 Okay. Yeah. Okay. So, we'll just pick up, I just saw your comment on the chat, said Kano. Thank you. Okay. So, just wanted to ask, do you have any questions based on what we looked at right now? Any questions at all? You know, some questions, like, I think I asked you to hold on, especially about divorce, all that, we're going to look at it a little later. Apart from that, generally from what we covered, if you have any questions, you know, you can, I mean, you can put it on the chat or you can ask. Okay. No questions. We shall march forward. Okay. Okay. So, let's move on. So, we see that, you know, what are we looking at? We're looking at the biblical perspective of marriage and so we are coming to certain conclusions based on what scripture says that marriage is a good thing, marriage is, you know, for two people, marriage is between a man and a woman only, et cetera, right? So, we see that marriage is a union of two, which means that here are two different people, okay, completely different, different in their likes, different in their personalities, but God brings these two people together and we become one. So, this becoming one is really, it's a process and because of the brokenness of man, you know, and I say brokenness of man, because of the fall of man, because of sin, because of the way, you know, sin has marred us, but if you look at it, man becomes very self-centered, right? Generally, humanity is very self-centered, right? So, we take a man, we take a woman, right? Self-centered, selfish, you know, they could have all other, you know, good qualities as well, right? But basically, you know, because of, you know, the personality of man, like being tainted by sin or broken by sin, right? So, this process of becoming one, it is a process, it is a journey, it doesn't happen automatically, it is something that is intentional, right? It is something that needs to be, it needs to be, you know, worked at or worked, walked through intentionally, okay? So, that is something that we need to understand, okay? So, because, you know, sometimes, you know, people are not really working at their marriage, you know, they're not being intentional about it, they're not putting in that what needs to be, you know, maybe some kind of an effort into that relationship. And so, we cannot hope to be one in that sense, right? Well, they could be living under the same roof, but they need not necessarily be one the way God wants the man and the woman to be in marriage, right? So, this is something that needs to be worked out, okay? So, here, okay, let me just share the, okay. So, you know, so at the wedding, okay, so before we go into that, another interesting question, maybe I should ask this question to all the single people, okay? So, this is a question for you guys, okay? So, what's, first question, okay, are you ready? Is there a difference between, I'm typing it in, between a wedding and marriage? Okay, first question, it's a yes or no question. So, all those saying yes, you could just put your thumbs up, give me a thumbs up. Is there a difference? Or is it the same thing, it's just a word, interchangeably used word? What do you think? All the single people, okay? I have two responses, all the others matter. Okay, so, three responses. So, the question is, is there a difference between a wedding and a marriage? Okay. Okay, so all those who answered yes. Okay, Jeff and I are saying, okay, is that they are the same? Okay. Okay, so all those who answered yes, Sid Kenu, Anita, Zelitoly, Ruben. So, could you please explain why, what is the difference? Okay, so maybe Anita can just type in, what is the difference? You're saying yes, there is a difference. So, what is the difference? Anyone, okay, Anita, Zelitoly, Ruben, Sid Kenu, any one of you, or any others. But I'm just basically asking all the single folks, okay? So, yeah, go ahead, Paul. Paul, you want to type in or you want to unmute and speak? Okay, congratulations Rosalind. March, is it? Okay, congratulations, very happy for you. Okay, Paul, I can't hear you. So, maybe, okay, Sid Kenu, if you want to say something, you want to type out, you can do that. Pastor, I would like to share what I have studied for my exam as well. Like wedding, when we hear about the word wedding, it is just used for the one day of celebration, that even. Like, somehow this he is wedged with she, that is just a one day event. And after the celebration, it is no more. That's a one day event. But when we talk about marriage, it is a social institution in itself. After that marriage, when these two people are wedded, they start a new life. They start a new journey, a new phase of life. After that, they went into the family. Then it is a completely new phase of life. So, both the words, they are very different. And they have both the words, they have two different aspects. Right, thank you. Thank you, Sid Kenu. Thank you. I see your responses here. I think Zelletoli, it's a one day event, marriage is a lifelong thing. Yeah, so basically that's it. Like somebody said, I think this is the title of a book. After every wedding comes a marriage. Very interesting title. After every wedding comes a marriage. Meaning, there is a difference between, you know, the wedding is, it refers to that day, like a wedding ceremony. So, you get married