 Always, a Yellet is the foremost international acclaimed authority on developing true connections. A Yellet is the founder and CEO of Universal Connections Inc., the world's premier relationship firm that is revolutionizing life through wholism and truth, a highly sought life and relationship coach, professional matchmaker, astrologer, philosopher, and author. A Yellet is always a Yellet. Today's show is sponsored by Mt. Cox, Mezzy Grill, and USGoldCoins.com. Thank you and thank you so much for joining me again today for episode 4 of Always A Yellet. What an eventful week we had this past week. We had an earthquake in New York City, we had Hurricane Irene hit us, and I was actually disabled for 36 hours with no power. We had an attack in South Israel yet again, and we are approaching, imminently, the 10-year anniversary of 9-11. As such, I felt it important to discuss a very important topic tonight and introduce a very, very, very special guest who is joining me live from many miles away, in the middle of his time in Afghanistan, Kabul, Afghanistan. A dear friend of mine, Dr. Samuel Jewett, will be joining us in a few moments. And the topic I'd like to, my audience, I'd like you to keep in mind today is love. Love and fear. Love and fear, my friends, are the two prevailing deciding factors affecting people's lives. Unfortunately, at this time in life, in our evolution, our societal civilization, the evolution of our civilization, fear seems to be winning the battle, and I'm trying to change that with my message of truth and my message of love. So without further ado, I want to introduce to you, I want to first express to all the victims of Hurricane Irene, to please keep the faith. I firmly believe in God, the God, the source, the creator, whatever it is, however you want to define it, extracting religion from the equation, but that one source that we belong to, that is one and that is all. And have faith and confidence, believe in yourselves, believe in who you are, believe in the future, believe in tomorrow, and we too shall prevail and survive, even a hurricane or a power outage or material damage. What's more important is what's within and what continues on. Materialism goes and comes, money goes and comes, houses go and come, but our souls, if they remain intact, we will survive and prevail any horror or tragedy. Again, also to the victims of the attack in South Israel, my condolences are with the families of the victims in South Israel. I know this is news today, but it's a daily event in the state and land of Israel that there are attacks occurring, and we need to be vigilant here in the United States as well because the world is under attack. There is a war on terror pervading us, and we need to be vigilant. We need to learn love. We need to learn to be informed. When you have a question of something, go to the source. Don't just read texts that are just continuous propaganda and propagating myths. Go to the source, go to the core, ask questions, question authority, question, even question truth because if you question truth in the end, as Sir Winston Churchill said, the truth is incontrovertible, malice may attack it, ignorance may deride it, but in the end, there it is. If you just question even the truth, the truth will prevail. And please keep this in mind at this very, very somber time in the lives of America and the world at large, time when 10 years ago now we became awakened for the first time in over 200 years to the threat of an attack, an insidious attack on our homeland. Yes, Pearl Harbor happened in World War II, et cetera, but we were at war. And yeah, we were, I guess we could say we were trapped at that time where whatever the terminology was, we were taken by surprise. And those methods happen all the time in warfare, but to be attacked by an insidious army and an insidious militia from within our boundaries and to create such a catastrophic loss to our nation, to our people, to our city of New York mustn't be forgotten, must not be forgotten. And so let's talk, without any further ado, I want to introduce my dear friend, Dr. Samuel Duet. He is coming in live from Afghanistan, from Kabul, Afghanistan. He's on the front lines and he's honoring me today with his presence via Skype in the middle of the night, his time, to talk a little bit about his experience in the Middle East. He's been, I think, situated in the Middle East for almost a decade now. And we're going to talk about his hands-on front lines experience of what life is like in the Middle East, what it's like on the war front, and what we're battling here in the United States at this time, even though he's so many miles away from us. So without further ado, allow me to introduce Dr. Samuel Duet. Dr. Samuel Duet is capacity development coordinator at the Ministry of Foreign Affairs in Afghanistan. He has extensive governance, strategic planning, and human capital management experience. During his doctoral studies at the University of Georgia, he developed organizational diagnostic tools still in use today. His career has spanned service as a commissioned officer in the U.S. Army, teaching with the business faculty of the Stetson School of Business and Economics at Mercer University in Atlanta, Georgia. And he was also a city manager executive