 All right guys, so that was the end of my speech. We had a quick break. You guys got warmed up out up here He got warmed up by you guys fluff the fluff. I fluff myself The fluff great So it's all was a good guy a great friend. I The second time this second year. He's come out. I invited him the second time out He came out first time in 08 did a great job last year I think as you guys have seen thus far. He's a really great speaker. It's got things I'm just feet like crazy awesome awesome guy He has great content. He's from the red mole.com Blah blah blah blah blah. I'm just promoting him like relentlessly now. So dude do a great job, man I know you will appreciate you coming out every year help see you next year too. So I don't get the mic. I love the mic. I love the mic. It's like a big it's like a big dick I know why Anthony wants to hold on to it Okay, so anyway guys This what's happening. There's some really cool stuff We have a long long weekend right and all these people are going to be speaking so like I said I want to get the momentum going so number one. I want to do a little bit of an exercise with you guys and We'll start with you my man Can you tear a page out of that book? I want to start an exercise and we're going to do a fun little trick What's going to happen is on that on that piece of paper We're going to write down and it's going to come up later and all this fun stuff I want you to write down your name your phone number. Yeah, yeah, how do you number close a group of guys, huh? Stand on stage stand on stage and say you know about women No, write your name your phone number in your email address and we're gonna we're gonna work all this other stuff out now in the other in the other self whatever How do you say it's self-promoting? vanity Look at yourself in the mirror and masturbate type thing I want to do a quick little video because I want everybody to know how cool the under-21 convention is So I actually want you guys to oh the pulse hey, do you I I know this is a side note and I'm on stage right now But I want the photographs of me to be good. I have some extra lenses if you want to use them that are cannons So they're right up here if you want L series L series Oh, he doesn't seem to be reacting. No, but anyway guys So I want to actually do a little video because I've been recording on the road and saying like I'm at this rest stop and this gay guy hit me up. That's how much sex you have so So what I want to see That's actually gonna be a little little secret thing. In fact, I'm gonna write I'm gonna do a secret here. This is gonna come up a little bit later I was planning to do it on the microphone, but I want to say I want to I want you guys to make some noise You guys look like you all just fucking woke up and have like way too much valerian route Are we ready? Are we ready under 21 convention 2009? Make it happen? All right, so here we are under 21 the the under 21 convention Because the real wet route website is the red mole calm But here these guys here, and so we're speaking here. We're having a good time It's Thursday, and it's gonna be amazing and here's here's a little Secret you see what that says? All right Okay, so that all being said you guys are just like what the fuck just happened and pass that piece of paper around because once it comes back We're gonna do an exercise with it But this is what I wanted to talk about look there's a there's a lot of stuff This community is if you guys don't know me You can visit my website and write it down and look at it and watch the videos and listen to some audio You know my email list all that fun fun nice stuff that everybody says, but this community has influenced me massively And my whole purpose in it is always to give back and that I think if you want anything to influence Anything in your life if you want your life to be to be you know moved or you want great things to happen You have to put effort into it right you have to you have to keep momentum going, and you have to you have to work At it right I remember there were these religious sermons that we we used to I used to be in theater and Which is another some some amazing stories come out of that But I used to be a theater right and so they would do these preacher monologues in the preacher monologues like you got to work You got to take that sinew and that filthy skin of sin and you got to shape it into something good But that's true, and that's why we're all here right and you know It's a funny thing because last year when I spoke here I wanted to speak about some things like expectations motives Perceptions and things like that. There was actually a big changing point in my life There's a lot of stuff happening for me. There's a lot of pressure on me. There was a lot of like a Lot of things influencing me to change because one of the things is It was when we change This is funny. I told I told the famous poor this and now he says it all the time But he doesn't get the last part when we have a moment of change. We change through desperation not inspiration But here's the part that he left out what keeps us going what makes us be able to actually progress and fulfill and live the lives you wanted to you know when you sign up for the under 21 convention when you bought whatever product What you expected out of that, you know is inspiration which keeps that going we need a breaking point You know, it's funny because actually in the actual like pick up You know original template the m3 model and all that stuff and you know maybe mystery or Matador will be here to actually break it down and tell you the truth of what It actually is and I'm just I can just be talking out of my ass But there's that a two-point when somebody decides they decide they decide that they like you they decide they're gonna give you value or whatever They're deciding something. That's very important. So you guys have all made that decision, right? And it's our job It's our job as instructors to Give that back to you if we don't Then we're failing, you know if we don't if we're only up here to to give you whatever You know two cents sales pitch or whatever buy our shit then Fuck man. That sucks. And this is an interesting thing my friend Milo savage doesn't He's an awesome guy fucking genius. In fact He probably doesn't want me announcing on video, which is gonna be plaster all over the internet Some of the best guy everybody always talks about Dallas. Tells was good or maybe that might be Past already this thing is so volatile. It's like a fucking, you know Fee for a cum sock or something people just throw it away, you know, but they don't treasure it like me I have like five that can fucking walk on their own, but uh I have names for him to change him into fetal finger puppets and shit. I have arms growing. No, you know, that's mold So so anyway So no, but but check it out. So Milo and Jason who's Jason's actually speaking on Sunday You guys got to come to it because I saw him speak like two or three weeks ago It's literally one of the best speeches I've ever seen I talk a lot about sex But this guy it was like shit, dude. I was I was fucking my dick was taking notes. It was so good But I almost grew up pussy. No, but anyway It was really an amazing speech so a lot of you guys like that's that's a big deal and That's that's a big thing to look at in terms of like certain motives within the community is to check out his speech But uh, you know, my little plug to Milo's Jason and Milo are probably some of the best whoas that I know and They they live in Austin and there's all sorts of other, you know, people in Austin like go whoever I Forget all their names. They're all hippies down there. Anyway, haha, but but this is there's some great stuff but like I was saying Our job our roles for instructors are to teach you guys you guys actually came here You did this big action you you forked over like 20 grand to be at this thing You're expecting like this big like like to see a lot, you know from people and I hate it man I fucking hate it when there's instructors coming up here and they're fucking like talking down to you And they're telling you like how things should be and they're saying like look if you just be me If you just be me you're gonna get all this pussy. Well fuck man Why doesn't somebody hire a fucking private investigator follow him around to see how much pussy they get because it's it does not happen, right? And so think about that, you know think about what is it that you want? What is it that you want and I? Just know this I was again. That's why I brought up Milo Why what made me think of this is he said when he bought way back when way back when when David D's book was like You know 15 bucks or something right when David D's book was was really a low price He bought it, you know, and that's how a lot of he got in before the book the game came out, right? But we've all been there online. We're all looking around we're surfing the net We're going hey, hey, you know what's gonna be good. Oh man. This is cheap This says it's gonna get me mad ass this says it's gonna do this fuck man I'm gonna have a social circle. I'm gonna be able to walk in with 15 girls on my arm. All right And then the science is when we're gonna throw themselves at me, okay So that you buy it and I remember he told me this because I had the same feeling too And I'm sure all of you guys have the same feeling as well. He's like fuck man. I Feel bad about this. It's 15 bucks, right? That's I've been at times when I don't have 15 bucks, but you know, whatever, you know 15 bucks I'm willing to go into and go into debt with but uh But anyway, hey if you want to So anyway You know, he's I'm like why did it feel bad because I can tell you why it felt bad for me We were talking about this it felt bad because if that didn't work Dude if that didn't work, I'd feel like such a fucking turd such a like non-man such a weak Person for buying this thing for admitting, you know admitting that I like, you know, it wasn't good at Kind of something natural. I mean it feels like shit when you go up and talk to a girl She doesn't give you, you know, whatever feedback that you want, right? It makes you it makes you feel bad It makes you feel like less of a man when you go and seek out stuff. You're like shit Man I'm buying this book. The first one's always the hardest, you know, then they fucking break you It's like a hip-break in a bitch, but the first purchase is always the hardest and the thing was is When I got that book It did the little sales trick it actually did, you know, if you look at David D's book I think that was the first thing I bought it. It ain't so bad it actually makes more sense to me now than it did when I bought it, but uh Evan give me money That's his name Ebenezer, but but anyway So The the thing was is I didn't do it, you know, and I stayed in this mode where I kept buying stuff Right buy things here and there. I you know read the game. Oh, man If only I could if only I could but it made me feel bad and the thing was is I like that's the way I learned how to You know game was from guys who would say like put me down and say I needed to change I needed to change who the fuck are they to tell me I need to change. I already know I need to change I already know that I need to you know Dude, I'm ready. You know, I have dug the hole. I'm ready to jump in and fucking grow some roots Tell me what to do. Give me some water and it was like fucking dig a deeper hole You don't know you don't you don't pull the ass that I do or all that stuff And it's like fuck man. Why is it that sound like Taylor rain right there? Anyway So anyway So but the thing is is I Like always saw this community in so many so many awesome ways that never got taken advantage of one It's a community of guys now those girls involved and that's great I especially welcome feminists when they come and heckle me at layer talks in Austin Because they got fucking