and it's that day, it's a wedding day. You say wedding anniversary. But when you're talking about marriage, marriage is something that follows the wedding. It's a longer duration. It's a lifelong duration of working out or living out that boss that we made on our wedding day. Right, so like if you want to look at it another way, it's like justification and consecration. Because justification is something that happens, happened to us. Then it was an event that happened to us when we were born again. But consecration is something that we, you know, we live out, we work out daily every moment. Right, so marriage is a, you know, it's a journey. Right, so we understand that. Okay, so in marriage. Let me share the screen. Okay, so in marriage, you know, whatever wows we made on the day of our wedding in the presence of God, we live that out. So basically we're just looking at this whole thing of becoming one. So we make that wow on the day of our wedding and we are actually working out our wows in that process of becoming one. Okay, so this becoming one, you know, there are other terms that actually explain that. You know, we say it's a relationship. Marriage is a relationship. Right, so there's something happening. Right, there's a transaction, there's communication that's happening. Marriage is companionship. It's an everyday thing and it's an ongoing process. Discovering, growing, and we're coming to that place of oneness. So it's a journey of companionship. It's a relationship. Okay, and like you said, it's a covenant. It's an agreement. You're agreeing to walk together. Right, you're agreeing to come to that place of oneness. And that agreement is mutual. It cannot happen if it's not mutual because one person is saying, okay, you know, I'm not in. And the other person is saying, yes, you know, I'll go for it. Then it doesn't happen. It's a mutual agreement. Right, okay. Then it is also, you know, something that complements each other. Right, like we said, you know, it's two different people do different personalities do different likes and dislikes. And if you see, you know, it can be very different from each other. And what happens is that is what attracts a person. You know, that is what probably attracted that person to the other person is saying, hey, this person is so different from me. Right, but the thing is, what was so different and basically that's what, you know, probably, you know, turned our attention to that other person. Now, that becomes a point of contention in marriage. Because why are you so different? Why are you doing it like this? Right, the toothpaste has to be squeezed from the bottom. But the other person is like squeezing the toothpaste from the top. Right, why can't you keep the clothes, you know, arrange it properly? Why are you putting it all over the place? Right, but the other person is like, hey, anyway, it's just, I'm just being comfortable. Right, there are no guests coming in. There are no visitors. Why can't I just put the stuff all over the place? Well, the other person is saying, you know, chair is meant for sitting. It's not for hanging your clothes. The other person is saying, it's convenient. I just put my clothes there and take it off there. So all these kinds of things. Right, so it's, you know, and it's a journey, understanding one another, complimenting one another, and it's a journey. Right, also when I say complimenting each other, it's also complimenting one's strengths and limitations. You know, maybe there's an area of strength for the husband, maybe something like maybe finances or a strength, but whereas maybe for the wife, it's not the area of strength is something else. So one compliments each other, they compliment each other and say, okay, you carry this, you know, since you know this, since you're good at it, you handle it for us. Right, so it becomes a perfect fit. Right, well, and then, of course, there's unity where we, despite all differences, we come to that place of unity, we come to that place of agreement, right, unity and also intimacy, right, closeness, where, you know, somebody, somebody defined intimacy like this, into me, you see, you know, let me just put that, I don't know if that's, if there's something that you heard, intimacy, into, oops, into me, you see, so, opening up, it's making oneself vulnerable and saying, okay, you know, these are, you know, these are my strengths, but these are also my flaws, right, these are areas that I'm working on, these are my flaws, these are, these are my, you know, areas of failure and areas where I've fallen down, and these are things that I've never shared with others, but I'm sharing with you. So that's, you know, that brings the two, to a place of intimacy, where they, not only transparent, but they're understanding one another, right, and, and choosing to, okay, you know, I see your weakness, I see your flaws, but I'm choosing to walk with you, I'm choosing to, you know, compliment those flaws, I compliment those flaws with my strength and choosing to walk together. So, so you see, it's a, it's a wonderful journey, it's as long as each, each are, you know, willing to work together, as long as each are saying, you know, each one is saying that, you know, I understand that it is a good thing, I understand that, you know, it's a good