of both Monroe, Georgia and Monroe, Louisiana. During his city management career, he dealt directly with state economic development and federal programs. It was Dr. Sam's job to shepherd creative initiatives that crossed the lines of local, state, and federal government agencies and related regional stakeholders. Today, his focus includes program accountability, relevance, and timely production of practical results throughout the Middle East. Dr. Sam was an executive at the Jordan International Police Training Center. He served as an executive consultant to the Ministry of Interior in Ramallah for two years, where he instituted strategic planning. He led business process re-engineering activities in the United Arab Emirates, and he managed programs for rebuilding public security infrastructure in Baghdad, Iraq. And without any further delay, please, I thank you so much, Dr. Sam, for being with me today on my show, and always a yell at and joining me from Kabul, Afghanistan. How are you in the middle of the night? Well, I'm doing very well, you know, since we've come together, I've already had two power failures and lost our signal, so hopefully we'll have a good strong signal and can finish our time together for these next few minutes, okay? No worries, no worries. If we lose signal, we will just attempt to reconnect. So wow, I am so, so excited and so honored to have you, Dr. Sam, as my guest today. And I don't know if you were able to hear the introduction I just did. My subject for today is the concept of love and how love needs to prevail and not fear and the fear-based theocracies that are attempting to pervade our world. And tell me a little bit more about what you're experiencing in Afghanistan these days. I know we just lost our valued Navy SEALs a few weeks back in an attack. Tell me what it's like, what you experience on a day-to-day level, and tell me, talk to me. Well, thanks again for allowing me to come on board and be able to sit and speak with you, even though it's the electrons. One of the things I do want to say before we get too far into this, anything that I say today is really my own personal reflections and is not to be construed as policy, official policy of the United States government. What I do for a living is I've had the great opportunity to go into different places around the Middle East, whether it be Baghdad Iraq or whether it be in Jordan or in the West Bank or down in the United Arab Emirates in Abu Dhabi or now here in southern Central Asia and Kabul, Afghanistan. I've had the good fortune to be able to go into these zones of conflict and be a person to help the local governments re-establish themselves and, more importantly, to be able to establish their capacity to do the governing activities that we expect of stable governments that have a concern for their people and want to be actors on the world stage, responsible actors on the world stage. I personally love you for that, Dr. Sam, and especially the fact that you're extracting yourself from, you know, United States policy, et cetera, because it's your personal opinion that I value most. It's your individual perception, your individual experience and your individual truth that is what is relevant to me and my audience, and so I'm deeply honored and deeply moved by your joining me today. And I trust that our audience will listen and learn and understand that you and I had a chance to chat. We've been friends for a couple of years now and we've had a chance to chat many times, but in our most recent conversation, we went in depth about how the people, the civilians in the West Bank, in the land of Israel, in Afghanistan, in Jordan, we all really love. We all really love life and love God and love. We all believe in my values and principles of having a love-centered life, but tell us a little bit about what is going on behind the scenes that is not being explained. Explain what this war on terror is that is getting whipped around and bashed by left media and left wing media and right wing media, and tell us what it is and tell us the reality of what is threatening us and our world and our peace-loving world of humanity. What is threatening us at this time? Well, you know, the last word you used, peace, that's one of the things that strikes me, that when it gets beyond the politicians, when it gets beyond the elected leaders, when it gets beyond the generals, or the leadership of the insurgents or those who we oppose, those who we are confronting in the war on terrorism, when you get down and talk to and work with and be beside the people who live in these lands, that's what you wanted, the opportunity to take care of one's family, the opportunity to have a decent wage, the opportunity to not live in fear. That's one of the things that I see so often when I will deal with someone who will explain to me that, for example, here in Afghanistan during the time of the Taliban, how the fear that people had regarding anything from the style of clothing they would wear to being able to express their conscience as far as how they might feel about a neighbor, how they might feel about the way the government was going, or how they might understand how they wanted to worship. You know, the things, that's one of the things that strikes me, is that