 و أقول في القرآن ما جاءت به آياته فهو الكاريم المنزال و أقول قال الله جل جلاله والمصطف الهدي و لا أتأول الحمد لله رب العالمين له الحمد الحسن و ثناؤ الجميل و أشد أن لا إله إلا الله وحده لا شريك له يقول الحقا وهو يهدي السبيل و أشد أن محمد العبد هو رسوله صلى الله عليه وعليه وعلى آله وأصحابه والتابعين لهم بإحسان إلى يوم الدير أما بعد لقد أخذت بشكل جيد لأن أخذت بشكل جيد و إن شاء الله تعالى و سوف نذهب إلى الثالث والذي هو البيئة السياسية والسجل والدير أن يورين يوجد حدث على شخص أسبر السجل يتكلم المنزل إذا كانت تقوم بأخر المنزل أعني أو حتى إذا كانت فرق أو فرق إذا كانت تأخذت بشكل فرش ابل و you take an old apple that's rotted and you place it next to each other the rotted apple will affect the fresh new apple if it's they're both touching it will affect it it will pass on the rot and the bacteria onto the fresh apple try it yourself you'll see it and that's the reality of us for in a toxic society a toxic community a toxic household the reality is we become like that it weakens your aspiration puts you down even might kill your aspiration and it will make you something you are naturally not و لذلك الله تبارك وتعالى منش الزعط وصين القرآن الله سبحانه وتعالى يسيس الله تبارك وتعالى يتلزس والبلد الطيب the blessed lad it brings out its vegetations with the permission of Allah سبحانه وتعالى و اله that is filthy the the land that is filthy what it produces is only filth filth produces filth كذلك الإنسان the same is the human being إذا نشأ في بي اتنصالحة if he grows up in a good society من بي تنطيب him he grows up in a good household و مجتمع in a society تشيع فيه الفضيلة that virtue and righteous action and nobility is gushing from that society coming from that society springing from that society أنا و مدرسة اي سكول تعنابي دين الطلاب وخلقهم and it's your son or your daughter يذهب إلى مجموعة مجموعة where their religion is protected for them و مجموعة مجموعة their manners and etiquettes is protected for them ليس مجموعة مجموعة that they've been taught about lgbt and they've been taught about this و يعني ما they learn from the school the اخلاقيات the things that they learn from it ليس بخير if it's good اذن اذن يمكنه ايضا ايضا to produce good to children اذن كان فهذا yeni silence لذا احد عامة العالة ارابية ادامه سجل التعالى الحمد الجنية الذى انه تقوموا بتTakeaway للعض어�ات للحسنة ثم يط số اطée فمن ما يؤسفوا. one of the things that saddens really is قلة المربين الأفضاد. We don't have many people to do تربية. And we don't have many معلمين الناصحين القدوات. Teachers who are sincere أدوائزين يمكنون أيضا أن يأخذون الموضوع. الذين يربون الطلابهم على نشتان المعالي وتطلاب الكامالات who nurture their students upon high aspiration. And they also nurture their students on noble integrity. For example you find some teachers من لاهم له. He has no other desire إلا القاء الدرسي فحص. All he wants to do is to teach the students the knowledge and he leaves. بغض النظر عن توجيه الطلاب. And doesn't give much importance to correcting the students and directing them in the right direction. وتربيةهم and nurturing them correctly. ونصح لهم advising them sincerely. He doesn't give importance to that. He's concerned he's only to give the lesson and to go. There are some people like that. وتجد فيهم من يؤدي درسه بكل تتاغولين وبرود. And there's another type of person who finds it very hard to teach. When he has to teach he's dragging his leg doesn't have the energy for it and enthusiasm has no, he doesn't have that drive. The teaching and the class he has to do is like to him جبل على عاتق يسعى الإزاحته. It's like a mountain that is placed on his shoulder which he has to move. وبتالي with that being said يفتق الدرس الحرارة والروح. And the lesson when he even gives it it doesn't have that energy, that enthusiasm that it should have. فتقلوا فائدة الطلاب من الدرس. So the students they really don't benefit much from it. It's so boring. He's monotone when he speaks. He doesn't want to do it. He's not driven. He's just pulling his leg. فلا يجدون اليد الحائنة. So the students they don't actually find some of who cares. فلا يجدون اليد الحانية. The students they don't find a caring hand. والقلب الرحيم. A merciful heart. والنفس الأبيه. And a soul that holds itself with high morals التي تنشدوا عزهم. وتروموا فلاحهم. That makes these young kids, these young youths and push them to their potentials. وتروموا فلاحهم and look out for their success. وتجدوا من