thing, I understand it's, you know, it's two people and two people alone, so you, you know, you basically reach a place of understanding of all these things, right. So, and it, and it takes time, right, and, and so, which is why, you know, preparing for marriage is very, very important, right, and this is one of the resources that we use for our marriage preparation course, you know, for every, every single person who wants to, and every couple who want to get married, who want to be solemnized by the church, pastors, you know, we insist that you go through this, because you see that there can be so much of differences, you know, about how we view marriage, maybe we know that, okay, God designed, et cetera, but then you go into the details and you see this is how we designed it. And these are things that we need to work at, because we are so different, right, but it's not like we are enemies or anything that it's not like that, you know, the way we, you know, process things is, you know, it's completely wrong, but it's just, it's just that it's different. And so, the other person needs to understand the other person needs to, you know, somewhere come to an understanding that, okay, let's do it this way, okay. Next is that, okay, let me just, okay, so we need to understand that this becoming one, okay, very interesting, right. So, since God designed it, okay, that he needs to be part of that, he needs to be part of the process. Many times, what happens is at the wedding, maybe at the wedding, on the wedding day, at the wedding service during the ceremony is when God is mentioned in the marriage, you know, sadly, right. And after that, it's just each person for themselves. It might be on their personal journey with God, but then together, you know, God is not part of that, their marriage, right. So, since this whole thing of becoming one, the two shall become one, it comes from God, the designer of marriage. So, it is achieved only with his help, it is achieved only with his anointing, with his leading, and with his empowering, right. There's no other way, okay. And so, this kind of, you know, this whole thing of being unequally yoked is something that we need to take seriously, okay. Why? Because God designs it. God is the one who is the author of it. So, we need to, we need his help, we need to draw from him in order to walk out of ours. So, if one person is drawing from God, the other person is totally not even considering God, does not know who God is. You see the struggle, right. There's no common ground, right. There's no common ground. There's no foundation. So, one person is drawing from God and saying, okay God, this is what you think it is, I esteem it. And the other person is like, hey, who's God? I don't even care if there's a God. Okay. The person could be saying, you know, I respect you, I love you, I care for you. But this process of becoming one doesn't really happen the way God intends for us to happen, right. And so there is, there is conflict, there is struggle and there are challenges, okay. So, if we look at 2nd Corinthians 6, okay, 2nd Corinthians 6 and verse 14, verse 14, that's where Paul writes to the Corinthian church and he's among other topics that he's addressing. He's saying this, right. He says, do not become unequally yoked together with unbelievers. Okay. So, you see that marriage is a yoke. Okay. It's a covenant. It's a bond. And he's saying don't become unequally yoked, unequally bonded. Okay. And the reason is this, for what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? What communion has light with darkness? What accord or agreement has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever? What agreement has a temple of God with idols? For you are the temple of the living God. That means that you, since you've received Jesus, God's presence is with you. The Holy Spirit has come to make his dwelling in you. So, it's an unequally yoked. If the other person is not a believer, doesn't believe the same things, doesn't have not to receive Jesus. So, it's not like, hey, is the other person a noble person? You know, it could be all that. You know, the person could be very good. You know, sometimes we hear that argument, right? We hear that, I mean, that reason people give up. That person is a good person. You know, that girl is a very good girl. That guy is a very good guy. He's a very, very nice person, right? In what way? Well, he honors, he respects, he, you know, he's loving, he's caring, all that. And then we look at all these things and say, yeah, probably he's the person to whom I should say, I do, you know. And, but the thing is this, the very basic difference is that there's no presence of God, because that person actually has closed his or her heart to God. Okay. Maybe they don't know yet. Maybe they're ignorant. They don't know what Christ has done for them. Okay. So, but the thing is you can't hope that one day they will, one day they will receive Christ, one day they will come to the saving knowledge of Christ. I will lead them, you know, through my life, you know, all these things people say, right? I will lead them. I will live a good life. I will show what it is. I will share Christ. No, you can't leave it to that, right? It's an individual choice. The person can actually live their whole life