 This is Mind Pump. Today's episode, we interviewed our good friend, Jason Khalifa. He's a major figure in the CrossFit world and the fitness world. One of the leaders. And in today's episode, we talk about his vulnerabilities, family life, how to be a better man, a better husband. We talk about business. And of course, we talk about fitness. This is one of his best, most vulnerable episodes. He's a good man. You're going to love this episode. You're going to love listening to what he has to talk about. By the way, you can find him on Instagram at Jason Khalifa. And his book is as many reps as possible. By the way, you can donate to his fund. He has a fund set up to help children called Ava's Kitchen.org. All right, today's program giveaway maps aesthetic. To enter to win, leave a comment below this video in the first 24 hours that we drop it. Subscribe to this channel and turn on notifications. If you win, we'll let you know in the comment section. Also, this month's sale maps anabolic and maps anabolic advance, both 50% off. If you're interested, click on the link at the top of the description below. All right, back to the show. There was the Minnesota starvation experiment. You're not familiar with it? No. So it's, it's the Minnesota starvation experiment was in 1944 through 1945. The investigation was designed to determine the psychological and severe prolonged dietary restriction of the effectiveness of dietary rehabilitation strategy. So based what they did is during the war, they gave people an option to either go and be drafted for the war or they could be a part of this starvation thing. So what they did is they, they, for three months, they gave them 3000 calories a day every day for these like 50 guys that participated. After three months, they dropped them down to 800 or 1000 calories and they put them through manual labor for months. And what's really fascinating about this, if you read into it, is that these people that were normal people, when taken nutrition from like normal to starvation mode, after a certain amount of time, anxiety, depression, and, and all these thoughts start to like really sink in because neurologically, their, their brain is no longer firing in the same way because your body is taking that the fuel source from your brain and fueling it to other areas like your thought, like your glands that are necessary more so than your brain, your fingertips and your, it no longer can control your temperature, all that kind of stuff. So it was interesting for me that like, you take someone who's just normal and you put them in this state and they could still develop those things. Then you take someone who's already like maybe preconditioned to it a little bit and they start not eating. And that's what we're seeing now. And it's really, it's really daunting what happens in the brain more than anything that we could talk about. It's crazy. Makes perfect sense because one of the greatest, most common sources of stress and death for humans for most of human history was starvation was just lack of food. So it makes sense that your, all your alarm bells would go off. Anxiety is an alarm bell, you know, this like, like hypervigilance, like what's going on, like I need more food and whatever. And then what you said physiologically, your body has to divert resources to essential functions, which means you lose other functions and you'll probably slowly lose your mind, you know, is what it looks like. That's exactly what happens. Yeah. So it's scary because I sometimes think too that like our space, we do more harm than good because it's like, it's almost like we have these polar extremes. Are there, you're the extreme obese, I don't give a shit about diet or an exercise, I'm lazy, adults of this, or we tend to go the complete opposite extreme. We're, we're measuring, we're counting, we're weighing, we're restricting, we're dieting hard, we're training hard, we do, it's like, when we need to find somewhere this, this balance in the middle, as humans, we have a really hard time of, of doing that. We tend to live in these, these polar extremes and neither one of them are, are truly healthy and, and arguably the one that looks healthy is sometimes maybe the most dangerous because it's disguised, it's obvious when you're sitting on a couch, a hundred pounds overweight eating Doritos, that's not healthy, but it can be very deceiving that, you know, eating chicken or tilapia and, you know, asparagus four times a day and working out twice a day, how could that be bad? I mean, you're, you're exercising and you're not eating Doritos, right? So you, you have to ask yourself like, man, is, is, is that one as dangerous or more dangerous because it's, it's masked in health in a sense. Dude, for sure. Yeah, I'll tell you what. I mean, going what I've, through what we've gone through in the last like little while, I don't think I'll ever say to another person again, um, especially not a young girl, like you look, you look, you look great or you look like you've, I mean, I've never said to a young girl, you look, you look like you thinned out. I've never, I've said that, but I'll never say to another girl, like a young girl again, like, wow, you've changed so much. You look great. I don't think I'll ever say that again because it insinuates and it feeds the value. That's your value. And it's, it's something that I think, um, we need to be more aware of, especially with the young girls and young boys, right? Just man, the whole journey that I've been on for the last like six months has just been very eye-opening. Could continue. This is like, uh, yeah, you're right. It's not just girls. It's boys too. Uh, Sal's been saying this on the podcast for a long time, long before I even had my son that, uh, you know, when we talk about, uh, health, fitness, nutrition around kids that you don't ever attach it to the way they look. It's always performance. You know, it's always like, oh, wow, man, you really got after it today. Like, you must have fueled your body or like, you always attach it to things like that and not this, how they look, because you have no idea how they're going to interpret that, uh, later on in life. Are you able to fill in a little bit about what you mean, what you're going through? Uh, yeah. So, you know, at a high, high level, I mean, I'll just start by saying this. Today, my daughter is currently four, five days into a 24 seven residency for needing disorder today right now. So this is like super fresh. We had obviously scheduled this podcast a while ago. I don't know exactly how I want to talk about this. This is all new to me, but I do know that talking about it and is, is going to be healthy for me and it's going to be also healthy for somebody listening. Somebody listening is going to be like, dude, I get that guy or I'm in that situation or I can now look for those signs to avoid it. And for that reason alone, I feel like I should talk about it. And I also want to demystify, you know, like I've, I've, um, my family and I, like my daughter had a leukemia battle for years and years and years and you would get support all over the place. And, you know, but now here we are a couple of years later. And it's not the same thing with mental health. It's like, I almost feel like when you talk about it with people, it's like, Oh, like, like you feel like you, you feel like you're on an island cause you don't feel like you could talk about these things because either they pass judgment or they don't understand or people are so afraid of it. They won't even have a conversation with you about it. So it's been very interesting, um, working through this particular challenge and I need to find a way to communicate it with people because whereas leukemia, it seemed like everybody wanted to jump on and support with this, it seems like definitely our close family and friends, of course, want to jump on to support. And I haven't publicly put this out on Instagram or any of that kind of stuff, but it does seem like there's like this stigma around it. And I'd like to be able to demystify that because I've learned a lot of the less, you know, what do you think that is? Do you, what do you think it's like, I think people don't know what to do or what to offer. Yeah. And I'm not passing, right. But how do I help you with that? Like I could help you. Oh, look, can I donate? Can I still you would think to say, I don't know. Maybe it's because, maybe because like leukemia gets us and attacks you or attacks the body, whereas this is something that's like self-inflicted in a sense. And so people don't know how to handle that or communicate around that or what to do for you in that situation. Yeah. And like even like that term, like I would, I would avoid using the term self-inflicted from someone with a mental illness, meaning like, and I'm not like, I'm just saying like from, from what I'm learning now, it's like, it's like, dude, people with mental health problems, like those are serious problems. And these things like take over their brains and it's like a whole different person talking and within them. And I didn't understand it until I've seen it now firsthand. And for that, I have much more compassion now than I did before. Like before I'd be like, dude, like, why wouldn't the, you know, you see someone on the streets or whatever it is, you're like, why wouldn't that person just like go get a job or like, and I can't necessarily that were, why would that person that you need to sort of not just fix it, like, go eat food, but it's not that simple. And, and I'm learning that every day more and more and more. And that's one of the messages I want to get out is like, do we need to, as a, as a society, just have more compassion for books, you never know what people are going through. And when that voice gets in their head, it's super strong. It takes over. It takes over. And it takes over strong. Yeah. Were there early signs? Like, when did you start to notice any of this? Well, the reason why I think it's important to talk about is that we are in the fitness space. Many people listen to this podcast show in the fitness space. And I would caution people in the future. And this is just my perspective. I would, I would caution myself in the future from doing like challenges or like, so for example, I've done like a 40 day just meet or I've done paleo. I've done every diet you could think of for me, right? But your kids watch and they're paying attention. They see everything and they hear everything. And I think in the future I'll be much more aware of how we talk about those things. Or how if someone in your family is on a quote unquote low carb diet because they're trying to lean out for the summertime, look better in a bathing suit, I'd be much more careful the way I talk about these things in the future. And I think for people in the fitness space, um, you know, you ask about signs, you know, for me, it's like, my daughter has been through a very difficult journey. You know, she was on a lot of steroids for a very long time. And, and a lot of chemotherapy. And she came out of that. And I was really encouraging her to exercise. And the whole goal was like, just move once a day. Let's just sweat once a day. And at the time I thought I was doing the right thing. I really did. Like, I thought, just sweat, just move. Like, let's just move. Right. And that turned into like something really successful. Like, and really diligent and solid exercise. We were putting on strength. We were, we were, we were looking at as like strength is beauty, like, like building muscle. We weren't talking about like weight loss and running all the time we were coming out. Let's, let's train the way we all know how to train. And then, you know, the food started, you know, becoming like a really like beautiful diet. Like, if any of you guys looked at you back, holy crap, this person eats super clean. Like, not uber-duber clean, but super clean. Like we'd still have some dessert, but like, for the most part, we'd eat really well. And then over time, it just a little bit more restriction and a little bit more restriction. And then, and then we, we just saw like the restriction just from one point, something triggered that activity. And so my lesson learned for families is that if you start seeing these regimented things, okay, start paying attention, you've seen it, but then once it starts getting a little bit more extreme, I would encourage you to go find a therapist at that immediate