we have it so good in America as far as our ability to worship the way we wish to, to express our conscience the way we wish to. These kinds of freedoms, as tried as it sounds, or as overused as it sounds, these are so precious. I mean, the ability, look at it, you and I, a woman and a man on a free airway, airway being able to carry on a conversation like this, this is incredible to be able to do this. To follow up with something you asked just a moment ago, what about the people? Today is the first day of Eid. It's the Muslim holiday that follows the month of fasting from Ramadan, and I had to make a run to the airport a little bit earlier today, and one of the things that struck me were all these families moving together, the husbands, the wives, the children, the grandmothers, the aunts, the uncles, and they were going to be with their families to have a chance to visit, to have a chance to share food. People were dressed in new clothes. That's such a shared experience across different cultures and different religions. This time of renewal, this time of a breath of fresh air that comes from being able to get out of the house, to be able to live one's life in this sense of being removed from the fear of what will happen to me if I merely just step outside of my home. Like I said, as Americans, we really don't realize how good we've got it. Well, with all due respect, Dr. Sem, how good we had it. One minor correction, and you've been out of the states for a while, but we have an impending threat here in the United States of an imminent attack yet again. That threat hasn't ceased, and we had it good based on the Constitution that our forefathers put in place over 200 years ago, which is why I love America with all my heart and soul, because only in America can those principles of freedom, of the pursuit of life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness, and ultimate freedom, where it can ultimately exist. I firmly believe that it's every human being's calling to live such a life, even if you're in Afghanistan, even if you're in Iran, even if you're in Israel, even if you're in Jordan, Lebanon, or in Syria. It's every human being's right to live a life of freedom, but what I believe is threatening us is Jihad. I don't want to quote you, because it's funny to quote somebody when you're actually talking to them, but you said something brilliant the other day, and if I may quote you to your face, you said the only problem with theocracy is that everyone wants to be Theo. And what happens is when you want to create a theocracy that is intent on or is crusading to annihilate all others unless they conform to one's way of being, that is not freedom. That is a fear-based, fear-instilled existence that can only imprison or continue to imprison humanity and lives, even if the people buy into the fear. I mean, I think that's what got the current leader of our nation elected, instilled fear. It was a subliminal, subversive tactic, if you will. It was an insidious tactic, oh, I am hope, I am change. And the lost sheeps were just, were following. And what I'm trying to instill to our audience is don't just follow the shepherd, question. Look around, you have an intellect, God gave you will and minds and ideas and thoughts and individuality to question things. And if something doesn't quite feel right to you, question it. And at the end of your analyses, you end up with a final answer and that answer ends up being the ultimate truth, then so be it. And the ultimate truth will always, in my view, always result with love, with peace, with truth, and honor, and value, and most importantly, life, life, Dr. Sam. And when people take lives of others in the name of what their belief is or what their crusade is, we must question how could this be? What doctrine would try to instigate such tactics? Defending yourself is one thing, but to create an offensive attack in the name of anything is an outrage. And I know that the people of Afghanistan and the people of the Middle East predominantly, the majority, the civilians, that's why they're welcoming the United States. That's why they welcomed the American military in Iraq back in, you know, when we went in in 2003 or 2001 whenever we first went into Iraq after 9-11 is because they need liberation. I mean, the entire Middle East is revolting now. Now it's happening in Libya, it was happening in Egypt. Tell me more what that experience has been for you, Dr. Sam, having seen or having, what are they revolting against? What are they fighting? Well, you know, that's one of the things that with our attention so focused on the wars in Iraq, the wars in Afghanistan, that it's been unfortunate that, in my opinion, that we haven't been able to play or haven't had the wherewithal to play maybe a more important role in the Arab Spring. You know, the idea of going against some of the, well, against the totalitarian governments, the oppressive governments, whether it be what was going on in Egypt or Tunisia or now in Libya, the things that we're seeing play out in Syria, there really seems to be this sort of perfect storm of activity that's going on. You don't think about it since the terrible things that happened on 9-11. You know, some of the positive things that have happened over the last