and, and not really choose Jesus. That's the reality, right? So, so Paul is very clear. He's saying, do not become unequally yoked. Okay. Now, even with people who are, you know, who have Christ Jesus as their Lord, there's so much of challenges in marriage. We hear about them and it's, you know, because they're not adjusting to each other or they're not really committing to this whole process of becoming one. Or they've not, they've got a very, you know, faulty understanding, right? Of this whole thing, whole life revolves around them. And so they're not willing to sacrifice, not willing to, you know, change, right? So, so you see the challenge when the other person, like, one person is a believer and the other person is not. They're pulling in opposite directions. So Paul actually is very, very, very graphic description. He's saying, you know, what a God has Christ with Belial, the Lord of darkness Belial. What pauses, you know, what agreement has a temple of God with idols? So he's drawing the contrast and he's saying, you know, open your eyes and see this is the contrast. This is the difference, right? So the difference is so stark. And that's why I'm asking you, I'm instructing you, do not become unequally yoked with unbelievers. Okay, so, so we see that. Okay, so while we look at the process of becoming one, you know, this is also something to be considered. It's a very basic thing. Okay. Okay, let's just move on to the next one. We see that marriage is a journey. Okay, wedding is an event. And it's a journey of love, of commitment, of sacrifice. And how long is it? So that's the thing. Is it as long as it is convenient? Is it as long as I'm getting something out of it? Is it as long as I'm happy in it? It is actually a journey as long as, you know, as the world goes till death to a spot. And it's a lifelong covenant. It's a lifelong commitment. Okay, so as people who are preparing for marriage, it's good to have that in mind. When I make these waves, it's, it's not, it doesn't have an expiry date like maybe five years or six years or anything like that. The expiry date is till death to a spot, till death separates us. It's a lifelong commitment. It's a lifelong covenant. So the thing is, you know, some people are afraid of that saying, I don't want to be stuck to one person. What if I make a wrong choice? I don't want to be stuck till death to a spot. And so they are afraid to even make that choice. But the thing is this, that yes, we need to depend on God. Yes, we need to have God in the picture. We need to have God, the designer of marriage in our lives to take us through. And as long as we are committed to him, and as long as the other person is also committed in the same way to God, you know, then there is much progress in the marriage. Okay, there is understanding, there is love, there is commitment. Okay. So Matthew chapter nine and verse 19 and verse six, sorry, it says, so then they are no longer two, but one flesh, the Lord Jesus responding to their questions and therefore what God has joined together, let, let not man separate. So really, this whole thing of, you know, divorce, we'll come to that, we'll look at it in detail. In the original design. Okay. God's heart for marriage is that it is death till death. It is still death. It's a lifelong thing. So these are things that, that we need to understand taken, maybe real real line or adjust our understanding of marriage. Okay. These are foundations. These are basics. So it's good that we, you know, come to that place. Okay. So if you look at a wow, right, wedding wow, this is how it, this is how it reads, right? With this ring, many cultures, rings are exchanged in some cultures. There is, you know, there's a chain, call it, you know, Thali, you know, so with this ring. Okay. This is what the groom says. I so-and-so take you to be my wife, to have and to hold from this day forward for better, for worse. You know, look at this contrast, right? For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer. So it talks about financial status. It talks about, you know, health, physical, you know, well-being in sickness and in health to love and to cherish. You know, some of it is from Ephesians chapter five, till death us do part or till death do us part, according to God's holy word. So if this wow is made with a full understanding of what it is, right? And with a full understanding of, you know, why we are making this and with a full understanding of, okay, this is the journey, you know, this is the life ahead. And also with the understanding that God is also there. It's not just the husband and wife who are in the marriage. God is also there. You know, once I was emceeing for a wedding, for a wedding reception, actually, and this was actually from my brother's wedding. And I said, you know, marriage is not between two people. It's actually three. And my mother was shocked. She was sitting there and she was like, what is this guy? What is he going to say? And then, you know, I just shared from Ecclesiastes saying, caught of three strands is not quickly broken, right? So there is a man, there is a woman and there is, there is God. And that's the third strand in marriage, a very important strand in marriage, right? And it is, it will be till death do us part, as long as, you know, these