 is the narcissist happy without you that's is the topic for today and I just want to say that they are very good at making it look like they're happy making it look like they've moved on and they don't need you anymore they're not thinking about you they're in some new situation now they're happier with someone else but it's all a lie it's all a facade they are master manipulators they have had years of practice at manipulating and deceiving their targets which is why it's so easy for them to trick you just remember when you first met them they gave you an illusion they gave you this false character they were so kind and friendly to you they went out of their way to help you to always be there for you when you needed them they acted very generous understanding they played the victim as though people did them wrong and they never did anything to anyone and then you later found out that the exact opposite was true that they were perpetrators in every situation that they've ever been involved in and all they've done is the same that they've done to you they've lied they've tricked they've deceived people and eventually they end up devaluing and discarding them which is what they end up doing to you and then you're scratching your head thinking how after I did all of this for them I invested everything I had into them I did everything I could to please this person I get nothing was ever good enough and then they move on to some other situation where they appear to have a lot less and yet they are so much happier now how could that be true how could that be possible and yeah it isn't possible doesn't work that way they don't just move on and suddenly become happy without you they're still the same person they're still miserable every day but you might not see it because they're not gonna put that on social media they're not gonna let you see all of the things that they're doing through they could be arguing with this new person every day and you won't even know about it you'll just see all the pictures on social media with a happy and they're smiling and they're doing all of these things as you feel like you're missing out you feel like you've lost something and that's why I created this video today to let you know that you haven't lost anything the only thing you've lost is the problem you've lost abuse manipulation deception control you don't see it but it is actually a blessing disguise you don't realize that you now have your freedom to do what you want to do what you choose to do what you really want to do but you could not do before when you were with the narcissist because they always criticized your likes and interests your passions everything that you valued everything that you were interested in became a problem to them and now you're free and yet you're wondering if they're happy without you that's it's the problem because you don't need to worry about them and what they're doing you should just trust me when I say that they are not happy without you because I've done the research I've got years of experience in this I know that they are not happy without you and they will never be happy if they are a true narcissist and even if they're not even if they're just a toxic person again it's highly unlikely that they will ever be happy it goes for anyone who has consistently tried to hit you somewhere like that will never be happy with anything in life because they feel hurt themselves and that is why they try to hurt you so you don't have to worry about that don't worry about where we're going off to it may look like they're riding off into the sunset but they're actually riding off into the depths of hell which is where you were when you were with them it was like hell every day but now you're out of it you don't have to worry about that anymore now you can really find your happiness because I know you weren't happy when you were with them and all of the things you had to go through it wasn't fun arguments every day they're waking you up first thing in the morning as they found something wrong and then as soon as you lay in bed you're about to get some sleep then they're waking you up another argument sometimes it goes on till the early hours of the morning and they're constantly nitpicking you they're finding faults with you it's like you're never at rest you're constantly in fight and flight fight or flight mode I always not nice to go through that you feel like your life is like a real-life action movie you're constantly on the go you've always got something to deal with just throwing things at you sometimes you don't realize how bad it was until you're out of it till you finally moved on or you look back and you can't believe that you put up with all of that but you don't have to worry about that now once they're gone now is your chance to heal and be happy so take advantage of that some large crabs walking on the rocks down there and when you like to eat crab I used to but not anymore as most of you know I am a vegan so yeah they most definitely are not happy without you I mean you just got to look back and remember you brought the fun you brought the excitement the adventure they were the ones always complaining they were always miserable I mean you completely changed and have braided their lives they were doing all kinds of cool stuff with you that they were never doing before they had nothing going on until they met you you changed everything for them suddenly their lives became an adventure they were going up to all these places they've never been before and not only that but they had someone who was actually there for them someone who genuinely cared about them and that is a rush all on its own to have someone there who actually listens to you and cares about what you have to say you know that is actually a very rare trait you don't find many people in this world like that most people are self-absorbed and worrying about their own issues they haven't got the time to worry about you but that's what you were for them their grade a supply their punching bag their emotional tampon because they took advantage of your positive traits yeah they knew that you like to listen they knew that you like to help people you like to give them solutions to their problems they knew that and they took advantage of it that's why they were waking you up first thing in the morning and keeping you up all night yeah that's why they were doing that they were really milking you for all your work draining draining the lifer of you you just got to take some time and give some of that energy to yourself trust me you deserve it more than anyone else after all that stuff you put up with give yourself that love listen to yourself listen to your heart because you've been listening to someone else for such a long time someone who didn't give a shit about you to put it bluntly they really didn't and that's why they just they're gone and are the right thing like they're happy without you because they want