decade, if it had not been for the advances in technology and in social media and the ability to get the word out at really the proverbial grassroots level, you know, think about all this change that has occurred and it's not been by the superpower of America or the power of China that has gone in and flipped a switch and made people move forward for change. That's the kind of ground swell that's occurred, like I said, at the individual level. One of the things I love about what you're saying is this return to the concept of love. And I think this is one area that you and I definitely agree on, is that that's a thread, that's a string, that's a common bond that no matter what language you speak or what religion that one adheres to or doesn't adhere to, but that's got to be the common thing that plays out across all the cultures around humankind. So, you know, that's something that I see as a miracle. Yala, think about it. You and I are sitting at the threshold of potentially another very positive thing that has happened in our world. Absolutely. I absolutely want to share with you and that's why I know that the work I am doing and I know that the work that you are doing and all of my guests, the guests I've had on this show to date and the guests I intend to have going forward, we are pioneers, we are revolutionaries and we are speaking truth and that's what I believe will prevail in the end. That truth is, it is what it is and there's no controverting it. There's no deriding it. It is what it is and we need to be strong and to find the love within our hearts. Make our choices out of love, not fear. You know, it's very interesting, Dr. Sam. I may have shared this with you and you and I spoke privately. When I was a little girl, my mother, God bless my mother with all that she is because she made me all that I am and I love her dearly. When I was a little girl, my mother is from Jerusalem. My mother is a third generation born in Jerusalem. She's Jewish, we're Jewish from, my mother is from Jerusalem, third generation born Sabra and I know you know what that means and when I was a little girl, my mother married an American man, my father from New York and I was of course born in New York but when I was a little girl as is typical for people that have bilingual or binational homes, it's customary that we go visit the mother's homeland for summer vacation and so when I was a little girl, my mother would take us to Israel every summer and we would spend two or three months and in fact I spent most of my childhood and teenhood as a teenager in Israel all my summers in Jerusalem and when I was a little girl I remember going with my mother, my mother is, she's an Aquarian, she's an Aquarius so she's the first to be about love and humanitarianism and all is one and God is one and not to be and to question authority and question religion and we used to go to the old city in Jerusalem I'm sure you're familiar with it and it was, we was one of my favorite places too yeah, one of my favorite places too it's heartbreaking because it was one of my, as a little girl and as a teenager it was like the cool place to go you know and I remember the first words I learned in Arabic were because every time my mother would walk into one of the little shops in the old city she would say adesh hadan she'd be negotiating which is where I learned my negotiating skills and then she'd walk out of the shop and she'd say alaykhalik alaykhalik and you know we love the Arabs the Arabs loved us and so that was when I was a little girl that was my first experience with with Arabs and being a Jew in Israel and being an Israeli in Israel and my experience with Arabs fast forward to the time I was 14 and a half and it was my first high school my freshman year of high school during my high school years I worked after school every day literally and saved every penny I earned so that I could go to Israel every summer it was a way to get away from home if you will to get away from here and I would spend two to three months by myself all alone on my own visiting with different relatives and spend my summer vacation in Israel and I remember being a teenager 14 and a half for the first time in Jerusalem by myself and not having experienced Israel as a little girl being coddled by my mother and my uncles and my aunts and I went into a department store and you know I had a handbag like all teenage girls have and women have and I had a handbag and when I walk into the department store the Shechem in Jerusalem the guy wants to look into my bag and I was just like you know I was Miss America you know Miss America I'm not intended there but I was just like you know Miss American like don't go in my bag that's my private bag you have no right looking in my bag that was my response to this gentleman sitting at the door wanting to look in my bag so fast forward I later learned the importance of what it meant to my immediate American reaction my immediate American response to an old man sitting in the front of a department store in Jerusalem wanting to look in my bag offensive to me my privacy was being invaded and what is that I'm not accustomed to that type of thing in America I walk into a store nobody asks me any questions I am who I am and everything is great well fast