 Jules Caserta and I use they-them pronouns too much. Jay Simpson and I also use they-them pronouns. We're talking about hate inside the LGBTQ plus community, which is a very fun topic. Very fun. Very fun. We love it. We love hate in our community. Favorite sarcasm is important. Sarkasm is obvious. Remember humor is important in children. Humor is a coping mechanism. Let's get into it. To start, community is hard to define. We might consider things that are part of the LGBTQ community that you might not. So if that comes up, we'll think about it. If I say, oh, pan-fessional, part of the LGBTQ community, and Piper's like, no, we'll go into that. If that doesn't happen, we probably won't. Sorry. Start with the one that I hear most commonly, most frequently, that's a better word for that. Community, which is byerasure, the act of erasing the bisexuals. Yes. It's also, it's a very common thing where take a female person who is bisexual, if they were to be with a man, people would be like, oh, you're just straight. And if they're with a woman, they'll be like, oh, you're just gay. And if they're not with anyone, people will often just be like, oh, you're confused. You can fuse. You can fuse. You'll figure it out. You'll figure it out. You'll get all of faith. There's the whole thing about how it's like you're attracted to men and women, but bi-means too. It doesn't just happen. It doesn't happen. It doesn't happen just men and women. It could be like women and non-binary, like men and non-binary. Another non-binary group. One or two. Yeah. So it's, yeah, people are often also. Yeah. And then it's also the, they'll confuse it with either just like straight or gay. And then you find pansexual being confused with bisexual. So people are like, bisexuality isn't a thing, but pansexuality is the same thing as bisexuality. Yeah, people. And it's like, what the hell are you talking about? Because I'm panromantic. Same. So. Same. A lot of people are just like, oh, why didn't you just say you're bi? It's like. I did for a while. Fun fact. I said I was bi. I hated it. And I was like, oh, no, I'm not. Sorry, mom. I do like the colors more than the pansexuality. They're much nicer than the pansexual flag. Do you know what they represent? Female. Or is it male on top? Is it blue on top? I think it's blue on top. Yeah, it's blue. Blue for boys. Pink for female, which is not good. And then purple is F. It's yellow. It's, the bisexual flag is not yellow. Oh, I thought you were talking about the pansexual flag. There's no purple in the pansexual flag. The pink. Honey, okay. Look at them two. Because that was it. Okay. That was a great tangent, but we'll move on. Pansexuality is also considered bisexuality. People are saying bisexuality isn't a thing. So as a panromantic, what have you experienced? How is it? What is it? What is it like? People just straight up be like, oh, you're just bisexual. Or a lot of times with me personally, I don't think it's every pansexual person. A lot of people just go, oh, you're just a lesbian because I tend to date more females than I do male. Because females are amazing. Good point, good point. What I was going to say is that people also forget preference is also a thing. You can be bisexual, have a preference towards women, but still be bisexual. I am panromantic with a preference towards feminine people. So it doesn't matter what your gender is, it's just feminine. Yeah, and people, you also see people confusing just pansexual as a whole because they think, oh, there's only two genders, pan means all. You just meant that you must be bi, right? Right. Because if all is only two, then the same thing. Which yes, if that was the case and all was only two, you would be correct. But it's not. You're wrong. You're wrong. Yeah, and then you also see TV characters in representation who are bisexual, being called gay, lesbian. It's just people just completely stop using the term. And they're like, oh, this guy is in a relationship with a guy. The actual character is bisexual, but in all fandom spaces, he gay. I mean, I tend to use gay as an umbrella term. But I know people who are bisexual. I've had a couple bisexual friends where I'd be like, oh yeah, we're all gay here. And I had a bisexual friend pretty much snap at me and like, no, I'm bi. And I'm like, yeah, that's definitely fair. And I think it's getting more and more common that gay is an umbrella term. Yeah. It's like queer. Some people hate the word queer. Some people hate the word gay. It's really, words are so difficult, especially in this community. Like it's very hard to be completely politically correct. Yes. You don't know. It's impossible. You don't know. You know what you say is going to, what you say and how it's going to hurt someone. Yeah. Because some people can be affected by words differently than others. Yeah. I mean, and then there's also panromantic, which any romantic orientation is disregarded. Yeah. I mean, it's like just not a thing. Yeah. Oh, it's a sexual orientation. Most of the time I say that I'm just pansexual because most of the time. I