 You and every woman To everything including the price tag on self-worth I want to talk about what it is and what it's doing to our children and women out there Stacey You are a woman who I look up to because I feel like you really truly understand your self-worth Thank you, and What does that look like? You know I evolved I want to be honest with you I evolved the Stacey that you see today is not the Stacey that was there before and that will happen with all of us here But one of the things that I had to do was I had to be honest with who I am and be comfortable What I bring to the table and stop trying to represent something that I was not what do you mean be honest with who you were What is that moment? Okay, so for so long because of my molestation I really put a wall in front of me, and so what I did was I Insulated myself to be the best at everything be the cheerleader captain So I was never in a vulnerable Position, but you can only be a farce like that for so long Well, and that's interesting because I think myself included and our children We're looking to other women in the media in particular Right and we're getting false impressions of who they really are and I'm assessing myself worth Accordingly I can only imagine what that's doing to a 12 year old child Well learning self-worth and discovering what my own self-worth is like Stacey said is evolving But what I'm starting to learn now that I have children and they're growing and and I'm learning things about them Is that I'm learning that your children my children at least are teaching me Their self-worth and how I can show them what it is. It isn't always what I think it is Well, how are they teaching you? What are they doing? Well? It's like with with my you know, sometimes when you have kids. It's not always Like oh, they're my baby and everything's wonderful and great. You have personality conflicts Absolutely, and you don't always like each other all the time. I get it You're like who are you and did you come out of me? But it's also what I was learning was is that my daughter when when she gets to be the boss She feels like she has a lot of self-worth And she started asking me as soon as she could talk those were the One of the first questions that came out of her mouth if I had to go somewhere She want to know who's the boss of me mommy right right and I would say well You're the boss of you and that and I started telling her she's the boss of her when I am ran into a problem because then babysitters came along You are not telling me what to do. I am the boss Makes an excellent quote of statement and I think as parents We have to know that we are the first teacher of self-value and self-worth And I think what's happening now is because of medicine said earlier parents are outside of the home We're surviving. We're feeling guilty. So instead of spending that time. We're buying them things But we have to find what? iPhones cars as opposed to saying instilling value and truth in them and teaching I'm teaching my daughter I have a 17 year old and a 15 year old and I tell my babies all the time. I need you to be true to yourself I'll give you a quick sample my daughter's like the way their hair natural Mm-hmm. I was mortified that they wanted to wear their hair natural. You know why? Because I was afraid of what people were gonna say about me Really what people were gonna say about me allowing my daughters to have natural hair What would they say because that's just not the way a young lady should look and for a minute I bought into that notion and I had to snap out of it and say hey These are two very beautiful young ladies and so and what they did was they wore it in an environment that didn't necessarily Accept natural hair. That's why I was uncomfortable not because of them because they wore the natural proud But because what people would say about me we got a change that it has to be and I was proud that they were confident to do that We are yeah, that was a beautiful lesson for your children to teach and for me and I think so And it's different for each child right what each child's Self-worth is so when I comes to like the women in the media now that aren't real and that and you start comparing yourselves to these Airbrushed they do you guys remember the you there was a video that went out about a woman and they took a picture of her Made her plane and then they started doing all of these things to her and by the end She looked like she was a 16 year old vogue model. Mm-hmm, of course, okay So that's not realistic what they're putting out there But I think if we if we start to understand who are people our people are Mm-hmm, and we get to understand what their personalities are and how they feel loved and how they feel self-worth And we teach them on their level at their terms So then it doesn't matter there's a point about teaching the young But I think there's something to be said about Re-teaching ourselves I used to be so much more fearless and I believed in myself so much more to be completely candid And then I got to this quarter-life crisis whether it be you know when you're 25 or 42 and All of a sudden that empowerment and that worth you carried so proudly Through your parents and through these lessons when you were a child has withered away and you've become The society has done that to you because what we what we've subconsciously told you was that you're not enough Because you don't have this or you haven't acquired that and self-worth comes from the inside out So I just don't know how to get it back Well, if I can tell you what you have to do is you have to decide what? Jeslyn one and it may not look like what Madison I agree with but you have to be okay with that And that really does surprise me because I you know the way that I see you I see you as someone who's extremely self-confident and beautiful Attributes about you. I'm really shocked by that and sometimes work is not you know We think for it to be that it's external But really self-worth starts here and it comes