 everybody. Welcome back to Esoteric Atlanta. I just realized I did not plug my microphone up so hopefully you guys can hear me just fine. It's not really going to be a, well it's kind of about me today but it's more about some scandalous sides of my family. I'm joined with my good friend Bobby who is the crazy grave lady. How are you doing today Bobby? I'm doing great price. How are you doing today? I'm so excited. We've been talking a little bit off-camera and I'm already getting just cracked up of some of these family secrets that you dug up but before we get into guys, I want you guys to go ahead. If you're not subscribed to Bobby, Bobby has just opened up her channel. Crazy grave lady. I'm obviously going to be putting this down in the description box below. Please go and subscribe to Bobby. She is such a great storyteller and when I first met you Bobby and I learned about what you were going to be doing on YouTube, I told our friend Jay, I was like I'm so jealous. This is such a fabulous idea because you are like the Nancy Drew. You're a Nancy Drew like me and you want to know who these people are and what their life stories are. I know you're kind of your tagline is you speak to dead people but not in the way most people think. And I'll be honest Bryce, I have more enjoyment learning about dead people than I do learning about people who are alive like reality stars. I don't care about that. Give me dirt on dead folks. I feel sorry for our ancestors to an extent because they think they went to the grave with their secrets. They didn't realize we were going to have the internet and have DNA testing and that we were going to be able to dig through all these records and you are someone you use senses records and you're able to dig and find these stories. And I had told you Bobby so I know I think this is true for a lot of people. I think a lot of our friends watching right now there's always like one side of your family that you probably know a little bit more about than the other side of your family. For me I grew up knowing a lot about my mom's side of the family. I grew up primarily with my mother's side of the family. My mother had three sisters. My mother's parents. My grandmother died at 62. My grandfather died at like 58. So her and her sisters were kind of came together and raised my cousins and my sister and me all too. My cousins and my mom to the family are like my siblings. I have that relationship with them because we were just always together and also because they were from South Carolina and they moved to Georgia. And so there was no lineage in Georgia through my mom's side of the family. So they kind of stuck together with that respect too that we were actually South Carolinian. We were more geeky than anything. Well my dad's side of the family has always been a bit of a foggy mystery to me. I know that the Watson family, my dad's father is from Knoxville, Tennessee. I know that his father was quite a tyrant. I've heard some stories. They were mountain folk. But I did hear things about my grandmother, my dad's mother's side of the family. And my grandmother, Mary Ann, who passed away in I think 2021, she just recently passed away. People always tell me I have her spirit. She was my grandmother who hid books on reincarnation under the bed from my grandfather even though she played the organ for the church on Sunday. You know she was very, very supportive of, I remember her telling me once when she first was diagnosed with Alzheimer's and her real personality started coming out as they do with Alzheimer's that she really wanted to go to a gay bar one day. She wanted to be arrested at some point. She wanted to know what it was like to be arrested. She never got to do those things but she was very progressive in a lot of ways, my grandmother. And she was very much a free spirit. When I would get back from India, she would always pull me in the kitchen and want me to tell her everything that I learned in India. She was always so excited about that non-judgmental of other people's face, very different for a Southern lady. And she would say things to us. And I kind of body knows I went back and forth and whether I wanted to say her maiden name or not because I do know that I have extended, extended family still in the area. But I'm going to go ahead and just say her maiden name because this is all public record, right? As her last name was Bennett. But it was spelled in the French way. So Benet would have been the last name. And she would tell me all the time that even though they were Bennett's because we lived in Georgia, they were actually French. That was really important for her to know that her family was French. And we're going to get into that. I want to first, before we get into this, Bobby, I kind of wanted to show a map of, oh, and I also knew, which we'll talk about too, that they were all attorneys, that the Bennett family were, they were all attorneys. And my mom's family, they're all doctors. So I thought that I was always, I remember as a little kid thinking that was fascinating that they were all attorneys in the, in the, on the Bennett side, except for her father was a dairy farmer, which we'll get into. Well, I told Bobby that another reason why I decided to dig deeper into my Marianne's family line, A, she's no longer alive, B, I don't have a