just say pan. Yeah. I say pan. I'm just pan. You can put whatever ending you want on it. I'm just pan. As long as you get. As long as you get the all parts. I mean, with pansexual there is the obvious joke like, oh, are you attracted to pan? Yes. Kitchen utensils? I came out of the cupboard in the closet. Yes. I make that joke. I do too. So it's a good joke. You guys are hilarious. Thank you. We made it all funny. Stop doing that. But yeah, there's obviously something like being attracted to pans and it's just like, it's so frustrating. It's like, if you're not my friend and you made a joke about me wanting to screw pans, I will actually slap you. With a pan. With a pan. With a cast iron pan. With a cast iron pan. Let's not talk about a song. Yeah, that's probably a good idea. But with the romantic orientation that I was, we went on a little bit of a tangent, but with like panromantic. Yeah. Any romantic orientation is regarded with leads into the ace arranger. Yeah. Which, oh boy, go on a ramp. And I will. That's what the show is for. Asexual people are people who can feel little to no sexual attraction. And because of this, people have decided that asexual isn't a part of the LGBTQ plus community. So it did come up in the show. Did you look at that? Well, it's not just that. I have heard a lot of arguments where there'll be straight. And cis people. And cis people. And cis heads. And they're, but they're asexual. Yes. So people have been like, oh, they're not part of the community. But in my opinion, they are. Yeah. In my opinion as well. Because the LGBTQ plus minority, in my opinion, is for anyone who is not the norm. And the norm is. Cis head. And you have a, and you're not, and you're not ace or arrow. Yeah. The, okay. We're going to, we have a rebuttal. Yes. But it's like, I also understand what you're saying. I believe it depends because there are many cases of cis head aces or arrows who are, you know, they are generally accepted into the community and they, or at least they should be, except there are many cases where they are like screaming about how queer they are. And that's not, I don't believe it's, many people disagree that they should be reclaiming that word. Queer. Queer is a word for anyone in the community, in my opinion. Because at its core, queer just means odd. And I'm odd. We're all a little odd. But I mean, it's just, I think it's a word for anyone who isn't considered the norm. Because anyone who isn't considered the norm is then considered odd. Yes. And although we have a really deep history that we can get into and we won't, because it'll take, we'll be here for hours. Yes. It's a tricky word. And asexual people and aromantic people are. LGBTQIA. The A is not for ally, folks. T. The A is for aromantic and asexual. And facts. That is, those are the facts. Those are the facts. Those are the facts. It's just, I hate it. There's a lot of controversy. Say that right. It's a controversial topic. It is. In the community itself. But also, in my opinion, again, anyone who's grown up asexual or aromantic, even if you're cishet, even if you're not. You are growing up and you are feeling broken. And you are feeling like you are not normal. You have to struggle with that your whole life. And I think that everyone in the LGBTQ community can relate to that. I think that's why we banded together, because we can all relate to the feeling of growing up broken. I think that's why we form this community. So if someone grows up feeling like that, shouldn't they be accepted in? And people will, people will rebut that with, oh, tumblr aces and tumblr arrows. Oh, they're horrible. They're just trying to like force their way into this community. And no, we're not trying to force their way into this community. First of all, don't use tumblr as an example. Everyone in tumblr is horrible. Facts. Don't deny it. I'm on tumblr. Yeah, I was about to say you're on tumblr. Yeah, and it's awful. It's not a good place. It's not a good place. But people will use that. And it's like, no, that's not part, that's not who. Those people are aggressive. Those people are awful. But all aces and arrows, all those people. Exactly. That doesn't mean that they should be erased completely from our community. Right. And they should be for everyone. Yes, exactly. But here's the thing. Tumblr should not be where people get their facts about the community. Yeah. Yeah, it does not, like, tumblr may, like, I personally found help through tumblr. But it shouldn't be where everyone is like, oh, because these people on this website said it, that's the truth. I recently read a post that was, dear ace people, please stop forcing your sexuality on children. And I was like, honey, we have no sexuality to force. That's literally the whole point. Like, what do you mean, forcing your sexuality on children? Straight people do that. When they make their sons wear the chics on a loaf of meat shirt. Or, like, the fact that... Oh, they're friends. They must be getting married. These two little... It's just like, stop it. Like, from birth most people are like, oh. You're