taken to goddamn school So so did they not yeah, it was good. Um, so anyway But no, I actually think it's a good thing I think it's a good influence this is all about knowing more about women in fact One of the things that I have found so amazing about women in the community or even women that I've had Relationships with women that I'm friends with Whatever is that they actually teach me more about game than than anything, right? It's just I needed that I needed that foundation to be built And I need that big solid block of foundation to be built and there's a lot of great teachers who are here speaking That can teach you that can teach you that foundation right so But here are some of the things that are missing that are missing about the community We all have these fake gay ass names. Here's what happened Basically, I took a boot camp and I signed up and I said what movie do I like there's one That's called solo that wasn't in print in America, which I was like, I don't know if anybody knows what that means They're they're gonna fucking think I'm some sort of freak if you guys have seen it You should you should watch it on the first date with a girl. How's that for social pressure? She apparently guys haven't seen the movie And so Al Topo is the other one so it's by this guy Hodor Roski is a Mexican director So I put that in and then it stuck But what was even better is like man, we got this group of guys. There's a few girls We call them attention seekers that is a group of girls and And the thing is is we have these fake names We have these fake names where we can go online and tell our stories, right? you know what we can tell our stories and kind of like bear our souls and Be honest and say like hey look. I have this problem I have this issue about not being able to to meet women. I feel kind of like you know not included with stuff and You know guys can you help but you know what happens? We go online and we fucking lie our asses up Oh, man fucking fucking I went up and approached like I berated these girls I approached these ten sets and they fucking like, you know, man Now I know why peacocking like works is because they paid attention to me or whatever You know, but we take completely the wrong message, right? We take all the community out of what this was called. It was called the community and that's what? 21 convention.com did I get it right? I don't see Anthony, but uh see see what he gets for not being here But that's what it was for it was to show it was to bring a community together That's why I keep coming back here and speak here And that's why he you know after the handjob in the bathroom after I speak I might agree to 2010 but Well, we'll see that hasn't happened yet Just that I'm setting my expectations levels up there. So So anyway, sorry, I've been sick I got sick after after my my Austin speech because I stayed up all night doing bad stuff Anyway, the the thing is is we take all that out of it Look everybody here whenever I first started speaking like this was the funny thing I spoke a layer talks and do it for like over two years, right and and people would be like Why do you speak to those assholes let them have money so all the instructors can say why do you fucking? What do you talk to them? Like geez they're all weird like I Dude, I'm pretty weird. I fucking saved my urine in this bottle for a month Anyway, but yeah, you know, that's normal. That's normal So Let me tell you what compliance is when you can convince a girl to drink that No, but anyway, I So I'd be like I'm pretty weird. I can actually like relate with him. I enjoyed it I enjoy like going out and talking to people. That was the other thing I'm like, well, isn't this about kind of like, you know meeting people and kind of bringing people up Like whatever dude, whatever, you know, and so then they were like dude, you're actually making money Nobody makes money and then it was kind of like Like a sand doesn't a little but you know, he's fucking Fuck fuck, you know, so they'd be saying all sorts of stuff like that And then they say well Brad P does it and this was before we all knew Brad P was like really good, right? So they were all like dude, he's full of shit. I read his post. They're too much Brad P is not full of shit. He's he's pretty awesome. Um, great guy, too Actually, he brings like a really good message with himself and all that stuff Other than him being so freakishly tall and weird I guess No, but anyway, so it's like dude, you know, I loved it, right? And they were like, how how are you how are you making money? The best is I love How are you what it? What is the quote? I won't bring up who said ever maybe because my Steve is the most manipulative person just takes advantage of the students. How is it that you manipulate them all and Giving them money. I'm like dude. I never like sell anything. I never Tell like I just say hey, I want to stay in touch. I want to like, you know Email you guys and all that shit and you know talk like I just say that they're like, but are you faking that you're their friend? And I'm like No, not. I'm just I like really want to know like what's going on I like if anything just to know what to teach more, you know Or just to hear your experiences because I enjoy that and they just be like I Don't get it. I don't get it. And then the best was they all tried to do it. They were like, I'm not here to sell you I'm not a guru But fucking respect me Because they'd like mimic these things that I would say right which I like dude. I'm not a guru I'm a fucking I'm like you guys there that has like maybe some more experience But I bet you tend to one you guys have a shitload of more experience than me and In a lot of different areas, right? And that's actually one of the cool processes of like why I do these like customized stacks and all the shit But that all being said it was like it was weird. I got to know the community I got to know people in the community who were better than a lot of the instructors who were in the layers I got to know like how different layers work like in Orlando. How many people are from here? Nobody? Yeah, so a couple guys like the top layers a really good layer You know, there's some there's some really good layers out there. You know, there's some really poor layers, too there's some It just crosses the whole gamut then one of the best layers I ever visited was in Indianapolis There's like 19. Oh, there were more than that. There were under 30 guys, right? Under 30 people in there and they all kept to get these guys went skydiving together These guys like, you know, some of them got married and they go to their weddings and shit There wasn't shrouded in the secrecy and it wasn't shrouded in this bizarre like nature So when somebody like asks you like hey, man, what's your hobbies? You're like, um, I Don't have any hobbies You know because they talk about it, you know, you're only as sick as your secrets That's that's a pretty pretty interesting thing like the other the other week I was in LA or well longer than the other week or whatever. I was in LA, right? And I met one of my former students who's kind of like surpassed. No, he's kind of done with the community He's a good friend of mine. He actually he's done a lot for me And actually I look up to him in a lot of ways. There's a couple people that are like that In fact, you know, you know Justin who was here last year who I look up to in a lot of ways It's my friends in the back who fucking left awesome but But anyway, there's a lot of people who I really really look up to and this guy was telling me he's like look man The community is like bizarre and I was telling him about a certain layer which happens to be in Where he lived you can do the math of where that is I'm like, yeah, dude, they suck they like I spoke there and they said we want 10% of the sales you made And I said you heard me speak for four hours for free on video that you guys can do whatever you want to the video And now you're sitting there telling me that you're selling it and I'm supposed to give you 10% When I said I wasn't selling anything because I'm overbooked with everything and and I was like dude That's like totally fucked up. That's like the non essence of a layer if they told me that before You know, maybe we could talk but that was a weird thing. It was a really weird thing for me I thought that was like kind of fucked up, right? I mean I charge for what I charge, but dude I give a lot of fucking free speeches and if any of you guys see me throughout these four days and you get me on lockdown Well, maybe I shouldn't encourage that. I mean, I will talk to you. I will go like I love doing it I love teaching. I love meeting people. I love talking to every one of you and hearing stories about your lives and saying like Hey, look man, why don't you take this different angle or hey, I had a similar experience or hey I had a similar student or whatever Like I truly love doing it, you know, that's fucking great to me. That's a beautiful thing, but But I was telling him and he goes dude. No wonder. Why do you why is that weird you Steve? So why is that weird? He's like this is first off the community was based on You know making shit up about you so that you could go talk to girls so that you could get laid and Then have like relationships with him even multiple relationships with stuff that wasn't you That's fucking sociopathic dude, and I've done it You know it sucks makes you feel like shit when you start fucking racking up massive lays like 40 lays in a year Based on that makes you feel like shit not all of them are based on that But there was a lot of that included in every single one of those interactions. I had to work to take that shit up It's weird it perpetuates a bizarre lifestyle and then he said but think about it so all these guys who formed formed whatever group it is to All these guys who formed a group You know to basically be full of shit to get women, of course, they're gonna do something like that You know it makes sense. So that's an interesting thing So let's get into the topics of our motives our perspectives and what was the other one expectations what is it that you guys expect from the community I had asked you and Goddamn I already forgot what you said, you know, you wanted to see you wanted to have some infield Experience and all that sort of stuff. That's great. It's a good question. Look. I'm not saying this stuff is is not You know it's not a Worthy thing I want all you guys to go out there and connect with people But connect with people in a way where it's using yourself and puts you on it on like autopilot almost Takes your strong points which you already have and have those start start voicing voicing themselves So infield experience, that's great. What are some other expectations that people have? Nobody come on when you sign up for this thing. What did you want? What did you want to hear out? Let's see how big matadors muscles are Yeah, and so this guy actually This guy he's from the Atlanta layer, so I know him from the Atlanta layer Actually, I don't know the other eight guys if I like spoken or no you guys all know that bitch Justin Say Justin came to Vegas with us and all my biggest ones were like dude. He's got like some sexual predator in a man And he's an intense guy right right so my student Now he's an intense guy he's he's in like that's a perfect example of using Using that's a perfect example of a student who taught me more in the long run and what I taught him Although I don't know he may argue but using his advantages to work for him You know Justin has a lot of stuff. He has a very rich life He spent his whole life helping people he spent his whole life You know making these huge transitions when he was 15 had didn't have an ideal childhood In fact, like if you look at all those brothers and sisters they all do not have good lives And he is a he's a guy who is I mean I want to say his