المعلومين you find from the teachers who are weak. A teacher who is weak in himself. He is a weak teacher. As a person. مهزوم الشخصية. His personality. His character. He is very low. ساقط الهما. He has very low aspiration. وضيق النظر. He is a narrow minded individual. يربي الطلاب على الخور. He nurtures the students upon fear tactics. And he scares them. That's all he nurtures them upon. اعما. Blind following. If I say something, follow me. اذا قالت حدامي فصدقوها فإن القول ما قالت حدامي. If I say something, follow me. Don't question me. That's what he nurtures the students upon. And because of all of that. يخرج الجيل الذي تربع على أمتالي هؤلاء جيلا جينا. From here comes out what. يخرج الجيل الذي تربع على أمتالي هؤلاء. A people who've been nurtured upon these type of people. A person who is Japan. He himself is scared. ضعيف النفسي. A teacher is weak in himself. قانع الدون. The teacher chooses low things. So the student gets inspired by someone like that. He doesn't fall far from his teacher. Becomes like that. The fifth, إن شاء الله تعالى. Reason for low aspiration is وسائل العالم. Social media. Social media. Social media plays a big role. وسائل العلام لها دور خطير في التربية. Social media has a big role in nurturing the people. And it also has قدرة كبيرة على الإقناع. Social media also has a great ability to convince the people. Social media can easily convince someone. وسياغة الأفقار. Social media is really able to project its opinions. ولها دور بالغ في تنحية دور الأسرة والمدرسة. And it can have a large effect on people's family lives. And it can also have a great effect on people's education. A positive or a negative effect. You can have it. فإذا من حرف تلك الوسائل قادة الناس إلى الهوية. When social media becomes corrupt. Which is the situation for many. The type of social media outlets that they are watching is corrupt. So what is leading them to is destruction. قادة الناس إلى الهوية. And leads many people to destruction. واصبحت معاويلة هدمين وتخريب. And it becomes a source of destruction. And an annihilation of a person's morality and conduct. وادوات فسادون حلال. And it becomes corruption. And devastation for many people. ومدارسة لتميع الأخلاق. And it becomes a school for many people. Where their manners and their etiquettes is destroyed. وقتل المروعة والرجولة. And a person loses their morality and dignity and their manhood. Social media has destroyed many people's lives. And continues to do so. It's given a voice to the Aradil, the lowest of low. الناس who will never be spoken to. And no one will give them any attention. الناس who suffer from يعني الناس who suffer from mental health issues. Who need help. Who deserve to be careful. People are taking those type of people as comedy. And they're laughing at them on social media. سبحان الله. Many years back I remember there was a man who had illnesses. But someone made a social media outlet for him. And they were recording him. And so because he's not mentally stable. And people are commenting and they're laughing. And it was a series of comedy for him. And it was a series. Episode 1, Episode 2, Episode 3. And social media they were releasing on there. غريب. غريب. He needs help. They're making money from him. Or whatever they're making from him. Or fame. Or that's what they're doing. Is that something that would have happened if social media wasn't there? Those type of people would have been cared for. They would have been in good caring hands. But now it's all what you can put out there. And everyone put out everything there. The privacy is gone. And what people are taking from there is low aspiration. 6. حمو زوجة و الأولاد. The sixth thing that affects a person's aspiration is the wife and your children having on you weight. God Almighty has told us in the Quran. Your wives and your children are a fitna. And the same for the woman. Her husband can't be for her a means of low aspiration. Because of him. She's going far. She's seeking knowledge. She's going out there. She's benefiting. He's the one who's not doing that. He's dragging his legs. He's not giving a lot of consideration to learning the deal. He's joking about it. He's mocking it at times. So the situation can happen for both parties. It can happen for the men and the women. So this part of yours becomes what? For تصود عن العبادة. They become an obstacle from you worshipping