moment and not waiting. Cause we saw this and we would be like, Oh, you know, like we would try and handle it, but we're not experts in that space. We should have, and I, I'm speaking for myself. I think we should have asserted another conversation earlier. These things flourish in the dark was what I was told. Think, think, you know, I have some experience with this. And that's, I remember someone told me that, like, you have to bring light to it, be, get other people involved early on. Otherwise it starts to flourish and grow in the dark. You know, a lot of kids that go through this, sometimes it's body image and sometimes it's control. What you're telling me about what your daughter went through, she probably fell out of control for a long time. Chemo and steroids and all that scariness and what's going on for years. So this may feel like a way that she can, I have this control. I can deny. I can say no, and I can reject the hunger. I can, I have mastery over it. And that's what in me. Yeah, maybe, maybe, I mean, look, every, every child is different. You know, I think that it didn't help the fact that she saw old pictures of her and she felt if she ate a certain way, she would look that certain way and, you know, how do you get to, when you go to a 24 seven facility, what are they, how do they identify that? Is it nutrient deficiency? Is it like, okay, we need to jump on this ASAP? Yeah. I mean, look, uh, I'm, I'm learning a lot this process. I'm currently, uh, I just finished a book called Sick Enough. I thought it was okay. It was a little bit more medically focused. So for people who are like, it was a little bit more medically focused and with the nutrients, it's just once you go, it goes so fast. Meaning when you see the signs, then it escalates like we went to therapy and then it just escalated like that. I mean, and all of a sudden what happens is when you start depleting your body of these carbohydrates and these, and food as a fuel, then your brain starts to not be able to function as well. And it just feeds the, uh, eating disorder even more. So you go from like, it just like, it's like zero to 100 because you're, you're, you're here. You're on like a playing field. It's like a chain reaction. And then all of a sudden, right, your body isn't getting the fuel it needs over and over and over again for like a week, oh, two weeks, three weeks, a month. All of a sudden then it no longer than you're getting cold all the time. You can't regulate your temperature. And then all of a sudden your brain starts, stops functioning the way it should. And at that point, it's very, very difficult to reason with someone because they're no longer looking at it through that lens anymore. You can't reason with them because the, the disorder is taken over so strongly and their brain isn't functioning correctly. And that is a really scary time. And so that's where you got to, you got to refuel. You got to refeed. And there's a whole thing called refeeding syndrome. And it's a whole thing. You got to get the brain functioning again before you could have any real, uh, forward progress. Yeah. Like the therapy won't work until we get you fed. We, we got to get you fed. So like in the hospital, for example, they do a, a, a laying down blood pressure, standing up blood pressure. They do a heart rate and, uh, they also look at your electrolytes for this thing called refeeding syndrome, which is in either case, when you look at those variabilities from a metrics perspective, you're looking for certain things. If they think that it's not on target, you know, it's how long, how long does she have to be there? A while. Yeah. Until they did, they determined like, okay, we can move to this next stage type of deal. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, how hard was it to, to get her to even go to the facility? Was that really hard? That's the hardest part. Okay. Not hard. And I'm speaking from my experience. So if you're listening to this, you're like, dude, my daughter had to do the same thing. It was the hardest experience in my life. I'd say it's been the heart. It's been very hard for us, but she didn't fight us because it's like you're talking to a shell of who that person is. It's, it is, it is been life changing for me in terms of, I've dedicated my life to health and fitness. I started at the gym when I was 15, just like a lot of you guys. And I've seen so many people get life changing results from workouts and fitness. But seeing the way that nutrition, if not appropriately understood or managed, or if you don't get the fuel you need, the impact that you have on your brain has just been like something I've never experienced in my life. It's like, it's like, and, and so you got to refeed and then you got to, you got to quadruple the calories. So right now you're, you're, you're filling a hole. There's, there's, and then they get in a state of like where they get like quadruplets. Like she's, I don't even know. She's probably like three, four, five thousand calories a day right now. Like, and it needs to be that way for a while. Yeah. You know, I have four kids. I have two that are like older from a first marriage. So I have an 18 or 14 year old and then I have two little ones. Right. And the way that I handled their food and how we talked about food was actually quite different. One thing that I learned with the younger ones that I think I made a mistake with the older ones was, and we're only like a generation or two into this. This, and so it's not necessarily our fault because you go to our parents, especially my parents, my parents were poor immigrants, but you go back to my parents, my grandparents for sure, they had different problems to handle when it came to food and it was, Hey, we got food today. We're not going to have it tomorrow. You better eat this type of deal. This is how my parents grew up because they were poor. This is how my grandparents grew up. This is in Sicily. So they grazed me that way, right? Like my grandma would put a timer. Make sure you eat all your food in this minute of time or they pay us money to eat the most. Like I grew up in this dysfunctional environment around food and I thought it was totally normal. So then when my older kids, I thought, okay, I'm going to talk about performance and I'm going to say, well, you can't eat this unless you finish this first. But that wasn't even the, it was better, but that wasn't even the right approach. The right approach in this world, which is there's food is everywhere. It's everywhere. What you want to teach little kids isn't necessarily what's healthy and not healthy. Is you want to teach them autonomy. So what you do is you create an environment where here are your options and you make sure that there's a couple of things you know they like, but there's other things that they could try and then they choose and it's up to them. And if they just want to eat all raspberries today, then that's totally fine. They're not going to starve, that's for sure. And you continue to reintroduce and you give them the ability to feel autonomous and then little by little the nutrition stuff comes in versus what I did with my older ones, which was this is healthy. This is not healthy. And what I did, they took the control away from them. And what they'll do is they'll try to exert that control back at some point, typically when they're adolescent, when they feel like they, you know, we all do that as adolescents. So it's weird, man. It's totally different than the way, you know, previous generations grew up. It is not the same world where we're, you know, you. I also think what Jason's saying to the we have to be careful. Sometimes it's not even what you say to them. It's what you do and what they see. Oh, bro. I mean, I don't know if you know this or not, but there's, uh, as far as I know, we're the only fitness company nine years in business now that has never done a challenge or you ever used a before and after picture. We do. Never done it. And our marketing team fucking hates us for it. And everybody's condemned us and said you could be so much bigger and we've had way more success. But we refuse to do it because we understand some of these ramifications of that. And so it's not always what we say to our kids. Sometimes it's just what we do and the way we act in front of them, you know? Yeah. And I think that, you know, again, something I've had to take to I was, I was beating myself up about this really bad. And one of my business partners is like, look, Jason out of anybody I know, he's like, you're the guy who works out a lot, but you eat everything, whatever you want, whenever you want, you just, you, I don't, I don't can, um, like, I'm the guy who, like, if you had cookies right here, I'd be down. Like it doesn't bother me at all. And I thought that over time, I've done a good job of teaching balance to the kids, showing them that we need to get movement in. I thought, if you had asked me, I think that we have done an incredible job. But there's always things you look back on. You're like, people pick up on little subtle things. Also, people, it might be environmental factors. Like I, the point I'm trying to make is as parents, we need to be aware of all of these things and really reflect on them on a more regular basis. What are my kids consuming? What are their friends talking about? What type of other factors? And then if you see certain signs of little things, you got to intervene and shine light on it, like you're talking about immediately, like not a month, not two months, not three months later immediately is my initial takeaway. When you're when you're talking to your daughter, was she able to articulate what she was going through? Was she able to articulate like, you know, how she was perceiving food and all these things? Like, was there any kind of open dialogue with that? Or was it very much like a shutdown? Well, no, because it started off slow and then it sped up really fast. So, you know, it started off with, you know, her assumption was that carbohydrates were bad. And her perception became reality, meaning like the disorder just takes over you. And it's something that I've never, like I said, I've never witnessed it before. And it gives me a lot more perspective when I'm talking to people about this type of things because it's a voice and that voice becomes very strong. And so, yeah, we tried to have those conversations. We really did. But the more conversations we had and the more we try to navigate it, it just seemed to just escalate very quickly. And yeah, look, I know I beat myself up a lot over, you know, I think if you're a good parent, you do not saying that you're supposed to, but I think you care so much. Yeah. How can you not look back and be like, what did I do and all that stuff? Yeah. But you don't know that that like she like she got leukemia at a young age. OK, you can't control that. That's a trauma. She went through that process of fighting that and came out victorious. But that was a very challenging situation. Now she's in a situation where she feels I'm telling you, she feels like she may have control over something. So and I'm telling you, it's not to beat yourself up, but rather you're probably the best they had to have in a situation like this. It's hard as fuck, but you're probably the best guy to be in that, you know, like well, and that brings up a really good point, man. It's like, you know, I have and just like all of us sitting here have had to overcome challenges in life, whether that was competing at the CrossFit Games, having gyms shut down during COVID, that really sucked. Obviously, leukemia thing was a pretty big deal, but this is another challenge. And this one's been really, really difficult because of the point you were making earlier where you want to just be like, dude, just like, come on, just why don't you just have this? Right? Like it's not like the physical change. Like it's not like someone broke their arm. It's like, wait, why can't you just like snap out of it, man? Like, you know, and that's been the hardest part, right? Because you you you and then it affects the way they are and the way that they show up and it's it's hard. But everything we do, I believe in more today than I did a week ago. And I believe everything in what we do today, more than I did five years ago, meaning I believe that working out fitness, training hard is is the thing in our control to prepare us for when life gets difficult. And I'm a