forward from that experience obviously I learned the importance of looking in a person's bag well in 2003 I had an opportunity to go to a Yankee game with a very dear friend of mine who promised he was going to take me to a Yankee game at Yankee Stadium this is the old stadium now they have a new stadium that I haven't been to yet so I called him my pops my pops was promising he was going to take me to a Yankee game and this is 2003 August 2003 this is post 9-11 we're standing online in the Bronx, New York to get into a Yankee game and there was a long line and they were doing a security check apparently and the guy in front of me were these liberal New Yorkers excuse the expression but they were complaining I'm saving the expression but they were complaining about their privacy being invaded and I'm thinking God bless you open check me check me out check everybody out because that is what is necessary that is what has become unnecessary and vital and important part of our lives here in the United States as well you know when I used to do sales and marketing in Manhattan many many years ago and I can't remember the countless times I would walk through Grand Central Station to get to the other side of you know to cross town and I would think to myself being an American Israeli an American Jew thinking that oh how easy would be for someone to just throw a bomb in the garbage pail in the middle of Grand Central Station and just blow the whole thing up no one's observing no one's doing anything and lo and behold 9-11 happened and what's happening what is really really scary right now is so insidious that the way they work is by pervading our walls by being within us and their attempt their goal is not to assimilate although they appear like they are their goal is to annihilate us and destroy everything we stand for whether it be capitalism whether it be our freedoms whatever it is that makes America America and I think what makes America America is or what defines America is freedom and we the people governing ourselves not being oppressed by any theocracy by any king by any sovereignty by just being sovereign onto ourselves if you will and I just think my those examples of personal experiences I've had from a little girl to recent years that the importance of how we need to become vigilant on American soil now and how we need to appreciate what our troops God bless them and protect them all and you God bless you Dr. Sam are doing for our and we're not policing the world we need to we need to we need to guide others if we're leaders leaders need to have guidance or else what's the point of their leadership or power but you were going to say something no no I'm so sorry towards the end there the audio became difficult but I understand what you're saying no but if I can continue on oh my goodness I really appreciate your stories I remember being in Jordan and wanting to go to the mall and before I had gone to Jordan I had this image of a city of squalor an image of confusion and chaos and something that would just be sort of alien and foreign to my own personal experience but I've gone to Amman Jordan I used to live in Amman Jordan and it was just really wonderful as far as the conveniences that were available and what I'm going with this story is just once again seeing the shared experiences of being able to make choices being able to go into stores being able to spend what money someone has to choose to buy something that one wants however the twist was that I was in Amman when the hotel bombings happened and I did the three hotels the Madison Sass the Hyatt and the Days Inn and it was amazing that in Amman Jordan in literally the blink of an eye that those citizens then began to experience what very much what you were just describing and that is a heavy armed presence in front of places with public gathering be they movie theaters or restaurants or the mall a greater visual presence of security on the street and it really cast a pall over the citizenry as far as what's going on and so yes as I mentioned earlier in the show as I was saying earlier in the show you know our experiences in the states it has changed since 9-11 yes it has but even at that the relative discomfort the relative change in our lives compared to what I've witnessed the change in the lives of the people who live in a place like Baghdad or Iraq or in the West Bank or here in Kabul, Afghanistan you know it's very severe whether it be when one goes home I'm sorry when one goes to work and the day will that person return alive or will they be harassed or accosted or quite frankly have to deal with the stress of life that is ever present it's a very stressful life it's a constant stressful life and it's sad and if people would just it's very sad and it's scary and I think if the message of love got taught more emphatically and not religion per se but just the universal message of love that God is one, that all is one then I believe we can survive. 