 Okay, we are live for another 40-time livestream Number 12. Wow, we've done 12 already. That's like three months in a row, is it? Maybe? Yeah. Cool. Awesome. That's everyone doing. Oh my god, it's been another one of those weeks, you know? It's been a bit crazy. I actually... I was supporting a residential recently for autistic young people, or disabled young people. Kind of took them away for a couple of days, did some workshops around the working life and how they can get adjustments and have a little chat. We're actually... I'm actually creating a film at some point with the organisation that I work at called NDTI, which is... It's all about inclusion, and we're going to basically try to highlight the voices of those young people as much as possible. It's cool. It was very tiring, but I'm glad I did it, and it's good to be back home ready for another livestream. Anyway, how are you all doing? Hi, Joshua. Hi, Austin. Hello, Anthony. Thank you for joining the stream. Awesome. Yeah, so I realised that I didn't put much of a reminder out, because I actually forgot that I was doing a live today, and so I kind of popped up a little bit earlier. So yeah, didn't have much prep for that. Hi, Angela. Hi, Austin. Austin, are you joining from two different streams? Cool. Well, just as per usual, this is a chance to talk about or ask me anything about autism, anything about myself, my life, mental health. You can go with everything. I have an open book. JanieCF asks, love that. Can you tell us the name of the organisation again, please? Sure. It's called NDTI. So it's the National Development Team for Inclusion. It's a very good place. Very cool. You're on both of them, Austin. Thank you. So neurodivergent unicorn kitty. Like my name. Hello from Vegas. Las Vegas, eh? Sin City. If that's what they call them, call it. Maybe. Good. Good. My speech is a bit broken today, because as I said, I've been socialising for about three days straight. So it's not going to be on par, as usual. Yeah, it is. Cool. Where is everybody from? Let me know. How's your day been? How's your week been so far? You got anything planned for the weekend? Anything cool going on? Love to know. I'm going to put a bit of music in my headphones in the background, as usual. Some chill music on. I'll do it. Las Vegas, yeah. Happy Friday. Jordan's calling in from Dudley. How you doing, Jordan? Nice to see you, man. Joshua G says a small village in Northern Ireland called Bali-Goen. I'm hoping to see my girlfriends on the bank holiday Monday. Can't wait. Awesome. Really cool. Really cool. Yeah, the place that we were doing the residential out was Leeds. So it was actually quite close. But I tend to struggle very much in the mornings, especially when I have to travel very early in the morning. So I stayed over in Leeds. We went, I think, to an animal sanctuary place. Really cool place. Got to hold a snake and a chinchilla and some rats and stuff. It was really cool. The young people loved it. It was a really lovely time. Remember to rest after an intensive day. That is a very good idea. And I shall do. Very much so. I'm going to be snuggled up in my sheets tonight, that's for sure. I don't know. I mean, I do want to go to the gym, but I've hurt my elbow last week because I was doing too many pressing movements at the gym. So possibly not gym tonight. Possibly not for the rest of the week. I might give it a bit of a rest. Go easy on yourself. Paddle Queen Leila says surfing, open water swimming, out, outrigger, canoeing in South Florida. Very cool. Remember to stay hydrated. Leeds is the best city. Do you like it, Rod? It's pretty cool. It's quite close to home, so it's not too far. I know a lot of people who live in my own town tend to go there because my place is not so great in terms of party destinations and stuff, so most people go to Leeds when they want to go for a night out. Jane ECF says, I think my 20-year-old has autistic burnout. He is really slowed with everything, partly speech and processing. Any tips except for oops to rest and backing off on demands? Yeah, I think resting and taking a step back is good. More energy than usual, try and do something. It doesn't have to be a really big thing. It could just be a little thing that they do just to show them that they can still do stuff and build it back up. But I think it's very dependent on the person, really, I would say. Keifa from the United States, Angela from the Netherlands. Probably going to see The Little Mermaid. I have not seen that yet. Is it out in cinemas? Yeah, Tender Night is Austin. It's annoying. It's the first week of bumping on my volume as well. Crazy. Miss Lady Sapphire says, I find myself packing for the whole day when I leave the house, sensory stuff, extra clothes, adventure and stamp bag, guitar, et cetera. Turns like a good plan. I wish I was that organised. Michelle Herr says, I'm an autistic writer. It's been very hard to write the whole script in one day, but writing it is taking too much time. Any tips for a writer? I'd remember that you always have a certain limited amount of energy a day, and you tend to be very focused in on things, but then, particularly for me, if I've got a project that I'm really excited about doing and I just keep working at it all day, I kind of forget to drink and I forget to eat and I forget to rest, and if you keep doing that on a daily basis and not maintaining your sleep schedule and stuff, you can very much just, I don't know, you can be heading for a burnout, so it's good to try and check in with yourself