Allah. و تعوقوا عن طالب العلم. Your wife is either stopping you from seeking knowledge. Or she's stopping you from worshipping Allah. Or your husband is doing that to you. He's stopping you from seeking knowledge. He is stopping you from worshipping Allah. و السعي للمعالي. And to achieve your high goals. و ذلك بسبب رقة دينها. And that might be because of the weak religion that this wife of yours possesses. Or it could be a weak religion that your husband possesses. It's true for both parties. او كثرة طلباتها. Or the demands that your wife is putting forward is making you unable to reach your goal in life. And the same for the wife. The minute she says, I want to go, I've got a class in the ministry that I need to learn the Quran. I need to go study the religion. She tells her, go cook for me. Go clean this for me. Do this for me. The demands. Just so she doesn't study and learn. و تخذيليها لزوجها. And also times is to expose her. And belittle her and ridicule her. The same happens from the wives and the husbands. Both parties. So children and your wife can be like that to you. و كذلك الأولات. قد يقولون فتنة و بلاء اللي والديهم. Your children can be a fitna to you. And mothers experience that on first hand they experience that very often that they want to read Quran. The child starts to run at the parent and say mom, mom. And so on. So they fight amongst themselves and she can't read even a page. They are fitna to her. Also they are fitna the same to the father. He's scared for his children. He's striving for their future. فتراهوا يخافوا عليهم. He's scared for them. و يحرصوا على التأمين مستقبلهم. He wants to put and reassure a future for his children. و يخشى من ضيائهم بعد فراقي الدنيا. He's also scared that when he leaves this world his children, how are they going to become like? So he's the fitna that they have on him. The same with the mother. She's worried about her children, their food, their lifestyle, their education, their learning, their future and how they are. The fitna happens for both parents. So much so that the parent is no longer able to achieve or work towards their own future. أما إذا نحرفوا عن سواء السبيل فلا تسأل عن شقائل أبي وحصرتي. و إذا كانت those children أنتظر من طريق الطريق then the stress that the father goes through and the mother goes through. والله فلا تسأل. فلا تسأل عنه. Don't ask about that. سبحان الله. Have you ever met a mother who's crying and she can't stop crying because of her son who went off who's now sitting in drugs and he's into something haram. Have you seen the father how he feels when his son falls off the religion the way he becomes سعاد. Feeling that he has. Allah says in the Quran عَدُولَّكُمْ فَا حَذَارُوهُمْ الله says يا لدينا آمن with those of you who believe إِنَّ مِنْ أَزْوَاجِكُمْ from amongst your wives are those who are وَأُولَادِكُمْ and also from amongst your children there are those who are عَدُولَّكُمْ an enemy to you فَحَذَرُوهُمْ be cautious of them. الله is saying to us oh men there are wives out there of yours some men know every man whose wives are an enemy to them and there are some children who are an enemy to their parents فَحَذَرُوهُمْ be cautious of them how is that your wife could be an enemy to you and your children be an enemy to you sometimes a person because of their children he does things that are not allowed in the Sharia just for his children father may steal a wealth just so he can provide for his children he might even kill someone just so he can provide for his children but if that is the early self رحمه الله the righteous women they would say to their husbands every day when they leave the house they will say to their partner honey when you leave the house make sure that you bring us that which is حلال فير الله تبارك وتعالي what you bring home to us and our children if you can't find anything you have nothing to be blamed for you've strove you've exerted the efforts you can come home with nothing and no one's going to blame you those were the righteous women the women's today by whom is necessary bring me what you can and if you can't you're a bum you can't achieve anything in life وَمَهَا وَمَهَا وَمَا إِلَا دَعِي insults name calling الله سبحانه وتعالى also says in the Quran وَعَلَمُوا أنَّ مَا مُا لُكُمْ وَأُولَا دُكُمْ فِتْنَةَ الله says no that your wealth and your children are a fitna and a trial and a