 The other day I did an exam for myself when I felt the lump and I still haven't gone to the doctor because I'm making those excuses. It wasn't pretty for me to be in my 30s to find out that I have menopause. When I think about birth control, I thought about the PIL, IUD, the Nuvo ring. In my own mind, I never thought about condoms as birth control for women. Sex. That's cardio. Do you get a partner to last 30 minutes? I'm going to talk about menopause because frankly it's something that most people aren't talking about at all. My hormones were raging and I just felt completely out of balance. But now that I've gone through menopause, finally my body's at peace. I was younger and still to this day. I try and power through. I think women do that a lot rather than we listen to our bodies, but we're trained to tolerate so much pain, whether it's through our hormones or menstrual cycles. And we say, oh, it's just another pain. I'll get through this. Oh, it's a headache. And we don't necessarily always listen to the signs that we need to be listening to. So many times we get urgency frequency when we blow it off. Oh, I'm tough. I'm a woman. I can survive that. I really feel that I'm a patient. So for the people in my generation who one day is A and the next day you don't know your parent, what can you do to help us with those stressful moments? What could I have done to be prepared because I'm so not prepared and I'm really stressed. And it's really cool. Welcome to Every Way Woman. There are some major changes happening in the talk show world. Viewers, the audience, the real women and men out there are trusting us. For many, many years, women were way over treated for breast cancer. Especially in a pre-menopausal woman, depends on where they are. If they're in their young, early 20s, likely even after chemotherapy, their fertility will be okay, but you can never guarantee. And I think people are, you know, there's this misconception about radiation therapy and even radiation that you get from a mammogram. Imagine a patient here. If she were to lose some of the skin along that decision line, usually what we do is we remove that skin and just close again the same way we removed the nipple in the beginning. It depends on how extensive it is, but the bottom line is most people do really well. Most people aren't going to lose skin. But we sometimes make the men really happy because the wife at 45 or 50, the rest have lost their shape, do a lump-up to a big roast breast, and they can keep their tops on. We're trying to give or create segments where people know what questions to ask. What's your question? Why isn't there more information on the severe side effects of cancer treatment? Many of us in the medical oncology community know that in the last 15 years, we've seen a big breakthrough in nausea, very potent nausea medicines, that enable us to really control nausea almost 100%. Is there a better time for me to check my breasts? Good point. Men's trading women should do it five to 10 days after the onset of their period. That's when the breast is least bumpy. Most men's trading women do it a few days before their period when they're very tender and then they're full of lumps. It's almost impossible at that time. Once you know the normal and you do it regularly and you have this mental image of the breast, if something grows in there, you would detect a subtle change before I could. Let's just talk about the thing we most of us women don't love, our menstrual cycles. For example, many of the women in our residency, we just in medical school, we stopped having periods because we were so stressed. So we were all on the same. So who did you guys go see? We all know once we hit 20, we should start. Let's just make a one inch circle. Close your eyes. Change the pressure a little bit and notice that it's bumpy. I noticed a change in my breast shape. I was getting ready for work one morning and I felt a lump in my left breast. I was shopping at Nordstrom's and I found a lump. I found the lump in my breast. Well, it went through your head though. I mean knowing you're a doctor and you do this for a living and you get that, you know, you have breast cancer. To be 100% honest, initially I denied it. I found our segments really useful for me being single, somebody that never really looked into going to the doctor when I was younger.