quite a lot, see how you're doing. I find that if you're struggling with the focus element, which I doubt much of you would be, association with music tends to help, so like, whenever I put music on while I'm in my office, it tends to be when I'm working, so I've got that kind of... Josh, you asked, have you tried the Over Air WH-1000 MX-5s? I have not. They sound really cool, though. Good, I'm glad, Janie. Your body's adjusting, yep. Any tips for moving into my flat from Jack? I'm overwhelmed already with even the thought of moving out and living somewhere new. I mean, you've got a few options. You could do it in trunks, if that works, or you could try and save up a bit of energy before a day that you're going to do it all and then get it all done in a day. Perhaps if you have anyone to help you, even if it's for a small amount of the day, or if it's something that you might find difficult, I think that'll help a lot as well. I think living somewhere new is a different thing, because it's adjusting to the environment, and then whenever I've moved somewhere else, it's kind of like you're missing that sort of sense of security and safety that you usually have when you're in the other place. So I think just trying to make the room look as most representative of you as possible, whether that be copy your old room, move in some of the stuff that you had in your room. There's lots of things that you can do, but I think over time, it'll be something that you'll adjust to. It's just sometimes can be a bit tough. Thank you very much for the batch, Janie. I appreciate it a lot. That's awesome. Thank you. Joshua says, remember to stay hydrated. That's your hydration check from Joshua. The hydration checking man. Awesome. I love it. You have those headphones too. How are they, Austin? Are those those WF1000 ones that they were talking about? Are they noise cancelling? Because that's the first thing that I check for when I go through like a new pair of headphones or something. I want to be able to wear it out and about. Well, I've got a few plans in terms of posts next week. I'm going to try and do some more stuff around Alexa Fimea. So that's going to be going to be fun. I'm going to do a post on what it is. I'm going to do a post on my experiences and how to manage and understand the your emotional world better from my own self kind of improvement journey. Alexa Fimea is such a massive part of like everything that I've experienced in life. So it's a topic that's very close to my heart. And I realized that I've only really done a post about it talking about my experiences with Alexa Fimea in childhood with that kind of aspect of just, you know, I kind of thought that I had like multiple personalities or disintegrative identity disorder, the idea around that time because I couldn't like identify what emotion I was feeling at the time. So I thought whenever I was in the different emotion I was like, oh, that must be a different person. It's weird. It's weird how like young brains perceive and interpret the world. Especially when I am a very weird person. Yeah, they've got good noise cancelling, very, very good. I might have to check it out. Come see the museum this summer. What museum? Welcome to the stream. I'm Aranth and Andrew and Alberta. Thank you for joining. BF for bemusing. Yeah, so I'm going to talk a bit about Alexa Fimea a bit more lately. I know I made a reel about it and I kind of did a bit of writing under it, but I did realize like going through my notes pages that I hadn't made like an official proper light carousel in depth post on it. So that's going to be fun. That's going to be good. Has anyone seen The Little Mermaid? How is it? So I actually quite like that film. I think it's good. The Dudley Zoo and there's a castle. Sounds cool. Sounds cool. I think I'm definitely going to have a bit of a rest this weekend. I got some on Monday. Some, you know, like a social thing. So I've got to save my energy up, but I also realized that I've got to edit my podcasts and I've got to do my social media page. So it's going to be a bit of a non-weekend this weekend. Are you still dreaming? Ask. Your content makes me feel brave and accepted. Thank you for what you do. I'm a new follower. I am also an odd HDer slash 16 year old girl who does music. Well, I'm very glad that I can provide some help with that. It's difficult. When I was 16, I didn't really have any of the resources within the autistic community and I would have really, really needed something like that when I was younger. So I hope that you can get something from me and the other graders and... Yeah, I mean, what kind of music do you do that would be interested to know? RunsKaty asks, are some emotions harder for you to identify than others? I definitely know some of them are easier. I think the positive emotions are a lot harder for me to identify just because I have so much more experience with the negative ones and they're a lot more kind of in my face. I've had situations where I've got overwhelmed of excitement and had a meltdown, but that's only happened a few times. It's mostly the anxiety, anger, sadness, perhaps. Those are the ones that are a little bit easy for me to pinpoint. I guess it depends, because there's a lot of different ones and there's a lot of complex ones and there's lots of combinations of different emotions that people have come up with. I'd say that the top ones are usually the negative ones, but I don't really struggle to identify much else now. I'm pretty good at identifying my emotions at the