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of you know one of the things I remember immediately after 9-11 tragedy was Mayor Giuliani coming forth and in essence saying life goes on, that the city of New York is about recovery is about being strong is about moving on with life and our conversation does continue to return to the idea of how the life has changed for us and how the fear that many people have experienced whether overtly or maybe at a deeper subconscious level is there but you know a part of life is living the life and you're very kind your words as far as what I do for a living coming here and working in capacity development with the different ministries and the governments with which I work there's a yearning there's a desire for us, us being the coalition here either in Afghanistan or in Iraq to find a reason not to be here any longer you think about it if it hadn't been for what happened on 9-11 we wouldn't be here in Afghanistan obviously and you know I these are strong people that very much would love to be able to continue on with their lives do you realize that in Afghanistan they have been at war in essence have been at war for 30 years I realize this I was a young person I was in college when the Soviets which don't exist anymore invaded Afghanistan and what happened during their time here what happened during the time the Mujahideen pushing the Soviets out and then the takeover by the Taliban so imagine that imagine a generation lost and the brain's brain I'm sorry excuse me for interrupting you my sweetheart tell me about the Taliban what were they doing there what were they attempting to accomplish there and how, what is the status at this time with the Taliban in Afghanistan from your perception well from my perspective the Taliban are alive and doing well for themselves they have the opportunity to play a very very very long waiting game so at the time when we may decide to move out of here or at a time when our own national will changes to the point where we no longer feel that either by ourselves or in combination with the coalition that we want to have much of a presence here and I'm not talking about just a military presence our own diplomatic presence and our own aid presence I am very concerned that there will be a resurgence on the part of the Taliban to come forward Afghanistan is not an easy country it's fairly large it's difficult to get around it's besected by mountain ranges there are language differences between Pashto and Dari there are cultural differences there are tribal differences so we could spend the next three or four hours in a history lesson as far as how Afghanistan even came into being given the leaving of the British when they held this area as a colonial power and decisions that were made not by these people but by the colonial and western powers of the time as to how these different areas would be cut up what we experience in the early part of the 21st century is a direct springboard from decisions that were made not by the indigenous people but by other people this will be what's called India this will be what's called Pakistan and this will be what's called Afghanistan and so many of these issues were brought here not by invitation but by outside influences of strong powers that came and thought that there was a reason that they had a viable excuse for being in this kind of area you know you use an interesting word and the word power strong powers actually we had a power outage for 36 hours because of Hurricane Irene and during the daylight hours I had no choice but to read and so I was trying to catch up on some I had no internet, no television no computer to work on so I decided to catch up on a little bit of reading and I was flipping through and I must read in my library that I haven't yet had the opportunity to complete the prince I'm sure you've read or heard of the prince by Machiavelli Nikono Machiavelli and it made me ponder it made me think a little bit and you know why he wrote the book to whom he wrote the book and what the message of the book is and who reads this book and it's people seeking power for others it's a book of manipulation it's a book of, okay and do we need to overpower others Dr. Sam in order to be or can't we just be can't we just be be you, be me be ourselves, exist and let others be why is it so inherent in human nature to have this need or to lead to oppress to control when what I've learned and in fact mastered in my short span on this planet is that that's an illusion anyway you can't control another person if you're controlling actually I learned this my first relationship lesson when I was I think 18 or 19 years old I mastered that you can't control another person if you're controlling another and you know I'm digressing for 30 seconds to introduce and to say that I know I'm renowned as a relationship expert and a personal matchmaker but my the depth of me of always I yell it is far beyond the one on one relationship because the principles that I'm teaching my individual client or teaching individuals to look at within themselves and within their individual relationships these same principles apply to the macrocosm of national and global politics and economics and in a love relationship in a love relationship with your wife with your partner with your spouse there mustn't be an ego if you have an ego if you have a will an emotional need to control or possess your partner then my darlings no matter how much caring there is no matter how much and even with your relationship with your children being a father being a parent or a mother if