relationship with my father, which I know that's strange. Her son, my father, and I do not. But I have maintained a relationship with my grandparents, even though her son, my father abandoned us left. But my grandparents were always there for my sister and me. So it's a very different dichotomy of a relationship. Well, my grandmother, I think she must have been her late seventies, early eighties when, when we had this conversation. I know for a fact that I was home visiting from Los Angeles when I was living in California. So my mid twenties, probably, I had home visiting so after college, and I was helping her do the dishes after dinner. And my grandmother had always told us this story, because my grandmother was highly, highly, highly educated, which we're going to get into because that's common for this side of the family in a time when women did not receive an education. My grandmother had a master's degree. She, she always told us growing up that her aunts, her father's sisters, never got married. And so she always felt like the reason why they never got married was because Quitman, Georgia was such a small town and they couldn't find husbands. So my grandmother's motivation for going to university was to find a husband. And it wasn't until later in life, when I was sitting there washing dishes with her at the kitchen, when I was in my mid twenties, that she kind of backtracked a little bit. She said, I just realized, I don't think my aunts couldn't find husbands because it was a small town. I think they were lesbians, like all of a sudden. And, and, and we're going to talk a little bit about that because I have a suspicion that maybe my great grandfather was the only child in that family that was probably heterosexual. So let me guys quickly show before we get into a Bobby, I just want to show a map of Quitman, Georgia. It's a tiny, tiny town, you guys. Let me blow it up a little bit here. This red little dot, can you guys see that? That's Quitman. It's right, it's about 15 miles outside of Valdosta, Georgia. Here, this line right here is the Florida line. So they were very close to, if you can kind of see here, very, very close to Florida. New Orleans is over here. Mobile Alabama is right here. These are huge French ports. So a lot of times what I'm assuming my grandmother was telling me was that they came up through either New Orleans or Mobile, she said New Orleans, and then made their way over into South Georgia, where they started to become extremely prominent in this town of Quitman, Georgia. And Bobby, I'm going to hand it over from you. Let's, let's let my family secrets fly, girl. Let's talk about all the scandals of this scandalous Bennett family of Quitman, South, of Quitman, South Georgia. Yeah, it's coming, Georgia. Girl. Okay. So let's just take it all the way back to your great grandfather, Stanley Spencer Bennett. We talked a little bit offline about his father, who actually was one of the founding fathers of Quitman and who was actually also the mayor at one time of Quitman. We're not even going to go into him in this show because we probably could do a whole show on Mayor Bill. Granddaddy Billy. Granddaddy Bill. Because Granddaddy Bill had a very illustrious life, but we're just going to start with Stanley. So this is my great grandfather. This is your great, great granddaddy. I'm going to call him Stanley because the names are going to get mixed here in a little bit. Again, his father was William Baker Bennett. His mother was Jane, Martha Jane Campbell. Got to put my old lady glass. Oh, shit, Bobby, my great aunt, my grandmother's sister was named Jane Campbell Bennett. That's where that Campbell came from because in the South we don't give names just for shits and giggles. They all get ready. Get ready for names for shits and giggles because it's going to get better. Okay. So, so we'll hold on. So William was my grandmother's great grandfather because family was her. Okay. So Stanley was her grandfather. Yes. Stanley's grandparents sit back. Stanley's grandparents were Matthew Bennett and Sarah Rebecca Spencer. We see guys. I'm telling you, Bryce is my mother's main name. We love this shit in the South. We just use these names and reuse these names. It gets very confusing. It's like the Royal Family when they all got the same damn name. Here's Bobby. I'm going to turn my I'm getting hot listening to this. I'm going to turn the here. Just keep going girl. You better turn it off because we're going to get hot girl. I know. Okay. So Stanley was actually born at his father's home. I know people are going to like when born in a hospital. No, because this is now 1867 and that is very common. I slept in the bed that my grandmother was born in equipment, not the mattress but the bed frame. Yeah. Okay. So I think it was a type of when they said that he graduated from Macon University. I think he actually graduated from Mercer University and he graduated in 1888. He was admitted to the bar in 1896. So we're talking not. Yes. Okay. Yeah. So this is like still early, you know, 1800s. Now, Stanley also was mayor in addition to his father. So we're looking at two generations of mayor. So Papa Bill, who was one of the founders was also mayor. Then son was and son was as well. Okay. Okay. Now again, his father, we've talked about. So Stanley was a Baptist. His father was