profession But it's a very stable profession and he's a very educated dude and overcame a lot of barriers so what works for him is a mix of his craziness and his oversell us this and And and a lot of those experiences that he had which weren't so good Which what they say our Dlv's I was actually looking on the infield insider like YouTube things They're like this guy brought up that he didn't graduate from high school. What what he brought up that is good They're talking about me right to what to a girly brought up that is like girlfriend was like You know kidnapped his shit great and like why would why would he because because when people meet me I want them to meet me and I want to define that situation right away I'm gonna get to you know the tricks The right away right now go up and use ways to do that, but Before I do, you know, I want to I want to explain a few of these things first But that's what that's what I found works best for students. How many of you guys? Since we weren't so all hot on the interaction with the the expectations thing How many of you guys Actually Feel this is a common question that the people ask me, you know If I can just talk to a girl if I can get you know in that zone where I'm like sitting down and comfortable there I'm fine. How many you guys think that? Nobody Jesus Christ The two passive like Anyway, but all right So you guys you guys didn't didn't bite at that one, but this is a common thing everybody would know when they'd hire me They'd say dude. It's the beginning. I can't it's the beginning I can't get them to like open up, but once they get talking to me once I get talking once I'm talking I'm fine. I'm fine, and then later they'll come to me and say to my comfort games sucks How do I how do I how do I tell the story? How do I tell a story? Well, here's the key, right? All these theories and all these like things they're all right Like actually one of my one of my good friends Fuji back there is probably gonna give like a great speech That's hope pressures on buddy, but that's telling a very technical way to do game very technical way to do game That's how I learned that's great. That's fucking awesome, but At the same time dude, we're all guys that love we're guys for one where guys were like, dude Show me the techniques. I'm gonna do it. I'm gonna fucking do nobody's gonna tell me No, that time when I was five my dad told me to pick up the jar and I picked it up But it hurt, but I did it and then put it on the table like no, it's gonna be like that You know, I'm gonna I'm gonna do it, right? Yeah, so so we're like I'm gonna learn I'm gonna be the best fuck man all these other guys they quit I'm gonna all right So so they go and they they we get it and we learn all these techniques But then we get obsessed with them and then we learn like another person's technique And they're like fuck psych told me that fuck Adonis was shit, dude Then I heard Matt and we're talking. Oh fuck man. Jesus Christ. Well, look, we want to keep it simple, right? I want to keep it simple because I know that you guys are gonna have like a lot a lot of influence, right a lot of folks a Lot of folks coming at you this weekend And I just rode in this car with these guys that were like Fuck he's blowing he said he's blowing kisses out of his ass Anyway, but uh So anyway, you're gonna have a lot of stuff a lot of stuff to take in let's keep it simple So what are some things that you guys could do one we we're all familiar with this idea of attraction, right? We're all familiar with this idea of comfort. We're all familiar with this idea of seduction Well, you know, they're kind of put there just to make it easier for us But the thing is is we want to talk to people we want to do the most human most human thing which is Yeah, just socialize or have sex. I don't know the most the most human the most like primal function, right? The most natural thing the thing which we automatically do, you know It's like human beings are one of those three mammals which actually has sex to find a part of its culture. Um, and We want to make it into this like crazy, you know fucking mathematical equation with six variants I forget what the M3 model has but Like it's an algorithm Haha, anyway So we want to take that we want to take it, but we also want to be natural now being natural Look TD is a fucking person who I have mad respect for I would not be teaching If I did not meet TD a year and a half ago and have him talk and just see the resilience in his voice and all that It was funny because we were sitting in this Cafe in Hawaii drinking kava and which is like a root which relaxes you or something and it's like a tea Whatever look it up. Um, we're drinking it. He's like dude guys guys check this out. No, you know, you know He's like no, so let me tell you He just goes he just goes on and on he's like but look the routines are just weird. They're weird So like what about being yourself and then like the next month the marketing campaign for a natural game came out Let me tell you something about natural game natural game is not like fucking going out and exploding, right? Like you just fucking ate rope a chick with your personality It is not it is not that like the people that are naturally good with women are what they're confident and dominant guys They're guys that that we wanted to be guys who aren't afraid of expressing themselves guys who are You know Guys who are not afraid of taking the right chances and when they make the make them a mistake You know, they own up to those those are what like guys who are naturally good with with women do You know, what's interesting is we did this interview yesterday me Anthony and Anyway, we did this interview for this little Internet You know news casting and they said why is it why is it that? you know people are Into this and my answer to that is because there's a lack of a masculine definition in our culture and there is There's a lack of feminine definition in our culture You know, what is defining us? You know, why was like a movie like Fight Club a popular movie? What is defining us? Nothing nothing We're up here and we don't know what to do and so then we come here and we we come to Conventions like this so we got we talked with each other we got to clubs We got we meet people because we're looking for that definition Well, look what I want to teach you guys what hopefully a lot of the instructors that are here can teach you guys is How to do that better define a masculine and feminine role because dude, we don't have it that doesn't mean that we go and we like You know fuck up other people we embarrass people that doesn't mean that we need social pressure That doesn't mean that we need all this shit look like it means that we need to go out And we need to learn how to understand people number one number one Men and women are not that different. There's some differences, but a little biological realm We're not that different We need to understand people we need to understand what we want, right? what we want as a man and You know what women may want and women can want a whole bunch of things just like you can want a whole bunch of things It's the women are not sluts that go to a club that want to get fights You know some women may have that in the back of their mind But even if they do have that in their mind and that is their mission If you only see him is that you're gonna sell yourself short You're gonna have a bunch of shitty ass fucking SNL's that's worse than jerking off and dude I'll fucking I've had a ton of them You know the guy who came up with the whole the term SNL is my friend I got with him the other night and I beat his ass time and time again and whatever competitions we used to have So anyway And he's good. I mean he's the best, you know quote-unquote pool. I know if that means anything so What I want to get to I want to do a few things With that whole long-winded shit out of the way Let's let's talk about stuff that's relevant to you guys and This how I teach best by interacting with you guys And I'll tell you the little like complex systems and the tricks and all that shit that that I'm doing In order to make this stuff work, but what I want to know is who here thinks they have a poor You know actually who here thinks they they may not be entitled to talk to women All right, so you guys are all just gonna fucking mob it when we get out of here, right? right All right, who here thinks that? You know has has trouble approaching That's the real question I already hit you up even though you raised your hand first, so I'm gonna hit you What's your name? David David says David Yeah, so okay. Sorry. I didn't say anything. I was just expecting for you to say There's how long have you been in this about two years. All right So first off what what like what do you do like when you approach and that sort of thing? What what is it that you kind of? say Show mostly kind of depends on where I'm at what I'm doing, so it's all the gamut daytime that time At the bathhouse you mean like where or what do I say what what like what is it that? What is it that defines your game in a nutshell? Are you a direct guy are you an opinion guy indirect over the shoulder? high energy Fun guy, so I'm having fun with it So what are some of the issues you run into being a fun guy meeting girls who don't give anything back? quick enough for me to Take that energy and ride it. Okay, so if you guys don't mind now mind you you are being recorded And I am going to post all of your last names occupations cities that you live in on my website And that's what this camera spores to take your picture as well, and I'll fucking find out who your goddamn parents are So with that all being said That'll be instead if you tell me like some personal stuff about you, you know as much as you're comfortable about And I always share stuff about mine What I want to do is say hey look this is a problem. You're you've been in it like two years, right? You've been in it two years, and still you run into girls who don't give you enough back when you talk to them now That should be like that should be first and foremost one of the most important things you would you would ask like You know places you go right or what outside of a club? Well look one of the best solutions for that is is actually to work on the logistics go places You like the best dating advice I ever heard was before I got into any of this and boy did I follow it? It's really simple. It's like do what you love to do and the right people will come in your life Right do what you love to do the right people come in your life Sometimes you have to manifest that you know if you love to do things which are Isolatory, you know that may not help, you know, then you get like that one fucking Bird that flies in you And you hope you're not like a what's his name not curly then George from my son. No, not George the fuck is the No, George is the the man in my cement the guy who kills the Lenny Lenny I was rude for curly in that book now But anyway, you want to you want to bring the the the right people to you So where are the places that you go? You should be a go to the local local bars and clubs you live in Atlanta Portland, oh really? That's a cool town shit. I love Portland. You know, it's awesome. There's a little tangent It's all the pickup people hate Portland because it's like not club or whatever Fuck any traveler. That's a dude fucking savage is the only like I Seriously, this guy like went around I heard about him. He's like my buddy my buddy We'll call him shaft. He slept on his couch Years ago. He said no this guy. You got to read his blog. He's like you he takes pictures He drives around he just like goes to concerts and fucks chicks like all over. I'm like, man I like I thought everybody in the community was like it would make sense You know, it's like a manly thing to do go around adventure. Nobody does that Nobody does that. I want