 would you hook an approach interchangeable terms I don't like I said hey you you could use it absolutely but like I said I don't like approach because of this whole going up and trying to make something happen which is counterproductive to guys actually getting over this fear in my opinion thank you anytime hey and and getting eye contact yeah I love making eye contact but it's not always like you're reciprocated with the girl even if she may be interested in me but like how how do you go about getting getting someone to increase her eye contact in the midst of a conversation you're talking about right now like you're talking to this person and maybe the eye contact is not consistent maybe she's got some issues with her sexuality maybe you're you know screwing up on your end you're tightening up your you could do some things for whatever reason her eye contact's just not there right right okay um good question do you want to come up on stage real fast and I'll show you what's your name what's max max let's give a round of applause for max bring the mic max bring the mic very very simple try not to woo you like Eric awakening all right this was two years ago on stage don't read into that 21 convention joke all right um really simple eye contact rule I'm my my goal is I always want to lock her in if I have her held enthralled in that focused gaze that I'm talking about you know what I'm talking about you feel that right there's no this this is different than the way most people normally look at you right right right makes you feel different on the inside doesn't it I want her to feel that as much as possible so I want to lock her in that eye contact as much as possible so general rule general rule if she's looking at me I am locked in 110 percent of the time so let's practice that look at me nice addendum to that rule always mirror so when she looks off in some direction look often some I'm looking off in some direction now the important thing is is that I can still see her in my periphery so she looks off and I'm looking off I still see what her face is doing right there so when she looks back at me I'm locking that I just want that eye contact I'm taking it any second I get so she looks back at me bam it's on again now isn't it funny well well well look what we have here she looks off and it is kind of funny when you mention that I mean I don't know where you would get that from do you it's crazy who does know one change that I have to this little rule sometimes I look off just for emphasis just to add a little extra spice demonstration so I don't know what came over me but that's when I realized I just had to you know it's not when I come back it's like it just hits you even more strong because it's had that moment to disassociate so that's the only time I'm going to break my my eye contact at all cost rule but otherwise yeah unless she's it's like you're not making enough I promise unless like this is all you need so what do you have for breakfast oatmeal huh what was that oatmeal yeah what what kind of oatmeal with with instant oatmeal instant oatmeal with raisins with raisins and cranberries cranberries huh how'd you like that it's really good pretty good what kind of berries we're in there yeah blueberries blueberries you like blueberries oh yeah yeah what do you like about blueberries I mean it doesn't matter what I'm saying sexuality is right here and yes I'll lower my voice and I'll slow it down and I'll say it instead of saying it like they'll say it like this really well why didn't you say that in the first I mean I'll start lowering my voice but man it's all in the eyes right you can clap for it I felt it coming on here's hey no clap for max that's really allowing me to seduce him like that time how are we doing time wise cool do you want me to seduce you now um do you ever find that eye contact gets confrontational sometimes like people misjudge your intentions yeah good point my whole trying to to make eye contact with any person anytime anywhere excellent point I will not do that if I feel my safety is threatened in any way shape or form so if the man's bigger than me and looks angry I'm generally not going to be boring my eyes to the back of his head um very good exception to the rule yes thank you for that point of clarification a week later you guys are like limping and crutches like neck you told us to make eye contact um weekend can we fit both of these and all these questions are coming up the last moment who is who who had their hand up first yeah um what's your favorite system for getting sexual what I just did right there yeah that's um um oh uh my other favorite thing would probably be um yeah my and this is just me the thing about the thing we teach about specific lines or specific specific techniques or or anything like that it's all up to the personality there's going to be some shit that I say that works great for you there's going to be some stuff I say that works terribly for you and every single guy is going to have his own personality that works for different so take what you like leave the rest but one of my favorite ways to increase sexuality and an interaction and um guys who are better with women don't do this but I love sexual innuendo it's one of my favorite things to drop like anytime I can say something and she's not sure if I mean it sexually or not even better if she does take it sexually and then I can accuse her of getting all sexual and I'm trying to have a serious conversation um that's probably my favorites or just compliments man compliments get such a bad rap because if you say I'm like before a girl starts opening up you know if a girl sitting there looking angry and pissed off of the world like she wants to punch somebody you're like you're really cute she's not going to respond well girls don't respond well the compliments when she knows you're full of shit it's really simple but when she's lighting up and she's showing off her personality and her sense of humor and she's looking you in the eyes and she's got that twinkle in them you say you're adorable she's going to light up and she's going to look like a christmas tree so yeah compliments another one of my favorite ways to escalate the situation outside of what I just did with max hi I'm melvin I just want to say I love you you are the you are the reason that I'm here just a dude melvin I know I know this I know you're just a dude I'm just saying you're the reason that I'm here and I'm glad that you made a really good point with the whole 60 40 because a lot of guys in this community do not value themselves at all they're always thinking ego thing we think we have more power than we really do and it's not just guys in this community it's everyone but that's true but thank you I just want to say thank you pleasure thank you one more cool yeah I just have I this is my question okay so looking at you I'm thinking back to what can you hear this fine loud and clear all right so I was thinking back to what Robbie Kramer said at the beginning where he was talking about these sort of different categories of people and if I were to place you I would place you in the upper left the sort of outgoing and extroverted kind of guy you know you definitely have that energy um and I would definitely say I'm somebody who was it was probably more in the bottom right very analytical kind of an introverted person yeah so how would you suggest that I take what what you know you're suggesting and apply it to somebody like me who would naturally be more serious and you know maybe like I can get too intense and people can like girls can think I'm creepy or something because the the energy isn't quite as as sort of bouncing all over the place as yours you know you're more of an introvert is what you're saying yes let me ask you a question is that a disposition or a prison do you have to be that for the rest of your life here's here's what I'm here's the point my business partner Christian Hudson he might have heard of him he was one of the people that founded charisma arts he then went on to found our mutual companies been doing this for a while he's an introvert he's a big time introvert but he decided that he wants to actually have social interactions with people so he'll drop hooks from time to time and he'll and he'll act in ways that are going to get him different results to to talk to women because I've gotten a lot better at that I'm just saying that that my I think that my sort of energy is different from yours and so I'm just wondering is your suggestion just to like try to take everybody who has got a more serious energy and introvert and make them into an extrovert or is it I mean how would you suggest that I drop hooks and you know do what you're doing in a way that's like not you know not going to creep a girl out if I'm like a little more serious about it or something or just or just you know maybe less bouncy or something like that well does that make sense absolutely makes sense it reminds me of my speech from last year one thing I can see