moment. Happiness, a little bit fleeting sometimes, so I'm not too sure. Andrew Luk Tak 1 asks, Do you have friends more than I do? I do have friends. I don't know where I have more than you. Yeah, I do. I do have a podcast, and I recently added it to Amazon Music, so you can check it out now if you want. Do you have an easier time dating? Then who? I don't have a hard time with it. I don't really know, it's hard to compare unless you ask other people, I suppose it's not really something that I tend to talk to my friends about really. Just you says the fact that you have more experience with make affirmation sounds to me sort of like RSD. Yeah, I definitely do have issues with rejection, but it tends less to be more of an issue within relationships or friendships that have already been established. Stuff with strangers perhaps doesn't really bother me that much. I know in situations where I have fans of unattractive, like the gym also met and I've gone to chat to them, there's a little bit more of the RSD coming in because you kind of... I don't know, something that I noticed that you just kind of... because I'm so direct and because we tend to be a lot more direct, those kind of indirect signs and signals, you don't really have an idea of what the person is like, so it's hard really to understand their indirect communication and there's people that I know, it's a lot simpler because I know how they react to things and what they look like and you know, it's... I think it really depends, but I definitely say that people that I have a strong connection with, I feel those RSD come in, but the negative emotions, it's more to do mental health to be honest, it's less to do with that kind of thing. I've got a question to ask. Hey Kieran, welcome to the Streamman, how are you doing? Amaranth asks, does Alex of Armia get worse when you are tired because of burnout or sleep? I think anything that requires cognitive processing is probably going to be worse when you're tired. As I said, you kind of have... the way to go is to check in with yourself and just learn to do it on a more frequent basis. It's also about looking at the different signs that you might be feeling a certain emotion and you can do that through your physical feelings like when I'm anxious I can feel it in my legs, I can feel this kind of light sensation of it and it's crawling on my bones. It's not very fun. And then you have the behavioral things so the way that you interact with people might be different and you also have the cognitive differences. So how are you thinking about things? If you're sad, are you perhaps thinking about sad things? Just stuff like that and just being able to kind of link it all together. And that does require energy, definitely. So I would assume so. I think that's what happens to me and my boyfriend at different levels. Could possibly. I know that it can... Well, it's going to be the first. I can talk about it. I think another thing is like a media-emotional reaction sometimes specifically with neurotypical autistic relationships or autistic. Because usually it's quite hard for us to really pinpoint exactly how we're feeling about what someone says or how we're feeling about a certain situation or a certain feeling that other persons have had. So a lot of the time our immediate reactions aren't always the truth of how we feel about that. It just takes us longer to process it. So sometimes you can have situations where you have perhaps a disagreement or you have some kind of negative emotion or even a positive emotion and then you kind of go back on it like a week later and you're just kind of thinking about it all the time. You're like, you know what? I don't actually feel like that was representative of what I thought and feel but I couldn't pinpoint exactly why and then like a week later long texts and trying to decipher exactly how you feel and it works and it's usually different to what you reacted to in the moment. So on our side it can be really difficult if you're elixopharmic and people are kind of forcing you to understand how you feel about certain things immediately and then on the other side it can be quite hard for the other person to I guess trust what your reactions are to certain things and perhaps not expect some long backtracking situation which I understand I understand it from both sides I feel like if people understood those things especially in relationships it could be a lot easier for people to be more understanding about your partner works or how the other person works could be friends as well to be honest or parents How has my week been so far? Yeah it's been good it's been exhausting it's been busy and lots of socialising so good and bad because I'm knackered but I've had a good time Do I have any sleeping difficulties? Yep Especially this week Being away from home in a different environment it's always going to produce that kind of feeling I suppose Red looks good on you, thank you very much Joshua G. Williamson's What's your podcast called? It is the Forty Aughty It's called Forty Aughty The Autism Podcast It's pretty much everywhere so if you just type it on Google it will come up like Spotify, Apple or YouTube I also have clips over on YouTube sort of shorter more kind of focused in topic question kind of thing looking big in that shirt thank you I actually haven't been to the gym this week and you know when you haven't been for a while and you lose kind of the residual pump from like the previous that you would usually have from going to the gym consistently so I'm