you to still hold the mic Sorry, sorry. So what what are some things about yourself? Tell me one thing that you like and tell me one thing that you dislike I like that. I'm a good writer And I don't like that. I can't always fully express myself, right? Great. Ah, the writer's dilemma What kind of writing do you do? Screenwriting and short stories. Okay. What kind of movies do you like science fiction science fiction? So all right, so check this out what you want to do what everybody wants to do in your first interaction with a girl All right, we all have these openers, right? And it's true what they say. It's like direct opener This is what you do for and there's all sorts of reasons why to have a direct opener I mean, I'm not really making yeah, I am fun of it, but uh There and then there's opinion open. It's just indirect openers. All right The main thing is that we're going out. We're actually talking to people. We're talking to people that we are attracted to We're not talking to people to work in a fucking thousand approaches. Somebody here might tell you something different Which is fine, you know and by far listen to them We're not talking to somebody to to just have some throwaway conversation We're talking to people to have a meaningful conversation because I'll tell you what guys once you get yourself on that auto pilot Once you get yourself in a mode where you can express yourself and have you put you out there and they like it That that little mechanic which I can I'm sure I'm going to show you how to do right now I'm gonna show more of you guys how to do once you learn how to do that It'll feel good. It'll feel normal. It will feel natural. It won't feel like hey Natural which sometimes it is if I did like a pound of blow in the bathroom set up a chemistry set It feels pretty natural to do that But then then you can't get an erection, you know If you do you guys obviously haven't Done done enough cocaine to know that but ah all right So anyway, so but What you want to do is you want to present these things right so they're gonna They're gonna put you in a place where it's you so there's a couple things all right in the techniques I have the techniques number one is addressing a flaw All right, you address a flaw and you reframe it which we're gonna get to you But I'm gonna turn all this shit into an opener and and I have you go into some sort of grounding sequence Which isn't gonna work 100% of the time because we're humans. There's nothing mechanical about us, right? We're fucking and we're fluid, you know logic does not make sense for men or women Just know that otherwise we wouldn't work and do all the weird shit we do all right so We want to address a flaw we want to get to that point which is gonna be that you don't know how to express yourself Don't a writer that doesn't know how to express himself All I got to say is all you people who want to read like whatever new age books read some Henry Miller the writer They couldn't express himself the fucking That laid pipe all over Europe and had women write about it that are that are famous books and You know the thing is is that's that's actually an attractive quality, right? But it sucks because you feel it you feel it as an individual thing just like everybody has something out there like I actually Man, there's that stuff which is uncomfortable for me to bring up with with people and I bring it up as much as possible Especially on stage and on camera, so it's out there on the internet so everybody can When my Wikipedia page comes up Steve said he was molested by tigers, which is why his penis is turned into just a lump of Anyway So what we want to do is let's turn this into an opener All right, so I'm just gonna give first off if we go direct, you know What what is it direct? We got to immediately transition to something so if we go direct we go Hey, I'm a writer. I want to ask you something What do we what do we do for direct but but it could be something along those lines But we want to get into this rhythm where where we where we start to actually tell a story which is building in now This is ingenious. What's ingenious about the early pickup guys? They came up with this idea push pull right swinging back and forth You push them a little you pull them back in every animal doesn't they came up with some other things like bait They came up with some things like compliance fuck maybe get somebody to do things over and over again and they Do that rather than the other option that they don't know about That is amazing. They came up with things like qualification right which qualification is awesome. This is so awesome It's so great. We were My buddies and I were at the strip club the other day and we met my friend Chris This is a great story. There's a strip club in Dallas, which has like a bunch of playboy models working at it and So we're there and I met this guy like a couple months ago and he said He goes he goes because man, I like I want to know everything about game I suck at it da da da da da and I go well, dude, everybody like knows you here. What the fuck? Jesus Christ and I'm like what he's like. Oh, well, I've only had girlfriends here. I'm like, how many girls have you like slept with here? He's like 17 what? You know, here's an inside scoop here guys one of the better who was in in Dallas or who wasn't Dallas had sex with Zero strippers the whole time he was there for two years so and try to go to that club a lot of times and what's even funny is this dude pays him money and For his one of his like online things and I said, yeah, you should talk about how now you're at 21 Stripers because he is and I've known him for like two three months I But he doesn't know anything about like cold approach stuff, but he was asking me about qualification He goes, how do I qualify because I just qualify this girl. She got pissed. I'm like look dude qualification is not for It is not so you piss somebody off. It's not really so you gain value It's to see if you like them right and it's the guide the situation It's to see if you have what it takes to talk to me, right? It's a valuable thing to say, but everybody turned it into value Everybody turned it into you know how we're going to calibrate it for in comfort, right? Fuck do you qualifications an awesome thing because it allows me to ask you questions that I picked the topic I can ask you about my passions or I can see I can ask you about your passions and I can talk about mine I can ask you about what kind of movies you like so I can talk about movies I can ask you about some of the fears that you have so I can talk about my fears and make them look good So what we're going to do it with you is we're going to say hey I got a question for you. This can be a nighttime daytime. Tell me whatever variants or questions you have for it nighttime daytime Hey, I got a question for you. All right. Look, it's really weird for me because sometimes I like miscommunicating in certain ways Whatever whatever I'm I can't ask you this. I can't all right. So that's bait bait 101 any one of your answers, right? Especially if you're in like a low-stimulant environment environment, which would be a restaurant which would be a bar Which would be in the daytime, which would be at a bookstore Which would be it, you know a kid soccer practice when you don't have a kid all those places, right? So you'd say like hey, you know what I got a question for you because like sometimes I have misinterpreted Anyway, whatever forget it. I can't I can't ask you this you're too you're too, you know something But let's let's put something in there which might work towards like a healthy frame. You're somebody that's like to judge mental You go and run your mouth. All right, so things like that like keeping a secret things like being open-minded Those are good healthy things. I want to talk to that part of that person So I'm gonna put it out there right all right if they don't have it if they if they say well, I am You know, then you kind of say all right. Well, I don't want to have this conversation with you, right? So or maybe you can torture yourself and push through plow through man So anyway, I will You know so let's let's continue from there So there you're gonna say oh, whatever man, I can't ask you all right, and then they go say no no no tell me tell me All right, and then you're just gonna go you're just gonna say from there Well, look, you know, I'm somebody who's like I'm a writer and it's kind of weird to talk about things But I always get weirded out in situations like this like I'm trying to figure it out Are you somebody that is and then we're gonna say two components, right now notice I didn't stand the typical opener structure of saying, you know The situation is this and the situation facilitates this and isn't the situation funny or shouldn't you have an opinion about this situation? I'm going for them right away because I want to talk to them. I don't want to fucking talk to their facade I don't want to talk. I don't care if it's a club or whatever You know, I don't want to talk to a part of them Which I'm not gonna be communicating with them because I enjoy talking to people which is you know Which all of your goals should be right? I want to talk to them So how it goes is hey, you know what? I kind of like I'm a writer and I think about things in kind of a different way But it's situations like this and making me feel uneasy. I'm wondering if you are This type of person or that type of person are you somebody that like kind of like over things things or do you like? Kind of like jump into things head first. Oh, wait a minute. Wait a minute. Don't tell me or whatever Slap on whatever bait charisma thing you want, but that's interesting. All right, so look look it's real quick real quick Especially if you're in like a bookstore. I don't I don't like standing in the romance novel. I'll because I'm obviously here to talk to women Or to read these books and take them to the bathroom Sneak them in the bathroom. Anyway, but but it's that quick Hey, hey, can I ask you something just because I forget it. You're too busy Okay, I'll ask you anyway Like I like a writer and all this stuff, but I can do something which you know It's okay for me to ask this right I can do so much misinterprets people a little bit and one of the things about that is I Get along with only a certain type like I bet you are all right. You're either one or the other But I got to know are you somebody that like? Are you somebody that is like really kind of like rethinking it just off the cuff? Or are you somebody that kind of like I? Don't know do you tend to attract like the wrong people in your life? All right Both are pretty you know what we can call cold reads the highest level of manipulation Stealth tactics those are those are some pretty common cold read some pretty things And when you're cold reading I'm not saying like prick them fuck It's better than a roofie Because it's not really let me tell you on my on my product page. I actually sell those so Anyway So So but anyway, but we're putting stuff out there It's like fuck. I want to talk to that part of that person I want to talk to somebody that's open-minded I want to talk to the part of them which you know attracts a certain type of bad person or whatever the reason I say I want to talk to the part that attracts a bad person is because I want to talk to the part of the person That makes decisions about who they like because that is a fucking core part because you know what that's the same fucking part That you can't express right and then you're on autopilot and Then it's like that fucking not is untied right that big not of not knowing how to To You know express yourself not knowing how to be there is fucking untied and you're walking on a path You know what you just did there you just put out a thread You know you put out a thread there of saying look I'm a writer You know I misinterpret