born a female and you will grow up to be with males. Like... And that's outside of the community too. Yeah. Just straight people, just being straight people. No offense, straight people. I love so many straight people and I hate so many straight people and I love so many gay people and I hate so many gay people. That's just how it works. That's how the world works. Some people you love and some you hate. Like the asexual. Not only some people. Some people are amazing. Some people love as much. Right. But that doesn't mean we just outcast that whole damn community. And I think, and I know I just said this, but like just because this section that may be a very loud and obnoxious section of those people that does not represent, they should not, the rest of those people who identify with that should be pinned down as like bad or stealing, like stealing their way into the, Yeah. Ooh. Cause like they're, they're valid. They're like, you know. There's a time, I mean I'm so sorry. It's okay. But it's another, and the same post. It was like, you don't know what it's true oppression feels like and I read that and I was like, corrective rate. I was, my voice was like, but I was like, I was just so, it's so bizarre to me that people can like think this. Like I'm ace, right? And I don't think I'm like crazy and I'm, I mean, I am crazy and I'm obnoxious, but not because I'm ace, right? Right. I'm just like, why? And corrective. Why is there so much hate in the community? Yeah, we don't need. People hate things they don't understand. Isn't this like why the community, like, that's why the LGBT community exists. Exactly. Because people hate them and they form the community because they hate other people. And now people in the community hate each other because they don't understand. Well, yes, there are some like weird lines that are, there is a line that is being crossed by weird things that we won't get into right now. What's that at the end? Yeah. Yeah. But like. Sidebar that or a little, we'll come back to that later. Yeah. And it tastes like, so like, and this is not a good topic, but like corrective rape that aces literally like every orientation that isn't straight, that exists for people and it sucks. And it's horrible. And that can be inside or outside the community. Right. Another thing that I've heard is like, a lot of people think that ace people, like the reason people are ace automatically are from like sexual trauma from childhood. And I know plenty of ace people who had no trauma from childhood. I had a wonderful childhood. And I just don't want anything in my genitals. Thank you. Okay. Moving on. If you have anything else to say. This one you can talk about. And I'm very interested. I mean, I have like another thing is. Okay. The ace spectrum. Like people just forget that there is a spectrum. Yeah. It's not just asexual. Like you're Demi, right? Yeah. I fall in the spectrum. But most. Many people will have conflicts over what on that spectrum is valid. And it's insane. I mean, there's also like people. There's asexuals fighting asexuals. Because this one asexual is considered some cells gray sexual. And this other asexual is like that's not a thing. And like people think that asexual just means constant hate. Sex repulsion. Yeah. There are plenty of asexuals that aren't sex repulsed. They just don't frequently have sexual attraction. In my case, I'm Demi, but I take that as I need a lot of time with that person. Explain what Demi means, please. Demi is, well, I was basically explaining it. Do it better. Okay. You're doing great. Demisexual is where you take a very long time with and getting knowing a person before you have sexual relations. Yeah. And in my case, I'll make out with you all day long, you know. But there are other Demis that don't. And then you see Demis and Demis fighting about being Demi. They're all individual experiences. I've had people tell me that I'm not Demi because I'm too sexual. What does that mean? What does that mean? Well, the things that come out of certain people's mouths just boggle my mind sometimes. Especially because I teach sex ed, which I don't get how. But sex ed doesn't handle you. I'm sorry. You're teaching important education to people. You're too sexual. You're too sexual. You can't be Demi. So asexuals are pretty sucky. I have one that I'm very interested to hear you talk about. Yes. What hate have you experienced from the LGBTQs? It's a very long acronym. LGBTQ plus community being Pauly. I've had people tell me that Pauly isn't in the community. Because a lot of the time it could just be like a guy getting off with two girls. So a threesome? Yeah. Like people just think, oh, it's just a threesome. You're the other misconception with bisexuality as well. It's just you all want threesome. Yeah. It's like, no. You can be bi and you can be ace. There's plenty of bi people who don't want multiple people in bed. There are plenty of people who don't want multiple people in bed. Period. Multiple people in bed sounds exhausting. And that's coming from a polyamorous person. But you heard