you have an inherent need yes discipline is necessary but only with love only in love if the discipline is coming in a context of the parent's emotional need to control or possess it's not love and the children feel that sense that and rebel against that hence is true in a one on one relationship between a husband and a wife between two partners between two friends in a business relationship if one partner has the inherent intent to control or possess the other to dominate the other to oppress the other to make him gratify to feed his ego that's not love no matter how fulfilling the person is no matter how great the sex is no matter how great the conversation is if there's an emotional need to control or possess it's not love and this my darling Dr. Sam holds true in the macrocosm of global and national politics why must man always animals don't animals just want to survive sometimes they have to kill other animals to do so but they don't try to reign over each other they don't try to destroy complete and total species because they're not peeling their bananas the exact same way or whatever it is they're doing why must humanity always have this why must they let their fear and their insecurities and their sense of inferiority propel them to dominate and oppress others why must they be propelled by the sphere well see I think brilliantly you've answered your own question in that what is that expression of power and control whether it be at the individual level in relationships or whether it be at the macro national level I think number one it's an expression of weakness isn't that counterintuitive the whole idea to think that expressing power and control over somebody would actually be an expression of weakness absolutely and all of that is a fear instead of coming forward and saying I don't know why you are hating us why you are hating me why can't we understand what that is and maybe there is a misunderstanding of intense or desires or what one is grounded in believing as the as you say the truth you know instead of that we defer to having this desire to express our power either through sheer might or the power and sheer ability of our economic strength and by expressing those things those kinds of powers we diminish what that power has either resource wise or our ability to hold it as a form of persuasion that is what we can convince others to do without actually having to expend that resource or use up those resources in an uneconomic way and further diminishes us you know yelling it's hard to fight ten years of war on two war fronts and not experience a severe loss to our national treasure whether it be economics whether it be the blood and souls of the men and women we've sought to fight or whether it be the national fabric of our own consciousness what defines us as to who we are once again I'm not going down a long trail to talk about as many things as I can think of that have happened over the last ten years but we as a nation have expressed ourselves in ways that seem counter to the more values more beliefs within our own constitution absolutely I love about talking with you that's one of the first things you talk about is that grounding in the constitution absolutely and it's very sad it's very disheartening it's very discouraging I know there's a great surge online on Facebook etc but it's going to take more than that and even these activists online some of which are are also being propelled by fear whether it's me speaking and you're listening to me and you're believing what I'm saying or it's you speaking and we're buying what you're saying or if it's the people in the White House we won't even mention their names investigate question it don't just hear a word associate I made a comment I think on my Facebook about the cosmic global what I'm doing is trying to re-teach people the importance of love making love based choices not fear based choices and these choices also will affect our economy we're so afraid of tomorrow that we're not spending today and if we spend today guess what the economic chain will continue to move itself so we need to believe in today we need to believe in tomorrow we need to believe in ourselves as individuals we need to believe in our families we need to believe in our community and we need to believe in our nation our nation the united states of America the American nation the American people and in so doing you know I have a very dear friend who's trying to you know get the government start charging tariffs do what the other governments are doing open trade is nonsense why are we giving them the milk for free when everybody else is charging us and they're using that power to destroy us economically we should stand strong and that is love that's not that's not a fear based you know charging other nations tariffs for their products and services isn't a fear it's a national concept it's a nationalizing concept that strengthens the United States it's self love I always say you know in personal relationships love yourself love yourself and as Americans we need to love ourselves love yourself as an individual love yourself as whoever you are and if it isn't right and if it isn't love then end it and move on and make it right and find the people with whom you can make it right but you