 Do any of you remember that time on Friends when Phoebe realized that the ending of Old Yellow was much different than you really thought? Well that's exactly what we're going to be talking about in this video and how it affects children. What is up everybody? This is Chris from the Rewired Soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution. And if you're new to my channel I like to pull different topics from movies, TV shows, and try to see what lessons we can learn from to help improve our own lives. So if you're into that stuff make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell. So yeah sometimes I like to kick it old school, watch some old TV shows, and in fact that gives me the perfect segue to introduce our very first sponsor which is New Wear. Alright so not that long ago New Wear reached out to me and offered to send me one of their mini fridges for free. And this is actually the Pepsi and Pete vintage edition 126 can beverage fridge. 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First ever sponsored out on the rewired soul went pretty well I think. But yeah let's get to this topic of Phoebe on Friends and how she was shielded as a child. Now I know throughout the Friends series this happens multiple times but for some reason this is an episode that really sticks out in my head. So all of you who have not seen this episode of Friends basically Phoebe walks in everybody's watching old Yeller and she talks about like what she you know what happens at the end why is everybody so sad. Something happy happens right and they're like oh no Phoebe if that's what you think is going to happen you better close your eyes now right and she's like wait what and then boom she sees it. Spoiler they got to put old Yeller down. So what happens is Phoebe realizes that her family was cutting off these shows or these movies when the bad endings would happen. So Phoebe goes out gets all these different movies and she decides to watch them in their entirety and see what actually happens. And this is something that I think is just really interesting because I'm a parent I'm a father I have a 10 year old son as I mentioned got that many Frigida's room but this is something that a lot of us parents have to have to look at right. Like we I think we don't look as much at the big picture and we just kind of try to handle things like in those small versions right oh I want to shield my child from this I want to shield my child from that. But as they grow older they're going to encounter you know hardships. So something that's really interesting is the story of the Buddha right. So those of you who don't know the background on the Buddha he was actually a prince okay and his father shielded him from all of the awful things okay. This guy never saw any kind of poverty any kind of sickness anything like that but he knew he knew there was other stuff going on outside of the palace wall so he went out there and that's when he was introduced to human suffering right. He's like wait wait a second why am I being shielded from this because suffering is part of the human experience and when we look at Phoebe and how you know her family was kind of shielding her for that they were they were shielding her from something that is pretty much inevitable right no matter what happens and maybe you know maybe it's not death for a long time like some people are fortunate and they don't have to deal with death until they're much older and they you know they've been through some experiences and everything like that but think about it there's so many things that happen in life that cause suffering and especially when you're a child growing up like friends right you're gonna lose friends you might get in arguments with your friends like my son's 10 years old and sometimes we gotta talk through stuff that he's dealing with at school but also like think about when you're a teenager and you start getting into relationships and your first heartaches but the other thing is too and I know friends is set back like in the 90s right but today we live in this world of social media so it's even harder to kind of mask what's going on in the world and present to our child that everything is all unicorn and rainbows everywhere right because they'll come across different things such as news my son is only 10 and he watches he watches pretty family friendly youtubers but some certain topics come up just kind of out of nowhere and he talks to me and I talk to him about him in in an age appropriate way right like for example I'm a drug addict and alcoholic and recovery and since my son has been I don't know five or six years old I've been open and honest with him about it but in a very child appropriate way all right I also worked at an addiction treatment center for three years and he he thought I worked at like a hospital which I kind of did because we had inpatient with doctors and nurses everything like that but I had those discussions with him okay but I truly believe we as parents or even as a society we are not doing the younger generation any favors by shielding them from the reality that is life the argument that I would put out there is that it actually makes children more resilient but there's a balance that comes to so they need to be able to you know take in that information but then we talk to him about it but then as you all know any adult who's been on the internet for more than five minutes knows there are some awful awful things on the internet so in my personal parenting opinion I'm not going to say you know like just let your kids run wild let them let them go to the deep dark web of the internet and find these awful things no I do think there should be restrictions and everything like that but things that are happening in life you know they have to be presented with that and I truly believe I truly believe one of the best ways to have early interventions for young people is to have the lines of communication open from as young of an age as possible right just having a child being able to open up to us about their feelings their thoughts their emotions and everything like that like what's fascinating too about this episode of friends with Phoebe is it was movies right it was primarily movies I remember my son when he was younger and hopefully he never sees this video because uh might be a little embarrassing for him now that he's older well but when he was younger and he still is but he was really really empathetic right like empathetic to like this extreme like this was like a six and seven-year-old empath right and what I mean by that is when we would watch movies when we would watch movies and a character in that movie experience sadness if that character experienced loss or grief my son would literally start crying and sometimes we would just be driving home and he would just start crying and I'm like what's wrong he's like I was thinking about the character in that movie right but we were able to have a conversation about it we were able to have a conversation about how this is a fictional movie and there's one of the best ways to learn about these things because yes these things can happen in real life but what I would try to do with him is pull the positives from that right like not not make believe that bad things never happen in this life but point out which characters showed strength and courage resilience um support to other people in their lives right if if a child went through something talked to him about how their parents stepped in and were there for the child and how they had that support you see what I mean but my suggestion to all of you if you are a parent with a a child like mine used to be which was extremely empathetic is teach them what I like kind of like what I do on this channel is how can you take these feelings and turn it into something positive in your real life right so my son and I would figure out ways for him to do kind things for other people and to be there for other people um just a year or two ago he saw that movie wonder that came out and he felt really bad for that kid and we had a conversation about it so the solution to that was being there for other kids who might be getting bullied or picked on because they're different right so now my son you know he tries to befriend those kids and have conversations and that's what I think we should do rather than trying to shield them especially when it comes to like movies and tv shows that are like you know age appropriate is try to teach them what lessons that they can pull from them that they can apply in their actual life all right but let me know your thoughts on this topic down in the comment section below um when you were a child did your parents shield you from certain things how did that affect you as you got older or are you a parent now what are your thoughts and opinions on this subject all right but again thank you so much to new air for sponsoring this video and 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