feeling very flat at the moment but I appreciate that Andrew looked out I guess I want to ask if high school was easy for you or what it was like for you No, it was awful I hated it We got the secondary school in the UK and it was there's a lot of stuff a lot of negative things, some positive things but a lot of negativity and it's primarily one of the reasons why I have such bad mental health just because of the experiences that I had you're holding up, I'm glad not too bad as I said it's um it's been a week week and a half the Cortes says also on Remeron thanks for doing a review of it it was an older post I'd probably say that a lot of ways I did that holds up although I haven't watched it in a while Remeron for anybody wondering is metazapine so it's like subscribe for sleep for me it helps me with the anxiety-producing effects of SSRIs kind of helps me tolerate some a lot more so that's why I'm on them but one of the bad things is that it's quite an appetite stimulant and a half so it can be very very difficult if you have pre-existing eating disorders like binge bingeing like me describing things I think I'm pretty good you don't like feeling deflated yeah it's not a good feeling but I'm sure next week once my elbow is feeling a little better I'll be back at it where's my brace that you say on it it says Leeds Youth Council it's from this I think Leeds is one of these it's like a charity I can't remember what it's called it's like the child friendly charity so it's basically like a scheme that different areas and localities combine which is basically trying to make policies and systems a lot more friendly for children and families so it's really cool someone's handing out bracelets when we went to that animal place so bit one up I don't usually get them but it sounds like something that I definitely feel definitely agree with just wish it was more of that specifically for autistic kids in secondary school that would be great anyway as I said please if you want check in and give me some questions you can use the little question bubble at the bottom on Instagram or the comments on YouTube if you want to ask a question or you could very well just send a little message or comment on on Instagram I'm probably going to stream for another half an hour let's go through the hour point as per usual all questions welcome your questions very much make the stream for me so I really appreciate it how am I I think we've had that one I appreciate it Lydia I'm good thank you bit tired bit tired looking forward to doing some work next week and perhaps not looking so forward to doing all of my social media and podcast work in two days that's going to be a bit of a stretch I got a day off next week just because I worked three days this week so that's an upside so let's start with a bit of a longer week away from work what's my favourite animal what's your favourite breed of dog and what's your favourite animal my favourite animal it's a good question I probably like those like kind of frog like geckos I love those I like reptiles and I like fish and aquatic animals they're usually cool I love dogs I think my favourite breed of dog is a grey hound or a wittet it's not very common like favourite dog breed but I just like them there's just something about them they're just really cool they can run really fast so I have had a fair few dogs my big brother was a dog my first dog was called Bob he was one year old and me and my parents got him a year before they had me I think he lived up to he was about 15 and then he got dementia but he was a really good dog he was really lovely so he's a mongrel jet black jet black eyes he's lovely and then I've had quite a few dogs tiny dogs, absolutely gigantic dogs medium sized dogs we're very much being a dog person all my life but I like the odd cat you know hope I have a lovely weekend you too Imogen I like them all over Florida they can be really noisy though because there was a gecko outside just outside of my bedroom when I lived in Thailand and I can't remember what we called him but he was the noisiest little thing and he always used to do it at night time so he was very hard to sleep sometimes with whatever his name was on the side of our roof and at one point we had a girlfriend so there was two of them so that was equally just as fun Amaren says I'd love to be a content creator on science stuff specifically biomedicine and neuroscience but I don't even know where to start any advice yes I would collect a list of all the different accounts that you want to somewhat be like take some notes from them take the things that seem to work for them look at some different YouTubers about you know you've got lots of people online who are talking about social media things if you watch loads of videos over the course of a few weeks on social media and you sort of get your own schedule and you plan together and you stay consistent it's definitely an achievable point for a lot of people it does require sometimes a lot of work and a hefty good spoon full of luck I would say definitely Joshua Dee says I have a dog called Floyd he's in my political picture my dad named him after being Floyd interesting another interesting fact about me is that I am absolutely awful with celebrities I don't know any of them and there's a fly in my room we've talked a little bit about Alexa is there any autism concept? I have been thinking of I'm working with my business partner a lady called Zora we're going to be creating some planners and some workbooks and some video courses together