must we must love ourselves as individuals and as a nation and charge other nations interest charge other nations tariffs so that we can exist this is ridiculous they're coming here illegal aliens are coming here living off of our welfare system which is being extended and extended and extended getting unemployment checks and Americans American entrepreneurs are fighting for their lives to hire employees and to try to earn an honorable dollar and what's happening here if you visit intermittently you come home to Wisconsin to visit the United States but Dr. Sam it's the America in the and especially New York I'm a New Yorker and I was working in Manhattan but the highlight of my career in the 90s when Giuliani was in office here who I deeply admire as a leader and as a politician even though he might be flawed as an individual man God bless him too but my point is that that we need we need leadership we need real men with brains and courage and courage to lead us not not to oppress us and sometimes certain like a father will discipline his child or maybe spank his child because he doesn't want him to get hurt by playing in the street sometimes leaders must impose certain restrictions on their children or limitations on their children in an effort to teach them an act of love and if a child is intelligent enough he'll question his parent's behavior and he'll say well maybe mom and dad really do love me maybe they don't want me playing with so and so because that wouldn't be a good idea or whatever and so an extension of your analogy which is really I think going a pretty good path here is the idea that we live in a civilization and a part of what defines us as a civilization is our civitas those are the policies the rules the laws that we bind into that we leave under that we act under that we associate with each other under and the strength of how that law moves in and among us is one grounding in the constitution that philosophy that is well articulated and is something tangible as well as spiritual in many ways but also we have in general the belief, the assurance that there is that there should be blind justice that there is blind justice that whether it's you as a woman in New York City or myself as a man some place in the Midwest that there will be an equality to how you're treated based on the very humanness of us that's the quality that we are a human being absolutely and that's the bottom line I believe is that we are all human beings what we do in our lifetime we are a short span on this earth and we pray and wish and we have this strong in fact my next show I'm going to be talking about that subject specifically which I hope and I know you'll be tuning into it it'll be a really good show the will, the human will to live and who are we to decide the fate of other people, of other nations but we must and it is written in the Torah in the Testament in our constitution of the United States of America we must defend our life our liberty and our pursuit of happiness at all costs and that is the war that we're fighting on terror right now and it needs to end and I like all oppressors like the Nazis the Nazis were eventually diminished and well who knows maybe they're scurrying around still I'm Dr. Sam I want to, yeah I know it doesn't time fly when you're having fun I'm always told that time flies with me but I want to see you again Dr. Sam I want to have you on again I'm thinking about doing a commemorative episode for 9-11 in a couple of weeks but you and I will touch base and our first opportunity I'd love to have you back on again this is such a very very important topic very dear and I want to share to my heart personally individually and for all who I am and what I stand for and I really hope that the audience you know just open your minds open your hearts and receive the truth that is that is logic it is ration, that is love love is not an emotion it is rational, it is logical it is real, it is truth if you can only open your minds and hearts long enough to understand this we will be able to join together to fight all enemies of love and eventually defeat the fear that is pervading us Dr. Sam I love you with all my heart and soul God bless you and protect you from all harm I know you're not in the safest place in the world but you're in my thoughts and prayers always and I added you to my list for the Sabbath candles too and if you want to just say a few final words before we tune out the final word is please however you feel your soul and heart and mind and spirit moving focus on peace focus on staying free from fear and the things that we do we do for, with and about each other in a positive way absolutely, absolutely I'm into that and God bless at that my friends and my audience I want to thank you again my beloved audience for your continued following me and joining me every week on my show I'm sorry I missed you Saturday night because of the hurricane but I'm here today and I will be here again Saturday from 6 to 7 p.m live from OnlyOneTV.com I love you all with all my heart and soul and please just be love be truth be love I know it isn't easy but it's so much more worth it in the end and so be love as I strive to I am always I yell it I am always I yell it until next week God bless and with all my love kisses