things a little bit wait a minute. I'm nervous So I can't ask you this because it's obviously important to me That's the point well That's one of the points a date and then you say you say but look are you this type of person that I get along with or not? Because I hate having these conversations where the people who I don't get along Right. Are you this type of person or that type of person? Because you know what and then you can tell stories. You know what it's weird like I'm embarrassed to bring this up I mean like fuck like a lot of people say they like write movies and brag about it but I actually really hate it because I like to write science fiction movies and one thing about science fiction writers is they're the most like Kind of demented people whatever whatever, but it's in a good way. It's like it's truly the reason why You know, it's weird and then check in and say check in with them because remember we're trying to align We're putting stuff out there about us And we're seeing what they like grab on to and ingratiate We're saying hey that hand that you just put out there and touched it and touched it I like that hand. Let me suck on those fingers No, but anyway, so So so So anyway, we're gonna we're gonna try and simulate that we're gonna say hey, you know what? But I can tell I can tell you like that because you're bringing this out of me. That's great. That's a great line That's a great line to trick them. You're bringing this out of me. You're bringing this side out of me It's really awesome. I feel comfortable and fuck man. I've known you for a minute and a half And shit. That's awesome So then you're gonna say but you know what's weird about science fiction writers We like all this weird bizarre stuff We do things like start Dianetics and fucking then like get all these people to drug us and live in Clearwater, Florida And have me sign all these blank piece of paper talking about all around Hubbard If you don't know the history of amazing Anyway, so You know we come with all these bizarre ideas, but it's really we come up with these bizarre ideas because we know Humanities so well and that's the thing. It's like I I love talking to people But at the same time I hate it, you know And it forces me to go inside and think things but you're like that too Forces me to think internally post just me to think like a woman Forces me to think you know about things which are important and deep inside me because you know what as I bring those up They're bringing them towards me. All right, and you know, basically when I meet somebody I remotely like I Remotely like in any way, I'm not thinking like fuck dude. Okay, what? Sean what technique do I do here? You know, I don't think that you know what I do is I just go hey, no man I can't I can't You know fuck I don't drink for these reasons or shit at this relationship man I have two kids that Yeah, this is crazy with the X this stuff happened blah blah blah blah. I bring that all up Because you know why because it's attractive fuck dude. I didn't I didn't graduate from high school So what I'm not trying to brag about it. I'm just telling you I'm like shit Dude doesn't matter my brother is one of the high high most high educated people in the world now mind You can maybe function in a little bit better than me, you know, but But at the same time, it's like what does that matter, you know in Capitalistic society, I do make more money than I I travel around I get to do a lot of things that I want to do That's fucking great. So why is it that I should be ashamed about bringing any of this shit up? All right What of that do you have questions about? It's hard for me to think right off the bat about No, no, I'm just like what questions do you have you're going like man, I can't say that in a club That's what I always get but how could you say like tattoos on girls in a club? We all we all swallow that one really easy No, but what what are some questions that you have like Steve you clarify this What if I can't find an upside to something? Negative about myself that I'm talking about Dude, I'll tell you right now. Look. I have like massive Massive fucking like drug stories. I have massive stories of where like I got fucking lost everything dude When I came here and spoke last year, dude, I had lost like everything like like tons of stuff in my life I was in this like major lawsuit and that was being slammed by the really alpha dudes in the community is being Is being like he's a thief he has these bad reviews, but we can only find one later to find out that was actually you know kind of Whatever, you know melt a little bit You know blah blah blah blah blah dude There's tons of times when I've lost things and I felt bad about them I felt terrible about them, you know There's times like I have relationships now because I'm dumb enough to have multiple ones at one time or whatever, you know and In like the things are not going good, but how is it that I project that to people? Dude, I tell every girl that I am attracted to And a lot of times I have to force myself because it's a fear You know how people talk about these social pressure exercises Let's go and moonwalk around a group of people or sing like whatever song that's all that's great No, you know, but you know what life has real challenges that actually come up to you Life has real things like when I talk to a girl I'm afraid to bring up that I have like these other girlfriends that are really upset with me because of this stuff So I tell them I tell those girls, you know, what's funny about that is they're actually interested I'm not saying I'm using it. It's like some. Oh, that sounded good I wonder if I should wipe Um Guess so No, so anyway, uh, no, I like I I tell that to him because I'm afraid of it because you know what the truth in all honesty The truth is actually, you know, you only have to remember one story now The key to it is is you want to learn some methodologies all the shit that I can bank on That was a lot of good speakers. I don't mean to keep singly Fuji out, but he's gonna talk about that shit He's gonna talk about it. What I'm saying is Look Take those mechanics take those mechanics see him see what they're for what we want to do is we want to translate those to our lives You know, I didn't know how to dude. I did do a Stupid ass opener. I did tattoos on girls for fucking four months You know why because of my bootcamp. They told me to and I'm like that fucking It's so bad because then I started teaching bootcamps and they're like Wait a minute You really did the opener for we just kind of say that we don't think you're gonna actually do it. Anyway, so But I thought it was like a funny funny fucking thing, right? but in any case Whatever it's we we you can turn anything good and it's your job because I'll tell you something too and Like look, I'm telling these stories and I'm telling you these stories of With women that I've had like really good relationships with and even some of them might be brief some of them I may have only wanted to be brief but You know, I don't want you to misinterpret them. I'm saying like dude I fucking pounded this chick which did happen No, but I want you to actually realize that I I like, you know, basically when I did these things I wasn't trying to fucking like trick them. I liked them I liked them was attracted to him at the first moment. I opened this chick I said hey, I want to put a baby in you and she laughed and You know, the funny thing about this girl is you like this guy He commented to me. He's like, well, you only attract like club sluts for this sense of humor This chick was in a daytime for one. This chick's a computer programmer and makes like a lot of money He's really successful. I mean, she's the most she's very great narrow. Actually, she describes herself as but You know, that's what I said So I don't want to put a baby in you then I said, you know what? I'm just fucked up I have all these I talked to her for like an hour and a half, right and Somebody you all get a discount, but uh, but anyway, I talked to her for a while Just telling the story about my life. She didn't say shit. There was another girl there And I was just saying yeah, you know this problem this problem that fucker when I was like all drunk one night I fucking went to the strip club and slipped and fell on this like concoction of common piss Had to beg for somebody to buy me a shirt. I'm just talking about all this stuff essentially like bad stuff But it was truly like a thing about my life right stuff about my life And I wasn't really joking about it's talking about very seriously I told her I have like a bunch of women issues because of like, you know This and that happening when I grew up and blah blah blah blah and I seek out attention with females yada yada yada yada yada And as soon as the other girl left she said hey, you know what I actually understand what you're talking about And then she started telling me shit about herself and I'm like Jesus Christ now I do want to put a baby in this shit fuck. I know what it's like when I fucking run my shit No, but the thing is I'm not really running shit I'm talking about this stuff and then I met her that day and planned a trip And then we had a week-long trip where we drove all around and shit And uh, but that's that's how stuff goes and you know that actually happens all the time for me And it's really easy. It's like fucking cake easy Like where I'll be sitting in a restaurant or waitress will talk to me I'll be sitting in a restaurant and I'll talk to somebody or you know, I'll go to some bar Whatever I'll go and do something that I like doing And I'll see somebody that I'm attracted to some port guys approach Look you want to approach you want to practice, right? But how many times did you what is it that you do for work? So how many times do you have to work out? You know or work with some actually it's a better question How many times was it that you actually had to train somebody and work with them to know what it was like? He works at a gym. He works at a gym everybody Now so how many times was it that you actually worked with somebody to know that you were good at I would say I just thought it was good, right? Even so why is it that we have to do a thousand fucking approaches? You know why you know, right? See I'm yelling here. I'm fucking fired up. All right, fuck I'm waiting for that fucking beat-off of dream in the bathroom later. No, but uh No, but you knew you were good at it fuck dude What if you could go and talk to women and you knew you were good at it? What if you could go and talk to women and you could be your fucking self, right? Because that's what being a man is right. It's not being afraid to be those things What if you could do that that's easy you need to do it like maybe ten times, right? Ten times of practice and to know what it feels like to know what it feels like to be afraid and say hey Do you know what it to know like the difference of like hey? We're coming into this angle or or how close we're standing and all this crazy shit. That's that's all you need You need to you need to recognize those things Maybe you need to do it fucking 20 times, but dude you don't need to kill yourself doing that You can do that in a week you can do that in two weeks if you want to take your time with it But that's what you should be doing and the quickest you can get to a point of confidence where you can project that and actually tell Somebody look this is how you work out if you want to take care of yourself if you want to do blah blah blah blah Here's what I did. Here's what my other clients did. Here's what whatever, you know, here's what my experience is Here's what I've seen other people I look up to do You know that's what it should be. Hey look you know what I'm attracted to you I'm attracted to you so much to the point that I have to talk to you That's who I talked to right the other day. We were