 Hello my YouTube family, welcome to another NARC Survivor Live video out here at the Park today. This one speaking about how narcissists are unintelligent, they're stupid, they lack common sense. So we're going to get into that in this one and before I begin, please hit the thumbs up button down below, hit subscribe and click all notifications to be notified when I upload a new video and if you would like to buck a one on one with me, just go onto my website it is NarcsePhyper.co.uk Now let's get into this message, narcissists are unintelligent and I know many of you when you first see them especially, I'd even later on when they begin to devalue you, you look at them and you think that they are intelligent because they're arrogant, they seem as though they're self assured as though they're always right, they always know what they're doing in any moment, but that is actually very untrue. It's a false character, it's a facade, they don't really know anything, they just act arrogant, they exaggerate their abilities, their knowledge, their experience. When in reality they are unintelligent, they are inexperienced, they don't really know what they're doing and you should be able to recognise that, especially with me saying this now, based on how unstable and out of control they are because you've got to think what has that got to do with intelligence? If you're just going about life and you have no stability in yourself and in your emotions, you can't even control yourself, I mean essentially the best way to describe a narcissist it's like rather than an experienced driver on the road, it's like someone who never took any driving lessons, they never even passed their test, they haven't got a licence and yet they just want to jump in the car and act like they know exactly what they're doing, they're experienced, of course they're just going to go driving off, probably just put their foot down, go flying into a wall, that's pretty much what it's like with narcissists, they just wake up one day and they think that they are that already, without going through the trenches, without doing the work, without experiencing the trials and tribulations, the suffering, it's just like all of a sudden, alright I'm that, I'm it today, without doing anything, no work, no experience, you just decide that you're that now, of course that's not going to get them anywhere because you've got to do the work first, you've got to acquire the knowledge, the skills, you've got to have the experience and then you put all of this together into a package, a finished product and then it's going to be very effective, just as I had to do on my journey on this channel and you can look back on my earlier videos that are all on here right from the very beginning, when I first started making videos five and a half years ago, I was quite quiet, I didn't really know how to communicate effectively, it took me a lot of time, a lot of practice, where I was watching and listening to other YouTubers and how they presented themselves, how they spoke and then I took what worked for me, left what didn't and then just over time making videos I developed that confidence within myself, where I'm now able to get on here into a live video and speak effectively, deliver this information based on my experience and on my research, so I've developed these skills but as for Narcissus, most often there's no knowledge, no skills, no experience, they don't even know what they're doing, they're getting into things that they don't even understand the effects that could be caused, that could be created, they haven't done the research, they don't have the knowledge, they literally have no idea the impact that they could be having, not only on the missiles but the people around them who maybe they're enablers, they're flying monkeys, they're sources of supply and if they're in positions of power they don't even know how it's going to affect the community, it's just all about this impulsive attitude that they have, where it's like they don't feel good in that moment, they feel inadequate, like they're missing something and then they just think alright I need this, I want this right now, this might maybe feel better and then they just step into that without even thinking about the consequences of what might happen later or how that may affect them, it's kind of like drowning themselves in their sorrows, they're feeling down, they're feeling depressed, they want to numb them pain, so they just grab a massive bottle of vodka and then they just take it down, not even thinking about how that's going to impact their health or what they're going to do the next day when they have to go to work, this is exactly what they're like, they don't even consider the effects, the consequences of anything they're doing and a lot of them I don't think they even care, I don't even think they're concerned about it, it doesn't even cross their minds, they don't think that far ahead into the future and actually this has been studied and proven in narcissistic personalities, they do things without even thinking about what might happen after, they're not even thinking about that, they're just thinking about what they want right now in this moment and this is what makes them so unintelligent and especially you've got to consider the grandiosity of their false character, so grandiose or arrogant, they show us an exaggerated sense of their own abilities and importance, when it's like hold on a minute, it's a false character, you abandoned who you really are and then you created this false self who's meant to be perfect, who's meant to be everything that you're not and you really think you're going to get very far with that but there's something that's nothing more than a facade, it's not even real, you're displaying it as though it is real so that you can manipulate people, assuming that it's going to get you what you want but the reality is that it isn't real so it's not going to get you very far and what do they do, they get into these relationships with people like us with disciplined, hard-working, self- motivated, ambitious, successful, empathic, all of these wonderful qualities and then they want to steal our qualities, they want to steal