 The narcissist doesn't get over you. They don't return to their usual state of health or happiness after having a bad or unusual experience with you. They don't overcome their problems and difficulties. Before the narcissist even met you, they already had a lot of emotional baggage from their childhood or past relationships. And that was what they brought into their relationship with you. That is why things turned out in the way that they did. Because from what they've learned, they think that's how you're supposed to treat people. They think it's okay, and they want you to think that they've moved on and they're so much happier without you. They want everyone to think that you were the problem. When it's just not true, the narcissist doesn't get over you. They want you to think that they do. In most situations, the narcissist will act like they got over you overnight, even if they were with you for years. They've been gaslighting you for such a long period of time that you no longer trust yourself. You no longer trust your own perceptions. You're willing to believe anything they tell you because they have trained you to trust their validation. So even if it's been one day and they tell you they've moved on, and they're happy without you, you might believe it because you don't trust your own intuition. But just think about that for a moment. If you have been with someone for years, are you really going to be able to get over them overnight? Does that sound probable or realistic? Even though the narcissist may be cold-hearted, even though they may lack affection and warmth, they may lack care and consideration for you. It doesn't mean that they will be able to get over you that quickly. The narcissist is obsessive by nature. They are very possessive and controlling. They are addicted to the conveniences you provide to them. They are addicted to how you make them feel. They're like junkies. And that is why they could never leave you alone. That is why they used up so much of your time and energy. So they're not just going to forget about you that quickly. The narcissist cannot give up their addiction without serious withdrawal symptoms. The narcissist doesn't get over you. They will try to make it look like they have. But the fact that they do this so quickly should give it away to you. It should make you realize that it's not real. Because it takes time to move on. They jump from one person to the next. Because for a moment it helps to suppress what they're really feeling. But it never goes away. Which is why the narcissist can often seem so bitter and resentful after the discard. They will often try to take revenge on you. They will enforce flying monkeys and start a smear campaign against you. And yet, at the same time, they expect you to believe that they've moved on and they're happy. When that's just not something a happy person would do, the truth is they're still attached to you. And they can't let go. In many cases, they believe their own lies. They've tricked themselves into thinking that you did them wrong or that you didn't do enough of them. And they want you to think that it doesn't bother them. They want you to think that they've moved on and they're so much happier without you. But the fact that they're making all of this effort to get you to see them in this light should be a red flag to you. Because if they were really happy, you would never see them again. They wouldn't be talking to people about you. You would never hear anything about them. They wouldn't keep popping up in your life. They would just leave you alone. The reason why they keep coming back is because they're still attached to you. They're still bothered by the thought of you moving on and being happy without them. And actually, they think that you are happy without them. They think that your life is so much better without them. Which is why they are trying to portray this image to you. They may even try to cut you down and act like what you're doing isn't that great? Because in their minds, everything is either black or white. You're either a winner or a loser. And if they see that you're winning in life, then they must be the losers. Narcissists are very good at perception management. They are good at altering your perceptions. They know how to plan and coordinate the elements of a situation to produce the desired effect. They know how to change the way you think or feel about a person's situational event. Just remember when you first met them. When they love bombed you. They gave you a mistaken impression. They deliberately caused you to believe something that was not true. For their own personal gain. They promoted a belief concept or idea that was not true. They deceived you. They tricked you by using dishonest behaviour. And then they secured you as their source of supply. And what they're doing now is no different. They're just fooling someone else. And they're trying to fool you. It serves two purposes. They're trying to hurt you. By making you think that they're happy with someone else. When really they're just using that person. And the new person is either too naive to figure that out or maybe they're just using an analysis too.