firm believer in that. And as of lately, I am immediately waking up, hitting hard cardio, sauna, cold plunge, and it sets my day. Before that, I wasn't doing it very well, and it was just affecting me. Now I know that every day, whether it's these train hard men's club meetups or whether getting after it, I'm trying to put myself in the right mindset to show up for my family to show up for my friends to show up at work the best I can. And I know that if I do that, I'm in a better spot. I was just going to ask you, what how do you how do you manage the personal because I mean, I have, you know, teenagers and little ones and you go through your challenges. And that's hard, man. How do you what are you doing for yourself right now to keep yourself going? Well, I mean, yeah, this has been a very difficult situation. It's funny, because if I had had this same conversation three days ago, I don't even know if I'd be able to talk to you about this. But I just kind of came the conclusion along with talking to some close friends of mine like, do I have no other option? Like, step the fuck up. Let's get this going. Like, this is the way it's going to go. Like, we are going to, we are going to beat this just like we beat another stuff. And we're going to get through this as a family stronger than we did before. And that's my mindset. But I need to back up my mindset with intentional action, meaning like understanding what's in my control, focusing on educating myself and then also taking care of myself and prioritizing my own fitness. And so for me, it's not the drugs and alcohol or any that kind of stuff that I fall to. It's for me, I want to use fitness to lean into more to get me in the right mindset. Anything that the the therapist or the doctors are shedding light on that that's new or that you didn't understand. Like, what are you learning from them right now? Like, are are you feeling very supported by them? Or are you feeling like an island where you have to figure this out yourself? I think at the beginning, we felt like we were definitely on an island in the beginning, because in the book I was reading, we mentioned it earlier, it was called Sick Enough. I almost felt like that's the way it was. I felt like the system is broken in the sense of like, the kid isn't sick enough. So there is no, there's there was very difficult to find help. And we, we were not limited by insurances or finances or anything like that. So we were trying, but the kid wasn't sick enough. And so the support system wasn't quite there. And I feel like that's something I'm learning about the system. But in regards to the therapist and whatnot, it's just learning how to talk more effectively to the children, learning how to talk more effectively to both my kids and how the relationship we want to have around triggers and stuff like that. Stuff that I would think would be like kind of fluffy if you had asked me, like maybe like a year ago, it's not so fluffy anymore to me. You know what I'm saying? Like, it's very real to me. Are you seeing someone for yourself, a therapist for yourself? Yes. So I've had like a, I hate to, the best way I could describe it. So if I'd have like a, I've had like a sports therapist for years because of competing in CrossFit games, which then led me into having him work with me for business. But I am now pursuing someone specific for this type of thing because this guy could help you optimize performance, you know, lead your team. But that's totally different than what I want to talk about. Right. I want to talk about this stuff. You have someone or you're looking for someone? I'm like, oh, well, I have like a few resources. I got someone for you. OK. Yeah, that's important because as a parent, you have to have that support because it's hard for your kid and it's hard as a parent. You got to, you don't know what to do. What's the right thing to do and what direction do I go and I'll fuck. I'm not sleeping. And, you know, OK, what do I do? How do I do this for myself now? And that's crazy. I mean, considering you're just now going through this, I feel like you're you're in a pretty good headspace. The fact that you do seem to have empathy for yourself. You do, though, still at the same time, take ownership of things that could have done better. I mean, I feel like you are the right dad to go through this, you know, as shitty as that is. Right. Yeah. I mean, you know, it's kind of like one of those things I wrote that book. And we talked about this a while ago called Amrat Mentality. And after my daughter got sick, I basically wrote this book. I had an idea for another book and I wrote this book basically saying like, if anybody was going to get sick, shibbin us because we had our fitness and lock. We had our finances and lock. We had our close family relationships and lock because we dedicated time and attention to each one. We were really prioritizing each one of our life. I still feel the same way today. I don't wish this on anybody. I don't wish this on ourselves. Like we're currently going through it. So it's not like I'm talking about this in the future. You know, do you have a do you have a spiritual practice? No, so I mean, that's something I actually wanted to talk to you about in the future. No, you know, so you used the term I was listening to you not that long ago, you used the term Christmas Catholic. Yeah. I think you called it. Yeah. So my family and I we my dad came from Iran. My mom came from an island. She's her family's from Mississippi, actually. And I was raised Catholic. My children go to Catholic school, but I don't think we we don't we're not we're not as deep into it. You know, so it is something that I explored when she was sick with leukemia and now it's probably something I dive into even more now. Yeah, it's it's for me. It's provided a tremendous sense of guidance and meaning and purpose, and it really takes a lot off of you a lot. So we'll talk after. Yeah, man. How how's the how's the other kid taking it? Like, how's that? I mean, that's a that's a whole another layer. Right. Older, younger, younger. Yeah, younger. OK. And that's a whole other layer about like being a dad. You know, it's it's funny. So in 2008, I started a company, CrossFit Company. We opened a bunch of gyms. We did a bunch of things. It's underneath the N.C. Fit Umbrella about six months ago. We started launching in January. We actually launched a brand called train hard. And what it was about for me is not for gym owners and coaches. I'll get back to your question, but I'm just kind of sharing how I get with you is that we launched train hard and train hard is a online app but also a community, mainly for men, but also a lot of women have engaged it about this theory of like train, protect, provide. That's like what I am as I've evolved in my fitness journey. That's where I'm at. Meaning like I grapple regularly. I I train in the gym and in the garage because I want to be able to protect my family, meaning run, jump, climb, fight if necessary. But I want to have those skills. Like if my haven't you seen those videos where like a stroller is going in the street and the guy has to run to it? Like I don't want to be that guy who can't run. That's important to me. Yeah. But what's also important to me is to provide. And when we think about providing, it's funny. Most people think about in terms of money. And I think that's a factor. Like if you show up, if you work hard, you show up at work, you have more energy, you have more whatever, you're going to you're probably going to make more money. But also providing experiences like going and doing stuff like my son every day I get home. Let's go play football. Let's go do this. Let's go do that. I want to have the fitness to never say no to him. So train hard is about protect and provide. The hardest part about my daughter going into a 24 seven care facility is that it takes one of those things that's very important to me and it takes away, right? It's the protect piece, you know? So I show up to this place and I'm like, anyways, I just I'm very overly cautious about her. I care, right? But with my son, it's tough, right? Because he's 10 and you know, his sister's gone. So some of the things we've done, I think the hardest part is being at home. So we haven't really spent much time at home because, you know, we always have every night we'd have family dinner. Yeah. So I think what we've done as parents is here's another thing I did. I told myself I would never buy a video game console for the house ever. And I bought a PS5 for my son because you got to pick and choose your battles. If I think this could be a way that him and I can connect over Madden and he could kind of like free his mind a little bit playing a video game, like I'm good with it. If you had asked me a year ago, I would have said no. So those are the type of things we're doing, not just buying him stuff, but like we're prioritizing more family time where every single night we're at our in-laws for dinner. All we could do is just like love, love, love, love because he's going through, you know, a lot more than he gives off. Sure. And he's also gone through a lot before. Right. Right. So we have to try and be aware of that as parents. And it's hard. It is hard because we have our own shit going on. It's like, you know, like, for example, in two weeks is Ava's kitchen. That's an annual fundraiser for pediatric cancer. It's March 2nd here. That's the one you put on, right? Yep. Yeah. And we've raised millions of dollars. And someone asked us, who's close to me, was like, hey, you're not going to have it because she's in a home. I said, I said, we're absolutely going to have it because, because this, this event isn't about our family. It's about all the people we're helping. It's bigger than us. And like, this situation is not about me. It's about the family. Like it's bigger than me. Do I need to prioritize my own health? Do I need to do my things? Yeah. But then afterwards, I'm done feeling sorry for myself and I got to show up for my kids, right? And my wife. Yeah, yeah. How are, I was like, I always love talking to dads that have multiple kids. Like, what's communicating like to your son and your daughter? Like, how's it, how are they different? And how do you have to show up as a dad different with each of them? Oh, I mean, it's night and day. I mean, you know, prior to this situation, yeah, right? My daughter's very girly, you know, is very interested in like shopping and face products and whatever. My son is extremely like sports driven. So we connect through football, baseball, whatever, whatever. And, you know, I speak to him and we react differently to different things. So like, for example, when I would do, we do jiu-jitsu once a week before obviously all this happened, you know, for my son, I would train him a certain way and I would train my daughter a different way. I would talk to him a little bit differently and and just kind of recognizing what they need from each one of us, each one of our parents. And like my, my wife is a badass. So for that reason, we just connect and we talk about, hey, what do you think this person needs? What do you think this person needs? We try to do this. Yeah. And do you guys do that kind of dividing conquer? Like, is she, is your wife like harder on your daughter and you're more soft with your daughter and then you're harder on your son? Like, how does that, how does that dynamic work? Yeah, I'm probably, I'm probably, yeah, that's a really good question. I think I'm probably the soft on both of them compared to her. You're the soft one? That's funny. Yeah, she's, she's, she's a no nonsense, like get it done, but they, they, but that's like, but then they love her so much, right? Like, like anything she says goes for me. I'm just like on the side over here, but yeah, I'm pretty laid back with most things. So that's interesting to me because I'm like within the business, I'm like the, the asshole or the hard ass, but that I'm such a softy for my son. Dude, do you know what it is? What is it? That's the same thing. Like, you don't, you come off to me like you have that, like you're trained hard, hard ass business, everything else, but then the kids just melt you. Oh yeah, they melt me. I mean, definitely my, unless we're playing sports, like, yeah, I'm getting melted across the board, right? It's just in sports because Katie is such a competitor that, you know, I need to feed off that. I could see that. I