your energy, your money, your resources and that just shows how they really lack common sense because it's like yeah that may be good in your hands, it may be good while you have it, I mean it's kind of the same thing as what I mentioned earlier where it's like an experienced driver, if you put them in a car they're likely to drive well because they've got that experience, they've got knowledge about the road, they've got skills, abilities compared with someone who's never had any driver lessons, they haven't passed their test, they've got no experience on the road so it doesn't make any difference even if you give them your car to drive, if you give them the keys there's a very high chance that they're going to crash or that something's going to go wrong and when you're dealing with a narcissist of course when that happens they're not going to take responsibility, they'll blame someone else, they might just blame you even though you may have already advised them not to do that but then because of their arrogance, their false self, they're thinking they can just do whatever they want because they know more than you, they're superior but try to believe that when anything goes wrong they will come back to blame you even though they may have manipulated, intimidated and coerced you because of course at some level they have the awareness that the false self isn't real, they do gas like themselves but at some level they must know and that's why they don't take responsibility, that's why they don't respond to the best of their ability because they can't, it's fake it's not even a real character so they're unable to do that and that's really dumb as well of how they abandon themselves and now they have to act dishonestly, they have to lie to themselves and other people as well to the point where they can't even keep track of their lies, they get very confused because they're going in and out of reality all of the time, it's like one minute okay I want to do this, I want to be something, I want to act appropriately and then in the next momentous note I'm going to deceive you, I'm going to cheat you and get over on you and see that as a source of power and they're just switching back and forth between being the predator and being the victim so they didn't even know who they are from one moment to the next, it's all mixed up in their heads so naturally of course when you get around them it's not going to be any good for you and in fact that's really what they have to do and you may wonder why they rely so heavily on the manipulation, the lies, the gas lighting and the grooming, insulting you, putting you down, minimizing your success and achievements, making you feel like you're incompetent, you're incapable, you may wonder what is the purpose of all of that and actually the reason why is because they're just trying to dumb you down, they're trying to make you more stupid to level the playing field because you're too intelligent for them to deal with, I mean as I said before they deliberately target people who are confident, strong, intelligent, successful people, those are the types of people that they want to be around but then as soon as they get around you they've got to bring you down, they can't manage you at that level, you're going to show them up or you're going to realize that they're just no good for you, they're going to realize that it's all a lie, that their fraudsters are con artists so when they get around you they've got to dumb you down, they've got to establish a position of authority over you and act like they know more, they know better and take away your own independence and autonomy so that leaves you reliant and dependent on them, they've got to dumb you down and again in some ways you could say that's part of their stability because if they just let you be in that position of authority then maybe you could improve things, you could make things better for them but the reason why they don't let that happen is because they're very afraid that if you do see who they actually are instead of the lies, the future faking, the manipulation and you see, you actually see them, they just assume that you're not going to want anything to do with them because it's like they already know what's in that for you that's not going to be any good for you anyway and that's the whole point of why they use the false character because they felt like who they actually are is not good enough so they go from one source of supply to the next taking bits and pieces of that person, they steal your qualities and traits whatever they think is going to work for them and then they adjust it, they tailor make it to the next person whatever they feel is going to be adequate enough to manipulate them which in many ways is the ultimate act of stupidity it really is, I mean that is one of the dumbest things you can do because you're going to have to keep going on like that for the rest of your life going from one person to the next stealing this person's qualities, that person's constantly leeching off everyone, always dependent on someone for something but what they could have just done is just try to develop that strength those abilities from within so that maybe then they can actually be something because I'm a firm believer in that, I mean of course there's people in this world with mental illnesses, disabilities, I remember many years ago when I was at this uh this leisure club in the pool area and they saw this guy from Australia with one leg swimming up and down the pool I bet I went in the sauna, speak to one of my friends in there and I was like wow amazing that guy can swim better than me with one leg and then he came into the sauna, I spoke to him and I asked him about the leg because you know I noticed he only had one leg and he said yeah a shark ripped it off in Australia and I thought it was amazing, it was incredible despite that he didn't let it hold him back he didn't just give up and he obviously developed enough strength in his remaining leg and in his arms so that he could continue swimming so yeah I'm all about that even though we may not be dealt the best hand in life certain things may set us back I believe that we can still develop that strength