 And so the next morning I rocked up at Shaolin Temple at 5 a.m. and began my training with my hero The people who get success in life in whatever area are the ones who just go out and fucking take it The ones who sit back and plan and wish and dream Stay that way and you guys have seen examples many examples of this Over the conference of guys often who are incredibly young who have achieved amazing things in their lives who fast-tracked well past other people who may even be Better qualified in the area, but didn't have the balls to just go out there and take it I had a very very clear dream I wanted that more than anything else and I found myself by good karma or some circumstances or whatever it was in a situation where I had one shot and So straight away I called my teacher back in Australia and I explained look I'm being offered to train tomorrow morning with the chow and I know I'm not supposed to be here But he's like all right. Do not fuck this up Jamie. You got one shot at this And so I took it and I didn't fuck it up and it changed the course of my life because what I learned there And in my subsequent visits and my all the training that I did before and after that gave me what I Describe as the basis for my success in this area I didn't realize at the time when I was in this temple hitting rocks and meditating and Swinging weapons around that I was actually learning to become an amazing ladies man But I was because I was developing the foundations of Charisma of presence of intent of a core understanding of who I actually am And when guys talk about this in the seduction community about okay, we'll be yourself That's in some ways the best and the worst advice you can ever give somebody It's it's it's way too ambiguous to really make any sense It's like be yourself or when are you not yourself? Are you guys being yourselves right now? Something they're like, I don't know am I just getting all too existential for me We're always being ourselves, but what we're actually not being is we're not being all of ourselves and We have generally a fairly limited idea of what it is to be ourselves. I always tell guys find out what else you are Because you're an infinite being with amazing potential you can try and be and do anything They're all sorts of behaviors that maybe you haven't tried yet, which you can which you can try out and That's why when I got guys coming in saying well, I you know, I I like the idea of direct, but that's just not me Well, I like the idea of sort of letting go of the lines and sort of being more natural But I just feel like that's not really me. That's bullshit That's simply that you haven't experienced that part of yourself yet and Sure, there will be some things that are not you But as other speakers have said we'll test that out a few times and see where it takes you in my mind The the first thing that you must have in order to be to move towards being natural with women is you must have presence and awareness This is the first thing I teach guys. I Like all the all the companies we get guys in with the chicks. It's like you want to fuck chicks come on Come over here. We got chicks and then when they come in they suddenly find themselves meditating and they're like I'm like is this are we getting chicks yet? I'm like patients First understand self then girl come Because if you're if you're not actually present and aware in the moment Then you cannot be natural with a girl If you're thinking ahead to the next two or three or four things that you're gonna say Then you won't notice all the important things Because the way I seduce women is I I let them teach me how to seduce them every single one of them is Slightly or on a bigger level different than the other one, which is why a one-size fits all linear model for seduction is never gonna work It's possibly gonna work for the guy who invented it With his particular type of girls, but it's not gonna work in general and I'm not interested in what might work some of the time I'm interested in The principles behind what works consistently and that's what you guys want right you want consistency with your results Yeah cool I Look at the there's there's kind of two major schools of seduction and there's there's a lot of debate about this Okay indirect versus direct or you know scripted versus uncanned or you know slightly poached or whatever else and The way I see it that there's only two types. There's principle based and there's technique based yeah a Technique-based system and this goes for many many many other disciplines and I got this idea originally from martial arts was that a Technique-based system says that when a happens you do be Okay, when D happens you do E and In order to have any success you're gonna have to have a continuity plan for every single eventuality and That's really really impossible to do Effectively and consistently in seduction because there's so much variation of what might happen If you have got in your head that you need to go up with some particular line and Then the girl doesn't respond in the way that she's supposed to what do you do then when I was speaking in LA last year. We had a couple of girls who were helping us with promo and During the break one of the guys came up and tried this open and so he's like hey you look like a horse girl Do you like horses and and the girl says no, I don't like horses and he's like So you like horses, right? Okay, cool. So and and he tried it again the next day the exact same line She's like are you asking me again if if I like horses and He couldn't he couldn't enter into his head It's like well it says in the book when I say that she says yes because all girls like horses and then therefore you can roll on with your routine But it didn't work that way and obviously didn't get the result that he was after I had another client who lives in Czech Republic an expat there and He was doing a particular program which