could see me playing sports, being tough on it, but all the other things, I'm like such a softy. That's typically how it is if mom is, is your wife, does your wife stay at home and she stay at home or is she? That's probably why. I mean, I think when you, when the, the parent that does most of the raising is going to be the one that's the most like structured. And then dad pops in, he's like, let's have fun. See, I don't, I don't feel that way at Justin's house. Courtney's home, but I feel like Justin's the hammer. Are you more hard? Justin's definitely the hammer. Well, I think he may be the hammer. That doesn't mean he's more strict, though. Yes, he is. Well, it depends. Yes, he is, bro. I kind of come in after the fact, you know, just to kind of regulate. But yeah, I mean, yeah, I always check myself on that too, because I want to like, I don't always want to be like the bad cop and come in and like, you know, discipline all the time, but it is, you know, you kind of find that dynamic and that's what you work out with your partner. She, she works perfectly with me. And so yeah, it's, it's just interesting. Everybody has their own kind of configuration. The Katrina gives me shit. I mean, here's what I think about all the time. It's like, dude, on a regular basis, I'm just asking myself, like, hey, how are we doing, man? Like, like, how am I doing? How am I doing on these different areas? And if every day you just tell yourself, like, hey, I'm doing the best we can as a family, like, I don't know what more you could really do. Have you guys created it? I think that's such a great point you just brought up. And you brought that up earlier too about the even checking in with like your daughter. Like the biggest key to this is because you're right. Like, sometimes it'll have nothing to do with you. It's outside forces. The best thing that we can do is just communicate. And so are there things that you and your wife do or that you guys have created over years of like a practice of like to stay? Because a lot of people don't. A guy like you who's such a high performer, you've got two kids, you've got all these gyms and business stuff you're a busy fucking dude. So I imagine that you guys have had to create some sort of disciplines around like, hey, every Friday we get to this or every night we do like, do you guys have practices to make sure that you and her are always on the same page or you guys are checking in? Yeah. I mean, well, you got to think, you know, my wife and I met when we were 14 and we've been together ever since. And through that time communication has been the key. And and we've gone through some, you know, trauma or whatever you want to call it, hardship, whatever. Everybody's gone. Everybody goes through stuff. So but we just connect through it, right? We we try and realize we're both on the same team trying to accomplish the same goal. We might have different approaches to it, but we got to come together to say like, like success for her is being the best mom and dad in the world, like and and raising really competent, amazing young humans. And if that's the same thing for me, then we just got to make sure we're communicating well, because we're on the same team. And we do date nights, right? Once a week, at least. That's been something we instilled when Eva got sick the first time around. And it's been something we do every single week. And it's been incredibly powerful for us because it's just an opportunity for us just to connect on whatever we have to talk about, you know? I think that's missed in a lot of relationships. I mean, I don't know how many your friends are good about doing that, but I have a lot of friends that have kids and they get lost in the show and get lost in in the raising the kids. And I was we're out at a don't remember what we did. We did like a date night with a good couple of ours. And they have two little ones and they were saying it was the first night they've been out in five years. I'm like, how the fuck do you have? Keep a healthy marriage and not have gone out with your wife in five years. It's crazy. And it starts to fester, starts to grow, right? And so I think that if you could do something like on a weekly basis, again, some of these stuff sounds fluffy, but it works. Like there's a reason why, you know, people recommend this is because it gives you a chime that you could allocate that you prioritize them, right? Like and they're prioritizing you and you get a chance to connect on things that are important to you. Yeah. Did this as this made you reflect on our industry, the fitness industry because of, you know, how because body image and issues and eating stuff. I mean, our industry is plagued with it after going through this or going through. Are you looking? Do you look at our industry and go, OK, here's, here's what I think what we're doing wrong and maybe we need to change things. I don't know. I mean, it's it's super raw and super new to me. And I'm still trying to figure out like my overall thoughts on everything. I think what we do is powerful. I think what we do changes lives. And I think the fitness space is incredibly important. I actually think the CrossFit space has done a really good job of not preaching like this skinny is whatever, like they've really tried to bring forth like strong is beauty, especially for women. Like as far as I'm concerned, now this is my I'm very biased here. No, you're right. They were more successful like any women to lift weights than any other attempt has ever ever. So for that reason, right? If what CrossFit, I think, did for women is it focused on performance and it focused on aesthetic of strength and conditioning and gymnastics and not just. Oh, can you be skinny? Yeah, like when you see a girl who does CrossFit on the street, you know she does CrossFit. Like at least that's my opinion. I agree. I agree. They're built. You know, you can see it. They're they're they're and they're not being judged based on how skinny they are. They're judged based on or however they judge themselves on this athletic look. So for that, I think CrossFit has done a good job, but it is it is something I'm I'm reflecting on and thinking to myself like what what what advice do I have for dads, moms and people? And I'm just in the beginning of this journey, but I know I'm going to learn a lot more in the next six months in a year and I'm going to continue to talk about it because just like leukemia, I've had countless people reach out to me who want advice on how to handle the same situation. And I've always been there to support them because you need to learn from other people who have gone through it. I want to be a be a voice for people who may not have the same type of network or or microphone that I do to try and share with them what I've gone through and how what I've learned. And but right now it's just so new that I haven't been able to collapse, you know, condense it. You know, it's trippy about all of this because I dive deep into this a while ago that anorexia and bulimia were are both deemed a social contagion. I don't know if you knew that they didn't exist. They didn't exist until maybe Doug, you could look this up. Anorexia is a social contagion. I forgot what happened, but it started spreading and someone publicized like, oh, this is what people are doing. And then it became a disorder never existed up until this particular point and they've deemed it as like an example of a social contagion, which is really fucking wild when you think about it. Yeah. Yeah, that's really interesting. I mean, I wonder what else is on that list. Like you I wonder the pop like, for example, I saw some research come out about people that are. Identify as a different sex. Oh, there's an argument that that's also a social contagion because of its explosion, especially among the youth and especially among the girls. I haven't done enough research on this to to make a, you know, it's just from from what I saw. It's like, you know, the amount of people that identify as different sex in, you know, 1985, whatever. Then it's like 2000. Then it's like 2024. So now is that because it's more socially acceptable? Is that because it's who knows why? It's just that is that's a good example that you're talking about. Yeah, Doug, did you find it? Yes, what is that show? Would you mind throwing it up to the TV at the top so we can see? Yeah, give me a second. Yeah, no problem. Yeah, this I remember reading about this and the strange, contagious history of bulimia. There it was, it was bulimia. That was a social contagion. And so when did it start? Yeah, it looks like in the 1970s. This was first before the 1970s. That didn't exist. Did not exist as a disorder that doctors were seeing. Now, do you think that's partly because this is going back to the point you made about our generation compared to your parents and then the generation before that great depression generation that we didn't even have the luxury to do that, that eating enough food to survive was already at risk? So diet, the social pressures were different, too. Well, so you should read. So I don't know what you're seeing in that article, Doug, but I know that diets existed well before this. So there were still there were diets in the 40s and 30s. Yeah, but I don't I wouldn't categorize bulimia or anorexia. What I mean is that the awareness around like I got to eat a particular way to lose weight or whatever. So prior to this time, these disorders were very rare. But after 1980, it became widespread in a very short period of time. Yeah, so that's what happened. So it was 1980. And then you see this goudouge explosion of girls who were having these eating disorders. Yeah. And was that because of social structure? Is that because bulimia? Because, for example, like no one had ever been exposed to it. So all of a sudden, more people around them heard about it. Yeah. So then it might have triggered this that that thing in them that, you know, it's so interesting to look at like society and how quick information can travel now. And it's it's it's, you know, especially being in the health and fitness space, it's something that I think we need to discuss. Well, what's important. So we did most of our careers training just everyday people, right? So we didn't train athletes. We didn't train competitors. It was just every day. We did. It was a small percent. We did very small. It was mostly just every day regular people in, you know, big box gym type stuff or private studios. And, you know, 10 years into and we all talk about this all the time, I'll show 10 years into what we did. You realize like this has a lot less to do about what exercises you need to do and what the right diet is and much more to do about the cycle, the psychology, the behaviors, the relationship you have with yourself, the relationship you have with food and the relationship you have with activity. And then when you figure that out, you become much more effective with your clients. All of a sudden people now make this a lifestyle, whereas before it was very much like, do what I say, follow this workout. Here's your diet. Do this. Oh, you don't do it. It's because you're not disciplined type of deal. And so, you know, I think the people that are best, they can best communicate this are people who work as coaches and trainers with just everyday people for years and years and years. It takes a long time to figure out. I remember when I first saw the success of this, I had clients who also worked with therapists. And then I would work with the therapist to work with the client. And then I was like, oh, shit, my approach was totally wrong. And then boom, success with the client. Yeah. You know, fitness and consistency is the key that I've recognized, right? Like we have this idea of like never zero, so like keeping momentum, going with your movement, whether it's a walk, a jog, anything, whatever. I mean, but you know, I don't know where I'm at. And this is just maybe it's because I've explored a lot of different things. Like, so I had a mindset coach forever for competing in CrossFit and he would teach me how to understand what's in my control, out of my control, positive self-talk. Those are really important, valuable skills you can learn while in a hard workout. And I just feel like if we could encourage more people to work out. This is just, I drink the Kool-Aid hard. Like I just feel like the best gift you could give yourself is a hard workout where you learn to