from within to where we can then be good enough and this is it as well because you may wonder why they treat you like that like you're stupid like you're an intelligent but then they targeted you as well so it doesn't really make sense and then they literally look at it like you can't ever be better you can't ever heal or move on yourself because that's literally how they see their victims once they've done all these things to you they assume that you're going to be stuck like that and that you're never going to be able to get up and move on the reason why they think that way it's a reflection of their own internal state that's how they feel about themselves they're very insecure and that's why they act so arrogant and like they know everything you talk to an narcissist it's like they know everything they need to know and you could be a genius you could be a doctor I've spoke to many doctors myself my clients and my coaching sessions are they being involved in narcissists too and they spoke about how it always is when you're dealing with narcissists I mean you could be an expert in your field and when you're in work you're with your clients if you're a doctor it's like you're the boss there you know everything I mean maybe not everything but you know enough to do that job to be in that profession you get around the narcissist and your mind goes blank it's like you don't know anything and suddenly they're the experts even though they've never had any experience no knowledge this is why they never change because even if you manage to get them into therapy they will discredit the therapist the psychotherapist they will act like they know more than them this is why they condemn they're stuck this way they're always going to be like that and this is why they act so arrogant and entitled it's because they're actually very insecure they know deep down that all they have is this facade this deceptive outward appearance and they've never actually done the work with them to become something what they've ever done is just steal people's qualities and just use it as this concoction to build a false character to manipulate deceive and eventually abuse people this is why they are the way that they are when they intimidate and they coerce you because deep down they're very insecure deep down they know that they don't actually know anything and they don't want to not know anything because then that puts them at a disadvantage and then naturally you would have to have the authority over them because unlike them you're not just pretending to be something you're not you've actually done the work so it's kind of like a child that wants to be the captain of the ship a child who wants to be the parent they want to be in the driving seat even though they haven't got the qualifications the experience the knowledge they haven't got any of that it's all just what is going to make them fear and seem more powerful what's going to get them what they want well at the same time because they have a very fragile ego they can't ever accept that they are inadequate that they're not good enough which makes them extremely stupid because the smartest thing to do an intelligent decision will be like okay i'm not rehearsing this just as i have to do when i first began researching about narcissism of course to become this way and to know everything that i know to be able to get on here and talk for hours about this i had to have the experience and not only that but i had to do the research i had to acquire knowledge and i had to use trial and error to see what is right and what is wrong so that i then developed this understanding this intelligence over many years and it all began by accepting i'm inexperienced i don't know what i'm doing i don't know anything about this and then accepting that yes other people are higher up than me i have to learn from them because they've already done the work they've been through the trenches they know what they're talking about they know what they're doing so i have to learn from them something a narcissist is never going to do they always have to be in charge they have to feel like they already know exactly what they're doing and they don't even know who they are they don't even know who they are until we get around these types of people and then we wonder why our lives turn to shit we wonder why everything goes down it's because you're around someone who's acting like they're the man they're the shit they're the best things in slight bread and whatever you're doing whatever you're interested in whatever you're speaking about whatever you're learning and you get around them and they would have been the captain of the ship they want to be in the driving seat and of course whether they lead you off a cliff and of course before they do that they jump out of the car and leave you to go off on your own and not only that but they'll probably start a spear campaign against you and tell everyone that was your fault you drove it off on your own and they were watching you telling you to press on the brakes but you wouldn't listen that's how it is when you're around these types of people and why it's because they can't accept that they're no good that they're inadequate they've got to use this grandiose false self and act like they're larger than life fair enough if they actually were or they had done the work i would be the first one to congratulate them because i'm all for that for celebrating people's success if they've actually worked hard then fair enough the problem is they haven't it's all fake it's all a lie and yet there's that double standard as well because it's like if you actually set out and you do the work and you succeed you achieve something they're not going to celebrate you for that they're not going to congratulate you and they won't do that because they it's never going to be that way for them they know they're never going to succeed in anything naturally and genuinely they know that's never going to happen for them that's why they use the false character that's why they resort to manipulation because deep down they don't even believe in themselves and that's really what this comes down to everything they do the manipulation the deception