and I think one of them I think with the planners we're going to try and use the spoon theory ways to do that and of course Joshua we're going to have a hydration counter just as a little bit of achievement to encourage us to drink water there's going to be a lot of cool things different sections where you can write down what different feelings feel like we're going to have little journal areas that you can use and it's going to be cool all the movie stars are now I very much like I don't have a sense of like social authority very much I'm more willing to talk to someone if they're interesting rather than if they're like a notable person you know someone's nice someone's got something interesting so more likely to talk to them really don't have that sometimes can be a good thing because it's just nice not to be like that but also some people can get offended sometimes if you don't like notice their greatness hi Lisa how you doing hi Ashley how's it going we are probably got about 25 minutes left at the stream it's going quickly so if you want to ask any questions please feel free I would much appreciate I'm good we've had that for a few years a few times I'm good who would you want to play you in a movie oh my god well here's the thing I need to know about celebrities to know that um I don't know not sure I'm not sure I don't think I can come up with an interesting answer to that I'm just gonna go with like a celebrity that I somewhat feel I could have a good chat with maybe like Keanu Reeves or something although I don't know if he's very much like my personality he could be then again I don't know because I don't know celebrities not terrible you're procrastinating on going for a run and lifting yeah I relate it's been a busy week so I'm weighing up whether I should go to the gym or not very weird and random question if you were able to be in an animal objects which one would you be which an animal objects would I be um I don't know I'll have to think about that um probably a fidget cube let's go with fidget cube yeah I get that from Keanu I saw like an interview with him with um like I think he had like an interview with like a dog or cement he was biting his feet um he does kind of have that aura around him perhaps then again I think you could say that for a lot of different different people within the media and the film industry he'd be a stuffed animal yeah well I suppose there's a lot of variance that you can have with that because you could just get like a stuffed stuffed animal of yourself that sounds awful Jailer asks what is the secret of lifting weights um man pickup human pickup heavy thing put heavy thing down um now um consistency um people talk a lot about motivation and it's kind of right you do have to be motivated sometimes to start at least but consistency is the main thing and enjoying that if you enjoy something you're much more likely to do that to find something that you enjoy doing that's healthy and fair and you know if you do want to lift a lot away and put muscle on you know there are specific things that are probably gonna be more beneficial to that but um if you're just looking to get fit and healthy and stuff there's so many options you can go with you can go sport you can go for like cardio and long distance you can do like events like in athletics there's so many things to pick from and um a lot of individuals fall so you don't necessarily have to be part of that team obviously there is an aspect of lifting weights is that the dietary component of that which is like the protein and getting some good minerals and vitamins and then you know it's all stuff that you can find online there's a lot of really good YouTubers out there who provide a lot of free information I learn everything about it from from these people so they're really great I'm uh I'm thinking at the moment, so I remember last stream I said that I was going to get one of those spinny things that I can use in the chat one of the good things about this weekend is that pretty much in in any space I've been in there's always been like a spinning office chair that I can just spin around on so I've had the opportunity to regulate quite a bit on those things which I'm happy about that's my favorite color um the the darkest shade of pink ever probably which is black um Ayolo Edwards asks can you talk about the issues you faced in bodybuilding with autism um I don't know if it's necessarily due to being autistic that I've had any issues I actually found it to be more of a strength more than anything um I think initially getting into the habit the gym was hard because it was kind of a different change in routine perhaps the stuff around diet you know being consistent with preparing food and making it can tax your executive function quite a lot um and you also you know it's a it'll be different for everybody because if you're really interested in it then it's not gonna it's gonna be like a special interest you know it's gonna be something that you enjoy learning about and applying in theory and practice so it's it's never really a thing and once you're in that routine of things it's much easier to add than I would say for most people so there's a lot of benefits to it um sometimes the issue is primarily about the sensory and social environment at the gym can be quite hard sometimes especially if it's very busy um I'd say that those the sensory and the social elements are obviously gonna be really big things but you know perhaps if you have a really quiet chill gym couldn't be an issue personally