one of the founders of the Baptist church equipment. It was the church was founded by his father, his mother and his two slaves. Told you should have turned that air conditioning up because it's going to get a little juicy. Now, what's interesting is that Stanley was actually a member of the General Assembly. He was a member of both branches of General Assembly. Yeah. So he's prominent. He was also a worship worshipful master of the Sholto Masonic Lodge. Yeah. He was a high up, a high up Freemason, wasn't he? He sure was. Now, yeah, here's where it gets good. And this is where people, people in equipment actually really respected him because he did a lot for the town. He helped get the bond on the election or get the bond on the election on the docket that established the first electrical lighting system in equipment because apparently they had been trying to get the system of lighting upgraded for like 10 or 15 years. People had been pushing it off. Mayor Stanley gets on the board and he's like, no, we need to get this through because the lighting is terrible because I guess they had those gas lights that just kind of fizzed out at that point and he said, no, we need to get this rolling. And so he got it on the election and made that happen. He said let there be lights. And there was light. Yeah. Well, it's a big farming community. So that makes sense that they would need once electricity came around more access to artificial light for the community to thrive. Yeah. He was also a state senator from 1905 to 1907. I did not know that. So I've got a few senators in my family then. That's interesting. You do. His wife, his wife is one of my favorites. Say I got a partial of a few people in your family, Bryce. I'm sorry, but his wife, Minnie is one of my favorites. Minnie. Minnie. Minnie Parks High Tower. Okay. So her dad, James, was the was the town court. Is this where I get my love for like, probably more than things. You're more than fascination comes from great, great, great grandpappy, James, because that's right. And high tower. I mean, you said that I kind of got a little shocked because high tower is a huge name here in Georgia. There's a lot of high tower built and then I'm like, yes, they were a prominent family. The Bennets was were also a prominent family. So those two families merge. Now she was, she lived from December 1869 to from to December 1951. She was a charter member of the Quitman chapter of the Daughters of the Confederacy. I was also really impressed with her because she was educated. She was she got a college education and she was assistant to the headmaster equipment Academy from 1888 to 1889. This is my great, great grandmother, Stanley's wife. Stanley's wife. So my grandmother's grandmother. Right. And something that we've discussed in the past, and I know you've discussed on your channel, is that women were not educated in those days. So the fact that in 1869, when she was born, that not only did she go to high school, whatever they called it then, and then went to college and then she was an assistant to the headmaster. So she helped educate people. That says something for her. Before women even had the right to vote. Right. And I will say it is common for women back then of high brow or high society, which I guess we can be safe to say that my grandmother's family was aristocratic gentry of the South. Women typically went to what they called etiquette schools after a certain age. As long as you knew how to read and write, then they would go off and learn how to like be hostesses at parties. So to go and actually do academic stuff was very unheard of. Let alone to help someone educate people and to be a female. Yeah. Now if you got further along, you had the headmistress and we'll talk about your family and how they did that. But mostly educators were male. Yeah. So to have a woman be an assistant educator in what was considered was the Putman Academy, which was the biggest place to learn at the time. That's a big deal. Now we won't talk about the fact that Putman Academy was founded by big, great, great, great, gang, dead Bill. We won't talk about that. Some nepotism there. We want to talk about the nepotism. She's my daughter of all a job. Different job, but she wasn't married to him at the time. She was still a high tower. So maybe that's how she met Stanley, right? It could have been. It could have been. I'm glad she did. Because I'm glad she did too. And that might've been why she was only the assistant for a year. Maybe she went off and got married or met him at that point. I I mean, well, no, 1888 to 89, she married him in 1992. So she might've met him because of that. And then a few years later, they got married. Interesting. Yeah, because they got married in 1892. So the Bennett family and I guess the Hightar family kind of have a reputation for allowing women, they're kind of progressive when it came to giving their daughters educations. Because I've just seen my great, great, great grandfather James Hightower, my grandmother's great-grandfather on her many sides. The coroner. Yeah, the coroner, he was the one that had to support his daughter at that age, especially to go into higher education. So the Hightar family most likely was also very prominent when it came to, or very progressive when it came to making sure their daughters were just