it wasn't part of the community for people. Yes. It's part of the community that it's just you not being faithful to your partner. Okay. That you just want to cheat. That you just want an open relationship. Is polyamory not an open relationship? It's different for each individual. Okay. Like polyamorous couples could be three people dating each other. Like polyamory could be one person dating two people. It could be one person dating three other people. One's dating the other. Like, it can be weird shapes. You're lucky you just have one person. It's not like this or this. It's like polyamorous. Diagrams for everyone at home. That's your homework is to make a poly diagram. I'm not doing the homework. You're going to fail our class. You failed gay class. How do you feel? Like a disappointment. Me every day. Okay, so you're not part of the community. You're not. What else? You're just like a... It's a kink. Have you ever been called? I've been called names like whore. I've been called slut. Town bicycle. Freddie Mercury's quaking. My bicycle. Okay. It's a good song. It is a good song, but not in that context. Could be. Okay. Which is very interesting because I'm also Demi. And so people are like, oh, you're poly and you're Demi. That doesn't... And I'm like, how does it not? Like what? It's like you're poly. That means you just want to have sex with multiple people. It's like, you know, I want to be romantic with people too. Like, that's... So do you consider polyamory a sexual orientation or a romantic orientation? Or is it just everything? It's an everything. Like people can... There are... Polyamory is like... Because it doesn't end with like sexual or like romantic. Yeah, polyamory is just like how you are. You don't need to be in a multiple person relationship. You just could be. You could be. You have the capability to do it. And there's plenty of people in this world that don't. I don't. I couldn't do it. Yeah. And that's perfectly fine. I do. And that's perfectly fine. Some... Like some people in certain relationships could be and some could not. Like you could be polyamorous, but in one relationship you're like, you know, I don't want multiple people, I just want to be with one. Or the opposite. Like it's a very broad thing that people get very confused about. And they're afraid and they hate it. People also confuse it with polygamy. Oh. Is that like where you illegally take multiple marriages? It's where one is not made individual. It's illegal in the United States. Typically one man taking multiple wives and the wives only have relationship with him. They can't be with each other? No. They could like form a bond over that. Like we have to date this awful guy, but like we have each other. Yeah. It was... I'm gonna write a book. Typically originally a Mormon thing. Oh my God. I forgot about that. I don't mean that disrespectfully. I'm sorry. I'm baptized Mormon. So that's what a lot of people... I don't practice the faith, but I'm... So a lot of people, that's another thing. People confuse. Another thing with people like that. If people know that I am baptized in that faith, even if I don't follow it. They're like, how are you polyamorous? They're like, oh, you must be... You must want polygamy then. And I'm like, no. I want my partners. Like if they want to be, I want my partners to be with each other as well. And that's completely up to them. It is a complete, consensual, loving... So have you ever... So you might want to answer this. Have you ever been in a poly relationship or has it always been one person? I have been in a poly relationship. Okay. I have a question. Yes. How do you not... Do you get jealous? If you have two partners and then dating each other? I don't get jealous because I'm dating both of them. No. And if I know the person that my partner is dating and I'm not dating them, I'm more likely not going to get jealous. As long as I have communication in the relationship, I'm fine with it. I don't know about... So it's turning you to the poly episode now. I don't know about other poly people. But personally, if I am in a relationship with someone, it doesn't matter as long as I have that communication. Because communication is key in any relationship. Don't point at me like that. Point at my pencil. So this is one that I think we can all talk about if we wrapped up the poly. I think... I'm sure you could go on. I could probably... For a later date, which sidebarring so many things. I love how we've like mixed like the ace episode up. Yeah. It's so good. Plus the ace episode, we were going to a poly episode book. We have all that combined into one episode about... Hey! Yay! Um, something we can all talk about. Non-binary erasure. I believe we all identify as non-binary if I'm correct. I'm non-binary. I am non-binary. You don't have to be. You don't have to tell everyone. I'm pretty sure that's like the closest term that I can... Well, I have seen this a lot where you... This is not coming from me. You can't be non-binary. You're just a trans guy or just a trans girl. Have you guys ever experienced