 Alright guys day four. I was lunch. Our next speaker up is man whore a returning speaker to the 21 convention He spoke in 2007 when this event was I don't say nothing, but pretty close just totally starting up out of nowhere, and that meant a lot to me Came back in 2008 did a killer job Last year he was coming and he got pickpocketed and lost a lot of money. So that sucked, but he's back He's back. It is the grand return of man whore and it is an honor to have him here Thank you coming again, man. Appreciate it Okay, so yeah last year I got pickpocketed at the airport and lost my ability to fly here lost some money It's all good. I'm back now If you guys don't know me, I'm what's up. I have to be on the stage Okay, I'm ex-military. I've been doing mixed martial arts for almost 20 years Trained mentor guys in all kinds of different areas. So this is just something I like to put myself into I'm not necessarily my identity, but I definitely like to give to you guys Today, we're gonna be covering two main concepts first off, let's see here asshole game a lot of misconceptions in the community about this You know, nobody wants to be an asshole. Nobody wants to delve into their dark side Guys try to start negging a girl and they come across as just a prick, you know, all of a sudden it just consumes them and They're you know, all of a sudden their hatred of women comes out, you know, they're like competing with women or anything like that and We're also going to be discussing What seduction really looks like in a contrast to say what all the marketing jargon out there all the pretty Unicorn videos about you know opening and the fly stuff out there Okay Okay, so like I mentioned Being a being an asshole or being a dick or having that horse side to you. It's just a tool It's not your identity as a man. We have a range of behavior that we can fall into You know, I have my side. That's kind of an asshole. I also have a super compassionate side Like I said, I've trained a mentor guys in all kinds of different areas doing it for a long time So, you know, it's not an identity. I'm not I'm not consumed by that It's just being an asshole just a tool that I can use from time to time. Okay Also, if you guys I want to be able to explain it to you guys so you can actually use it rather than Not not understand it then you get out there on the field and you just get all negative And then you just like fly off the handle either your steak crashes or you start cussing a girl out or something like that And I already mentioned here opening guru style versus closing style So this is like the best illustration I can make so you have your your typical Guru like you've got all that fluff material like coming. Hey guys Let's get a nose done, right? So you got this whole range of like material for opening that opens well Okay, you can come in just hella high-energy dancing and girls like he Okay, but guys that actually fuck the girls they talked to their range of how they come in is a little bit smaller a Little bit different area of the spectrum. Okay, and in actuality a lot of this fluffy opening stuff Some of these guys do actually takes away from their ability to have sex with the girl later You're actually sacrificing That capability with her by doing that. Thanks, okay I'm gonna tell a story real quick So I I had a date with a girl. I met online And I would say hey meet me at the theater. So she gets there. I'm running late I show up about you know five minutes late, and I see you like 20 feet away. So I March up to her I grab her from behind like this. Yo, and she flips out. She's like She's like, how'd you know it was me? It couldn't what if it wasn't me? I said, you know, I knew it was you I don't really care, you know, whatever So it started out like she just was like freaking out. She was nervous I went to buy tickets and like she'd always she was standing there I walk up to the counter to get him and she does one of these like one of these right I know as we go inside watch the movie and I you know during the previews there's that movie are Repo men you guys seen that Jude Law Force Whitaker. I can't stand the idea of an Organization harvesting organs and then killing people when they can't pay. I was like fuck this movie I would fucking I would blow that shit up that if that ever happened. I was like angry I was like fuck this right so I'm like showing like this like side to me. I'm like I was pissed I was like I can't believe this anyway. She's like gets all kind of excited She kind of like leans into me, you know, I kind of start to snuggle Well, I get close to her like grab her grab her arm or something. I like rested on my like dick and And she kind of like like bought quarters of movies She's all like rubbing it like this and then she gets like more like Kind of like more like, you know, like hey, this is going down and I'm like, all right. I know what's going on So Halfway through the movie. I said, you know what? Let's get the fuck out of here I pick I grab her like on the way back to her car like I throw against the wall I'm like like up between her legs like making out with her and shit like spiking her get her back to her car And I bang the shit out of her in her backseat and we don't even finish the movie. Okay, and Thing is is we'll talk with realness here Okay, if if these guys in the community had seen me Start start this thing out. They'd have been like man or fucking sucks They'd be on like rev 31, you know like man or I saw him on a date and the girl was scared of him He sucks so bad, right? But that's like there's a realness to what goes on here And the realness is is that you're not always going to get good reactions girls gonna be all kinds of different states of mind You're dealing with real life here. You're not dealing with some kind of fairytale magic land Pooh a fairytale here. Okay deal with it all that is what this is about This is not about, you know having it's a pretty little encounter This is about just having the flexibility and the range is a guy to deal with anything that that you see As far as leading You know a lot of guys see leading as I was dominant and I told her what to do Right and of course that comes into play and there are plenty of girls that respond really well to that But leading in the case of this girl was not at all telling her what to do because right off the bat She was scared out of her little mind She was like she was like this and what leading how leading was defined in this case Was that I led myself first, okay? I could tell that she was fretful. I could tell that she was nervous I simply stayed composed myself. Okay. I was just chill and social. I saw this. I didn't care that she was nervous I thought it's kind of funny So I led myself first allowed her her space and her time to get back on my track I showed her a side that she could relate to okay, so in this case, that's how leading would be defined not some like dominant Bitch get on your knees kind of thing. Okay, as far as ass wholeness. I think I described that pretty well the whole like Talking shit at repo men and Jude Law and force Whittaker. I really can't stand the idea that and Like I'd mentioned before it is a good. I it is your space as a male to have a strong