out let it shine ladies We'll be right back with more every way woman. Stay with us. We'll be right back Advocate it okay to every way woman. So let's chat about the book extra-large love recently released by Sarah Barney and in it she tells the story of Obese girls who are having riskier sex and they're taking more health risks Because they're larger You're me. I mean you made a face Stacy. Yeah, that's tough Self-image I can't say how important self-image is and for a young woman Who's overweight who we've told her because society would tell you because she's not gonna see anybody magazine It looks like her that she's not important the first man who says the right things to her. She is going to absolutely Absolutely go and make her Feel like she's important, but I don't I don't think there's a point to that That would be any girl any size who's having issues of self-worth. You're right And it's someone who's having issues of self-esteem self-worth, which we were talking about earlier You're right if you say the right thing then yes It will open up that girl to have risky sex at a very young age become promiscuous I think it might be more of an issue with obese girls is there's no going around it It when you are when you allow your child or if your child is obese at a very young age They start to develop much faster than other girls do you know I recently read that some girls who are obese are starting their menstrual cycles as early as first or second grade What You that could happen to you but wait me let me cuz I want to make sure I'm hearing you to correct So you're saying that even young women that are not obese What was your point about I I'm saying even young women who are not obese but who are having issues of self-image Maybe they're too thin maybe they're anorexic And they have issues with their body and they have this body dysmorphia and a man comes along and he makes them feel Wanted but they might the difference is those society we will be more embracing of someone who's thin Then someone who is morbidly obese Okay, but yes Stacy you're taking the point of society if you are in the mind of A woman who is too thin or the mind of a woman who is overweight That's not about what society feels that's about how they personally are feeling about themselves in that moment Let's take that part out of it and we just focus on let's say it is because it is the child is obese or the young lady is obese And I think a big part of it is Which we kind of glossed over a little bit is that they're developing a lot earlier as early as first and second grade Wow, that's huge. Okay, but aside from that they're being developed earlier They're getting poked on picked at the hot Can you imagine what the boys and the other kids are like at that age and what kind of things that they must say and To to that young girl who's developed so soon and then the kind of attention she's getting from boys who are two Three grades above them. I mean how many third fourth graders. Do you know that think about? Yeah, but but okay, you know how the young then you have these young girls who are in their classes and that's available to them But I wonder why are they making riskier choices? What is it that it's already been laid out for them? Yeah, they're not worth it. So they don't have to use a condom or be careful They're having constant contact with them at a very young age where girls are supposed to get it later when they develop in their teens But if they're getting it before their teens that implant has already been put in their minds for it's a seed that's been planted very early on Age and boys are promiscuous teenage boys are promiscuous So they see these young these women as an easy target Oh, I can just you know I see fat Susie and I'm gonna get with her that's one notch on the belt and because the fat Susie is not valued That's why I don't want us to dismiss what we do to that. I don't mean internally we can do that, but so they do they just pick them out Susie's got some tits Obese boys too because you know Biologically when you're heavy the man part, which is referred to as the penis shrinks, right? Okay, I'm learning all kinds of stuff You know what okay? Let me give you a little shout on that for every 50 pounds. You're overweight Right no matter your age you lose an inch of your size true story So those obese young boys as well are probably feeling like oh, you know what let me Any type of relationship I can have I'm just gonna do this. Yes I'm just gonna do this because we as a society don't dismiss the job we fact I work in HR Let me tell you somebody come in fat. We automatically make a judgment so you can imagine a person What do you want me automatically make a judgment? What do you make a judgment that they're not disciplined? Discipline interesting because they're not being disciplined in their sexual life nor are they being exactly nutrition So you've got a person who's going through all these hormones and these feelings and somebody rub up on it Oh, you know what you? That is a real issue for them. And so now nobody talks to them They just figure I'm gonna just go out and have sex and here's where we are It's interesting though because they're receiving the same kind of sexual education Well, no, but I mean like through this one would assume you video in school. Yeah, that's all they do Because the girls are maturing earlier, I think because they're developing earlier They're being approached in a much younger age So they're more apt to be open to exploring but yes, if you take it and join their curves Yes, but if you also take it in the face of wanting to feel loved of a self-esteem thing, too Then yeah, maybe they will be willing to step out there and do things that most girls wouldn't do They want to ladies no matter your size play it safe. We'll be right back with more every way woman Coming up next more every way woman Do you know the difference between breast reduction and breast augmentation neither do I? But stay tuned for the answer from every way