whole of February, it was gone too much. I went to the hospital, I took some medicines. I went to the hospital for a span of one month. And that one month, I went to the hospital. At least I was able to go home. Because life has to move on. I told my children, I'm going to go to the hospital. This was one of your motivations? Yes. Because my children were sick and I told my mother to eat. They were sick. The only person I knew was Rudi. So I had a hope. I told my children that my future is in the hands of my children. So I told my mother that I was strong for my son. After I was born, my own family disappeared. Completely in my life. Friends, 99% of them died. In-laws were the ones I knew. So I told my children and my mother. But at that time, I was sick and sick. Because of that, I went home. At that time, I went to the hospital. When I was sick, I went to the hospital. And at the span of one year, I went home. When I was sick, I went to the hospital. I was sick and sick. But later on, I went to the hospital. Everything has a reason. And maybe in the past, I was sick. Earlier, I was sick and sick. So that's the span of the whole of 2016. I was sick and sick. When I was sick, I went to the hospital. So during that time, when I was sick, I saw young widows like me. When I was sick, I told my children to be strong for your kid. I told them 50 bucks. I told them to be strong. I told them to be strong. And after one year, when I was sick, I told my children to be strong. Because my mother was sick. I told my mother to be strong. Because nowadays, even the society does not care about widows. So after this journey, widows can go through. They are the only people who can understand what you are going through. And those are the only people who are trying to help you because they understood what you are going through. Yes. How did you start with being a widower? Okay, I started with two. Because when I was sick, the story went around. When I was sick, I was sick. So I went to my mother. She told me, I was sick. I was sick. Life has to move on. So when I was sick, I went to my mother's house. So I went to my mother's house. I went to Soma Bible. I went to college. I went to Leah. I went to Cheka. And life moves on. At what point did you think where and when you were a widower, did you find that your children were widows? After one year, I started receiving half of my husband's salary. It's always like that. Widows want to receive you. Yes, KDF widows. They want to pay. Half of their husband's salary. So when I started receiving my husband's salary, I started receiving my mother's salary. They're the only widows. Now only widows are widows. When I was born, I used to work. I used to go to school. I used to go to school. I used to go to school. So I wanted half salary. I wanted anything. I wanted a pension. But me, I'm very lucky. Because I have a pension and I have a salary. So I decided to be sharing my half of my husband's salary. Every end month, I would go to school, I would go to school, I would go to school, I would go to school, I would go to school. And I would go to school. And you went through that. You're here today. You're brave. Moving forward, how many widows are there in Liansa? Or how many are there in Africa? In Liansa, there are two widows. So far I have 300 widows in various groups and in various areas. Nairobi, Muranga, Nakuru and Busea. Nairobi, Muranga, Nakuru and Busea. Royal widows and orphans in Africa. Nairobi, Muranga, Busea and Nakuru. Wow, wonderful. So how many are there? Half of your husband's salary cannot take care of 300 widows. Are you doing this? Okay. I have some well-wishers. I have a was-up group of well-wishers. When I walk with my friends, most of them are my Facebook friends. I want to form a was-up group. I want to attend an event every month. So, I want to attend 1,100. There are many. There are many widows in groups of 15 to 20 people. I want to do counselling, training of table banking, crop farming. I want to do pig farming, rabbit farming. Mine is just to empower them. Just to empower them and help them take part in economic activities, because it is our side economically. So, I am focused on counselling and training them on table banking. What is table banking? Table banking is a very important thing. We want to have money, we want to have money, we want to have interest, we want to grow as a group. In groups of 15 to 20. And they have their own certificate as a self-group. Alright. So, the Royal Widows and Offends is the umbrella. You are the centre of the umbrella. And then it is spread out from Murangah to Boussia to Nakuru to different neighbourhoods in Nairobi. And then they are divided into groups of 15 to 20 with heads. So, we want to empower them. We want to empower them. Because the Royal Widows and Offends have their own children. But my vision is to empower all of them. In the long run. So, as we speak, we have up to 300 widows who have been impacted from broad widows and offends. Wonderful. What is the vision right now with this? My vision is I have almost four agendas that I am pushing to the government. I want them to create vocational training in every county. And also, I want them to create cancelling centres in every county to give every widow an HIV card for free and to give widows special basales. Because they need the help. They need the help. Being a single mother is not easy. Being a widow, it's not a simple journey. It's a painful journey which is full of struggle and pain. Wonderful. So, these are some of the things you are pushing through the legislation while you help the self-help groups. Table banking is something you are really pushing for. Right. So, I want to know if there are any economic activities that you would like to do to save money. So, I would like to know which self-help group you would like to help. There is a group in Moja. So far, we have almost 66,000. And one is a copper and the other is a rhodisha. And the other is a sabuni. Also, back in my rural area, the charity begins at home. I'm from Moranga. I'm from that area. Do you have an assistant? Yes, I have a home. All right. I have a home. So, I have a house. I have a house in Momboga. I have a house in Sungura. I have a house in Nguruwe. You know, we are ready to do business and farming. And they are doing something for themselves. Wonderful. Health is very important for a widow. Canceling is very important, which falls up to a category of health. Economic empowerment is very important for the widow. Yes. Which one was the other? The special bursary. The special bursary. Yes. Because there are many people who come to Kangoa. They are called special bursaries. Even widows, they are supposed to be given special bursaries. Because they are suffering. They are suffering. They are suffering. They are suffering. They are suffering. They are suffering. They are suffering. They are suffering. But they are suffering. Wonderful. Social media is very important. You can join and share what's up group, what you want to share and what you want to share. To call on Facebook. Just look them straight into the eyes. To call on Facebook, Royal Widows and Offense Foundation. We will give you all our details and hope you are going to support us. You have a very jovial son. I'm very happy and playful. He helped you through a lot of things. Alright, so your last remarks to the people who are watching you right now, the queens who are watching you right now, from Widow's to Wale Wachanga, when you... What can you tell them? For me, let me encourage Widow. There is nothing permanent. I just want them to keep praying and hope for the best. Wale too, Wachanga too, come home as a housewife. After that, I want you to pray. Because anything can happen. I don't expect to pray weekly. But through the challenges I've faced, I want you to keep praying. I want you to keep praying. I want you to pray as a family member of your children and your family. Thank you very much. Thank you so much for coming and what you were doing. I'm told it's full of imperfections, but we'd like to wish Mr. Fulu Mr. Fulu a karaoke live on his birthday, on his social media, on his Twitter, on Instagram, and on Facebook. There are comments on Facebook that say I'm very touching. May the Almighty Father see her through. Parra, I'm saying good job, God will help. I'm always watching from Kangema, Kamao Gitari, Tumaini, from Tumaini and Darwa County, up on Venice Kinyozi. Thank you very much guys for watching and sending your feedback our way. There's this particular person I'm saying a very good job and may God take you through whatever you're doing. Thank you very much Esther for coming through to us in the morning and thank you very much for what you're doing. I'll give you one last chance to invite Mr. Fulu and Mr. Fulu to join us. Mr. Fulu, a lot of widows and orphans on Facebook come and support us. Most of the widows they're suffering. They need help from you people and if we can empower widows, we can empower the whole world. Thank you so much, may God bless you all. Thank you very much Esther for coming. We've come to the end of Strength of a Woman we had Esther who is the founder of Royal Widows and Offends and she's impacting lives in a way that has not been seen before. If you'd like to help go to their Facebook page Royal Widows and Offends and contribute you can contribute a message, you can contribute some money, you can contribute your time, you can contribute your price. So Calamity Valley is coming up next with Galstock, you don't want to miss our topic.