I've faced a lot but big ones have been how tight my muscles are in your shoulders mostly so that's like a sensory component of that hmm I imagine you do a lot of bench pressing then um yeah I think it's a sensation that I like like after you've gone to the gym and you've got like a pump on your muscles that I quite like that I can imagine that some people want that do you like Yorkshire tea I don't like tea what car do I have I don't I don't have a car I don't drive I can drive I don't do you ever work out at ham um I somewhat do I don't like do like a proper workout I have my dumbbell that I use for like wrist strengthening my wrist is always like a limiting factor as you would say a limiting factor with a lot of the lifts that I do so I'm having to put a bit more effort into it and it's also good to start you from getting as much elbow pain as I've researched um the issue was is that I wasn't doing the extension part of it which apparently is important for stabilizing the old elbow Miss Lady Safa says I either shut down or share too much I'm a pulled answer so I'm always getting the question on what kind of training you do I only do it for sports not in the club just for clarification um yeah I'm yeah I mean it's what do you do you mean like you shut down and and stuff when people approach you and ask you about the ask you about your your skills you don't drive the other car Lily no it's it's it's so it's much more of a drain for me to like it's it's so worth it for me to to get a taxi or to go bus or something rather than driving so it just takes up so much energy so much executive functioning points for me to do that I do use straps Austin on any excise that I can it's just it it's still much very much as it was particularly a problem because at one point I maxed out the black pull down at my gym and um even with the straps it's it's still tough you get social burnout yeah and that's hard because sometimes it can be quite nice especially if that's like the only kind of shed space that you go to and you're wanting to make friends sometimes that's a good thing it'd be good if you could have like a do you know how sims have that kind of green crystal above the head you know like it could be green when you have like lots of social battery and energy just to speak to people and they can be orange if you have like a little bit and red if you like nope stay away from me that would be great maybe you should implement that get some scientists to work on that oh my god this would be so funny walking down the street with everyone with a virtual green thing above the head a bit bit scary actually hi Hina welcome to the stream Ben Arval says big fan of what you're doing I am myself autistic and so is my podcast co-host co-host we interview power lifting coaches and lifters very cool very very cool would you like to interview me if so please send me an email in my link tree I'd love to have your grant Paul is a good workout I can imagine that that is a good visual sims 4 in real life let's get it let's get it implemented shall we I think that would be good sorry to go on about this but do you think my muscle connection is more difficult for autistic people yeah Austin is right I think it depends really it's important I think to know that you're targeting something but if you're doing like a really heavy compound lift like a bench press you know it can be good as like a monitor of how active or of what you're doing in the movement but it's not necessarily gonna change everything if you can just like use really light weights and just feel the squeeze just all the time and you know I'm sure it will help some people but I think just getting better and stronger using the same form on an exercise over time the muscles that are targeted by that exercise are just gonna grow when you want to do that are they gonna get stronger yeah that's a good one hi from Norway hello him you got the email awesome that would be really cool setup I've actually got an interview on Sunday with a dude who has a hate fitness podcast so that's gonna be fun I'm gonna do that it's gonna be grand dotty dodo jojo we'll learn him I'm going to try and learn to drive but I'm wondering if I might find it too difficult or overwhelming can you drive sorry if this has been already been asked I can drive yes but I don't because you know as you said I found it overwhelming I'm sure it would be something I'd be able to get over with a lot of practice and time but I think at this point in my life there's a lot of different things that require more of my energy and it's it's just not something that I enjoy I hate it it's um I mean ideally I would get a motorcycle but I don't want to die so I know it's not it's not a death sentence it's got a few more difficulties with it than perhaps driving does and driving is quite dangerous in itself so um you know Iolo, Austin very much is good at the old lifting so we've got nine minutes left of the stream so if you've got any burning questions that you really want to ask please go ahead I'd like to think I would look cool on a motorcycle I'm sure I would I think maybe I might get a one of those post apocalyptic trikes that you can get no like the big exhausts that come out from the bottom and go over the top like some wacky races kind of style oh my god I would love that but yeah it would have to be big enough so that cars would treat me as a car but also not be a car so I don't like driving it's awful mad max, yeah exactly that's it thanks for your back I'm hoping it might help my independence