woman breast surgery is one of the most popular surgeries out there breast reduction breast augmentation and here we have doctor West and dr. Gown to tell us the difference between the two and Also, how some of the procedures are done Dr. Gown, what is the breast reduction surgery? So those are bipolar opposites the breast reduction surgery is when a woman comes in complaining about the overly large size of her Breasts causing issues such as back pain neck pain headaches Deep grooves from the bra straps moisture that develops under the folds of the breasts and they're coming in really from relief of those symptoms We treat those just like any cosmetic surgery But sometimes the insurance will cover the cost of that surgery to relieve those symptoms And what it is is removing excess breast tissue and performing a breast lift at the same time to give the patient a more youthful Look and at the same time reliever symptoms by taking away the weight of that extra mass Okay, now what would be the breast augmentation? So breast augmentation be the opposite so a patient who comes in and she feels that she doesn't have large enough breast Sometimes it's a very straight forward procedure where we put an implant in and we have a lot of as you can see a wider Variety of implants we can use sometimes it means putting an implant and doing a lift at the same time So it really depends on what the patient needs Okay, well, I do you have a couple of different samples here, so I'm holding a natural Looks like it's smooth and one that's a bit rough going so what's the difference between these two? So what you're holding your hands? There are both gel implants. This is the generation of four implant This is the generation of five slight differences between the two They're both gel if I were to take a scissor and cut this one in half. It's not going to run all over the floor It's I got a very it's not yellow exactly stays together This one even more so you can feel it. It's a little bit thicker Yes, I would cut this in half it actually you can see that the definite line between the two is built like a gummy bear This is that gummy bear implant that you're hearing talked about in the news today The different textures this one's a smooth this one's has a texture to it If you look at the side profile one of them looks like an actual breast shape It's shaped in the teardrop the texture acts to keep it Positioned on the chest so that we don't have problems with the rotation right yet So this doesn't end up at the top that doesn't end up the top or the side that looks a little bit awkward Whereas the round doesn't matter if it turns within the body it maintains the same shape now If since this has a more natural look would you think this is this the obvious choice? I think that what I find I use a lot of the gummy bear that the implant you're holding now for reconstruction patients So we probably using about 80% of our our patients and they really get a very nice Look after reconstruction in cosmetic surgery. I would say it's not as a big part of our practice Most people these days are still using the traditional round implant So it but it really depends on what is the appearance that the person is trying to achieve So for somebody who comes in and says I want the most natural look I can possibly get with a very smooth transition where there's no roundness at all that people typically associate with Implants then you might go to the shaped implant for most people though We end up the round implant generally tends to be a really good choice. Why is that? Well, it's been around for a long time And most people are able to achieve a really pretty look then it comes down to picking the right implant So we can you know There's a lot of different techniques that we use to assess somebody to figure out What's the perfect implant because at the end of the day most people are coming in their main concern is How do I find that perfect implant? Which gives me the look that I want and Dr. Down can really talk to you about how we do that Sometimes we tend to associate, you know that having the nice big brown breasts for people who are you know kind of Arm candy wives sort of say is it really affordable? Is it not affordable? Can it just be for the average woman, you know goes to church on Sunday? Absolutely. It's an absolutely affordable procedure It's very safe. It's very quick. There's quick recovery and nowadays we have the advantage of a entire slew of different devices that are Customized to each individual patient in the past we used to have three choices for breast augmentation small medium large Now we measure base diameter We measure how much projection the woman wants and we use a lot of Trying on the implants with sizing bras and now 3d technology as well where we take a picture of the patient We rotate that in three-dimensional space on the computer We have every different style shape size variety of implant and you can preview what you're going to look like with different sized implants And this is an extremely powerful tool and that oftentimes guides the choice of do you want an overly augmented look? Do you want a more softer natural look? Do you remain maintain a sporty look or do you want to go very large in size? Would you say for in terms of health and aesthetics is very perfect size? I don't think you know it's interesting. I think that as it relates to to health I don't think so. I think that the a different size makes sense for different builds and for different desires So like Dr. Gallo saying there's some people who want a very athletic look They don't want to be overly large You want to be able to participate in sports without their breast implants hindering them for other people? Maybe they're not as active there. They do something else with their lives where they want more tension They want a larger size the size isn't really going to impact the health It's really more of an issue of trying to pick the right size to deliver the goal for that particular patient What