tribulation on you also the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم he said in the hadith أرمام وحاكم نريت ليني اس مستدرك التبارانيو نريت ليني اس معجم شغناصر رحمه الله authenticated it that the messiness صلى الله عليه وسلم has said إن الولد مبخلة مجبنة مجهلة محزنة that the child is a mabkhala because of your child you become bakheel مبخلن means here because of your child you become bakheel you used to give and now because of your child you're not going to give you're going to be like if I give my children are going to suffer my children need this مجبنة you become a coward because of your children you were brave before you should take risks in life but now you're not because of your children someone insult you you would take your rights from them before now you're not now you say if I get harmed my children are going to be without a father I can't do this you used to take risks in business and go for ventures and invest here and invest there but what did you do you now don't you do not take those risks because you're scared for your children you're also مجهلة you chose ignorance just because of your children how many parents stopped studying and learning because of their children and used that as a reason some really do because of their children but never but go back to education rather I'll say something inside benefit some parents think that I was studying and I had to choose between you and me and I chose you guys and your education and that's why I didn't pursue my my education parents are what I want to tell you this and what I want what I want to say to you all parents is that that actually works against you because many parents say that to their children hoping that the child would work and study but what you've just told your child is that without education you can make it in life like you did okay and it also makes the child have low aspiration because you yourself didn't set yourself a higher aspiration so what you should do is make sure you study as well and learn and stop giving yourself excuses and try to justify because of you guys because of this and because of that study and the word محزنة that the prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم had mentioned it means that you become حزنة حزن means that you become stressed because of them so the children are مبخالة مجبنة from your children you gain the characteristics of بخل majority of the people and you also become جبان which is someone who is afraid and scared and you also become مجهلة you choose ignorance of seeking knowledge محزنة you become سدن stressed because of your children those سعد because of them فزوجة والأولاد كثيرا ما يثنون ذلهمة عن مراده majority of the times wives and your children they take away from you high aspiration how many honorable people ولي هذا فكم عان الكرام والشجعان ومنهم ومن تخذيليهم how many have complained about honorable people brave people their women and their wives a poet explained how he became after obeying عقبته عندما أطاع زوجته في شهواته when he obeyed his wife in his desires he did everything for her and surrendered everything to her he said أطاعت العرسة في الشهواته حتى يعني العرسة من زوجه عادتني عسيفا عبد عبد إذا ما جئتوها قد بئتو عذقا تعانقو أو تقبلو أو تفدي مارك ابن ريبن also talks about his conversation with his daughter who was stopping him from going to the jihad for the sake of Allah سبحانه وتعالى she said تقول ابنتي ننطلاقك واحدة إلى الروع يوم تاريكي لا أبالية ذريني من الإنشقاق أو قدمي لنا من الحديثان والمنية واقية ستتلف نفسي أو سأجبع هجمة ترى ساقيها يألمان التراقية جوية ابن نظر also told us about what happened between him and his wife some scholars said جوية ابن نظر it's actually حاتم who had a slave girl called طريفة and some said no it was جوية ابن نظر who had a wife called طريفة he talks about what she blamed him for in terms of giving he was a very generous man for his generosity حاتم he resided in a place called حائل in Saudi Arabia modern day حائل and he was known for his generosity كان يضرب إليه بالكرم and he was an example when it came to generosity and giving so his wife blamed him a lot about giving and why he was giving so he talks about it how she blamed him and he said it in lines of poetry حسد قال طريفة ما تبقى دراهمنا وما بنا سرف فيها ولا خرق إنا إذا اجتمعت يوما دراهمنا ظلت إلى السبل 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