the false characters even when they abuse you everything they do it's all because deep down they believe they're not good enough they feel inadequate if they could do things the right way and benefit from doing that i'm sure that's what they would do just like you that's why you do what you do because you believe that you are good enough you are capable that's why you do things the right way so they pretty much saw their souls from believing that they're not good enough by being themselves and that's why they choose evil over doing good what you get is one of the stupidest things you can do because again that's not going to get them very far and you've got to think sometimes how did someone be so stupid it's like where do you think that's going to get you by doing evil by doing wicked things where do you think you're going to end up after this life they're really that crazy they're really that stupid it's like they can't even see research has shown already that they don't even think about the consequences or the effects of their actions they're not thinking ahead they're completely unknowledgeable that are knowing they get into these things and they didn't even know what effect it's going to have they didn't even know what it's doing to them and that's why narcissists yes they have so many addictions you'll never find a narcissist who doesn't have some form of addiction even if it's just an addiction to people they may also be addicted to alcohol tobacco drugs shopping gambling sex pornography food are they never thinking about how is this thing that i'm engaging in this activity this interest this thing that i'm consuming that i'm participating in they're never thinking about how is this going to affect me what is it going to do to me they're never even thinking that way they're not even thinking that far ahead well they're thinking about it's impulsive they're thinking about what is this going to get me in this moment how is it going to make me feel right now and that's the thing it could get you something in that moment it could make you feel good but what about after it could be at the expense of your health it could be at the expense of a lot of things and this is what makes them so dangerous because you get around them and they'll get you caught up in all kinds of stuff that you may never have been involved in if you had never met them you get involved with these narcissists that it's like if you're friends who drink alcohol they say they want you to drink as well or they want you to smoke they want you to go and gamble with them they want you to go shopping every weekend they want you to do all these things this is how damaging it can be when you are around the wrong people essentially it's people who are stupid people who lack intelligence common sense and you get around them and as I said they have to dumb you down in order to manipulate and control you so you may also end up doing stupid things things that you may never have done before I don't know that myself as someone who has been to private school my entire life in primary and secondary school I was in private school that's where I studied so I went to university and yet you get around these types of people because it has nothing to do with your intelligence you get around them and you could be very intelligent but then they have to dumb you down they target people like us people who are smart but then they have to dumb you down in order to manipulate and control you they can't just let you be your authentic self they've got to impose a false character upon you with the qualities that they want to see in you so where you're not smart enough to direct yourself and your own life narcissists are unintelligent they're not even thinking about what they're doing after time they're kind of just an autopilot they're not really alive they're not really living and of course they're not really living because they're at such a low level of consciousness they're shame-based people who are doing everything they can to avoid reflecting on their shame and yet we look at them and we wonder why are you always so miserable why are you so abusive why do they do the things that you do why do you have so many addictions of course the reason why is because they can't feel they're not like you or I we're highly sensitive we're empathic because we are vibrating at the frequency of love narcissists are shame-based they can't feel anything and that's what makes them so stupid because it's a low level of consciousness and awareness they didn't even know what they're doing after time and that's how they get caught up in so many destructive things things that are also self-destructive because they're not in that frequency of love they lack self-love so they do things that are harmful to themselves they get caught up in all kinds of addictions they get you involved in stuff as well which is also stupid they had empathy if they had any considerations with you they would at least have the intelligence to realize that what they're doing is not good because of the karma the energy that comes back to them and how it's going to affect them in the future they didn't even consider any of this because they really are that dumb they're stupid they lack intelligence and let's just refer to what about Albert Einstein's most famous quotes he said that insanity the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result and i like to add to that because i would say that not only is that the definition of insanity it's also the definition of a narcissist because they are on autopilot they're on repeat doing the same thing again and again expecting different results never getting what they want never getting that feeling that satisfaction that they're looking for they just keep going down even more they become even more better and resentful the abuse escalates against worse and the more that the abuse increases and escalates the more miserable they feel because the shame continues to grow within them so they really are insane they are the definition of insanity they're that crazy that that's stupid and not only that but then there's the cycles of abuse the definition of insanity is repeating the same things all over and over