talking to we were talking to a couple girls and I I fucking hate this I mean look, I'm I'm telling you guys No, but but in reality, I'll get caught in the mood, you know why because I hung out with all these guys who were like Gaming all the time. It's just fucking annoying like this unnatural like hey. Yeah. Oh, yeah Really you must be that was do that was do the you must be Jesus Christ, man, really? No, but anyway, so but the thing is is I'll catch myself doing it, you know, I'll press too hard like one of my one of my best friends and one of my best friends who Will call we'll call Dave. He always says like Steve. Why are you always like pressing so hard to these people? You can see him again Yeah, you can see him again. It's not like he's saying look abundance But essentially that's what he is saying Fuck you can see people again. You can have an experience again You're gonna have a relationship with somebody that cultivates and grows Fuck man. Let it go. You have a shitty night. You have a good night. You have a good night Whatever it shouldn't define you what should define you are the things that you love about yourself Are you ready for you? I suppose work with people and in the gym and that sort of things Those are those are great things. You know what I like to do I like to travel I like to play music. I like to do photography. I like to work with people I like talking to women a lot. I love talking to women You know, what's weird is everybody else just like how I told you I gave layer talks all the time Is everybody thought it was weird that I talked to women now like I'm gonna I'm gonna just say this for savages speech But you can tell he's talked to women and talked what makes them attracted. It wasn't like at what point What point did you know you liked it was more like what I get from him and what I like to know It was like what really made you like me because I liked you at this point Like Rick like seriously and I talked to him about this that like I got turned on when we'd have this conversation And I had to fucking talk to you and they'd say well Maybe not you know and it was always a little bit more down the road And I'm like well, why did I sense that with you blah blah, but I learned so much all the stuff I know about like game really comes from talking to women. It's not debriefing them It's actually getting to know them and what makes them sexually attracted what makes them sexually turned on because they aren't more so all right Let's move along. Let's move along in terms of more routine stuff because everybody loves that stuff Who here is having a problem that they're that they want to bring up? Nobody you're all perfect Come on guys. I do this really good. Hey, where's that piece of paper? What's in the back the reason for that is we're gonna do a little little trick with that piece of paper in a few minutes As soon as I have it in my hands, but who here has something who here has something that that they want help with nobody Fucking I already talked to Craig enough Seriously guys This is this is retarded. All right. I'm gonna go with with you you raised your hand first Again, I'll ask you what is something that you're really proud of about yourself that you find is defining towards you No, you in general. Let's get the microphone. He's pretty driven Alright driven towards what? Your goals and what are some of those goals? What's the short-term goal? Okay, cool Cool, so check this out if you could talk about those things it would be easy for you to talk about right But they're always like don't talk about marketing They won't understand it. Hey your job is to make people understand it your job is to make everybody understand That's what you do as a marketer, right? You know so So what you want to do is like you can be flirty what would be just a I know I'm pretty honest I would be a quick example of a flirtatious Interaction that you have I'm in a certain mood and like that mood equals me like flirty and playful I don't know how to it's just it's kind of like a feeling and I know the days that I feel that I Know the days that I know I'm gonna do like good when I go talk to girls Just because of how I feel and then I know the days that I feel like I'm gonna have a shitty night Just cuz I guess maybe Okay, cool cool cool. All right, so in terms of in terms of that you're going out at nighttime. I assume Okay So a lot of it actually might be feeling that you don't feel like you have a place in it, too Right, but no, I just have been very busy because I just started this job. Sure. Sure. Sure So dude, why don't you say that? I mean, why don't you say that? Why don't we put that into like some sort of opener so you can talk about that right away? And then define it to them because in every story guys by this time where we got a right stuff down In every story, there's a beginning middle and end, right? This was the this was the ingenious thing that that future had told me The ingenious poor technique of beginning middle and end what I always say is there's a thesis There's your content and there's your definition every interaction no matter if it's an opener no matter if it's You know this long fucking, you know gigantic story that That you want to have that you want to have a definition at the end based on Your experience your content all this stuff. All right, so Check it out what you want to do is You want to somehow state? Hey look I somehow like you I just started this job This and that's happening. It's a marketing job that makes you and me click. All right So how do we do that? You can do it for anything. So pretty if you're a little bit creative You can figure out, you know how to do these things and this is what I would encourage all of you guys to start Don't be with so hey, hey, let me ask you something, you know And then you can add that bait or not of saying, oh, you know what I can't ask you But you can say hey, you know, can I ask you something? It's actually an important question. I bet you're somebody that That actually thinks a little bit different here I'm gonna I'm gonna prove it like I started this marketing job, right? That's all I've been doing so I'm in like work mode and you're in like social mode But I actually think it's harder for women to get in social mode than guys, right? They're gonna say no. Yeah, you say what the fuck are you talking about? Are they gonna agree with you at some some Facet right they're gonna think blah blah blah blah blah Either way, they're gonna react they'll very much react to a question like that because it's like hey make a decision You know the the stuff about you having a job and those things That's just that's just makes that just makes it easier for you to talk about stuff It's not like really adding value or you know the normal mystique of those things It kind of does but you know, no man, I've been working a lot. I want to ask you this question I bet you think different right so I'm setting my expectation of what I'm you know This is actual real conversation. I'm having with you. It's not like you know some half-assed thing. It's a real conversation And then I'm going to say I'm gonna say but you know what I bet I bet that you're somebody That totally and then I'm gonna hit some sort of like some part of them that I enjoy talking to them about So I'm gonna take I'm gonna take a quality. I'm gonna assume about you and I'm gonna put it into this routine to project it Right, so I'm gonna say I love hearing that click. I'm gonna say I'm gonna say I'm gonna I'm gonna say for you I'm gonna say that you want to be somebody That they want to get you in your natural state your natural habitat state. I'm gonna say that for somebody like you it's a I'm gonna say for somebody somebody like you you're gonna be interested in somebody that's really driven as well Somebody that is really driven and very very ambitious and that's who you want to talk to you Don't want to talk to somebody who's you know some damsel under stress or maybe you do you know And then you can say I bet you're somebody that's really unstable and fucks up every time probably have like two kids from different dads Like it'd be a cold read right do you get that one right? Fuck you want a third I'll call ten of my friends over give you even more than that So anyway, so but but what you want to say to him is you want to tell him that you're You want to force some sort of Frank so you said hey, you know what I wanted to ask you something I think you think a little bit different, but look I started this marketing job for you know There's this thing. I think you're not like this, but most women Like look I'm in work mode, and I'm thinking that thing That's normally like how most women think but you think maybe a little bit more in a social mode or something Or and so they'll say yes, no, maybe so right go fuck man I knew you'd say that or something just like oh fuck you know I'm like I'm glad you answered whatever you know Somehow with whatever their reaction is you're then gonna say you know what what's awesome about you is is I can tell you a really different person because most people get nervous when they have you know Are asked a question like that you know you actually knew it like I bet if I asked you I bet if I asked you like right now right now. What is it? That you really want to do I bet you'd know Because if you asked me that would be awesome right then you'd have to go back with some like you know attraction type stuff But for the most part you're setting a fucking stage man You're laying it out for them to have an easy conversation where you can say look this is what I'd like This is what I'm attracted to are you gonna be it you don't have to if you are Let's keep talking Because in reality that's all that there can be and I'll tell you what that works really fucking good That works really good then you're very tall you're very short My mom never told me to date tall people because blah blah blah blah blah blah blah so That works a lot better than that shit. It works really quick But in order to get the mechanics of that stuff those things are really good. So what was that? It's beginning middle and end Thesis this is about me talking to you right now All right, here's the content. I just started this job where this thing happened. I have this opinion about something Maybe it's true. Maybe it's not give me an answer. You gave me an answer You gave me something you remember that whole idea of a to you gave me something Hey, I'm gonna tell you what that means and then we're gonna have a conversation like that or not All right, what's even better is we can do that with sexuality to all right? What is something else you had your hand raised sir, oh wait wait for the microphone wait for the microphone Fuck out of this paper like disappears Rub your sign off. Oh, go ahead One of my main problems is Isn't really creating opportunities or anything but simply capitalizing on it or just making it move awesome I know exactly what to do, but for some reason I feel a little anxious about it You know, I I want to talk more I want but I'm just gonna say this That's actually a really really really important question because The thing is yeah, we know what to do, you know what to do, but it's hard to execute it. That's important That's why I'm saying as much as possible get yourself On my kind of like an autopilot with all this where you can actually project You know parts parts of yourself, which will naturally, you know come out But what points do you really notice this happen? Approaching and I guess like making the first kiss or something like that. Okay, what is it that you? You know this kind of like food for thought or maybe like on Sunday when we're all beaten and tired and you know It's funny as last year last year all the instructors did the circle of oi It's all the girls that they be rated and that was funny because they hadn't like hung out with each other in a while