to hurt you they want to make you feel bad they want to make you feel like you're missing out on something but don't fall for that don't fall for the illusion wake up and realize that it is a scam it's the same thing they did to you in the beginning where they gave it this false character and it weren't really about that so don't go thinking they're about something now because they are not they are not trust me I am not survivor I have years of experience in this I've been making these videos for almost five years I've been coaching clients for almost five years hundreds of clients so trust me when I say that I know they are not happy without you they never get to experience true happiness they don't know what that feels like they have their own idea their own version of happiness yes they do but it's very shallow and it tends to be based on superficial things like they buy some new clothes to get your car or they meet a new person who is attractive successful these kinds of things it's all superficial it's coming from the outside it's not coming from within them they don't generate their own happiness like we do and even the happiness they get from those things it's not real happiness anyway it doesn't last for long and it's more just like a release of dopamine in their brains that's all it really is it's like a drug that they're addicted to addicted to attention they're addicted to people but they do not experience true happiness without you or with you or with anyone that does not happen it will never happen but I know what it's like I understand because I've been through it myself and I know before I knew all of this before I did all of my research of course I've been discarded by narcissists in the past but then they move on they find someone else normally they already have someone else lined up before they've even left you and then they've got all of these pictures and videos orchestrated to really make you feel like shit to make you feel like you're nothing they never cared about you it was all fake and now they've moved on and they got something real with this new person and you feel like you're missing now you feel like you lost this incredible person you feel like you did something wrong you didn't do enough for them you were never good enough of course I know what it feels I felt like that before when I get it I give everything I had to people to narcissists and they took it for granted they abused me and then they discarded me like I was nothing once I had no no more energy to give to them yeah I know what that feels but it's a shared fantasy they're giving you this illusion and you're feeding into it you're validating it for them they're like the star of the show and you were their audience and you're making them feel like it's real so they're still getting supply from you that's why they need you to see it because when you validate it it makes them think that it's real it makes them think they're really happy when they're not so don't feed into the fantasy you need to accept the reality of what it actually is it's nothing like you think it is it's as simple as that they're not really happy without you they can't generate happiness from within like we do so just get that out of your mind right now don't even consider that as a possibility if anyone is going to be happy now it is you after everything you've been through and now you get some peace and quiet get to live life in your terms you get to be free you have every reason to be happy and as long as you're not a narcissist you can generate that happiness from within any time you like what happens is we give ourselves a mission to feel happy we set certain conditions like we might say I've got to go to the gym I've got a look good I've got to have a certain amount of money in the bank I've got to have a boyfriend a girlfriend I've got to have a big house all of these things okay the conditions are met now I can be happy but if you can do that if all it takes is for you to just set these conditions and then you give yourself permission to be happy you can just give yourself permission right now and that's when you realize that happiness is a choice you don't need to have anything in life to be happy you can just choose to be happy right now so shift to that mindset and affirm to yourself I am happy say these affirmations every day I am happy with myself I am happy with my life feel good to feel confident and watch it as it becomes true because we can generate that happiness from within it's not like that for narcissists they need people and things the happiness comes from the outside so no the narcissist is not happy without you and you shouldn't worry about it don't think about it too much get off their social media stop looking at all of these stupid pictures because it's all fake they're just showing you whatever they think or get them a reaction you're hoping that you will message them you will call their phone we'll try to come back to them because get some supply makes them feel better makes them feel important don't play that game with them instead is cut them off get rid of them because that's all they're gonna do to you and why because they're not happy without you and they were never happy with you so don't take them back find someone who will be happy with you someone who will care about you someone who won't run off and find someone else go and do that instead of worrying about a stupid narcissist I mean think about it they couldn't even keep the best thing they had going for them they couldn't even hold on to you and look at everything you did for them you did so much for them you did everything in your power to make them happy most people wouldn't do a fraction of what you did for them they wouldn't tolerate anywhere near as much as what you tolerated and they still managed to screw things up with you so what chance have they got with anyone else if they couldn't hold on to you but you think about that for a moment let that sink in what chance have they got with anyone else if they couldn't even hold on to you that is the answer right there that's all you need to know and that's what helps you to move on by recognizing your worth recognizing the value that you brought to them because you did everything you could to make them happy I know many of you your health deteriorated along with your bank balance while you were trying to please them but it was never enough they were never satisfied with anything you did so honestly what makes you think that they're gonna move on and be happy that is never gonna happen because they couldn't even hold on to you and you were the best thing they had going for them you're the best that they will ever find it really is as simple as that that's all you need to know just walking out here by the sea it's not too hot today but it's pretty good so yeah that's it that's the message for today I really just wanted to come on here 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