 G'day mate, Forty here on the Manley Fast Ferry. All right, we're getting ready to rock it over to Manley from Circular Key, which is by the Sydney Opera House. There's the Opera House. Here we go. So Fast Ferry takes about 14 minutes regular ferry. It takes about 24. And we're off. Just love being on Sydney Harbour. How could you have a negative view of life when you're in a place like this? It's funny, I brought my laptop with me and there's this tiny pinprick of light. It's just bugging me. So when I watch shows on my laptop like I like to chill out at the end of the day, you know, walking about 10 miles a day. Oh, Phyllis Carlisle, influential talent manager and producer. I interviewed her. Okay, she just died. So I did a book with about 60 interviews of Hollywood producers and she was one of them. She started out as a casting director. So most of the producers I interviewed, they started out as lawyers. So she managed the careers of William Defoe, Gina Davis, Melanie Griffith, and you go see a John Malkovich. She produced films including Seven and The Accidental Tourist. She was just a great interview. Just so raw. She says, Ayn Rand said something once in a book that stayed with me my whole life. You know everything you need to know about somebody in the first 30 seconds and you spend the rest of the time, you know, the learning that you were right. So first producing Credit was on the Accidental Tourist. Remember that movie from 1988? It was just really frank. So I talked to her around 2003. And I'm looking through my my Apple iPhone and it had this article on nine phrases you can use to brighten someone's day. I really wanted to share this with you because like brighten someone's day, that's just the perfect article to accompany some video Sydney Harbour. They're having purpose in life as associated with greater life satisfaction and better health. So here we go. Use these nine little phrases to instantly brighten someone's day. I think what's more important than the words is your state. But if you're a gloomy Gus and you're using these phrases to brighten someone's day, I don't think they're going to be terribly brightening. But it's true. We do underestimate how happy we can make other people, particularly when we give them a compliment. So say, I am proud of you. Yeah. So you can use this with big achievements like a promotion or graduation, but there are all sorts of little things when people make progress when they try something for the first time when they demonstrate good character. Right. You can say I'm proud of you. Another one is I see your gifts. I remember in my days as a worker, like how much would mean to me at times. And I was struggling. But someone would appreciate me and see my gifts. Tell me more about that. Ask people to tell you more about their interest, feelings, and experiences. Find out what's important to them. Ask them to elaborate on their experiences. Invite them to go deeper. Share their perspective. Tell me more about how you interpreted that feedback. Right. So here's the picture. Tell someone now there's someone and then there's someone after you tell them I love you as you are. I just feel lucky you're on our team. I admire you. Love spending time with you. I am grateful for you. The expressions of gratitude start a positive upward cycle. Thank you for cooking dinner. I'm grateful for your insightful comments in that meeting. Thank you for a great phone call. That you are making a difference. Remind people the ripple effect of their actions. Point out how their work accumulates to make a bigger impact on the world. You inspire me in the way you show up for your friends and your family. It's made me think about how I can be a better friend. You can do this. All right. We've all struggled with gaining confidence so there's someone close to me who my father would inspire and help to get through law school and get telling her you can do this. You can do this. Help them to reframe the obstacle into a challenge. Point out a recent win. Remind them of past successes and you changed my life. Think about someone who's had an impact on your life but who you never properly thanked. Okay. Want to sound and feel more confident. Ditch these 11 phrases from your vocabulary. Say psychologists. People who are good at small talk always avoid these seven mistakes. All right. I want to go for that one. Assuming that nobody wants to talk to you. Yeah. I've often gotten into that kind of slump. All right. Out and about just feeling awkward in a social interaction. I just assumed that no one was to talk to me. Interrupting or intruding upon an existing conversation. I have done that a lot. Start talking without having something to say. Broaching controversy or topics. Being hard to follow. Talking too much about yourself or about the other person. Nobody likes to feel interrogated and I've done that a lot. You sense that your questions aren't welcome back off. Yeah. This is something I need to hear. Instead tell a story. Offer an opinion. Otherwise relieve them of the burden of performance. Wasting