while they ignored everybody here and Which was pretty amazing I thought and then Anyway all the students like we're like dude I was in the elevator, you know, it's like out of three something like these things happen like we witnessed them happening and I don't know if the instructors have the same privilege But but I mean the instructors get laid on so I just thought it was a weird dynamic So Sunday when we do our Q&A that like in more speakers have spoken Maybe we can reference them because there's a lot of directions that I could go with that But yeah, it'll be a good time anyway, I think Why is it? What is it that you want out of these situations? With with women do you want to like hook up with them that night? Do you want to? You know get to know them. Do you want dates shit like that talk either like between a hookup like just an SNL or Meaningful relationship, but it's one of those two right right right so what we want to do and Adonis will probably talk about this But this is a very common idea Is that we want to go for screening You know you want to find out what girl you're talking to right away and part of that is your motivation Remember as men as men we want to be leaders, right? We want to be dominant We want to do all this all this stuff. We want to you know We want to set the tone right and so what we want to do is if those are your motives, which is a pretty broadscape It's like yeah, I want everything from these girls. Are they gonna have sex me that night Are we gonna hook up or are we gonna have a relationship? But we want to know that right away So how do we do that? We're gonna find out what type of girl they are so we want to have qualifiers that allow us to we want information from them Right, so we want qualifiers and saying like hey, what are you passionate about? You know, what do you enjoy or what are things that you would value in a relationship, you know So you ask those questions if they don't answer them Then you know they're probably not people you're gonna talk too much and you may just want to have an experience Maybe you want to there's nothing wrong. There's absolutely nothing wrong with having sex with somebody You know that night or whatever But I'll tell you this the more you do that the more you're gonna press yourself And it's gonna bring out all sorts of awesome insecurities about you Which you're gonna which you're gonna have to work on which is which is actually a good thing But there's nothing wrong with having sex with somebody the same night You know there's plenty of women that want that too not all women I mean you can't assume that all women but some girls might like that the whole essence of what CJ was saying with the SNL Was you're setting them free? You're putting out frames to set them free so you want to you want to put those out next So you say like hey, you know what let me ask you I know he just met me seem pretty cool. You wear your hair in a bun and have like too much eye makeup on I bet you're a pretty passionate person, you know, but I would bring out a really quick Really quick and they may not be able to answer it. They probably won't be able to answer that's fine And then you say what is it that you do for work? You Okay, so you say look I'm a student. I'm in transition with a lot of stuff right now I don't know what I'm doing But I know like I really enjoy my friends and I enjoy like going out and having a good time I mean, that's a good way to say to define your passion. So you say, what are you passionate about? They're kind of like well, I mean I hang out and they're like no no like look for myself You know, I'm in school and I have like these goals focused on this and that you define right have these goals focused in these ways and and Man, I don't know. I see myself going in a good direction But like what what really is it that drives you they can't answer it or they don't want to answer it then you start you switch to that more like SNL hookup mode and I would actually go a little bit more aggressive with it I mean not to I can tell you how to get really aggressive, but Then I would I would do things like standing a little bit closer. I would do things like I Would do things like stand a little bit closer and start saying things like oh man I bet you're somebody that like just likes to have fun man that like thinks on your feet. Yeah, you're spontaneous You're just somebody that that knows what you want right away and goes for it. Am I right? Am I right? There's all sorts of like touching shit You can do with that what I would say in terms of things like I don't know where to go with it Because I'll tell you this a long time ago. I was told a long time ago I was told set these frames down and then you just let it you sit back and that's that's not entirely true But it's pretty goddamn true. You set the situation out and it'll take care of itself, right? You don't have to have unprotected sex a bunch of times, you know to get chlamydia just happens So anyway You you want to do that But all you have to do is if you went into that mode one relationship mode or you know I really want to get to know this person better mode for the most part All you would have to do is you'd have to start talking about yourself and the things that you value in a pushful way Qualifying them gaining compliance. You know, I know that sounds really complex But it's it's a fucking simple thing. It's just we want to learn those techniques and embed them in there, right? You know to make it easy for it to happen if you wanted an SNL to happen If you wanted sexuality to happen those things need to be brought up they can be brought up by topic Now I bet you everybody's in this Is going to talk like they Know about it but when savage speaks listen listen to what he's saying you can talk about it by topic You can do it by body language You can do it by how you're interacting like your timing and pacing and shit like that You know even timing of moving them and you can do it by logistics You know by being a little bit dominant there's all sorts of ways you can communicate sexuality But that's what needs to start happening more that needs to be compliance towards that if you do want to hook up with them Now things like making out in a club You also have to realize Like we're social creatures. Do you like to be embarrassed in front of a bunch of people? You know, uh, you know, I don't and so a woman to feel comfortably sexually just like a guy We're all like, yeah, no, we can we can do it anywhere Which we all know is not the case but uh, or maybe we don't But I don't want to try and prove that right now because I might get fucking hit with a bunch of white pellets, but uh But uh My friend in the back was like, yeah, we do. Yes I bet he could fucking gun it from here too Yeah Sniper style. Fuck take out like five flies on the way. Um Anyway, so what we want to do is we want To make it easy for them to sexually communicate doing things like publicly making out and stuff like that Usually diminishes that it makes them feel, you know, they said there's the anti-slip defense. Well, it actually It's actually true. You know women, you know, if they're making out in public with a guy They just met it's gonna make them second guess a lot of things You want to you want to make them feel comfortable and then like in the in the alleyway or dumpster In the back seat of the taxi cab with another passenger you're sharing the ride with That's where to make them. No, but you want your move to be made in the right places, right? Um, let's any questions with that Just one, um, I asked someone else about this and they about the anxiety like you're a little bit nervous because You're starting just beginning about this, right? If you do it enough times, it'll just diminish, right? Fuck no. Jesus Christ How many of you guys Dude, look, I haven't done all the fucking yoga moves and tapping shit I haven't done the Sedona method and all that stuff. I've done a lot of interesting stuff approach anxiety Yes, sometimes I'll be in state Sometimes I'll be all down for it and you know what it helps the best advice for approach anxiety Actually, the best advice is actually this do what you like to do do what you love to do and and and Make the situation so it's a social situation But the best like technical poo advice is is you got to just approach like two or three sets and talk to people And logistically I would solve that by showing up to a place early You know like uh, you're under 21 Yeah, so I would show up to a place before they get started if you're over 21 You know like eight o'clock, you know eight 10 30 is when the club's Fucking personality takes over right even if it's a bar. It's like, you know, it gets a little bit more like powerful I'd show up early and talk to people, you know, but don't take it too seriously. Remember we're doing something natural We don't want to be too abnormal and have that, you know, write our scripts for Pick up, you know, so approach anxiety will not diminish as some people say, you know, but fuck you I get it, but you know when I get it. There's another actually interesting thing All right, everybody always says san francisco is a shitty city to game in I don't know why I don't know Actually Fuji, I don't think you said that but everybody used to always say that It sucks, but it sucks to teach in a big group. That's why it sucks because there's like no big clubs, right? There's only these smaller bars. It's great. It's great. Eric will tell you that the mission is the armpit of the world and uh The tenderloin is only where ethnics hang out or whatever and she said I personally love those places She's like it's like daggers coming here You fucking asshole She you know, I guess all the open-minded free-thinking new age people hang out in the marina Where they all talk about how much money they make. No, but anyway, there's good places There's great places in san francisco. What literally this is literally the truth. I I'm Not meaning to be too mean to her. I'm just joking but uh, anyway, the things the things about, uh, San Francisco were that I had like no approach anxiety because like I'm all into all this artsy shit Whatever that I would literally see like three times a day Some of the most attractive people like, you know, I don't know. I don't know anything about the personality But I was just like, oh my god, that's the hottest chick I've ever seen. I just go. Hey, hey, what's up? I'm steve. You know, it's like the most like a fc thing and then you know, I'd go somewhere where there was so easy Because I was in my element, right? And you know, that's my life But not everybody may have those things but like in a club That's not my element. You know, I'm not that's not my thing, dude You know, and that's where I'd get approach anxiety That's where I'd start to feel afraid. You know the moment I started pressuring myself You know the the thing is is we want to get to a level where we can easily easily talk to people You know right away right away, you know in that mode autopilot. We're sitting back We've got the frame set and it all comes here. It'll come Um, anyway, uh, you had a question you in the blue We'll wait for the microphone Yeah, just uh, I have like an attraction to come for transition question for you I I feel that my attraction game is uh, you know, it's pretty much As watertight as frogs ass, but I was just curious how like you personally, you know, when you're out How do you like transition from the attraction like How do you how do you go from being a clown to? You know, you should put me inside you, you know I'm gonna tell us about that You asshole you asshole the gas is gonna be extra bad later no, anyway, so So, uh, you're gonna have to plug it up with something man. That was a serious question. I know it's a serious question um, but first off first off I Between the attraction phase so kind of what's happening and since you still have the