three are there. Okay. So the, it's a union of two individuals. It can either be beautiful, or it can be a very, very challenging collision. It can be like a head on collision. But the thing is that it depends on the individuals to make it beautiful. Okay. So we're going to look at, okay, the next one is preparing for marriage. So I just want to stop here. Stop here right now. Okay. So I just want to ask, you know, if there are any questions, or if there's anything that you want to share, any questions at all? Okay. Should we quickly just recap a few things? Okay. Just those statements that we looked at. Okay. So first we saw that marriage is a, it's a good thing. Right. So it's, it's designed by God, and that's why we call it good. He's a designer. And secondly, we saw that it's an institution to be honored. An institution is simply something that is established, established custom or established practice. Okay. So it is something to be honored. Why? Because it's designed by God again. And he holds it in very high esteem. Okay. We see that instruction that Hebrews chapter 13 talks about how marriage is to be honored and the, and the marriage and the, and the bed undefiled. You know, King James, new King James uses that language. I'm talking about physical intimacy. Right. It needs to be sacred. It is holy. It needs to be undefiled. Okay. Then third thing we saw was that it's a solemn covenant. It's a promise. It's a vow. So it's a, it's a covenant. It's, it's not just a contract where we can say, okay, this contract has ended. You know, one person pulls out and the contract comes to an end. Right. It's, it's a covenant. It's much deeper. And so we need to understand that. Then it's the fourth thing that we saw that was that it's between one man and one woman. Okay. It's between one man and one woman. And apart from that, there will be stress. There will be, you know, there will be a breakdown. There will be conflict. There will be challenge in the marriage. Okay. Then we saw that it's a, it's a union of two. Okay. It's a, it's a becoming one. It's a union. And that union, yeah, it starts at, at the time of the wedding when the, when the valves are made, but it's, it is a process. It is a journey of becoming one. It's a relationship. It's a companionship. It's an agreeing to walk together. It's complimenting one another. It's, you know, coming to a place of unity and it involves intimacy and closeness. Right. It cannot be a very formal, you know, interaction. No, it is, it is very, very, you know, it's not like a guarded interaction. Right. It is a very making oneself vulnerable and open and transparent interaction with the other. Okay. So then we also saw that it's, you look at a timeline. Okay. When you look at, okay, where it is, when is it all in? Well, it is till death. Right. So we looked at all this. So this is the, you know, an understanding, a biblical understanding, a perspective of what marriage is. Okay. So, you know, it's, it's quite a lot to take in. Right. And it's quite a lot to also realign and adjust ourselves to. And, but, you know, as married people, you know, it's, it's invaluable. Right. It's never too late. It's never too late to start looking at marriage this way. You look at your marriage and say, okay, this is what it is. Like, this is how I'm going to look at it. Okay. Single people, you look at marriage and say, okay, this is, this is what God sees. This is how God sees marriage. And so I need to come in agreement with God first and foremost. Right. And yeah. Okay. So any questions you can ask, otherwise we can move forward. I don't see any questions. Okay. See, on the PDF that you downloaded, there are some action items there. There is a, you know, there is a section called turning point, which is in page eight. I think I'm not sure if the PDF also is the same page. So it's page, page eight. It's talks about, you know, accepting God's, you know, there are some things for single people to do. There are some things for married people to do. Right. So, so that you can, you can actually do that. Okay. Page nine. Is it okay? Page nine. Yeah. Page nine is the action item. The turning point is in page eight. Right. John. Page eight. I think the turning point. Turning point in page 10. Page 10. Is it? Okay. Then I think I'm carrying an old edition. Okay. Fine. Fine. So there are both these sections. Turning point. I'll just put it on the chat. Point. And there is also an action item. So it's a, it's a, it's a section where you can, you know, you can reflect, where you can read through, reflect, you know, and there's something for you to, you know, come to conclusion. Like for example, it says here laying aside all ideas and notions, I choose to embrace God's design for marriage. You know, based on what we've learned, there is some, that's, that's that conclusion to come to saying, okay, I laid aside. I used to think this way, but now I put it aside because I see in God's word, this is what God thinks. And so therefore, you know, I, I pick it, pick this up instead. Okay. And things like that. Right. So, you know, in society, what happens is like people normally like joke about marriage and this, you know, there's a good humor about, you know, generally about the differences, right, between the husband and the wife and then, and