overcome some challenges because it makes real life challenges easier. And I just, I'm just convinced of that, at least for myself. Now there's so many other layers of that, right? And it depends on who the person is, but I think that if people just recognize that if they just went out and did something, I think a sedentary lifestyle adds to a lot of these other factors that happen in life. Well, it has many parallels to like playing sports, right? And we talked about this the other day about like just the value of kids playing sports. Like what they learn with overcoming adversity, getting picked last, like, you know, trying your hardest and failing. Like there's so, and the gym, the gym applies that. Like if you train long enough, you're going to fail, you're going to hit plateaus, you're going to have setbacks, you're probably going to get injured, you're probably not going to be the strongest. Like you develop. Can't compare yourself to other people because you're going to, you know, inevitably meet somebody that's better and more disciplined than you, you know, and so you have to kind of remove yourself from that identity on some level. Yeah, there's so many lessons that are parallel to anything you're going to experience. So that's the argument I would make though is that, is that I don't, I don't necessarily say that everybody has to train, right? Like I think that you could find that per same similar pursuit in, in sports. But I think if you don't play sports, then you're really missing out if you don't find the gym at some point in your life because where else are you going to get that? Right. Those lessons. Well, how many adults play traditional, how many adults play sports? Right. Excluding like jiu-jitsu. Let's just say jiu-jitsu is not. That's even a small percent. Yeah, which is only exploded in the last like eight years, right? But that's still like one percent. Before Joe Rogan, nobody was doing it. But like, you know, here's a really interesting concept. One of my friends said this to me, and I was like, I was like mind blown. Oh, it was Kelly's story. He goes, you know the sign of a good, healthy relationship to sport or something along that line where you don't burn the kid out, but you like, you, you push enough, but don't burn them out is when they're done playing sports, whenever that is like high school, college, whatever level, they still would go play that sport. Yeah. And I thought about that for a while and I was like, damn, I was like, that's powerful, right? Like, because imagine the people that played like, oh, I played college, named the sport, right? But they never like go play, pick up basketball. Yeah, they're done. They're done. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It's like the people who, hey, you can apply that to like, how many people have you met that went to six or eight years of college and then they fucking stop learning, they stop reading. Yeah. It's like they go bust their ass to get the school done just to get the degree, but then they've resented it the whole time versus enjoying that process and going with it. It's because we don't know how to care for ourselves, man. That's why, because workouts are not, it's not a punishing. It's not a self care. It's not for self care. It's for to look a particular way. That's why I'm doing this. I'm gonna look this particular way. And if I look that way, I'll be happy. And if I'm not, then I'm not gonna be happy. It's not, people don't know how to care for themselves. They really don't. And care is not easy. Well, another way to say that is they're entering into working out with already the wrong mindset. Totally. Yeah, for most people, like for me, I work out. I really, maybe it's because I have a physique that I'm comfortable with, but like I exercise to, so that I could do those things I talk about, like the perfect to provide. That's important to me. I never want my kids to ask me, would you do something? I can't physically do it. If I can't say anything. Yeah, but you went through the process, too. It's just the means to the end. Yeah, and that's also you've probably, I don't know about you, but I know that's not how I started here. I started here insecure. That's right. I started here as the skinny kid. That's right. Yeah, I got teased for being skinny and I wanted the attention of girls and so like very wrong place to start. And it took years of training to kind of come full circle with that. So I imagine you're the same way. Yeah, I mean, I started off, I was bigger and then I got in a Muay Thai and it led into a bunch of cool stuff and then crossfit, obviously. But you know, I think, and now my journey with Jiu Jitsu has been like incredible. I love, I absolutely love Jiu Jitsu. I think it has a lot of parallels to real life. Some days you're doing great. Some days you're getting choked out and you got to learn how to control yourself and get back on the mats, you know? Stay calm. Speaking of Jiu Jitsu, I found this as a struggle. So I did Jiu Jitsu for a while. I heard you gotta get you back on the mats. Yeah, no, you train with my brother-in-law and he was telling me all about you and you guys work out together sometimes. But I haven't done it for years but I do remember when I did it, I had to learn how to not use my physical strength in order to allow myself to learn the technique. Did you have, because you've been doing this for purple, brown, brown belt. Okay, so you're very advanced now. Did you get, go through that period where you're like, oh, I got to stop muscling through all this stuff just because I'm stronger than everybody. You know what I think I love about? So obviously, CrossFit, what I fell in love with was like the high intensity workouts but also the complexity. I enjoyed learning new skills, like walking on my hands, handstand push-ups, whatever, like muscle ups. And then you get to a certain point when you're training it for so long that like getting better at your muscle up even 2% is like very, very difficult when you get to a certain level. And so it wasn't unlocking that potential in me. Like I was getting the fitness but I wasn't like learning something new to your point. Like I finished school, I wanted to continue to learn. And so I, in jiu-jitsu, what I find the most coolest thing is that it's like a game of chess and you learn something new every single day. It doesn't matter how long you've been doing it for. And the beginning, I really wanted to muscle everything. And I probably was a really poor training partner if I'm being honest. But it took me- I can only imagine, you're that white belt that probably hurt everybody. That's right. You spat out and yeah. I was probably the guy who was a terrible training partner. And now my goal, no matter who I'm rolling with, I want to be a good training partner. So if I roll with someone who's like legit, well then I need to give him that same push. Otherwise he's not gonna get much of it. If I'm rolling with a brand new white belt then I need to regulate my intensity and control that. But in the beginning it's very hard, especially for a guy, especially for a bigger guy because as soon as someone puts their hands on you you're not very, you're not very used to it. Like it's very- You want to default to like using all your stuff. Well yeah, because it's very foreign. Like how often, when's the last time you get in a physical space of like another dude, right? And so for that reason, I'm very grateful for my Jiu-Jitsu journey. It's been a great way to unlock your mind too. Like I've been thinking about this a lot lately, like having like three things. So like you have your work, you have your family and for a lot of people they have like a third thing. But I find that if you could find a third thing that really allows you to be present and focused like Jiu-Jitsu or like one of my buddies is a competitive shooter, like golf for example. We really got to hone in, right? You really got to be focused. I feel like you could show up in those other areas even better. So do guy like you, do you have like, how do you do triangle chokes with your big ass legs? Are you able to do, or do you, okay. You still able to, you just got to change the angle. I got to change the angle. I don't do triangles as much, right? I play, you know- Because every body type, people don't know this, that they don't do Jiu-Jitsu. You can, your game, you can change it to your body type, long, lanky, short stocky. For sure. Yeah. If you're long and lanky, you're going to be better off with doing some triangles. You'll wrap it up quicker. Like for me, I'm going to be better on, you know, side control and whatever. You're probably a Kamuro machine. Yeah, Kamuro machine, yes. That's a good one for me. Or like some sit-up sweeps from the bottom and different types of stuff. But Jiu-Jitsu is cool because it's very humbling, you know? It doesn't matter how long you've been doing it for, it doesn't matter how good you are, you can always get caught. When was the first time you went in there, like Strong, you know, CrossFit Games, Champion, you know, Jason Khalifa, and then this little skinny, flexible dude, just put your, I mean, do you remember the first time that happened? I don't remember the specific time it happened, but it happened countless times, right? Like, I just remember like, you know, just being like, damn dude, like because you think you're a super fit. And this is really what got me inspired. So I got inspired to do Jiu-Jitsu two reasons. One is I retired from the sport of CrossFit when Ava got sick. So I needed an outlet. That was one. The other was I'd always walk through airports when I was traveling for CrossFit or whatever I was doing and people would be like, oh dude, like I don't wanna mess with you. Like they would always say that to me. I'd always think to myself, like I have a background in Muay Thai, but I was thinking to myself like, dude, I don't, I haven't developed many fight skills. Like I'm focused on fitness, not necessarily the fighting. And it always would like cause me like a moment of like, should I tell them like, maybe I wouldn't be that good at it? Let them assume. And so then that's when I really wanted to get into Jiu-Jitsu is to develop this self-defense and art that I think I could do for the rest of my life. Whereas Muay Thai was very like, it was very aggressive. So I don't think I could have done it for very long. Yeah. So what's your game then? Side mount? Yeah. Attacks, okay. Yeah. Well, if I'm rolling like, if I really wanna like win. If you wanna win. Yeah. I'm gonna get in like half guard, try and pass half guard, get to side control, try and hold them down there. And then I'll probably say in side control, maybe go north-south and do something with their arms. Oh yeah, that's the big guy moves. That's the big guy moves. Strong guys, yeah. But if I'm playing bottom as a lately, especially in a G, like I've been getting a lot more dynamic in a G, it's been a lot of fun. Cause like you have a G, no G, it's a very cool sport. And then recently I also got into the tactical games, which I was supposed to compete in this upcoming weekend. What's that? I gotta talk to you about that. Yeah. I was supposed to compete this upcoming weekend, but I pulled out of that one because of, basically I told the guy who runs the event cause he's done a lot for me. I was like, look man, I can see my daughter on the weekends and there's no way I'm gonna be shooting guns and doing fitness in Arizona instead of like being here to see her. Like, you know, it's not happening. It's not happening, right? Like you guys ever heard that thought, like will it matter in five seconds, five minutes or five years? You guys ever heard of that? No, I haven't. That's actually a cool way to look through that lens through things. So like let's just say like you bump me or whatever, right? Is that gonna matter in five seconds, maybe five minutes? Probably not five years. I won't even remember that you bumped me as an example. But that's the way people normally look at things in life, right? Will it matter? And you're like, oh, just brush it off, whatever. But what if it's the flip side? Like what if it's like, will it matter in five years that you didn't go to your grandma's funeral? Of course. Or that you didn't show up to a wedding because you were too busy, right? That's what I've been looking at some things, right? Like, will it matter that I didn't compete in the tactical games five years from