gave him a line which was one of these, you know unbreakable lines You know they that someone has been working way in a laboratory for for six years and has found this line This is the line. Yeah, and that's what everyone's like waiting for it's like it's coming. It's coming It says on the website. It's coming 48 days and counting This line went something along the lines of Yo girls, do you know Heather? Yeah, she's a really cool chick I puked on her last summer and then we made out. Hey, let's fuck or something like this. Yeah Now that might work in a frat house in the States maybe I don't know So this guy gets it and then he translates it into check Okay, you girls like no Heather and then goes up to a girl on the streets of Prague and tries that line nasty and He was really really confused why she spat on him and then turned on her like incredibly high heels and strutted off Down the cobblestones away from his life forever Because he didn't understand Well, what he thought was and this is not his fault is because guys are sold the idea that the content of the line is what is What is going to unlock the vagina right? That somewhere within these words is the is the answer and it's not true The content is very rarely of much importance It's the the principles underlying it But that actually make the difference Okay, so Sasha's a funny man We all enjoyed his speech previously. Yeah, and I've been wanting to meet him for a long time I've been really enjoying his stuff and what I was thinking about when I was when I was watching him was Was here's an example of a principle that we Teach at the natural lifestyles, which is the concept of pressure and release. I Pump a lot of pressure onto people when I meet them girls and guys Yeah, I have an ability to lock eyes with somebody and draw a lot of investment out of them It's because I'm very very demanding with the people that I'm with I demand their attention and a good comedian Does this really really well? I mean why is it? Why is a what's what's a bad comedian? How do you describe a bad comedian? Yeah, he's not funny His jokes aren't any good. Yes. All right, but how do you know when someone's not a good comedian? Yeah, okay. All right a bunch of these things Yeah, really what what there is is there's the lack of tension in the room and The easiest way to spot this is when a comedian lasts at their own jokes, which is why I hate David Letterman He's not funny. I don't like him at all Because he's so fucking smug and thinks he's so good. He's not he's not funny at all people just think he's funny because he's on that show now The reason the reason a comedian in that situation is not good Is because they do not know how to hold pressure on their audience their job is to confuse Intrigue and create a build-up of tension and to be able to hold that pressure till exactly the right moment and Then when it's the right moment then they drop the punchline and if the audience hasn't been out of predictor or it's it's clever Then they get that sensation the feeling of a release of tension which they do by laughing The bad comedian steals the job of the audience which is to laugh to to release the pressure In the same way, you'll see this there's a lot of there's a lot of crossover you'll see this with guys who Can't handle pressure on themselves and can't handle putting pressure on somebody else is That when they're in in an interaction with a girl They will be nervously laughing. They will be smiling too much. They will be agreeing with everything They will be speaking way too fast. They will be moving a whole lot And there's a whole range of behaviors and nuances that release pressure and create pressure When I when I open I usually open with a couple of words and then I wait and see what happens Yeah, now I don't want to pick on you But the other day when I was sitting down with those girls and you came over I'll give you a little bit of feedback here of why you blew yourself out because they didn't blow you out You blew yourself out Yeah, which is totally fine and props team because he was the only one who had the balls to come over and try and join Yeah When I went over to those girls, I I opened with I don't know they'll clean up some beer cans and I said, oh have they left you to clean up? And don't write that down because it's like Uses that one All right, I was just making I was just making an observation and as I said that I sat down And then one of the girls was like looking me all weird because like she's 19 and there's a whole range of her friends around and there's this like this old hairy dudes come and sat down next to them and And and I'm totally fine with that. I can sit in that tension all day. It doesn't bother me at all Yeah, and so I'm sat down and there's no way I'm leaving It's gonna be much easier for them to put up with me and get engaged with me Then it is to try to dislodge me and People will tend to do what's easiest Yeah, so if you make it really easy on a girl to To brush you aside, then she probably will If you make it harder, it's easier for her to stay and deal with you Then you're gonna be able to lock in much more easily yeah so what you did is By that time in the conversation, we were quite deep into the things and you came on in and You sort of didn't quite sit down You sort of almost sat down and said oh so guys are you know what's good tonight and just started Saying stuff and the girls looking like because it didn't look like we knew each other didn't it had there was no context It made no sense You were you were saying stuff and they of course didn't respond straight away and so you got freaked and you left Yeah, all right, which is totally cool. You know, we've all been through this many many times I've the amount of times I have been brucially rejected in order to get to the point where I can sit in most pressure You know is something that you guys are gonna have to go through