typically in an Indian culture also, you know, there are a lot of jokes and people say, you know, okay, if you're getting married, you're getting, you know, you're getting, getting into life imprisonment and things like that, you know, there's stuff like that which happens. And then there's jokes about in-laws. I don't know if you've heard this one, you know, the difference between the in-laws and out-laws is that out-laws are wanted, you know, out-laws, you know, right, they are, they are wanted, they are hunted down by the, by the police. So, and things like that. But the thing is, you know, while, well, okay, you can look at it as, okay, good humor and jokes and all that. The thing is that it hits at the truth of what God's plan and design for marriages, right. So while some of it is harmless, some of them are not, right. They are actually, you know, hitting away, trying to erode the truth of what, the picture of what marriage is, right. So we need to be careful about that. As married people, you need to be careful about that. Be careful about the kind of jokes that you crack about your wife. Jokes about that, that you crack about your husband. Be careful, right, because you're saying something, you're actually trivializing God's idea of marriage. So just need to be a little careful in that. Okay. Right. Okay, we have about 10 more minutes. Let's, let's move on. Okay, let's get into the next chapter, which is preparing for marriage. Okay. So first we looked at understanding marriage. So we're going to look at preparing for marriage. How does one prepare? So like I said, you know, for the single people, well, it's, it's good thing to go through it. For those of us who are married, it's, well, it is relevant in the sense, these are some things that we can, you know, if, if let's say these things are not there, these truths are not there. It is something that we can, we can put to practice for our spouse. Okay. Not for anyone else, but for our spouse. Right. Maybe for your husband, maybe for your wife, you know, you, you see that. Okay. I, I've not prepared myself in this way. Now I can actually grow in this so that I can be, be the best husband or be the best wife. Okay. You think of it in those terms. Okay. So let's, let's, let's just dive right in. Okay. Preparing for marriage. Okay. I'm going to just share the point again. Okay. So preparing. So we see that it's a union. It's a coming together of two. Okay. I think use, is it there on the screen? Yeah. So it's a coming together of, you know, two very different, vastly different people. Right. Even when we say, okay, these people are so, you know, so similar in all their likes and dislikes. Even then, you know, temperamentally and otherwise there could be, there are differences. Right. So, so since it's two very different people choosing to become one and in the process of becoming one. Right. So we see that it is, it can either be beautiful or it can be a, it can be a collision. It can be unyielding hard and hitting at each other. Right. But the thing is that in God's eyes, according to God's word, well, they can husband and the wife can grow into becoming one. Okay. And it's something that is instituted by God. Okay. So the thing is when we look at the ancient, the culture, Jewish culture, we see that, you know, and also in scripture, we see that the Lord Jesus as the groom and he's coming for his bride. Okay. The Lord Jesus as a groom is coming for the bride and the bride is referred to as the church, the body of Christ. And the thing is before the in Jewish culture, apparently the arrangement of marriage between the two families after the arrangement, after the understanding was reached that, okay, this is a person, this is a groom, and there's a process of betrothal, sorry. Then there was a waiting period of almost a year. Okay. A fairly long time period. And this waiting period was actually used for, it had two purposes. One, it was a time of preparation. Okay. It was a time of preparation for the bride to get ready for the groom and for the groom to be and so on. So this was a preparation period. The groom went to prepare a place. Okay. The groom went to prepare a place. Okay. This is where we're going to live. And these are the things. And we're going to have, so the groom would prepare a place for the family, you know, for the wife and the bride would prepare herself for the groom. Okay. So it was a preparation process. It was also a time which was, which was like a testing period. Okay. So testing, what was tested there, you know, their intentions, what was tested again was their, their devotion to each other and the commitment to live a pure life, you know, a life of integrity, a life of purity in terms of, you know, emotions and physical intimacy and so on. It was a testing season. Like to, because the heart was, you know, devoted to the groom, the bride's heart was devoted to the groom and so also. Right. So we see that it was really a preparation and a testing season. Okay. So it's good for the groom to be and the bride, the groom and the bride to go through a preparation period. Okay. And if you're considering, if you're considering marriage, it's wonderful. If you can go through a preparation period and maybe the church where you worship at has something most churches do these