negative Idea or opinion about stuff and just express it freely. Okay. I mean you can't just be all unicorns and angels You've got to be down here Talking shit, too, man. That's just how it is. I know in the military we We train guys in super harsh scenarios and environments put them under a lot of stress I went through a ton of stress myself and basically what it did is By the time they got to the real job or a real situation. It was cake. They're like this is fucking easy Right, so if I explain to you some definitions and boundaries to asshole game You'll be able to use it. Okay, and when you're faced with these situations, you'll be like, oh I've done this before this isn't a big deal and you'll stay composed Okay, we're gonna start with opening just because it's pretty much the first thing, right? Yeah My one of my big mentalities and I try to teach this to students or whatnot I'm the most important thing. It's gonna happen to her tonight. Like I walk up like boom. I'm here, okay? I get to hog your attention. It's not even I get to hog it. I'm like, yo, you know, this is why you came out tonight Boot camp with with Tyler about about two months ago We get a line of this club we get inside Me and a student pull two hotties within five minutes of being there take him home. I Give mine a facial he gets some resistance, but whatever he got to learn You know, I basically got to walk him through LMI, which is pretty fucking awesome. It doesn't happen a lot on boot camps But he said afterwards. He's like, I can't believe it. He's like We were there for five minutes. What the fuck? I'm like, dude. Why do you think they got all pretty tonight? Why do you think they showed up? Okay? You've got to get in your head What your value is to these chicks? Do you think they want to fucking show around at a club? They do it three times a week. How many times do you think they're gonna meet a guy that'll fuck them that'll like, you know Just just turn them out the way they want to be turned out. Okay. This is a new experience. It's it's savage It's what they want. This is just a simple biology here same thing I'm here, right? You walk up like that. That's that's the vibe you project. Uh, okay you get to talk to me simply because I'm standing here and It's not what I'm saying. It's simply the fact I'm standing here. Okay, a lot of guys get Really consume of this idea and I'm telling you I I've been this through these phases of myself Well, I'm like, what do I say? Come on brain think of something awesome and funny to say and then You start thinking that the value you have towards these girls You're approaching is the funny thing you say and you're fucking yourself up Because if you lose sight of the masculine feminine dynamic going on and simply think the values coming out of your mouth You're you're often the wrong headspace and you'll have to work backwards to get to where you want to be Okay, I like this. It's not a question if they like it or not. It's just simply biology at work They want a guy that walks up like boom. I'm here. That is just it just hits our biological buttons Okay, so identify with the mindsets. You're aware of it now. You can take steps to get yourself there In her game of opening Okay emotional independence You guys know a flawless natural natural Tim of RSD good buddy of mine He was the first one where I got to see Like from another person like I got to watch it like what this was It's basically, you know, you look at somebody's face and there's just no there's just no emotional like neediness They're like they don't want a reaction from you at all There was a you guys know JTR J the Ripper from Casanova He posted this this this thread up a couple years ago and he's like, yeah I was crossing the street and I felt the eyes of All the people in the cars Watching me I felt them on me and it like it drove me crazy Like I was being pulled in all these different directions and I was like fuck. That's that's incredible I'm like that must be what's going on through the minds of These beginner guys and then I went out that night. I was like, holy shit. I'm feeling it, too And it made me identify what was going on here So what I did and everybody's got their own different ways is I can I visually and physically Severed those ties so that I remain centered on myself And that's what allows you to open up just walk up to a crowded group of girls The tricks on the on the dancing on the bar You know face which use you sever your emotional ties to everybody else in the room around you What does this poo a think of me? What do what are her female friends gonna think of me? What's my buddy gonna think? What am I gonna think you know like? Cut that shit off Stay centered to yourself Immersion this is a big one and it's just something I've just recently been exploring Being able to explain it to you guys Immersion has a lot to do with your full undivided focus on Them present moment with you and the girl. Okay, so you're not thinking about Her girlfriends over here. You're not thinking about your buddies behind you You are simply immersed in the moment with her. Okay. A lot of stuff comes from that I contact your vibe, you know, just being present with her I'd like to talk a lot about toli. He'll help you a lot with that. Okay You're talking to a cute girl Nothing else going on. You're simply talking to a girl. You're not trying to raise your poo account. You're not trying to Okay What does he think about over there? You are simply talking to a cute girl and there's no outcome dependence be in the moment Okay, that's what that idea of immersion is I talked about this last year this last point right here. I love bringing up every point All right, every every time your personal level of excellence dictates your mental level of deservedness that shapes your behavior of entitlements the thing that's attractive about guys that are good with women is They have a super high level of entitlement like they just walk up like boom You know like hey, what's going on kind of thing and they like they like grab girls I get over here and they're doing all this stuff because there's this their behavior is one of entitlement which comes from That deservedness which come you know your personal level of excellence Of course, there's other ways to do this But one big thing is how you live your life Okay, like say at the gym you kick ass at the gym grades at school your finances your career everything you do You do to your utmost therefore when you walk up to a girl, you're like, uh, right? It's all here. I am it Okay This is a super important one male-female dynamic puetron versus closer a lot of a lot of guys they walk up to a girl and And they they go into like this whole like back turn I can't really look at a girl and Telling you like if you want to be inside a girl You've got to establish the male-female dynamic. Okay, that's hey, man You guys don't open with words you open up with eye contact whether you're going direct or indirect your opener is eye contact Okay, she might see you walk up. She might not you you you walk up. You're like boom eye contact. Yo, what's going on? Okay, that's how you open if you start thinking I need to come out with some kind of words first You're fucked first. Just focus