 how narcissists feel when you move on that is what we are going to be talking about in this video so at some point you've had enough you're fed up being mistreated you're fed up of being used you're fed up of being in some cases neglected so you just had enough you're not wanting to deal with them anymore i'm just filming a video for my viewers on youtube i was just in the middle of a video next month very lucky for you thank you i appreciate it but i've got to carry on with this but thank you for your offer sorry about that okay back onto the video yes at some point you're just fed up with being used and mistreated in some cases neglected and you just want to move on you want a fresh start without all of that negativity that toxic energy it's weighing you down it's preventing you from becoming the best version of yourself which as you know is what i want for you and i'm sorry to say but the reality is that just because you've left and moved on that doesn't mean that they've moved on and that doesn't mean that they're ready to see you move on because no they are still holding on to you and they want to make you feel regret they want to make you feel like you've made the wrong decision as though they were the best option for you because in their minds they are the best thing since sliced breads even though many of them don't even have anything going on in their lives it's just because they think it in their heads so then it must be true they see their feelings as facts they create this false image that is in their minds everything that you should want and they just automatically assume that without any proof or evidence despite everything that they've done to you despite the abuse and mistreatment and in some situations the neglects they still think that you want them because they're very arrogant and delusional so you try to move on and then whoop here they come they pop up again they're playing peek-a-boo and they want to make you feel like you're missing out on something so they will try to triangulate someone else with you they'll try and make you feel envious or jealous of whatever they've got going on they'll try and make it seem a lot better than an action against and they may stalk you on social media what your work at home they may follow you around and they may even start a smear campaign against you if they know now this is only when they know that you're not coming back and when they know that they can't get any positive attention from you that is when they will resort to negativity they will try to pull you down to their level they will try to irritate you and get under your skin they'll try to intimidate you coerce you so they're pretty much just trying to force you by this point they're raping you they're doing whatever it takes to pull you down even though they know you just want to move on you just want to forget about them and live your life but they're still there they're still creeping on you stalking you harassing you and you just want to be left alone it's madness but this is how it is this is the reality this is what narcissists are like when you just want to move on they won't just let you go they'll still be there and yeah you try to move on but they will make it very difficult for you they will do anything they can to pull you back in to pull you back down because the last thing they want is to see you moving on and live in a happy and successful life that is the last thing that they want and yeah sometimes they discard you and then they try to come back because they've re-idealized you the seeing you as perfect again but that doesn't really match if you don't think that way of them and you don't decide to be with them but the problem is when they first met you they took this mental snapshot of you and their heads and they expected you to live up to that but then they devalued and discarded you or eventually you got fed up with them and you left but they are still and this is the crazy part they are still holding you to this mental snapshot that they had with you when they first met you they're still holding you to that which isn't even who you are it's got nothing to do with you but they're holding you to that image in their minds and they don't like it when you deviate from it they don't like it when you do that and that is why they try to chase you they try to hunt you down and get you to identify with it and if you won't identify with that and if you won't play that out as they see it in their minds the fantasy then that's when they devalue you again and then in their minds you are deserving of the abuse this is some insight into a crazy person's mind because this is exactly how they think they are disordered they are mentally ill and and of course as you know all I want for you is for you to move on and be happy without them because as we know they are no good for you narcissists they lack self-awareness they're completely self-centered they have no empathy they can't share your feelings and experiences which means you'll never be able to grow or build anything with them they're only going to pull you down they're only going to hurt you so I want nothing more and for you to move on become the best version of yourself and live your best life but unfortunately that is not what a narcissist wants because they only care about themselves you think that when these sick twisted people are stalking you triangulating you with someone else starting a smear campaign against you you think they actually care about what you want no they don't care about any of that all they care about is what they want and what they want is your attention what they want is power and control and they're going to do whatever it takes to get it which is why I'm on here today to bring this awareness and to inform you that even though of course I want you to move on and live a better life but I also need to inform you that you do need to be very careful you need to be very cautious because they're not just going to let you go so easily unless of course you were there secondary sources apply tertiary source or anything else you're just someone they see now and again they're not with you every day they just use you for money or sex or whatever it is and if the narcissist you're dealing with has a large number of options and you're hardly number one in those situations you haven't got too much to worry about but if you were their grey day primary source they're not just going to let you go so easily and that's not a good thing either to be a narcissist grey day primary source that means they see you as a fool a doormat someone who may possibly be susceptible to them in a relation someone who they can pull the wall over your eyes they can lock you under their control and prevent you from escaping you don't want to be that person that person who is susceptible to being groomed that person who is susceptible to being caged domesticated and imprisoned you don't want to be that person so instead what you need to do is demonstrate authority over your own life demonstrate independence and let them see that let them know that they can't control you anymore and then many of them will get the picture they will begin to understand that you're not the same as you used to be you're more knowledgeable now you're more wiser and you're not going to fall for that again but of course the ones that are almost completely detached from reality and any sense of sanity in most cases they will never give up and I have heard of situations where narcissists have been stalking for 10, 20, 50 years for people's entire lives because these people are disordered until they die that doesn't change they are maladaptive they can't change or adapt or adjust but you can and you need to do that and I want that for you I want you to grow and become better and don't let anyone hold you down this is my mission and it's why I come on you every day to bring this message and spread this awareness and as you can see I'm also in the process of becoming the best version of myself and I'm living my best life every day and of course there are a lot of people out there who want to stop me but there's nothing that they can do because I've got you and you've got me and we stick together we support each other we have this community so yeah we work together we encourage each other to get to where we need where we need to be and we've got these videos put them out every day got the live chat the comment section and the one-on-one coaching which can be booked on my website which is narcsurvivor.co.uk and then there's also BetterHelp as well one of my partners you can book a session with a licensed therapist through there by going to betterhelp.com slash narcsurvivor so yeah we have all of these resources there's really no excuse for you to not become better and also accountable for where you find yourself because the thing is there's not much you can do about someone who is mentally ill someone who is disordered but many of you who are watching this you don't have that problem so there is something that you can do about it and that is something that you must do and I do that too I do it myself every day I hold myself accountable for my actions and for where I find myself you can blame other people all day it's not going to make a difference that's not going to change anything for you you got to own it and do it for yourself because that is the only way that things can change do not give the power to other people to make a difference in your life because if you do that you will be waiting forever you will just become the victim of more lies and future thinking again and I don't want that for you because I know that you deserve something better and you can change you can heal you can become better it all starts with self-reflection working on yourself holding yourself accountable when you do these things then you are destined to become greater and we have a lot of support on you you all have my support so we're all good together but yeah that's it how narcissists feel when you move on they don't like it they hate it they can't stand it it's the last thing they want to see but it is the very thing that you need to do I've said it before whatever they don't want you to do just go out and do it because that tends to be the one thing that is best for you whatever it is that they don't want you to do I want you to go out and do that right now as long as it's something productive something that's good for you but not only for you but for the betterment of society because if you do that you can't go too wrong all right that's it that's all I got for you today but as always I would like to thank you all for your support I do appreciate your wall and I hope that you appreciate me as well I hope you appreciate my work if you do you can show your support down below give this video a thumbs up and let me know your thoughts down in the comment section 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