 If you struggle with anxious thoughts about your relationship, these relationship insecurities may manifest themselves in a number of harmful and even destructive ways that negatively impact your relationship with your partner. You may feel like you can't control these fears and insecurities and end up projecting them onto your partner. Therefore, it's important to be aware and recognize when your insecurities start to get the better of you. Before we start, we'd like to mention that this video is for educational purposes only. If you feel that you may be insecure in your relationship, talk to your partner or somebody you trust. Seek further support from a professional if you feel like you're finding it hard to manage. With that said, here are nine signs of insecurity in a relationship. Number one, you don't accept yourself. Are you overly critical of yourself or hold yourself to unrealistically high standards? This may have an impact on your relationship if you're not able to give yourself time to work through your own insecurities. If you're unable to accept yourself, then you're less likely to be open to letting another person into your life. It's important to take time for yourself to allow your authentic self to grow. Number two, you feel unseen by your partner. You feel like your partner doesn't see you in the way that you'd like to be seen or expect to be seen. Maybe they don't take time to get to know you fully or try to understand you more intimately. This may leave you feeling confused, anxious and dissatisfied. However, your partner may not be aware of what they're doing and so it's important to communicate your feelings and needs to them to allow your relationship to blossom into a healthy one. Number three, you feel as if your relationship is in a constant state of limbo. Are your plans with your partner always canceled or changed at the last minute? Allowing flexibility when you're making plans is important so that both parties can be present and involved. Feeling like your partner is not reciprocating any of your desire for long term plans, commitment or stability may leave you in limbo, where you question whether they're really interested in a relationship with you. This may lead to feelings of anxiety and a lack of trust that's harmful to a healthy relationship. Number four, you don't trust your partner. Do you doubt every little thing your partner says or stalk their social media? Wanting to go through your partner's personal things may come from a fear that they're not faithful to you. Maybe you were hurt from a previous relationship or have experienced some type of betrayal before, but projecting these insecurities onto your partner can be harmful to your relationship. It prevents you from fully trusting your partner and it makes it difficult for you to open up emotionally. Number five, you struggle with intimacy, emotional regulation and communication. Do you feel your walls going up during an intimate moment with your partner? These in dealing with and regulating emotions lie at the core of attachment insecurity. Closeness and intimacy may mean different things for you and your partner, so it's crucial to communicate with them how you feel and how to approach each other in a more comfortable manner. By voicing out your concerns and worries, your partner may be more able to understand where you're coming from and help you become more comfortable during intimate moments. Number six, you compare yourself to your partner's exes. Do you constantly compare yourself with your partner's exes and worry you don't measure up? This anxiety that you may not be good enough for your partner compared to their past partners may signal that your insecurities are affecting your relationship. It's important to recognize that you and your partner are unique individuals and should be treated as such. Whether it's you or your partner doing the comparing, this tendency can become harmful and toxic for your relationship in the long run. Number seven, your partner is constantly having to reassure you. Do you constantly need to ask your partner if they really love you or find you attractive? Well, there's nothing wrong with craving some reassurance from your partner. The constant need for validation may be a sign that your insecurities are getting the better of you. Seeking excessive reassurance from your partner can even be an indicator of depression caused by attachment to anxiety. Number eight, you may experience jealousy, paranoia, and disbelief. Does your partner say or behave in ways to purposefully make you feel jealous? Maybe it's their controlling behavior, their negative thinking or their sudden clinginess. Their insecurity of losing you and your relationship may end up dominating their behavior. While a certain level of jealousy can be considered healthy, since it's only natural that you don't want anyone breaking up, which you've worked so hard to build with your partner, there is a point where this insecurity may become harmful and toxic. And number nine, you avoid confrontation and fear rejection. Do you tend to avoid confrontation like the plague? This may stem from a fear that your partner will leave you, judge you, or reject you if you disagree or oppose them in any way. By limiting emotional closeness, you end up preventing emotional vulnerability, which is crucial to any healthy relationship. So it's important to set boundaries and practice honest communication so you can voice your concerns without worrying that it'll end your relationship. Do you or your partner relate to any of these signs? Are you insecure about your relationship? Tell us about it in the comments below. 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