that? Every day. Or you just... Or you just cis. Which is when I get a lot. Oh, you just cis. Every day. I'm like, no, honey. I'm not cis. Don't call me cis. Unless I was an SIS, don't call me cis. Um, I feel like if I was trying to... Because I try to explain things to like my mom or something, it's like she won't get it. And she'll just be like, so you're a man. I'm like... And it's weird when you find people who are accepting trans people or even trans who then don't accept non-binary people. I mean, yeah. There's many, many trans people who don't accept gender fluid or non-binary people. And it's like, why? Or they only accept non-binary people when they are born. Interest next? That. And that's the only case that they would accept it. Huh, really? Yeah. It's so interesting that people have like criteria for who to accept. I'll accept you, you, not you, and you. This is a great case of what we're talking about. All of the hate. Yeah, it's just like weird. It's like... Gatekeeping? You're not trans. You're not a part of this community. We're keeping, we're closing the gates. We're keeping you out of the community. Ace people have to deal with it. Non-binary people, poly people. It's everyone has to deal with... So much bullshit. Some level of hate. Just bullshit, hate, and gatekeeping in general. Yeah. You're not gay enough. You're not trans enough. You're not ace enough. Oh my God, you know how many times I've been told you're not ace enough? I'm not sex repulsed, right? Like I'm open to the idea of having sex. I'm comfortable living in the assumption that I won't. Yeah. But people are like, oh, you're not ace enough because you're open to the idea. I'm open to most ideas, honey. Like I said earlier, people don't think I'm on the spectrum at all. The asexual spectrum? Yeah. Like they don't think... I mean, I have people who don't think I'm on the spectrum besides people think I'm a lesbian. I have many people that think I'm just a lesbian. I feel like... And that's not a label like you. Do you guys ever experience when you like say you're gay and people get so confused afterwards and you're like, yeah, I date that guy? I've had that happen so many times and it's the funniest thing to watch is confusion cross over their face. They're like, I thought you were a lesbian. I've had people like, I thought you were a lesbian. And I'm like, honey, you're so far gone. You're the thing, lesbians can appreciate a pretty face. I would love to be a lesbian. You can be like, there's plenty of lesbians that I'm like, that I've met. And they'll be like, that guy? Yeah, people find it so bizarre when I can like appreciate someone's face without wanting to date them. So being aesthetic isn't like... Aesthetic attraction. Yeah, we've talked about this. We're pulling stuff from every episode. Um, what topic? Not mine or anything. That's what we were all in. Yeah. It's so frustrating. Oh, it's not a real thing. That or the... Every... Judge it off the way you dress or the way you carry yourself. Yeah, yeah. And it's frustrating. Like, I'm not upset when people mistrend me. And it's not uncomfortable, but I'm not upset because I look female. I'm okay that you can't understand what's going on up here, because you can't see that. You can see this. Like, I'm fine with that. But it's just... The thing that gets me is when people who know me do it, that's just like frustrating. Yeah. And it's just like people don't understand it. As we talk about people don't understand it, and from there they're quick to hate it. And it's like, why? Why don't you just sit down with me? We can have some tea, we can chill the freak out, and we can have the conversation. The opposite of spilling the tea. The opposite of spilling the tea. All the tea will remain in the cup. We're going to sip the tea politely with our pinkies out. What's next on my list? I mean, we can talk about non-buyer anymore. Yep. It's just the people that think, oh, you're just a trans guy. It's just like the stereotypes from the line. I like to wear dresses and wear makeup so people are like, oh, you're a girl. It's like, no. It's like small, but it's a razor. Yep. It's like your identity isn't valid because you wear dresses. Also, what clothing and makeup? Not a gender thing. There's gender expression? Yeah. Sorry. Or just expression, if you just want to call it expression. Yeah. But it's not a genderized thing. There are plenty of guys I know who wear skirts because they like them. I mean, look, huh. Okay. I want, I think they're more acceptable for men to wear makeup because men and makeup looks so good. I know the fact that there's hate for it in the first place is so sad. Like, what in the world? It's like, oh, I'm putting this powder powder on my face. Oh, you hate it? Why? Or if a guy puts on makeup, he's immediately gay. Yeah. You never said a lot. And that can, we can even go into the, so that we can go into the woke card. Which you see. Is that it? That's the next on the list. Okay. I'm trying to, we're trying to organize. It's not working, but we'll try it. So, a classic example of this