mic You could probably tell me if i'm wrong is how do we switch From going like really bold really these attractive qualities these qualities Which are going to pay make people immediately pay attention to us right these bold things Which could be having a lot of energy. It could be just being louder It could be like having crazy hair. It could be, you know, not showering for a couple days Whatever, but what people are really going to notice us right away You know, what is it? What is it that is going to take attention and then how do we How do we take that down and talk about ourselves? Or how do we take that down and talk about some really deep stuff that's also sexual Huh All right Well, you hire me no, so check it out. This is a good question everybody look look the thing is is I've always liked sex I've always been curious about it. I've always uh, I've been really I don't want to say I've been comfortable with it. In fact, I how are we doing on time 10 minutes All right, so I gotta I gotta take the I gotta fucking 15 15. All right, so But how do we do that? We wrap all those things in look We are people who are Our, you know, one sexual beings were social beings. Those are those are two pretty hardwired things, right? You know All these other unique characteristics are really factors of that how we socialize and how we're sexually attracted to people It's the age old question man lack of masculinity lack of femininity in our culture So we got to start defining those things. It's a great open You know Open thread for us to trick people into right open that door make them fall in and then it's like hand of elect or or not Hand of Buffalo bill Robes the lotion This is actually this is a good social pressure exercise to do it But tuck your penis in between your legs, which it's actually happens, right? That's what I did To overcome my stage fright No, but anyway to To uh to put that in as one our opener needs to ground ourselves. It needs to have a ground You know it needs to have something which talks about ourselves when we talk about something We need to project like look i'm gonna talk to you I want to talk to the real you too. I want to talk to a characteristic about your emotions your decision making What makes you actually tick, right? What makes you actually, you know Be sexual essentially what makes you attracted to somebody. That's what I want. All right I want to be talking to that As soon as possible. So how do I do that when I open I talk about myself? I ground I say, hey, look, you know My my name is steve. You know, I do all this crazy shit. I didn't mean to embarrass you whatever I can over overdo things. You know as the youngest child, whatever I want to talk about these are all normal things I can talk about now. I dictate the conversation. I'm always asking questions And I'm always in some ways challenging them. You know, hey, look, are we going to have this conversation or not? Now the thing is What's interesting is I make each and every single one of Each and every single one of those those Things that that they, you know, are compliant with me of saying like, oh man, that's interesting You have a hobby with animals and you know, you've actually populated a cow and I say, yeah You know, it's really crazy But you know what you know why you'd actually like that and that's how I start to work in Types of sexuality I sort of build a sexual definition with them, right? And I'll start to actually say like no, it's actually uh, it's actually interesting that you would be you'd be like Into that topic like it really shows like an open-minded part of themselves or a part of you that actually, uh That's really amazing. You're somebody that I would really get along with but you know what Now let's go with some positive stereotypes towards women You know women like to be sexual You know women love to be sexual. I don't like to be sluts or whores Maybe some but you know, whatever they'd like to actually be empowered sexually Who doesn't like Cleopatra? Who doesn't like You know, and I heard this I have to give him credit But savage he's gonna speak but he said this at the speech Uh, a couple Fridays ago and he said, you know women invented seduction Men want sex Women invented that dance so fucking let them have it Let them, you know, let them do it They invented that You know, they invented those stereotypes and so put those out there right away I would put them out there as soon as I could now they won't always take take hold But no man, you like really get off on tempting people I bet you attract people that might be really weird You might might attract people that are really good You attract people like one of your favorite things is seeing how much like you can embarrass men, you know Because you you're really really essential person. I can tell like don't get embarrassed by it. It's awesome These are all great things. I mean when I talk to a girl that I like Now one if I sense that from them, that's easy, but two I want to talk to that It doesn't mean I'm like gonna go screw them and fucking like, you know, make them have threesomes with me and Raise my kids and all this shit, but you know for some it does But what it means is I want to know that part of them, you know, I want to know that part So there's a lady back there laughing. Anyway guys, I want to I want to actually uh Since we're short on time I I usually like to give like lots and lots of content. There's a couple things. I'm doing a layer talk at 8 p.m here Uh somewhere outside. Anyway, I'll be hanging around doing a layer talk for the top layer So come to it the top layer. I've talked spoke to a bunch of times. They're not used to all this fucking, you know Hey guys Stuff but a lot of you guys don't know me and I want that to happen So there's gonna be a lot of like technique stuff given there. All right, so it's at 8 p.m It's right after right after last person speaks here, which you should come and watch all the speakers. It's a great thing I mean, that's what you pay for you're all welcome to come. It's free now. Also. Where's that? Where's that thing? We're gonna dance down Hey, hey guys. Hey, no, please. Hey, what about tattoos? So see that see that routines work guys. Fuck man. I didn't even get through it me fucking melted. Um This fucking seats probably all went with semen in between his ass crack. Um, so So anyway Check this out. I have this I have this Oh, look at the people who are afraid to write their phone numbers. Check this out. What's going to happen is You know that little video I did I recorded in the beginning. Remember and I said, hey guys, it bears yourself Say I know all your mom's names and all that shit. There's there's a little I was actually gonna say it But I'm mic'd up So much to the point that I can hear me drink water Now what I'm going to do Is I'm on that video. I'm gonna put it up on youtube. I'm gonna email all of you guys right and on that on that email There's going to be some instructions and there's going to be a little code word And what I want you to do is you're going to give me that Now I'm going to email like the next couple hours right next like three hours. So if you can check it Check it If you can't Call your friend who did check it and say hey look There's going to be something in there for you to do which may even be texting me And then emailing me that that password number What i'm going to do is for the next two days for friday and saturday Now I know you guys are having an approachathon and I can't take everybody but based on the text that I get Who texts me i'm going to pick 10 people per night. That's a lot A lot and i'm going to basically tell you my schedule where i'm going to be at All right now where i'm going to be at from like 9 to 11 We don't want to go too crazy And we're going to do a lot of the things that i'm talking about all right So make sure you're on that all the people who didn't fucking miss work To come here on a thursday they're all fucking missing out No, anyway, so that's what that is But so check it out a lot of you guys saw a little video thing text me back for whatever stuff and all that fun Nice stuff. I have like 25 people so i'm going to start texting you guys back as soon as I get off stage And all that fun stuff, but there were a few emails which were Bunk so i'm going to go over i'm like really really really really super quick So I am pulse no good Jesus christ it's going to take so long there's like c Yoga whatever anyway if you didn't get an email Talk to me otherwise it's just going to be too too uh embarrassing and humiliating As uh are these anybody's So to go over them on stage Anyway, but what I wanted to do is they I guess they had had some technical difficulties They said hey, can you redo the last part? But what's so interesting about this is actually on my break when I when we when we went for lunch A few guys actually came up to me and they talked to me and they said hey look You know, uh, could you talk more about this stuff? Could you actually like what's going on if you ever been in a place where you've actually felt You know like you you you felt less than where you felt is if you didn't have anything or where you felt you you completely You know Hated yourself and all these all these types of things and so I thought I thought dude I I can feel that every day and that was kind of one of the points of why I was bringing up some of those things Is look we all came into this for some of the same reasons We all came into this to to get better at expressing and be better as Is uh, you know as men essentially and uh, actually it's so interesting because even in this time Savage and I were talking about stuff as uh is what the definition of that is and how it came about But like I was saying guys is look I've been in so many different places Uh, you know where where you guys have been and just how I entered here And just how I even entered even sexuality in general was and losing my virginity I was I was hit with that super super hard ball of a of a my girlfriend actually getting kidnapped and all that All that crazy stuff and that just made me psychologically get sent into a whirlwind Which made me afraid in every single way and guys one of the things is when we act upon our fears when we act upon things Which are when we're motivated by things like guilt or shame or or anger Or even competition in that sense and we have such an ego driven Uh, you know kind of goal and our leaders are so ego driven as well You know We kind of miss the mark and so one of the things is tonight for the guys who are going to come out with me tonight For the guys who are going to i'm actually doing a layer talk right down the hall With the top layer if you guys want to meet some of the Tampa Orlando guys There's a bunch of my former students there who are like Really really good, um Definitely come to we'll talk about some techniques and all that shit and tactics and it's a little bit more content dense But look we're all starting from the same place There's like I said, you know just when I first You know started buying stuff or when we were talking about that david ebook and going man I invested in this thing and it's like shit. Is it going to work or not? Dude, let's get started tonight and let's uh, let's get started the next couple days We have the approachathon happening if you're not coming to the layer talk if I do text you guys back Which I will in the next few minutes We will be uh, you know, we'll be having an awesome time tonight. We'll have dinner. We'll talk. We'll get we'll get intimate And we'll talk about a lot of personal stuff and a lot of stuff about change because that's what it is As soon as I step off the stage you guys fucking follow me out the door and we'll walk together All right Excitement come on All right We'll all have a blast tomorrow too Thank you. Thank you, steve. Awesome. All right guys. I'll see you in the morning. Let's do it