 Sometimes there are people who are married to each other, the husband, sitting at home, no conversation, no companionship. The Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon his family, made it clear, the right of your wife is that you engage in dialogue with her. An hour of dialogue with your wife is greater than a whole night's worship in my mosque in Medina. How many of us want to go to the mosque of the Prophet, peace be upon him and his family in Medina? Many of us. He says an hour of dialogue with your wife. Notice he says an hour because a bit more than that could be a headache. But he says an hour of dialogue with your wife is greater than what? Is greater than a night of worship. Don't come and worship a whole night in my mosque when you have not honored your wife in terms of her rights. So the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, made it clear and I think what happens is there are husbands take their wife for granted. Or there are husbands with no romantic side to the relationship. Sometimes when you have a kid or two, you can go into a real rut where what happens is that you don't go on a holiday, the two of you alone anymore. Rather, it's always with the kids, which is great. But when is your own time? When are you two going to be having your own time? And at the same time, your own time can sometimes bring a buzz back into the sexual part of your life. Because both of you are going to bed every night in a relationship. Where you've sat down, you've watched some television, but there isn't really any sex in your life. That is going to have a major problem now. To have that sex buzz come back, a number of factors can be involved. Number one, the husband looking after themselves. And with some of the food we eat in our mosques. But we'll come to that in the next show on the right of the stomach of the human being. So you've got the husband looking after themselves. Husbands always telling the wives, why are you not like when I married you? Have you seen yourself? Have you looked after yourself? Secondly, sometimes let's not just blame the husbands. Sometimes there are ladies with the smallest thing. That's it. I don't want to be with you anymore. Or sometimes can forget themselves. And I'm sorry to say that. But when you started off, you are a size good. And now you're a size, you know, Michelin tires. And so we don't want to go to that level. Go to a level where a person remains trim. Our parents and grandparents generation, they get to see many girls. Our dad sees our mom. Alhamdulillah, we move on. Whereas in this generation, you know, people are watching films, programs, there's a certain level now of expectation. And sometimes the mind will wonder when there is no attention being paid. Especially if the man's lost their chivalry. And that is fundamental also when it comes to, if a woman feels that her man's jealous over her. Or there's a firmness in the man where, you know, because what are we looking for? We're looking for opposites. I'm a man. I'm looking for that feminine softness in my wife. My wife being a woman, she's looking for the, you know, leadership and dominance there. Strength. Some strength. If that's not there, then the ladies look at you thinking, well, he's a nice guy, but there's no umph. And so, even with some of the men, sometimes it's not about maybe how much sex you're having, but just paying that attention. You look great today. A little text message. I love you. A little flirtatious line. You know, all of these have a bearing on ensuring that the mind doesn't wonder elsewhere. Dr, you were saying how important it is for a man and wife to have sexual relations. And I've read somewhere in, when it comes to Ahqam, that if a man is distant from his wife for more than four months, their marriage is nullified. Is this true? This is a myth, a common myth, actually, in our communities that if a husband and wife don't have sex for four months, then automatically it's divorced. No, not at all. But certainly, the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon his family, you'll find traditions from them. Should never be that period of four months of no sex. That four months is given to us as a boundary. Within those four months, there should have been made time for sexual desires to be fulfilled. And let's not say the male sexual desires. You see, many men, having sex with his wife, as soon as he's happy, it just moves away. Doesn't think, has my wife been pleasured? Has my wife pleased with me? And you know sometimes what I think it is? Sometimes the men and the women in the Muslim world don't know what's allowed for them, what's not? Big problem. Is this halal or is it not? Nobody knows. And so there are certain marriages, believe you mean, where the sexual life of the husband and the wife, if they've had sex in two positions over those years, they've done, that's good for them. Yeah. And this is sad that people don't know about foreplay, about the different pleasures that you're able to have sexually. You know, this brings a smile. I don't care what anyone says. You want a new car and you want an extension to that house and you want some new gift. It's a way to get to the guy and a way to get to the girl. Now the way to get the girl could be a few diamonds and the way to get to the guy. Islam's allowed, you know, but I don't think many of our people know what's allowed, what's not. So would you care to discuss a little bit about what is allowed and what isn't allowed? I mean, foreplay, kiss. Said Mohammed Rizvi, resident of the Maulana of the Ja'farri community in Toronto, has a fantastic book, Marriage and Morals. It's available online. Marriage and Morals is a fantastic book which I'd recommend to anyone who's in their teenage years who wants to know about the discussions of the Imams of Ahlul Bayt, alayhum salam, when it comes to sex. Now someone would think Imam al-Sadaq, alayhum salam, discusses sex. Imam al-Khanu, alayhum salam, discusses sex. The Imams of Ahlul Bayt did not leave a single area of this world without discussing it. A single issue in one's life without discussing it. That's why they are the beacons of knowledge. So were sexual positions discussed? Were things like more oral play, kissing on private areas? People ask the question, a man is able to satisfy his wife orally. Someone asked Imam al-Khanu, alayhum salam, a question. He asked him, can I kiss the vagina of my wife? And that was explicitly mentioned. Our cultures are narrow-minded. We don't discuss these things. Our religion is open-minded. Now someone has to ask the question, are we going to follow culture? We follow religion. Our culture has forgotten the key elements of the discussions of the Ahlul Bayt and has now brought up innovations which we don't know about. Imam al-Khanu, alayhum salam has asked the question, can a person kiss his wife's vagina? Is this method of sex or foreplay allowed? He said, yes, there's no issue. Believe you me, there are Muslim men out there who probably have never with their wives ever done anything like this. And there are Muslim women out there who I guarantee you, either thought this is not allowed or prevent their men from doing this or complain why the sex is not good. One example, then is a woman allowed to, for example, kiss the private part of the man? This is a question and when we ask these questions, I know that it reminds us, me and you, of a couple of stories of emails we receive on this show where people ask us this and you find it difficult to reply back to those emails by saying, yes, this particular act is allowed because sometimes the phrasing is very interesting. Can the woman do it? What do you mean, can the woman do it? If you're not having that in your marriage, that's one boring bedroom. And even you're saying boring bedroom, I think you should take it further. Not just the bedroom, why is everything confined to the bedroom? And someone's going to say, well, there's kids in the house and so on. Again, there's this boring attitude which is we go upstairs, room, this, okay, sleep, go back, you know, even. So the Ahad al-Bayt, I'm saying make it clear, there is a messenger between the husband and wife and that is called foreplay. Foreplay. A person using their hands and their fingers with their wives, that is allowed. Kissing the vagina allowed. Kissing the private organ of the man allowed. All of these are allowed. I am not saying they're allowed. Imam Al-Sadiq, alaihi salam, has discussed them.