 Hi, we're here with the 21th Convention, Melbourne, Australia, with James Marshall. Fantastic speech, as always. Love all your speeches. So we had a couple of questions, and one of them was, the importance of knowing what you want in a relationship. How important is that? Well, fundamental because if you don't know what you want in a relationship, then you're the dictates of what somebody else wants. Or if neither of you know what either of you wants, then... Chaos. Yes, absolutely chaos. And it's really important in terms of being able to choose the right partner in life. There's lots of people, guys and girls, who are in a relationship, who they shouldn't be, because they're not even really sure of what they want in a partner. And so getting your values clear about what are your deal breakers, what are you not going to put up with, because another thing that people put up with, really awful relationships, often because they feel like they don't have a choice, but if you understand those, and then you understand what are the elements that you are most important in a relationship, to top three things that you need to have to feel satisfied, to feel loved, to feel appreciated, to feel excited in a relationship, and you communicate those, then you're going to find the right partner. And the title of your speech was, What Women Want. So can you tell me briefly what do I want? What do women want? Well, the thing is there, that brings it up. I wanted to say that firstly, I don't know what everyone wants all the time, and it's more of a question for men to start asking themselves, because I think many men just don't think about it or don't care. They're so centred on, OK, what I want, which is I want, what jigs, I want, this and that. The most important thing to understand is that if you want to get what you want, then you have to make sure that those who will leave you around, and so the most important aspect, I think, is to understand how to communicate to find out what those needs are. There's, I mean, there's a generic, sort of, not generic, there's just general principles, things such as being a good leader, and when I elaborated by saying that a leader who is worthy is one of those who follow a benefit. So every time you want to lead a woman to do something with it, to escalate or go in a car with you or have a drink with you or whatever, she needs to feel like that's going to benefit her. If it's just you trying to robotically lead or tug her somewhere and she doesn't enjoy it, then it's not probably. I also looked at the idea of emotional variation that a woman likes drama in a positive sense of feeling like there's expectations, uncertainty, there's excitement leading to pleasurable releases or resolutions. And the other thing, I guess that a woman really wants, is a man who is able to stand up to her tests. And I look at the tests that women give as a very positive thing, not as like them being bitchy and just trying to be a little men, but as something where she is trying to see what is his reaction to things that he didn't plan for. Because if she sees that he's not reactive in situations where she wasn't planning for, then he's going to be easygoing, he's going to be fun, he's going to be adaptable and all these things that she was going to enjoy. Fantastic. And the other thing was, so once you meet a girl, you know that you like her, you describe the effort and the right sort of effort and the wrong sort of effort. Can you tell me what kind of is the right sort of effort that you want to put forward? Well, the effort that you put into pursuing a woman needs to be based on reality checks. And it's not men's fault in the sense that there's so much incorrect or wasted effort that's been put in, let's say the typical one would be, there's two, there's only inspections we have firstly being arrogant and overbearing and pushy because there's some skills of thought or some ideas that man needs to be alpha, needs to go for what he wants and whatever, which is true but in temperance to the response of people around him. So if you're constantly trying to push and be aggressive about what you want and you notice that that's not working then you need to look at the fact that well, if it's not benefiting her when you try and get what you want, she's not going to do it. On the other side we have this application of huge amounts of passive, wimpy effort that a man will do to be really nice, pleasant and accommodating and always agreeing and polite and so on to a woman thinking that he's kind of building up these credit points and so the girls eventually going to go, wow, he's actually a really great guy. She may be going, wow, he's a really great guy but she's not going to go, plus I want to say to him she's just going to go, cool, there's my friend guy. So, and this is such a common thing for guys I've worked with, these are men who have exerted huge amounts of effort in attempting to create relationships and they have, but they have shown the person, demonstrated through their actions that what they wanted was a friendship because they acted like that and then they're surprised when they try and switch that over to be more romantic or sexual and the girls are like, no, no. So I think it's really important to look at if you're a, yes you must apply effort as a man to get a woman but it needs to be very clear from the basically beginning that you're sexually interested in her and that you are interested in her desires as well if you're interested in finding out what she wants and then you're able to take decisively through steps where she benefits and she follows as a, when you have authority to lead towards that because that is going to save huge amounts of time because if you do it and she's like, not interested you've saved yourself a month or years of like more painful and wasted effort. So I hear you're running a tour through like an adventure tour through Europe. How would I go about for, well how would you go about getting onto that? So yes I, every summer, European summer I run two of these tours 10-day traveling seduction workshops so a very unique program where we travel through three of the best countries in my opinion in terms of the most beautiful women, interesting places and fantastic places for me to teach you guys to learn and so this is primarily an infield workshop so it's like every day we're out there constantly fine-tuning as well as working with our female coaches and lots of relevant theory to make this a complete transformation it's also really a man's initiation it's like not just a boot camp it's a very deep internal and external journey the next one's running 29th of May to the 10th of June and anyone interested can check out the EuroTour.com and get in contact with me and I will call you and talk to you Fantastic, so this is Jamie Marshall and we're here at the 21 convention Bye guys Thank you