would it be the average recovery time for augmentation? I've had patients who've gone out dancing by the end of the week and some there's a little bit sore by the end of week too But again, it's not something that's going to take you out of your life to where you have to take weeks and weeks off of work Before going back and enjoying the activities you like most. Okay. Well, thank you, Dr. Gallo and thank you Dr. West. If you like more information, please check out their website at finesseplasticsurgery.com We'll be back with every day fitness Have you ever read a food label, but you get all confused with all the numbers we have Alicia here That's gonna explain how to read them. How do you read them? Oh How do I read them? I look at a food label and sometimes I'm overwhelmed and I actually know what's in there What's the first thing you look at on a food label? Oh my god I am so embarrassed to even admit it calories and I know I'm probably wrong, huh calories calories. Yeah, wrong answer Personally, I like to scroll all the way down. Don't you ever want to skip to the end of the book? I like to scroll all the way down and look at the ingredients. I want to know what's in my food So what's the it's listed by quantity? So whatever shows up first on the ingredient list is what there is a lot of in the food and and then as it goes It's the quantity is lower and lower and lower So you want to know what's in your food if the first ingredient in there is something you cannot pronounce Or it's which half of them are there you go. I say skip it Skip it if the first ingredient is something you semi-recognize go for it I like to also stay with something that has less than at least 10 ingredients if it's five ingredients You're solid. So that's the first thing next thing I look at is probably the Serving size. Oh my god talking about serving size Yeah, I hate it when they you know, I go by at the grocery store a cupcake for example And it's a serving size for I'm looking at I can eat the whole damn cupcake, you know So and a few more right a few more. So how do you read that? So serving size is actually really important to look at a nutrition The facts it's important to know how much of it is a serving size And like for example a can of coke is two and a half servings Do you share your coke with two and a half people? No, probably right So yeah, serving size is important to look at like a bag of chips is about 10 servings So you separate I just want to look at it and make sure so if you look at it And it says okay, it's two and a half servings You got to look at that cat coke can and say okay I can only drink about like a fourth of this Maybe close to half or half and that's what's gonna give you the whatever thing You know, it's really interesting that you mentioned that because for example Let's go back to the bag of chips and this is you know Feeds 10 or servings 10, but you eat the whole bag. How much do you gain? That's a good Do you like that all calories or so right? I mean if you look at the calories, it's a lot Yeah, okay. Well, okay. Let's go to the apples for example the apples each apple has like a little sticker What are those stickers? Oh, I'm really glad you brought that up That's actually something clients ask me about all the time when you buy your fruits and vegetables They have stickers on them and each one is a different code if the code starts with a nine And it's a five-digit code. It's organic if it starts with a three or four It's conventional, which means it may have been treated with pesticides may not have and then if it starts with a Eight and it's a five-digit code, then it's genetically modified. So it's a GMO. What's pesticides. Sorry Pesticides are chemicals that they use to keep flies away from the fruits and vegetables But at the same time there there's something that we ingest and that's something that you can never get rid of So you can't detox that out of your body. It's once it's in your body. It's in your body for good So and what's that organic? Other work that you said sorry I can't organic so organic if it's if it starts with a nine and it's organic You know, it's locally or hopefully it's locally, but it's it's produced It's more produce and they don't use herbicides pesticides and all of those chemicals What advice would you give me for example like is shopping, you know When I'm trying to lose weight because I'm always like in the verge of trying to lose weight What should I look at on a label? So I would like I said what we'll stick to three I would look at the ingredients first see if you can get the one with least amount of ingredients and Then the second thing I would look at is the serving size and then maybe I'll look at the sugar Serving size and sugar that's easy enough, right? Okay, so not fat Not necessarily because sometimes when the fat content is high It's actually a good thing like if you're looking at nuts and the fat content is high on there It's good fat So you don't want to get rid of it just because the label says it's high fat doesn't mean you should get rid of it I have a perfect question though cuz I know like when I go to the doctor a lot of people You know they the doctor says watch your sodium. What is sodium? Okay? That's that's another good question So sodium actually helps with fluid retention. So when we hold on to our water weight it's usually because of sodium and You want to pick foods that are lower in sodium? It helps reduce that water retention and drink lots of water Yeah, I need that milk. What about milk? Milk, okay, so if you remember a long time ago, we had this issue with RBST and hormones in the milk So nowadays if you buy milk, there's a little logo on it that says RBST free Which means the cows were not treated with hormones. Yay for us, right? Okay. Okay. Okay, and if they were treated We don't want to drink that milk, which is why there you have it that was my 101 class for nutrition labels For food labels. I hope this was very informational for you and we will be right back Yeah