 you know when I was younger my mother had certain dating rules for me and the basic rule was that the boy had to come home to pick me up he had to sit with my parents for about 15-20 minutes chat to them and then he was allowed to take me out. Now as you can imagine most guys of 18, 19, 20 did not want to be doing this they didn't want to come home they didn't want to sit with my parents to talk to them and as a result my love life was just going down the tubes and I thought this was so unfair because most of my friends were just sneaking out so they could go out with anybody they wanted but me with all my so-called permissions had all of these restrictions. I remember being very upset with my mother and I remember my mother explaining to me that if someone thinks that you snuck out and nobody knows where you are they can do whatever they want to you because they know that you have nobody to turn to but if they realize that everybody in your family including your parents know where you are and know who you're with they will be very careful in how they behave with you in how they treat you if you want to keep your children safe be a part of their lives explain the rules that you're putting down for them meet them at least halfway because then they're far more likely to listen to what you have to say and to appreciate your value system because trust me just saying no doesn't work your child wants to do something they will do it anyway