as educated as their sons. Again, at a time when women didn't even vote, weren't even allowed to vote. Yep, because they couldn't vote until early 1900s. Right. Yeah, that was a big deal. Wow. Okay, so Minnie and Stanley had five kids. Five. Five. Wow, I only thought there were four, so. Nope, there's a little one that you probably don't realize. The first, the one that you probably don't realize is Marion. Marion Sims Bennett, because Marion died at three. She lived from 1894 to 1897. I could not find a cause of death. I couldn't find a newspaper article. I couldn't find a death certificate. It could have been anything in those days. Sickness could have been a steak bite. It could have been. Cholera, cholera was big then. Measles was big then. And they might not have publicized it because they were a well-to-do family. Right. Especially if they had doctors in the family and they can't cure it. Well, it was my mom's family, but I don't know if Bennett's had doctors. It was my mom's who had a doctor, but you know the lawyers and the doctors, they probably could afford the best of medical care. If they've got family connections in the corner, they might not have put that death certificate out. Right. That's heartbreaking, because I had no idea. I'd never heard of Marion before. I wonder if my, because I'd never heard my aunts when my father was in my life. I'd never heard him refer to. Interesting. I wonder if they even know. I'll send my aunts this video. This is interesting. Yeah. Now, do you want to talk about the aunts, the lesbian aunts? Yeah. Well, I met my aunts, my dad's sisters, but yeah, we can talk about, okay. So the kids I know, so my grandfather was Paul. Okay. Paul. And I know that there was a Spencer because my dad actually drove, they call them Spence, Uncle Spence. My dad actually drove his scout. He had a blue scout. And when my great-grandfather died away, I think he died in 1986 because I was, I have one memory of Paul, one memory. And my dad got Spencer's scout. And the people that grew up with me, you remember my dad probably had memories of my dad driving this blue scout everywhere. He loved this scout, which is Uncle Spence's, his great-uncle Spencer's scout. And there was Millie. I remember great-aunt Millie because Millie married a very wealthy man up here in Atlanta from Buckhead. And Buckhead's the Beverly Hills of Atlanta. I remember she lived a long-ass time. I think I was like 14 when she died. And I remember going with my grandmother to Millie's house in Buckhead. And I always really liked Millie. She was real tall, real tall lady. And then there was another aunt I never knew named Louise, I believe. And I remember Louise taught my grandmother, they were big pianists. And Louise, my grandmother used to tell me, so my grandmother was a pianist. She used to tell me all the time that when her aunt would teach her piano, she hated her aunt Louise. She would put quarters on her knuckles. And if the quarters fell off her knuckles while she was playing, she would get whacked for not having proper, because you got proper posture while you play piano, the quarters won't fall off. So anyway, so that's, I know of Paul. Obviously Paul is my great-grandfather. I know of Spence, Louise and Millie. Those are the four I know. So let's talk about Millie for a second. Okay, Milldred. All right, Milldred, Milldred. But we'll call her Millie because you've got a good relationship with her. So Millie lived from October, 1905 to June of 1996. So you're right, she lived in very, 91. She made it to 91. So the 1940 census listed her as a teacher at a business school. But here's where we talk about the rich man that she married. She had to have married sometime after 1950. So we talk, she was born in 1905, but she married sometime after 1950. So she was older when she got married. He was a widower with children whose first wife died in a car accident. How did she meet him? I don't know. I don't know. I can't find that. But the children were mentioned in the obituary. So she had to have had a good relationship with them. And she was mentioned in the obituary of one of the other children as the stepmom. So she had to have had, like I said, a good relationship with the kids. And she took those kids in. So he, and this happened very frequently in those people will take on a second wife as a caretaker with kids. And she benefited financially. Well, I mean, I think she probably inherited a lot of money, but she benefited. I remember the house. I mean, I think I told you some stories. I actually remember going to her house. I thought she was so fun and just, she was old, but she was fun. But I kind of remember my grand, because I guess it was, and I was so young, I didn't think about it this way because I saw my grandmothers also being old. But it was my grandmother's aunt. Like that was her, her authority. Like one of her, you know, and I kind of remember my grandmother being a little bit more reserved around Millie. Now looking back, it's like, well, that was her aunt. So, you know, but yeah, and she, I remember when she died. I remember she was there. Her service was at the Episcopalian Church actually just around the street here on Ponce Leon in Atlanta. And we're not Episcopalian. We were Presbyterian. And my grandfather, my dad's dad, did not know when to kneel and when not