is Glee. I love that show, but I hate that show. Oh, my God. I have a love-hate relationship. So, Glee, most people know, was a show about high schoolers. Who can sing? In a group, in a singing group. Called the Glee Club. Called the Glee Club. Okay. And one of the main characters was named Kurt. And his basic original storyline was that he was a stereotypical gay teenager. That's literally his only character. That's his only character trait. Well, he does eventually get- Eventually he evolves to have a boyfriend. Evolves to have a boyfriend? My golden life. But his first thing is just gay. And the show was praised for all of the representation. And all this amazing stuff. I mean, the longer the show went on, it got better. Because it progressed with time. Glee started in 2009, right? Yes, I think so. But you see that with TV shows a lot. When they need their woke card, they go to a white gay guy. On occasion, butch lesbian. Oh, yeah, that's true. Sorry. They sprinkle in a few butch lesbians every night. Very rarely you see a lipstick lesbian. As they're called. Lipstick lesbians. That sounds so pleasant. Yes. Actually, no more people think I'm butch than I'm lipstick. These terms are so funny to me. I'm a lipstick. There's certain flags for lipstick lesbians. It's the lesbian flag. They're a lipstick on it? There's a kissy mark on it. Aw. That's cute. That is cute. I love lesbians. It's not like a weird straight guy is turning on my lesbians. That's a different topic. They're straight guys who are homophobic. But then watch lesbian porn? Yeah. And I'm like what the hell are you doing with your life? Because they're so straight they can't see a penis. Let's continue with other topics. Yes, that's such a great thing for some other time. Let loose. Let loose. Put that on a t-shirt. You would. I would. So you see that all the time which is a razor and even was the razor of all the other identities. Because then if you're straight and you aren't have no, if you have no connection to the LGBTQ community, all you're seeing is that one gay guy, that one, that one queer person. There's only one of them. The token. The token gay guy. Yeah. Or there was this show, I don't know if you two ever saw it. Oh God. It was called Faking It and it was put out by MTV and it was basically these two girls, one of them went, hey, wanna get popular? Let's pretend to be gay. Holy crap. The fastest way to not be popular. And they were the first lesbian couple in the school. They were not the first. I guarantee you that. Yeah. They were the first out one. But basically the whole plot of the show is one of the girls actually turns out to be gay and in love with the girl. But she's doing it to get a guy. MTV. It's just, we did a whole episode on representation. So we're pulling from that episode too. Wow. There's no non-binary, have you ever had a non-binary corner show? I have never seen one. I'm thinking. I wanted to just like start, I wanted to go, she raw, but like not yet. Um, Klaus Hargreaves? We don't, no one's confirmed. Has anyone, have you ever confirmed non-binary in any show or any media that you have watched or consumed? That I can not remember. No. Not that I can think of no. There are two pansexuals I can think of that are confirmed which are Klaus and Deadpool. But Deadpool's a whole other issue, we'll talk about it later. So many things we're going to talk about later. Put a pin in it. People are going to like message you like you said put a pin in it so. We have to do a whole episode on Deadpool next. I'll do it. I have a poster that I can bring in. No. This is one, okay. So not woke cards, just automatic in general. Like stop it. Stop putting characters in your show just to be considered woke or cool or progressive. Like actually be progressive maybe. There's a good representation. Maybe let's actually be, let's, what are those weird commercials with the lady that pops up? Progressive? Yeah. Flow. Flow. Her. Let's be her. Flow I hope is a good person. No gay rights activists. If we may, oh my god. Can we hire flow? Can we make that canon? Canon? Canon. Okay. Are there cannons for car insurance commercials now? Just hate topic. Okay. Because we have so many. I can't talk about this. I haven't really experienced it. Aromantic hate. I have heard that they are all predators. Oh. Ooh. This one. This one I've heard a bit. I have a, I don't want to pull this card. I do have a few aromatic friends. They love to rant to me. They have a very fun time writing to me. And again on the aromatic episode we talked about them all being predators. Asexuals, all being broken, aromantics all being predators. Right. Aromantic people. She's just, they're lovely. They're nice people. Like just sometimes. Don't, I mean they're, and you can say that about anything. Yes. You could say that about a tree frog or something. Like it's lovely, but it's poisonous. Like, yeah. That's not, that's not, maybe it was not the best. It was not the best. Anyways, continue. They just don't want romance. And who are we to stop them from not wanting romance? If they want to