 How men fall in love. Hi, this is Helena Hart from commitmentconnection.com and in this video I wanted to explain the process through which men fall in love. I do get asked about this all the time from women and it's really interesting. You know, it's a little counterintuitive so I'm so happy to talk about this with you today and of course I'd love to hear your thoughts on this as well. So a lot of people talk about like a mind-body connection when it comes to having a man fall in love and that's actually not where it's at. Like I said, it's a little counterintuitive so let me explain this and just go into a lot of detail here. So if you've ever tried to connect to a man or make him fall in love through like a body connection, like if you've ever tried to make a man commit or solidify the relationship or further the relationship through sex, you know that absolutely does not work. A man can have a great sexual relationship with a woman who he sees no future with. Maybe he's really attracted to her and the sex is really good but that's not what makes a man fall in love, the kind of deep love that makes him wanna commit to you forever. So, you know, trying to just connect to him through his body is the wrong way to go and then trying to connect with him mentally is also the wrong road to love as well because men can have a great mental connection with a woman and just see them as a friend or a buddy, you know? Even if he's attracted to her and they have a nice like mental back and forth banter or some kind of mental connection, it's still often not enough to make a man really fall in love and stay in love forever. So the way to a man's heart, how he falls in love is through a heart to heart connection. It's through connecting to his heart. You know, of course, physical attraction is important and if the sex is great, that is amazing. That's like icing on the cake and if you have a lot in common and have a mental connection, that's amazing too. You know, the three mind, body and heart can work together but the way he actually falls in love is through connecting to his heart, that deep heart to heart connection. So how to connect to a man's heart? It's always through your own heart first. That's really important. I'm gonna just repeat that. The way to connect to a man's heart is always through your own heart first. So you can't connect to a man's heart if you're not connected to yourself, if you're not in touch with your feelings and in touch with who you are, you know? Having that authentic confidence and trust in yourself is so important. That's what makes a man feel safe. Like, okay, she trusts herself. She feels safe with herself. That's how he knows that it's safe to come emotionally close to you and connect to his heart. So creating a deep heart to heart connection is really important and we should definitely talk some more about this in future videos. I'll give you a couple tips here that you can try and I'd love to hear how this goes for you. One way to do this is by expressing how you feel to a man. You know, if you're feeling a certain way and a lot of people take this to mean talking about the man and the relationship. And of course, you can do that down the line but that's not where you should start. You know, it all starts with you expressing how you feel about anything. It could be about the weather or your day or something that happened at work or your plans for the weekend or what you did last weekend. Talking about how things feel to you is really important and it sounds very basic but most of us women are kind of going, rushing through our day, kind of going through the motions and we're on autopilot and there's these opportunities to connect with a man's heart and we're missing them all throughout the day. Maybe we're stuck in our masculine energy or we're just so busy that we forget to slow down and really get in touch with how we feel and then express that to a man. So next time a man asks you how was your day or what are you up to really get in touch with how you're feeling. Like, oh, I'm feeling so relaxed, laying here on the couch, work felt so overwhelming today, it feels great to be home just hanging out. Something like that, very simple or if he asks what you're up to saying, oh, I'm feeling so sleepy, I'm about to drift off to sleep. Rather than the typical response of, oh, my day was fine or I'm about to go to bed, really get in touch with how you feel and express that to him. So that's one way to connect to a man's heart. And again, he needs to feel that you feel safe with yourself and you trust yourself and your own feelings. That's how he knows that it's going to be safe to come close with you and connect with you on that level. And then once you get good at this, you can start going deeper and expressing more and more things like how you feel moment to moment or how you feel when you're with him. So that's really important when it comes to connecting with a man's heart. Another way to connect with his heart is when he knows that he can make you happy. And the last part is when you respect him as the masculine partner. And we can talk some more about that in future videos, but really quick, a man needs to know that he can make you happy, that it's easy to make you happy. That's how he knows that it's safe to connect with you emotionally and get close on that deeper level. If he feels like you're constantly disappointed in him or he can never do anything right, he will start to pull away. I'm sure you've experienced this and shut down or just feel like, you know, he's just not good enough. Nothing he ever does is the right thing and it will block that heart-to-heart connection. And then also like I mentioned, he needs to feel respected as the masculine energy partner that will compel him to want to keep coming towards you. And again, it creates that safe space for a real connection to happen. So I hope that was helpful for you. I'd love to hear your thoughts on this and I hope you're having a great week. Thanks for watching. And if you'd like to discover exactly what to say and do to get the man and relationship you've always wanted, click the button on the right side of this video to visit our website and I will talk to you soon.