to kneel. And he got caught in the kneel up front at that funeral and kind of just hovered. And you can see sweat just coming down his face because he was six foot five, probably close to 300 pounds at that point. So, you know, but yeah, I, Millie and Paul were the only two that I have any, I have more memories of Millie than Paul because she obviously lived longer than her brother did. So, and she lived closer to us in Atlanta. But yeah, that was common, wasn't it? They would take on and now I'm wondering if her, do you know who was her husband? Did you see his last name? His last name was Barnes. Barnes. I'm wondering if the husband just knew of the Bennett family through connections through my brow connections. And then, I don't know. That's a, that's a good guess actually. His, Walter Barnes was his name. Barnes, yeah. So she was Millie Barnes on at her death. Yeah. And she's buried equipment, right? Not in Atlanta. Yeah. Yeah, most of the family's buried equipment. Yeah. Once you come to equipment, you stay equipment apparently. They're like, we're royalty down here. Don't you know who I am? I'm a Bennett. I'm a prince of equipment. I'm a princess of equipment. A founding father. Come on. I gave you light. Oh man, like, I'll tell you a funny story though about that too. Remember when we were kids? Bobby and our kids today, they play on their tablets and iPads when they're eating. But remember, we had to read the back of zero boxes. Like we were kids. That was our entertainment because we didn't have internet. Well, I was at my grandmother's house and my grandmother and my grandfather, we never used to spend the night with them. They'd always let us have either frosted flakes, cereal, or my grandfather would make pancakes. So we always got to eat like food we didn't get to eat at my mom and dad's house. And it was on the back of a frosted flakes box. It was all these weird questions. And it was like, where in the world is there a wall that states the chicken cannot cross the road? And my grandmother knew it because it was equipment Georgia, because it was because of her house, her farm. Her chickens would get out and cross the road all the time. Made a law that chickens can't cross the road because Paul Bennett's chickens would get out all the time. So I got small. My grandmother was like, ooh, that's equipment. That's equipment. So for a long time, I thought that's what my Bennett family was famous for, for having some rogue chickens. What a random chicken law. It's a random chicken law, a rogue chicken. That still exists today. That's still a long equipment today. You know, these old laws. And I had heard them. I didn't realize that they were just as so, just they were like, they like owned equipment. Like they were equipment. Yeah. Yeah. And they all went back and got buried there. Well, most of them, most of them went back and got buried there. My grandmother was not buried there, but she's buried up in North Georgia with my grandfather. But yeah, yeah. Now Louise, the other sister. Louise might have been the mean one, but Louise is still one of my favorites. I'm sorry. Because Louise led a very colorful life. And so I'm very impressed with Louise. And I found out some stuff about Louise that you might not know. So, okay. Okay. So of course, we know that Louise never got married, which is where we question Louise's sexual preference. Yeah. And Louise also very tall, very tall from pictures that we've talked about with Louise. She was the secretary of the Chamber of Commerce, which as a woman, I was very surprised by this. Yeah. This is still a time this early 1900s, right? This is a time in which it's not once. Right. And she was one of the first members of the Chamber of Commerce equipment too, which really surprised me as well, that actually a lot of women being Chamber of Commerce, let alone being secretary. The 1930 census listed her as a field secretary for college and 1950 listed her as a music teacher. This is also what was listed on her passport. She worked for shorter college, which goes back to the college. That's where my grandmother went to college, yeah. Right. She went to college. Now, you talked about the piano. She did teach piano lessons and it was at what they called the big house, which was the house, which was next to the law office, which is where Stanley lived. So they had the big house and then the law office was the little house that was next door. And that's where the law practice was. So she was in the big house and then the law office was next to it. We want you to come back to that house at the end, Bobby, because I have information on that house now too. I'll bet you do. Now, here's the part that I don't think you know, but this is where it comes full circle, Bryce. Prior to 1919 equipment, there really wasn't a health department or a health service or anything like that. She was actually the county health nurse. So she was a nurse too. And she was sponsored by the Red Cross and she mostly went to schools and homes. So am I, my mind, I go back and forth between like deep state and like that's cool. It was in the shady side of my family, like the masonry, Red Cross. But then also, we also know that a lot of times people just do things because they think it's the better betterment for society. So you want to believe that that's really