 Our whole religion is to train us and to teach us from withholding from desires. Now why? Let's let's take this outside of sexual morality for just a moment. Let's talk about dietary morality Can we agree there's a such thing as dietary morality? Should you eat everything you want? No, did your parents allow you to have Nutella and ice cream for breakfast when you were a kid some people do I don't know like some some indulgent dessert you sometimes want that but is that good for you? Okay, why don't you identify as somebody who likes ice cream with Nutella online? Who cares what you want? We can see it the desire. No, no, no if you follow every desire you have you will harm yourself you will harm yourself and so we have Boundaries we have guidelines we have teachings that help us to live a life. That's healthy everything in our religion is Is a mercy from Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala the reason that anything is haram is because it's a protection for us It's very important to understand that so when you know something is haram Even if you don't understand it or doesn't sit right right wait, really that I didn't really that is harm Oh, yeah, here's the verse subhanAllah There must be something some good and abstaining from that that I can't see and there or there must be some harm And doing it that I don't see But I trust the one Who said that's a very important place to be but you have to understand haram and halal are not arbitrary It's not that Allah's just tests us with some things. We may not know every wisdom behind a prohibition But we know that the Lord that sent it is ar-Rahman ar-Raheem are his two most Central attributes and he sent the messenger that's ar-Rahmatan al-alameen a mercy to all the worlds So when we start there we say okay This has to be good for us so the same way So your parents I see most of you guys are when you were younger because right now you guys are all mature Your parents would tell you things like what you got to do your homework else. You can't do ABC XYZ Why would your parents regulate you doing your homework? What's that? You'd never do your homework. Okay, so some of you that might be older Or if your parents aren't in your lives, maybe you live alone. You're in college Do you have to be do you have to have reward and punishment to do your homework? Why because your parents taught you absolutely, but it's now become internalized. You know that doing homework is what? It's good for you and leaving your homework undone is what? Bad for you. So why did your parents need punishment and reward when you were younger? To teach you because at that stage you're too. What you're too dumb. Let's just be real. No We all are when we're young. We are desires are so strong That they cannot guide us to what's good for us and bad for us And so a wise parent Alhamdulillah most of you have have good parents, which you should be very grateful for We're gonna get to that. You have good parents who tell you who know, no, no, hey, this if you do this I'll give you that if you do this if you forget to do that You don't get this privilege and they're guiding you and they give you the care and the stick the reward and the Punishment until you grow here and you say, oh, I used to think my parents just didn't want me to have fun Now I see my parents wanted good for me. So that's how Allah is he gives us the prohibitions He warns us with punishment. He promises us reward subhanata out of his generosity to guide us and to teach us