days or, you know, there could be a ministry which does Christian counseling, you know, counseling for marriage and family and so on. So they have something like this. So it's good to be part of that. So, you know, I would strongly advocate that, recommend that saying, you know, prepare. Okay. So it's good. It's definitely good. It's definitely a time of equipping, you know, it's definitely a time of preparation, getting to know one another, getting to know what God says about marriage. Okay. So the thing is, what do we prepare for? What do we prepare during this time of preparation? I'd be prepared to be the best version of ourselves for the other person. We don't, you know, go through this preparation saying, I'm going to fix the other person and I'm going to repair what's wrong with the other person. Right. I'm going to whatever is, you know, not one needs to be tightened, whatever needs to be, you know, it's not that. It's so that I can work on myself to be the best person for my spouse. Okay. So that's the preparation. The Lord Jesus says, you know, John chapter 14, in my father's house are many mansions. If it were not so, I would have told you, I go to prepare a place for you. And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again and receive you to myself and where I am there. You may be also. Okay. So many times when we are, when you're considering marriage, you know, we are, what is the thing that we do? You know, we, what we do is we are looking for the right person, which is a good thing to do. We're looking for the right person and we make a list. Okay. I want this person to have all these qualities. 10 things. Okay. First person. Okay. It should be a believer. Second, you make those lists. Okay. Person should be like this, you know, and it's based on your personal, you know, right? You say, okay, person needs to have this qualification. Person needs to have this, be like this, et cetera. Nothing wrong. Right. But as important as that is, it is equally or even more important to prepare ourselves, to prepare ourselves to be the best for the other person. You just think about it. Okay. So that is what this, this whole preparation is. Okay. Many times we ignore ourselves. We ignore the faults that we could be having. We ignore all that and we say, I want that person to be like this. That person should have this. That person should be like this, et cetera. But what about ourselves? Okay. We focus on ourselves and say, okay, let me prepare myself. Let me equip myself. Let me change those things that need to be changed. Okay. So that is becoming the best me for the other person. Okay. Okay. So that is the first thing that we need to look at. Secondly, our emotional health. Okay. Probably we will close with this. Our emotional health. It is probably 17 and 22. It says, a cheerful disposition is good for our health. Gloom and doom leaves you tired or born tired, it says. So our emotional health is very, very important. Okay. So this preparation is becoming the best version of ourselves. The preparation is for both those people considering the marriage to consider, okay, emotionally, am I strong? Emotionally, am I ready? Like, what about my motives? What are my attitudes? Because that's going to, you know, in marriage it's going to be very important when you interact, when you communicate, right? It involves your emotions. So you need to be, you know, in a place where you're saying, okay, emotionally, where am I? Emotionally, am I strong? Emotionally, am I healed? Because what happens is if we carry, you know, certain hurts, right? If we are carrying, let's say, certain attitudes into marriage, okay, which are negative, which are not healthy, which are toxic even. Okay, maybe, you know, it could be, for example, you know, every time, it could be for, you know, it could be for the man or the woman, you know, every time this person talks with another, let's say if it's a man talking to another woman, then, you know, if the girl becomes very, very suspicious, you know, what is he talking? What is he saying? Is he talking about me? Is he talking good about me? Is he talking ill about me? You know, why is that person talking to that, you know, to the other girl? Right? If it's going to be a very, you know, suspicious, kind of, you know, emotion, every time you see that happens, then you can be sure that in marriage it's going to put a lot of stress, right? It's going to create a lot of stress, it's going to create a lot of conflict, okay? So, preparation for marriage also involves us personally becoming emotionally healthy and strong, okay, in order to be the best for the other person. Okay, so there are a lot of other things to look at and we will, we will go through in our next class. Okay, so we will stop right here. Surprisingly, there were no questions. I'm surprised. Okay, probably in our, in our other classes, we'll have questions. So, you know, so you, whatever questions you have, make a note of it and you can, yeah, post them and we look at it, right? Okay, so thank you for joining. We're going to look at, we have one more class, which is Biblically Preaching. And we'll come back at 11. I think maybe all of you are signed in. I'm not sure. But I'll post the link and you can come in for Biblically Preaching, right? Okay. Thank you.