now? No, cause I'm gonna find another date to do it. Will it matter that I wasn't able to show up every single weekend I could this year? Yeah, it's gonna matter to me, right? That's a really cool end. I've never heard anybody say that before. Five seconds, five minutes, five years. So what are the tactical games? So I'm assuming it has some kind of fitness component and then you got your targets. It's like, what's Scott? What we're gonna do with Scott? Yeah, what we're gonna do with Scott. Hey, it's shooting guns and being hit. Like, that sounds cool to me. So one of the reasons why I have particularly fallen, I don't know, falling in love, that's a very, that's intense. Too strong. One of the reasons why, yeah, way too strong. I really like it. Yeah, one of the reasons why I have enjoyed it is that it's unlocking another part of like, so if you look at like 10 general physical skills, like power, strength, endurance, stamina, flexibility, whatever, one of those is accuracy, right? The guys that created the Dynamax med ball created like these 10 general physical skills. And accuracy is one of them, but in CrossFit and even in Jiu-Jitsu, you never test accuracy much, like maybe a- That's a fundamental skill, human skill, by the way. That you don't really test, right? And so when I started getting introduced, this idea of shooting, it was really eye opening for me, especially under stress. So, you know, you do 50 burpees, trying to shoot. So you're all exhausted and then you gotta shoot. You feel exhausted. And what I enjoyed about it is that it really required me to like, Control. Pwn in, control. And work fine motor patterns while being tired. And so for that, it's been a very cool journey. I mean, that's one of the things I think that is so cool about the ice bath. I think everybody that talks about it promotes all the other things, but the ability to be in a stressful environment like that, like the, I'll never forget, we did this like, I don't know, God, how many years ago? It was eight years ago. Justin was the only one that had gone through the Wim Hof train. This was before ice baths became super popular, right? So this was a long time ago. And we all did this competition. And Justin was in there drinking a beer and like all comfortable for like whatever, 10 minutes. And Sal and I were like trying to muscle our way. And it was like, I mean, and I tried to just, and I thought, because I have like crazy discipline like that, where I'll take myself to the brink. And I just, I broke it like a minute and a half. But that was because I tried to muscle through it. I didn't know how to calm myself down in this really. And once you learn how to do that, you also unlock this potential to sit in there for as long as you really want to sit in there. That's the best part of ice bath. I think that people just don't talk about that. For sure. That ability like translates into so many aspects of your life to be under duress and stress like that in an environment. And to be able to calm yourself down is a very powerful thing to do. You have such better decisions in that state. For sure, like it's so funny because like people talk about the ice bath and like cold plunges have gotten super popular in the last couple of years. Like jujitsu, boom, cold plunge, boom. I mean, but a lot of this stuff has been around for forever, many, many years. I put up this thing the other day I was talking about it. This is a while ago. I was like, look, you could say what you want about the cold plunge. You could talk to me. You could negate the science of anti-inflammatory, brown fat, you, I don't really care what you're talking about. Full shot of proteins. Yeah, the bottom line is, it's something hard that I don't want to do. And by doing it, I'm going to get better because of it. Like I went in the cold plunge this morning. I absolutely hate the cold. Like I hate it. You never learned to like it. Ever. It never gets easy. I hate it, but it makes me feel like I'm accomplished when I get out. So I don't care what the science says. It doesn't matter to me. Should I do it before a workout? After a workout? It doesn't matter. That's exactly how we get asked about it all the time because there's so many people going viral now of trying to debate the science. Wait six hours. You guys are way overthinking this shit. You're way overthinking this shit. The challenge is just being able to do it. And that's where the value is. The value is, can you get your ass in that freezing cold water when you don't want to do it and still do it anyways? And then have the discipline and control to regulate your breathing and calm down to where you can sit in there for four or five minutes. Like that is it. Who gives a shit about anything else? For sure. That's because everybody wants to, we want to attach everything to fat loss or muscle gain. Yeah. What are the fat loss and muscle gain effects? And you know, back to your point, I think I wonder what that's going to do for the future of our youth with what you just said. Like, because what gets clicks and what gets attention is what you just said. Fat loss, build muscle gain. And it's a fine line, right? Because who are we to say that your goals of fat loss or muscle gain are not appropriate? Like, if those are your goals and that's important to you. It's not that it's not appropriate. It's that it's not complete. So fasting, here's a better, easier example. Fasting, can you lose body fat through fasting? Well, yeah, you can, but that's not the value of fasting. The value of fasting, it's existed for thousands of years. It's a way to detach from an earthly desire or need. It's a spiritual practice. When you fast, you're denying yourself, and of course this is within the context of a healthy individual. For sure. When you're fasting, you're denying yourself this thing and so you develop yourself differently. That's the value. The fact that you lose weight, you can lose weight a million different ways. That's not the value, but that's how they sell it, right? Cold plunge, what's the value? Oh, cytokine production, anti-inflammatory, whatever. Brown fat, all that shit. The value is it's cold and it's freaking hard, and you're choosing to do something really hard. That's the value of it, right? So that's the thing. It's not a complete picture. Exercise, build muscle, burn body fat. Yes, two things that it does. But what about all these other things that it does? Well, part of that too is that, and you said this earlier, and to your point, who am I to say that your goal to lose 20 pounds is not right or not fair? Well, the problem is so many people set out with that goal thinking that the end result's gonna make them happy. Oh yeah. That's where they missed it. That's a whole another layer. Yeah, exactly. Like nothing wrong with wanting to get shredded for summer. Have fun. And the fact that we have the knowledge and the science to apply diet, nutrition and exercise and to build, that's cool. But if you think that it's going to make you a happy person, because you did that, you're fucked. And it is the wrong goal. That's a really, I mean, that's like a whole another like next step. And one of the things that I've noticed, so we are on week 23 now, week 23 in a row that I've hosted, we add a minimum, one free train hard men's club workout a week for the last 23 weeks. What is this exactly? You've brought this up a couple of times. What is this men's club? Is Giuseppe going? Who's going? No, no, it's a Julio, but I don't know if he goes to this or not. He's got the, your brother-in-law does, yeah, yeah, he's came, he just came with me. We were in a parking lot on Saturday morning, September. Oh, right, he did. I did see pictures of this. All right, so what is it? So the reason why I'm bringing this up is because of what you just said. It is my role, you know, one of my goals is to support my local community in being as fit and as capable as possible. And I feel like I wasn't doing the best job of that. Yes, I own gyms. Is that helping? Sure, do we put out online content? Sure. What else can I do within my community to help men in particular that I can relate to? I'm not saying this is not, dude, women should be training hard and doing it too, but I can relate to men and what they're going through. And so I wanted to start with them. And so I just put out like, hey, we're just gonna do a men's club workout. Let's get five guys, started in my garage. Then I got seven, then I got 10, then I got 20. Then all of a sudden people wanted to do it that I didn't know and I didn't want them to come to my house. So, so. Which is totally fair. And so now we have an email list. We have a text thread. I send out a message on Thursday. It's always been free. There's never been any money transacted. There's never been any ask of anybody at all, except for to come and put in your best effort. That's it. And, you know, now we have probably 50, 60 guys every week, just in parking lots, pushing up hills, doing whatever they're doing. Like we do something different every week. And you organize the workouts and what's gonna happen? Yeah. So essentially when people show up, it's like, it's like this. We have, you know, I bring out a clock. I bring out, I have an AED. I bring out a speaker and we do it like in the parking lot of a library or the parking lot of this or inside of gymnasium or up a hill. We've done hill sprints countless times. And I just say, guys, like my goal here is just to, is just to do something hard together. I feel like we can connect. Let's, let's put out our best effort. If you do, we always do EMOMs or AMRAPs. So no one ever knows. Like there's never a four time workout. So no one knows if you did five reps or 50 reps, as long as we're doing it together. And we have gear. We have sandbags we bring out. I brought sleds, we do plates and I just transported my truck and we just do hard stuff together. And then what's really been the coolest part, which is why I wanted to bring this up, is that after we're done every single week, it started off like two people. It's like you're having a cup of coffee, like low key, right? And then it's three and then it's four. Now every time after we have about 15 guys that just go to a local coffee shop and just shoot the shit and talk about what's happening in their lives. And you got police officers with tech gazillionaires with whatever. And they don't know each other from Adam, right? They're just guys going through stuff and they're connecting through the shared experience of doing something hard. And it's that next layer of like the weight loss, right? It's having somebody to talk to about even when some of the conversations we're having today. Good deal, man. That's awesome. That's awesome. Yeah. You guys got to come to one. Yeah. Yeah. I don't work out like that. Fuck that. Chop some trees down. Dude, we got this one guy. We got one guy, he's a buddy of mine. It's so funny. He only works out once a week with me. That's it. And he throws it up like every other time. Yeah. It's like, come on, man. Oh, you got me convinced now. I want to come in. No, he lost me at AED. You know what I'm saying? You know what, we bring some stuff up. He just slid that in there to me. I got the AED there. I heard that. I ain't going to work out for me, dog. Yeah. I'm just trying to be safe. He was all low key under that. He said that, just slid in there. AED's there, too. Like, oh, dude, fuck, you got to breathe AED, bro, I don't know what I'm doing there. Good deal, Jay. But you guys should come out, especially with you guys and the kids, right? I really want to do the dinner, dude. I really want to support that. I think one of the years, I don't know where we were at, but I would love to actually help and support that cause. We didn't get to jump on board with you on that last year. I'd like to use our platform to support that. March 2nd. So March 2nd, we have an Arnold. Yeah, we're out of town. It's the week in the Arnold. But we have some great live auction items. And we can donate something to Auction. Yeah. Donate to Auction? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Well, what's the best way to support you? Yeah. I mean, the neat. So OK, well, let's talk. So Ava's Kitchen is an annual fundraiser, so we can give some context. This is year seven. It's with Chef Michael Mina. And we invite, like, we get, like, four or five, like, world's best chefs. Like, right now, I think this year, we're having a top chef winner. Like, we've had all, we've had a lot of really great chefs because of Michael Mina and these other chefs network, not just because of us. And every dollar that's raised goes in an organization called Nigu, which is Never Ever Give Up Organization. And the goal there is to put smiles on kids' faces. So they do joy jars, they do all kinds of stuff. It's not for the cure, it's for the care, is the theory there. So the best way to support would just be to go to avaskitchen.org. If people want to just leave a donation, they can. But the event's coming up, like, in two weeks. OK. Well, then that's what I'd like to do. I'd like for us to, from now until then, we'll make that, like, our shout out. And we'll drive to that. I'd love to impact that as much as we can. Yeah, man, I mean, that'd be great. You guys, we'll be great to have you guys there next year. It's just a really cool event, you know? Great food, great people trying to raise money for a good cause. And, you know, Ava's not going to be there this year. It's going to be pretty heavy. But that's part of the journey, man. Like, that just gives you even more reason why we got to do this kind of stuff. Because I do think part of this had to do with some of that. And other kids are going through the same type of stuff. So if we have the financial means, we'll be able to help them, like, let's go. You know, something, too, that I think is important is just so. I mean, you seem to have pretty good empathy, but do you even give you more? Like, it's so cool. You said something earlier that I actually am trying to get better at. Katrina and I, we have a, I wouldn't say we're every night. Have we been consistent with having a dinner together? And it's crazy how much that's become the norm in a lot of households, including my own. And I think the fact that you guys have dinner every night, you saw something that you may not have even seen with a lot of these households that families don't have dinners together. Dude. So imagine, you know, as bad as it is right now and as rough as the shitty time you're going through, imagine if you were like probably 80% of the families out there that don't have dinners sitting together. Well, so one family I connected to had an older girl. She was 16. This is actually terrifying. And this individual, long story short, she couldn't stand up anymore. That's how fatigued she was. And you would, if you had asked me this a year ago, I would be like, bro, how did the parents not notice that this girl can't stand up? Never again. And something that, it's so funny. Cause the older I get, I always tell myself, don't pass judgment, you don't understand, like have empathy, like the older I get, the more I realize I don't know as much as I think I know, right? And there's always, but it's easy to pass judgment. Say, how could this family not know like that she had an eating disorder when she like passes out in the kitchen. But imagine, like paint this picture. You have a 16 year old girl that has her own driver's license. She gets them in the morning, she grabs an apple and a cup of coffee. You're like, okay, that's fine. I think she's gonna be eating at school. She'll have lunch at school. You don't know that. But then she goes to school. Maybe she doesn't eat anything. And then all of a sudden she has school sports. So then you assume she eats before sports. Then she comes home and maybe has just a little snack with you. And then she goes to bed, but you already assumed she had a meal before sports and a meal at lunch. And so it's not as simple as it seems, right? No, you can come to the layer, layer. Maybe you're a family who's busy and meal time at different times. And it's kind of thin for yourself at your house and kids go to their room and go eat or in front of the TV. And that's a lot of teenagers. They spend time in the room a lot or the more baggy clothes you can't necessarily tell. Yeah. And I think the social media thing is something that I think it's just- Bro, I was just gonna ask you, how are you with that with your kids with social media? So my daughter doesn't have, I mean, you know, look, she had Pinterest and she has, I do not wanna mistake, I am not naive enough to think that she has not had access to these things. Right, right. But on her phone, we had deleted, she had TikTok for a little bit. Like this is like a year ago, we deleted it because we thought something was coming up and she had no other social platforms. But I don't know if that's necessarily the good solution either because now, instead of teaching moderation and understanding, I'm just saying no. And I don't know if that's good because this is the world we live in and the world we live in has these things in it and we need to shepherd the kids through learning how to deal with them. So I don't know if the writing answer is just like, no, you can't have it on your phone. But I do think that social media, especially for young girls, is something that we need to really pay attention to. You're touching on something though that I wrestle with a lot right now. They have data by the way on this now finally. They didn't have data before. But I mean, what he's saying that I think is so important too because it's really easy to be one extreme or the other as a parent, like either you don't give a shit and just let your kids do whatever or you have the attitude of like, no, can't have it. And then they go behind your back and they do ghost profiles and they do all this shit that you have no idea about and they do it anyway. So it's like, what is the right balance? So my son's only four and so obviously I don't have social media as an issue, but I do have the iPad. Yep. And even little games. A great example. And I wrestled with that. So originally the big joke when before he was born, I used to say my son's not going to see a television for like 10 years. Like I had this. And you see parents like on an airplane or something with an iPad, you're like, that's not going to be me. I'm never going to do that. Go try to fly with someone. So I said never. And then now I've allowed in there. Now what's great about it is I was aware enough to know the dangers of it, the addictive things, his behaviors when he's with it or not with it. And so I've chosen more of like moderation and learning to integrate it and it not be the end all be all and that we very much so go through times where a week will go by and he won't ever have access to it and we'll be doing X things. Now I've learned as a parent, a lot of it is on my responsibility to just, because what I, he's four. So yeah, he wants to play on his iPad or play games, but if daddy engages and goes, let's go wrestle outside or let's go build your Legos. Like it's not hard to convince him to do that. And so a lot of that responsibility versus saying all no or all yes is actually just being aware as a dad or a parent and going, man, I know it's really easy to default and just allow them to entertain themselves on it, but I don't want that. And so the best way to control that in my opinion is to control it by you doing things with them, which it sounds like. For sure, I mean, the technology component is I think something that we as parents need to really pay attention to for both sexes, meaning for my son, if he just plays video games all day, which like I said, he never had a video game console until three days ago and now he's been playing Madden and we're giving him a lot more slack than we normally would. But I think these young boys, they go to school, they're sitting down all day, which sucks. Then they come home and they're playing video games, which is just sedutary. And they have this pent up, like I just feel like young boys, they have like this energy that needs to get out. And if it's not brought out through sports and through activities, I think it comes out in a lot of negative ways. And I think video games are adding to that. And not to mention all the violent ones and all that kind of stuff, but with girls, I don't necessarily think it's the video games that are a big problem. Social media. It's the social media. Did you see the clip that is going around? I've heard Jordan Peterson say it many times. I don't know how much of his content you've consumed or not, but Jordan Peterson talks about what video, why video games are so addictive to young boys because it emulates this dragon or thing that you have to conquer and levels and so that. And why they like it so much is because we are wired as young men to do that in real life. And so it's giving them this false sense of they're doing it. It's a digital challenge and conquest and you beat it, but it's all digital. It's not real. Yeah. And you're robbing them of potentially doing that in real life by allowing them to just do that. The two big dangers for the boys is video games and pornography because they both rob young men of our natural drives. One of them is to get women to like you, which is an important thing. Like that's not important. It's very important to learn how to get women to want to be with you. That's why men wear a lot of women like a guy that's respected. It's because, well, he's doing something right, right? So there's that that take that away with pornography. And then video games is me going out and conquering or conquest or challenge and overcoming. But now it's on a video game. I'm not building anything. I'm just building this thing on Minecraft or whatever. I'm not really out there doing something. So we're just, we're robbing them of. And the creators have really hacked into this. Yeah, of course. They understand the psychology of this and they've learned to feed that open loop. Have you read the book, Boys Adrift? So Boys Adrift speaks on this particular thing. And it was written in like 2015. So it's still a little bit outdated, but I just finished it a little bit ago and it's very fascinating. They talk about, it was done by basically a traditional doctor, like a pediatrician. And he talks about, he saw these signs of ADD, ADHD and they started like trying to get deeper, deeper. Anyways, he talks about these several factors. One being video games. The other one being pornography. And he said that on average, if you took like a 16 year old's phone out of like 100 kids or something like that, like 70% of them had more than 1,000 pornography photos on earth. I don't want to butcher the quotes, but you could pull it up. I'm sure it's called Boys Adrift, but it's a very alarming book. But for the girls, I think it's... Social media. Dude, and then also like the clicks, right? Because you now, it's very clickish. And so, if you're in school and... So dopamine hit every time they get a like or comment and then the type of stuff you get likes and comments, the more risque or the crazier type of stuff that you post, the more attention that you get. So it's this feedback loop that they get. Oh, I've seen this book actually. Yeah, Boys Adrift. And the one I'm thinking of is the blue one. I don't know if the red one is different or not, but yeah, that one right there. That's what I read. So they're the five factors. And he goes into a bunch of different things, but to your point, I think it's just something that we need to be aware of. Like with technology, technology's beautiful. I mean, we're using technology right now. And it's incredible. But it also comes with some downsides, especially the loss of like real connection with people. Yeah, that's why I think your question that you were asking yourself and the one that I find myself asking myself a lot is that I don't think the answer is to completely, you know, hide it from them or tell them no, it's to learn to teach moderation, you know what I'm saying? And that's even though my son's only four, we try and have these kind of higher level conversations with them about the iPad about using it and just having... Delay the exposure. Yeah. That's it. Delay the exposure, introduce it in very small increments. How old are your kids? I have 11 and 13 year old. Oh yeah. So you're... So I'm like just getting through. Yeah. So you're playing all the sports right now. I'm all in the weeds with it. Yeah. Are you playing all the sports right now? Yeah. Well, so my kids are actually in gymnastics. And so they... Really? Yeah. We're starting out gymnastics and starting to move into team sports. He's two boys, right? Two boys. Oh, bro, those guys are gonna be little monsters. They already are. I hope so. They already are. They're already flipping and doing