as a hideaway for a lot of interacting with people on public transport you said my name right, yeah yeah I think sometimes going on public transport and interacting with people is a good way to reduce the anxiety that you feel from approaching people it's usually you can kind of depending on the journey and depending who's sat next to you or stood next to you you know they may want a child they may not want to but at some point because you're going to get off it's not like you can just hang around and keep interacting so I feel like there's less pressure in those kind of situations and if you are wanting to meet people new people, whether it's friends whether it's relationships I think just being able to feel confident with approaching people is going to be a good thing although it is absolutely terrifying absolutely terrifying the worst thing I should start an autism lifestyle and you should Austin I haven't heard of Ryan Dewars or JPG coaching I watch a lot of the youtubers just tend to be ones not all of them, some of them are not very good but I like to take little bits from everybody I've never bought a program I've never bought any PT sessions so everything that I do is always from me because I'm interested in the research, the hell out of it trying to figure out what I'm going to do do after today I don't know if I've got any meetings should probably check we'll check later it's not the time Dotty Dojo Jojo says I used my first bus in about four years three weeks ago I'm challenging myself good, that's awesome it can be really hard just getting back into the routine of things like that because they're just inherently a lot more stressy than a lot of things so trying to add something that's not stressy into a routine isn't too bad there's something quite big like that I think it's tough good on you I'm the same with trains at the moment there was a lot of time where I was not feeling too great about going on the train having about down and shutdowns now that I'm in the flow I think it's a lot better goodbye thank you for coming on and chatting and asking questions much appreciate I should sing something what should I sing? I don't know if I have the capability to sing in a pleasant manner JK Ayala says I watch a bunch of YouTubers and I have a coach but I feel like none of their advice applies to autism ADHD but then I might just be making excuses definitely like the physical practical stuff is applicable but perhaps not the adjustments that they suggest or if you want to go to the gym you have to go to the gym you have to get these things that cause you a lot of sensory distress you don't need to do those particular things but I feel like sometimes they can be a bit undermining of the issues that we have which I'm assuming that's the experiences that you've had and I guess when your ADHD might be a lot more feeling like you need some variance in the exercises that you do as well so that could be something you could just program something in you every day so you've got something fresh from you I'm trying some different variations Joshua J says I remember having to get on my first bus a few weeks ago and my goodness it was very nerve-wracking but thankfully it wasn't as bad as I expected good it's always the case with new things you've got to get into the rhythm of it once you're in the rhythm your brain starts to I know that autistic people struggle with that aspect of habituation like ignoring sensory things but I think to some degree you can you can get used to coping with highly stressful sensory situations like the bus or social situations and you can sort of manage your energy a lot better and I guess you have a little bit of an idea of what it's going to be like before you go there so it's less of a surprise twinkle twinkle little star few fighters that pretend it or any song by David Bowie probably not maybe we'll go through one of the other streams one of the next ones let's do that no let's not do that I don't know if I can do that oh my god well I've got two minutes left on this stream I just want to thank anyone who's bought on insta or subscribe to the membership on youtube much appreciated to anybody who has I don't always pick them up so I just want to say that and of course if you want to go check out the stuff that I do I have all my link tree it's pretty much everywhere you can find my instagram as Austin said I have followed you Austin or you can go on to my youtube on Spotify or Apple Podcast or Amazon Music to check out my podcast which has a lot of notable guests and some people that you may recognize from the autistic community that you can come on and chat about particular topics very very interesting and if you're not looking to watch or listen to a very very long podcast I do have clips over on my youtube channel yeah well done Joshua nice little congratulations from Dottie hello Aileen wearing sneakers welcome to the stream we're nearly finished we've got like a minute left you've messed the bulk of it but I appreciate you coming in how's the setting of the content creation going I hope you're staying hydrated really you know I don't think I'm going to go to the gym so I'm just going to chill better good I'm glad doing some really cool posts I'm good it's very very very tired anyway I'm going to sign off now it's been lovely to chat to you all again and if you want to catch the next one ask some more questions every Friday by 30pm so I shall hopefully see you next week alrighty and remember to stay hydrated everyone see you later youtube thanks guys