have, like, they're, it doesn't always have to be asexual, aromantic. It can be aromantic, pansexual or. I am asexual and I am panromantic. Yeah. Because I'm all hopeless romantic. It can work. Somebody please. Both ways. Both ways, but and you, oh my god. They're just people. They're just people. And they're also being kept out of the community. Yeah. This damn gate keeping getting in everyone's way. Whoa. It's just asexual. Aggressive. Asexual. Okay. Be aggressive. Um, asexual people being kept out on binary people, aromantic people, pansexual, bisexual, literally every identity you can think of has probably been hated by the, the community they're meant to be loved by. Yeah. People being kept out, just like all of them. All of them, all of them. Literally asexual ones. But there's people that even, like, there's probably people who, mm, identify as something that you're just like, question mark. Like, I don't understand star gender. What? They exist. Are we going to put a pin in this too? Put a pin in that. Put a pin in that. Put a pin in that. Shout out to any star genders watching. But then this is the whole thing of like trans-trenders. Oh. People who are doing it for the attention. For the glory. It's trendy. It begins in the show. Oh, yeah. They're doing it because it'll make them popular. You see this all the time. You see them making, you see them using these identities and giving those identities a bad name. Non-binary people, it happens all the time. Or people, like the stereotype, oh, all girls experiment in college. Is that, it's a thing? You go to an all-girls college. No, but like people just, like they're like, oh, you're a female going off to college, you'll probably hook up with a girl at least once because. Why do people care so much? Like when I come out of asexual, they're like, oh, no, we never get an experience that. And I'm like, why do you care? Who do you care about asexual? Are you the one laying in my bed? Like why do you care about who the heck I'm going to screw with and all that? Oh. Like why? Why do they care? And then it's like girls hooping up with other girls. Why do you care? How does it affect you in any way? Can people just play? We're not telling you to hook up with other girls. We're telling you to leave us alone. I mean, if you want to hook up with other girls. Not yourself out. But we're just telling you, don't, we're not telling you, we're requesting from you. Don't give a crap about what we do in bed. I mean, well. Okay. Pin. Not a pin, just kind of like a, like a rip that off. Just wait a minute. That's a whole other episode. Yeah, we're going to put that in a safe. That's not a whole other episode. No. I thought that was in the, but. I, okay. Last thing on my list. We can probably go on for longer, but I, I know. We could probably touch back at all. Well, yeah, I want to touch back on what we, we will in a minute. Okay. I have experienced so much damn hate from the community because I considered myself bisexual. I went to pansexual and then I went to panromantic. They were like, you can't change your labels. And I'm like, yes, the heck I can. Okay. People just, people, first of all, before I even continue with what I'm about to say, though, like your attraction, your romantic, sexual. It changes. It is fluid. It will change. It will change. You know what? And it just, it happens. And people finding those terms and labels that fit them and they're comfortable with, that's okay. Because they're just finding what fits. People change and grow and they evolve into different people. I'm not the same person that I was when I was six. I changed. I mean, when you were six, you expected probably to be straight. I didn't know what straight was when I was six. Okay. I expected to be straight. And then I kept having panic attacks about pretty girls. People get like so upset when you change. You know when you hear like, oh, never change. I'm like, that's not possible, Carol. Shut up. Susan. Sorry. It's like, jeez, Marie. So many names. And it's just like, people get so mad when you change, especially labels. And it's like, why? Again, why do you care? If it's not hurting you or hurting others, unless it's consensual. Jays. Look, continue. Continue. Give a crap. Thank you. Like why? It's just like, people love to stick their nose in other people's business. And that's where so much of this comes from. It's like, they want to understand. When they don't, they hate it. Maybe you can just go on living with us. Hate ourselves. Okay. Personally, like I, like because I'm trying to figure out what like term for my gender identity is, I like, I'm like going through all these things trying to figure it out. But it's like, I'm not going to like tell my parents. I don't feel like I should tell my parents or try to explain it to them because we're just going to go. You're being filmed right now. You know that. I, they're not going to watch. And you know, I love them. I just, they already know. I've probably gone on this rant before. But like, I'm just saying like, and I don't want to, I feel bad. Like if I