someone's time. Then stare at the floor. Look over their shoulder. Put your phone away. Be present. Okay. 11 common grammar mistakes that make people cringe. Yeah. I didn't realize there was all this good stuff on CNBC. Oh it was funny. On Twitter I have an acquaintance like an online friend who routinely sends me about 20 messages a day on Twitter. And I enjoy looking through them. I respond when it's something that speaks to me. So yesterday after getting the latest batch of 20 messages that I didn't respond to I suddenly find I'm blocked. How is that? Like you have a friend who's like sending you or online friend I've never met. Sending you all these pictures of himself and you know all the places he's going. Which is fine. Like there's a lot of you know there's some good quality content in there and boom you get blocked. Okay 11 extremely common grammar mistakes that make people cringe. Okay apostrophe is in the wrong place and necessary apostrophes. Okay every day as one word is two days confusing I, me. The manager told Riley and I should be the manager told Riley and me. It's versus IT apostrophe S of course less of fewer. So fewer is for numbers less is for things that can't be counted. Use less with numbers when they are a single or a total unit that measures distance amount or time and less than 30 percent of us bothered learning these rules. Lie or lay. I could just lay down and go to sleep. Wrong. I could just lie down and go to sleep. So to lie is intransitive which means it doesn't have an object and doesn't do anything to anyone or anything else. The lay is transitive which means it does have an object. Okay I get this wrong so it's something or someone the verb is doing something to someone. I lay down my head. So you can say I lay myself down. Confusing loose with lose. Alright that's obvious that and who. The people that reach their sales target will get a reward. The people who reach then versus then. Use then T-H-E-N when you're talking about time. Use then when you're comparing things. Okay there is a location T-H-E-Y apostrophe R-E is a contraction and T-H-E-I-R is a possession is a possessive meaning ownership. You and you. Okay most of these are pretty dumb. Getting closer to manly. So if you get anxious about traveling I know I do but it's a lot better when you have friends and community like when there's a synagogue that you can go to or if you go to a church or a mosque or whatever your community is there's a there's a community there wherever you're going makes everything so much easier. Friends community they teach you how to navigate new surroundings. Normally I can travel all around Sydney for just like a dollar a day but I didn't realize the fast manly ferry costs ten dollars fifty Australian. So if this was the regular ferry it cost me nothing. So now I'm out seven dollars American. Live and learn and this fast ferry has not been particularly fast. Manly is north Sydney. It's got the second most famous beach in Sydney after Bondi. Scrolling through Apple's News Plus ten dollars a month. You get subscriptions essentially to 100 different magazines and I was so excited this morning when Australia got an opening goal on France went up one mil till France answered in the 26 minute and kicked three more goals to win going away 4-1. Just like I was so excited when the USA got an early goal over Wales and then surrendered a late goal for a tie. Everyone gets wrong about protein man I regret my lifetime as a vegetarian. A lot of people have ill effects from being vegetarian that really wrecked my health. So here's a story when Kerry Forrest Steak arrived in the spring of 2014 she looked around nervously she had a vegan blog with a very successful app she had a master's degree in nutrition she ate plenty of beans and soy for protein yet she was exhausted. She'd been low energy for months ever since she'd switched to being vegan in 2010 inspired by the actress Alicia Silverstone and a love of animals and the hope that she'd give up those stubborn five pounds that kept coming back and she realized this isn't working I felt ashamed this is my health have to make a change so she searched for words how to tell her audience June 14 2014 she had published on why I'm no longer vegan and in hours she had hundreds of negative comments such as no true vegan would ever listen to their body and eat animal products she got bad reviews of her app on the app store so many people unsubscribe from her email list she received an auto email from Mailchimp saying her account had been suspended because the company was afraid she'd been hacked she was alone except for her husband and a therapist but she held on eating beef and chicken steak and two years later the first email came from a negative commenter saying she too had given up being vegan apologized emails began to trickle in and turned into a small steady stream and she she published a post how to reintroduce meat after being vegan or vegetarian so many people think a high protein diet causes kidney problems and healthy adults not true says this article in women's health