play. They like gymnastics, huh? They do, yeah. They're really getting into it. So, but yeah, of course all their friends are doing like conventional sports. And so it's kind of a little bit hard in that sense that like, you know, they're not having the same conversations with their group of friends. And you can't really go to be a spectator even at the gymnastic events. It's like kind of a difficult aspect to it. But like just the, in terms of just seeing their fundamental strength, their athleticism, like it's just insane. Is that what it is? Eighth grade. Well, so he's almost in high school. Yeah, so eighth grade, yeah. Yeah, wow. That's, you know, it's interesting about that. I raced BMX bikes growing up. And when I got to high school, I switched to football. But BMX was always that same way for me where I was, I was good at it. I would be on like a circuit or whatever, but I never had anything to connect with other people at school about because I was doing something that they had no. So unique. It's so unique, right? It's, it's they, we couldn't have a conversation about it. But that's a great foundation, man. They're going to be able to take that gymnastics. Oh yeah. Gymnastics is the best. Yeah, dude. They're all pursuits. That's all I know. And they're really good. So watching them already, like do the stuff. I'm like, oh, brother, they're going to be so good. You know, they have data now on, on smartphones, which we didn't have before, but the data now shows you want to wait until high school to give your kid a smartphone. Yeah. At least until high school. So don't even let them have one. So here's an interesting, so my son's 10. We got him a, or he's nine. He turns 10 in a month. We got him an eye watch. He doesn't wear it. I wish he did, because I want to be able to track him. Like if, like wherever he's, and I want him to be able to call on there if he was like at a friend's house or something, he needed something, but he has no, there's no like, there's no apps or anything on it. It's just like, able to call text and like, so if he's at a friend's house, he can say like, Hey, I'm ready to go home. Or if he's at baseball and, I mean, we're always there with them. But like, so that was something we tried at 10 or nine, maybe it was too early, I don't know. And then my daughter, it's like when she's out places, it gets, it's, it's tough because it's all the friends start to have it. Oh, I know, bro. I got, yeah. Like, you know how it goes. Oh, I know. I know. Cause then they feel like, they feel like a extra, ostracized because they don't have it. Like, listen, here's the deal. I had to come full circle with this cause I was like that too. And then I realized something. If you live the way you're supposed to live in this world, you're going to be sick, fat, unhealthy, depressed and anxious. So yes, they're going to be ostracized. That's the point. Yeah, against them. The point is that they don't live in this world. That's the point. I mean, I think that's. And that's the shitty thing to, it's shitty, but it's true. The key for us dads is to be able to convince them. It's not just because they don't want to be like everybody else. So that brings up another really interesting topic that I have like the homeschool idea. The, like, it's, it's a very interesting, like, I don't know. I was talking to this guy, Ben Aldermey's a close friend of mine. This idea of like the new modern school. I don't know if you guys have heard of like acting academies and this, this additional next layer of you guys looked into this stuff. So you have like your traditional public school system, right? Then you have like, let's just say a private school system. Now there's this essentially, and I was called out on this. I said that, oh, you're, you're doing the non-conventional way. I told this guy, he was the homeschool. He's like, well, actually let me correct you on that. This is the most conventional way. Like this is the most old school way of teaching. It's homeschool. Before the Rockefeller shot. Traditional schooling came around. I was like, I was like, oh, I was like, all right. So is it unschooling? Is that like the same thing? Were they like, it's more led? Child led. Child led by the things they're interested in. Well, yeah, so you have the homeschooling, the private, the public. And then there was this model from Matt Boudreau. Do you guys know who that is? So Matt Boudreau and it's actually Tim Kennedy has one. They're called acting academies. I looked into Tim Kennedy's. Unfortunately, it's- Well, he has one in Cedar Park, but acting in Cedar Park, Texas. Yeah, yeah. But essentially what it is, there is no grades. There is some structure, right? There's like teachers, but it's not so like grade based. It's not like, you might have a fifth grader with a- There's some charter schools like that. It's like that. It's a whole different way of making that. You even know somewhere you don't. That's how you go through this. Yeah, and it's interesting. You're not trying to put these kids like in specific boxes. Are you familiar with unschooling? Okay, so Ben Greenfield, one of my friends, he unschools his kids, which is this. So what he does is it's- He has two boys, right? Yeah, it's led by their interests. And he teaches mathematics, history, science, through real practical things. So they want to learn science. We're cooking a recipe today. And then they- Because they're into cooking. Yeah, because they like cooking, because they enjoy cooking. So he teaches the science- So ratios and confidence. Yeah, temperature, boiling, everything. So he teaches the science through chemistry. They want to learn math. They hire a construction worker from the house. They build a fort. And they do math through building the fort. And so he uses real-life practical things to teach all these- And he lets them choose. So if these boys are into music, so he teaches all kinds of things through music. So yeah, he uses the things that they're interested in. And then he'll outsource if he needs to, or he will teach himself. He'll teach them the skills through that. It's really a brilliant- I mean, if I was like a stay-at-home dad and I would love to do that. The question with all this stuff is for the parents. How far are you willing to go? Because it's all hard. It's all hard. So it's like way easier to follow the convention. Like why I say convention, I mean the standard, right? So like, oh, send them off to school. Now we got some time. I'm going to go to work or whatever. Oh, we're going to do homeschooling. Well, that's even more work. Oh, we're going to take away electronics. That's even more work for me. Oh, no, social media. Even more work. So the realistic question is like, okay, what are we willing to do? Because it's going to make, it's going to be harder. It's going to be harder for us. And so what are we willing to do? And then that's where you find lines and choose your hard, right? Well, it's a friend of mine is going through a similar journey. She's like, what she said to me, I thought really resonated. She's like, you know, I'm so good at my business, whatever. And then all of a sudden I chose to homeschool my kids and I suck at this. And it's like, oh, man, yeah, like, but, you know, just using a video game example of just real quick on this one, like getting Kate in a PS5 was the last thing I thought I would be doing a year ago. But there is some pros that I used to say, hey, if you go to a friend's house, if you go to a grandma's house, you could do it, whatever. Anywhere else but our house. Because at home, I don't want you to use that as a crutch. I want to be able to go play outside, go juggling, trembling. Yeah. But then the thing is, one of the things I didn't realize, like he wouldn't necessarily have friends come over as much because they would be like- They want to play video games. Well, what they want to do is like at his friend's house, and this is, I'm actually okay with it. It's like, they would go out and they'd play baseball. They'd go play sports until it got super dark. And then play video games. That's how I grew up. And they would do it together. And it's just one of those things where like as a parent, like just like looking at through different lenses and perspectives, like that is cool to have all the friends come over, get exhausted, and then come in and play Madden together. But what isn't cool is like being addicted to it and playing up, you know- Yeah, or you're by yourself and you're playing with your friend that's way over there. Yeah. So he's old enough and you laid a good foundation that you're going to be okay. So what I did with my son was I bought the original Nintendo. So it's like- We had a Nintendo Wii back in the day. Bro, so I bought the original NES system. And it's at that point- Can't blow out the- Yes. It's so cute. I got videos of my son. I've taught him how to do that, right? So he thinks that we have to do that every time before we play the game. But what I've noticed, and this is how crazy, this is how far the science or psychology has come in gaming today. His little iPad apps, like Angry Birds or any game is far more addictive than the original Nintendo. At that point, we were just figuring out how to put graphics on the TV and make the game work. We weren't unpacking the psychology and the science of how to keep them, how to keep them. So, and it's wild to see the difference. If I, if we give him some time to play a game on his iPad, you, I have to repeat or go over and take from him or say, okay, one minute, then you're off. If I am playing a Nintendo, I can literally middle of the level, hit pause and say, oh, let's go. And he'll just walk away from it. It's wild to see the difference of that. And so I've allowed him to do that. Like we play Nintendo day. And it's him and I's time together as we'll play Nintendo together. And it's great because it feels, if he says he wants to play games, him and dad go upstairs and we go in my room and we play a little bit of regular NES. And I can walk him away from it, no problem. Yeah, man, I think all of us are just trying to do the best we can with what, like, you know, and, and we're just trying to show up. And I think just for that alone, like if you're just trying to show up as a parent, like you're already, you're already thinking about this stuff. Arthur Brooks was famous for saying that. Bro, if you're worried and you're thinking about this like you're ahead of the game. Yeah, it was Arthur Brooks, a good friend of ours. By the way, if you've never met Arthur Brooks, you have to meet him. I think he's one of the most amazing humans. Harvard professor, expert on what makes people happy. Economist, I mean, the guy's written best-selling author. He got into an Uber one time and a new dad asked him that, was asking him about that since obviously he's this Harvard professor, brilliant guy and he studies all this. He says, hey, I'm just, I want to be the best father. What's, you know, asking him like, what are the best five tips with that? And he says, you're already halfway there. And he's like, what are you talking about? My son's not even born yet or like that. He's like, the fact that you care is already half the battle. So like you're already gonna be a good dad. It's a matter of like how good of a dad you're gonna be at this point. I was like, oh man, that feels so good just to hear that because we do sometimes we can beat ourselves up so much of like, am I doing this right? Should I restrict it completely? The fact that you think about it, you've already won most of the battle right there because so many parents don't even fucking think about it. Yeah, man, that's all that's in your control too. Like, especially like with everything going on right now, I'm just thinking like, what's, you know, taking it day by day, focusing on what's in our control and really just trying to have a positive outlook. And I think those are the things that like are within your control. Like, and you learn those from competing in sport. Like if you worry about your competitors, if you worry about the whatever, like you're never gonna do well because you're anxious over something you have zero control over, like, you know? 100%. Jason, good time seeing you, man. Yeah. Appreciate you coming on the show. Yeah, great to have you on, man. Yeah. Thank you so much for sharing what you're sharing with us. Yeah. Hey, here we are. Always a good time seeing you, bro. Always a good time. Thanks again.