again as Albert Einstein said and what do they do they love bomb devalue discard poof and then the whole thing starts all over again it's the definition of insanity because they're stupid they're unintelligent i guess they were trying to dumb you down to manipulate and control you to keep you around them because they know that you're intelligent enough to walk off and actually go and build something for real which is something they're never going to be able to do because all they've got is a false self well they have to use to manipulate people to extract sources to extract supply so that's where they have to dumb you down as well they have to dumb you down to keep you around them because anyone with any intelligence is going to be going in the opposite way they're not going to want to be around them once they know who they are and what they're about that was quite chaotic out here a lot of horns heaping sirens i was just in the park with it was quite peaceful there as you may remember from last time the park closes at five so then i had to come out here onto the roads but yeah that's pretty much all i got to say for this one just looking at the live chat that's an interesting perspective and i will read it out loner welsh i'm not sure where you're from let us know but loner welsh in the live chat says is this helping anybody this is just beyond repetitive and i have to say the best of the best narcissists that i have known are incredibly intelligent i have built incredibly successful businesses well what i would say to that loner welsh from miami florida is why are you getting on a video to support victims of narcissistic abuse to talk about how narcissists are the best of the best and incredibly successful why don't you just go off with them instead of promoting this on my channel because if what you're saying is true it doesn't even make any sense why you would be here so it seems very contradictory if anything you would support empaths and narcissists just going their separate ways so it doesn't really add up construct says no no don't listen to her she's one of them of course i mean i don't think anyone in the right mind would support abuse narcissists manipulators as i've said before it's a survival mechanism an evolutionary defense because these people aren't even meant to be here they're not even meant to be alive they should have died a long time ago but what they did was hook themselves onto strong intelligent and empathic people and that's how they managed to survive otherwise they would have died a long time ago it's because we're so nice we're so kind we're so forgiving that we give these people chance of the chance and then they step on us in order to get ahead and that's how there's so many of these people in the world today they're everywhere as dr raman he said one in six people are narcissists full blown mpd's she also said 50 percent of the population engage in narcissism and the statistics say that 96 percent of families in the world are dysfunctional and then there's all these other personality disorders and mental illnesses before you even get to toxic people as well and yet you have narcissists where they're enablers they're flying monkeys they're smear campaigns they act like they're all good people doesn't line up with the statistics though that's because the person they target is the only good person in that environment they scapegoat them and if you look into it you will see that this is the truth and that scapegoat is an empath that's who they're trying to destroy so that they can steal that identity and pretend like they are the real empaths because they want to kill us all off they want us all to die out and typically these targets they are abused daily for years driven to suicide or until they develop mental illness themselves i would say that many schizophrenics are probably just victims of narcissists who can't stand who they are they hate themselves and they want to destroy everything in the empath that they are not and that they'll never be because what they want to be is real they don't really want to be seen as the abusers they are they don't want to be seen as evil they want to be seen as good and yeah they can trick people in this world for a certain amount of time but it's not going to last for long it's not going to get them where they need to be they can trick people but they can't trick gods so no matter what they do to us in this life it doesn't really matter i mean it does matter in some ways but this life is just a blip in the grand scheme of things they're attached to the world because they believe that this is all that there is they didn't even believe in god that's how the robots react in the way that they do they don't believe in anything they think about their actions nothing's going to come back to them that's actually how they think and that's where the best thing you can do is stay as far away from them as you possibly can because damage crazy people they're just going to damage you they're just going to make you crazy just like when you get around a happy positive person they're going to make you feel happy they're going to make you feel positive but they will find ways to entice you to incentivize what they're doing to try and dumb you down manipulate and control you to keep you around them to make you just like them because that's the end goal and it's what happens with many victims in reactive abuse so that they do become just like them this is why you go to avoid them because otherwise you're just going to end up just like them you're going to take them out energy that chain you're going to hate yourself you're going to give up on yourself in your life just like they did a very long time ago so yeah that's the message for this one narcissists are stupid narcissists are an intelligent the most intelligent thing you can do is avoid these people at all costs anyway i hope you found this video helpful if you did you can give it a thumbs up down below and let me know your thoughts in the comment section i read your comments every day hit subscribe click all notifications to be notified when i upload a new video and if you would like to donate 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