was going to be like, hey friends, I figured this out. These pronouns, this, and then I would be like, I don't know. I'd feel bad. I always feel bad changing them. Like I came out to my family's bisexual, right? As we know now, that's incorrect. But I, I never, I never think I actually came out to them out of my other identities. Cause I was like, I already did it once. So we don't need to do that again. So do they know our pan-lomantic? Probably not. Do they know what that means? Probably not. They going to watch the show? Probably not. I'm not. I really appreciate that. No, just the way you kept saying, sorry. I love it. It's upset at all. I'm perfectly calm and collected and fine. You, did you want to touch back on something? What was the last topic we did on that paper? A romantic date. I'm buying her a hate. Woke card. Okay. Pan hate. I'm just going up a list. No, I'm now, I'm not sure I had something to say. Reverse, reverse. Slide to the left. Slide to the right. That's probably Chris. That's what we're doing right now. But, yes. Are you trying to get something saying you can't? My paper. Deal with it. I have an example of changing of labels. Go for it. I, go nuts. Came out originally as gender fluid. I, as we now know, not gender fluid. Yes. But with, first of all, I'm going to talk about gender fluid. When I was labeled gender fluid, a lot more people had a problem with my gender identity than now when I'm labeled non-binary. Because people don't understand. Yes. People have a really hard time now that I'm going to head around gender fluid. People like, what do you care? What do you care? Really have a hard time. And that's in and out of the community. And like, I understand struggling to understand something. I do it all the time. Algebra one, anyone. But it's like hard to understand things. Sure. But that doesn't mean you got to be an ass. Except people and love people and you're going to be fine and they're going to be fine. You're going to be so much hate in the community. It's like, oh, you can't, you're not trans. Oh, you're not gay enough. You're not ace enough. You see it so much. And we don't need it. This community needs to be a place for love and acceptance. And it's more just this ugly monster that we need to kill. We don't need it. There's so many faces that I've made that could be put in memes. We should have zoomed in on them. We should have zoomed in on them. We don't need any of this. No one needs to feel hated in ever. No one needs to feel outcast or ostracized. Especially in the community. We get enough hate from outside the community. Let alone getting hate from in the community where we're supposed to be safe. There was hate attacking this small little group of people, right? There was hate from the sisters attacking them. So they had banded together and they made a community, right? A community that was meant to be a place for love and acceptance. And over time, this little community grew and grew and grew. And now it's becoming a thing that they were originally formed to fight against. Yeah. I mean, there's people that say, like, statistics show that there's more gay people now. And it's like, no, there's more people comfortable coming out now. But we're the same amount that there's always been. Yes. And progress has been made and that's fantastic. But I feel like progress has been made outside of the community. And it's backtracked inside of the community. Yeah. And progress still needs to happen. We're not done. We still need to fight for and work on and we're not done. It's like yourself. You're always working on things, doing yourself, right? We always notice our flaws and we always hopefully try to work on them. But this community as a whole has these flaws and we need to work on them. And it's hard because it's a huge ass community how we're going to talk to everyone about this. We're trying. By using our voices on the internet. Ah, yes. The internet. The wonderful world, the internet. Tumblr. Oh. No. We already touched on Tumblr. Burn Tumblr. I mean, they're a nice fan art. Let's move on. I think a good way to end this is with we need a community for acceptance. We had that for a little while and it's going away. Yeah. And we need to protect it. Yes. Keep it safe. Hold on to it. Keep it warm and safe. Make happy. Give it water. Give it sunlight. Let it grow. Put it occasionally. A cheeseburger. Two different things. But any last things y'all would like to say before we end this? Let's go around, Piper. Last sentence or phrase. You want people to walk away in their heads. Walk away within their heads. Don't be a dick. It's not your turn. Yeah. Be quiet. I'm sorry. I talk a lot. Don't be afraid to understand yourself and changing your labels. And, you know, be happy. That was not articulate whatsoever. It's beautiful. Your turn. Don't let people in or out of the community tell you that you are wrong. All my lovely people out there. You are beautiful. You are valid. And it may not feel like it. You are loved. This has been All Things LGBTQ Plus Youth Edition. We'll see you next time. Stop it.