interesting. Right. And you think about it though, back in those times nurses weren't really in official position though. My great grandmother was also a nurse and they trained you to do basically home medicine and you went around and you treated people. She was a witch. No. She was a witch. Yeah, she's a witch for all intents and purposes. But that's what she did is if somebody was sick, she went over and she treated them. She got a real pass. And it looks like she had funding from the American Red Cross. But that's what brings me to the passport, which is what I thought was interesting because it said that she went on a trip in 19, I think it was 16 or 18 to France. How old was she at this point? Let's see, she would have been 1893, she had about 20, give or take. So young woman going on a boat probably. Right. And at least I can verify that her sister went with her. Millie went with her. Mm-hmm. And that they went to France and from what it sounds like, they went to like a medical hut type place. So it looks to me like it was kind of like a missionary type thing. Like they went to do like a medical trip. So I don't know if it was church related, if it was medical related, but they went overseas. And if you're looking at the timeline, it was right around the time of World War I. So it was either the end of World War I or like right in those dates. Wow, that's about the time that Mata Hari was executed. I'll put that- Guys, if you're new to the channel, I'll put that interesting story down. That gives me chill bumps, Bobby, because did I say this already on the show? I know I said it too. And I guess for people who are not from the United States, this might be a part of sub-American culture you might not be familiar with, but I've said this before, different pockets of the United States are typically settled by different. Like in the Southeast, you have a lot of people of English descent, a lot. Northeast, you've got a lot of Italian, Irish, that kind of stuff. And my grandmother found it very important for us to know, especially towards the end, that her family was French. Like I said, I think I said that in the beginning, that her family, she was really important for us to understand that her family was French. And I don't know if it's because we're so inundated with English culture down here in the South that at the end she wanted, but you would think about, if so, Millie and Louise got on a boat and went to France after World War I to do whatever they needed to do medically, I would assume they probably spoke fluent French. Yeah, the destination on the passport, I looked at the passport record again, the destination of their trip was listed as hospital hut services. So like I said, it's either missionary or medical related. And yeah, why would two young girls go to a country that they didn't have lineage in? They obviously spoke fluent French. Yeah. And it makes sense because they were Baptist, New Orleans, Mobile, Alabama area that was settled by the French originally, and then it went back and forth between the Spanish and the French. For those who are not familiar with American history, Louisiana didn't come apart in the United States until the elite Louisiana purchased, which was the early 1800s. And so New Orleans, that area, that was a very predominantly Catholic post. So if you're a Huguenot immigrant coming through New Orleans, you're gonna try to get out of that area as quickly as possible, getting into the English more English settlements because of religious persecution in that time. So that would make sense that they, it's so funny, I would laugh and say this because my grandmother was a little bit witchy, I always laugh, she's a little witchy because she had books on reincarnation and she would totally be down for like tarot cards and that kind of stuff. She would, if she have her crystals, if she wanted, if she knew about them at that time. So I always laugh that she's a little witchy. And then when she was getting close to the end there, she kept telling us, like, we came up through New Orleans, I was like, grandma, are you really trying to tell us we were a witch? Are you really trying to tell us some families? But yeah, it's just crazy that that didn't really come up until later in life where she felt it was really important for us to understand that her family was French. And she would say, look at the way the name is spelled. That's not the English way of spelling. Then it's, it's Benet. But we live in an English, in Bryce, my mother's main name with an I is Breeze, it's French too. But they've been in America since the 1600s in an English settlement. So over time evolved into the English pronunciation, which is Bryce. That's fascinating. God, I wish I could conjure the dead and just ask them, like, what was going on? Like, did they witness Monahari's execution? I bet you. Right? Did you do the burlesque shows? Like, what were you doing over there? Okay, so my favorite part, and this is why I think maybe I'm endeared to her. She was also president of the women's club from 1917 to 1918. And the women's club, they were actually big on cemetery beautification. So thank you Louise for, for helping with the cemetery beautification. I got my grandma, my mom, I used my mother. My mother used to say that to me. You got Marianne's spirit. Like, there's a lot of benefit. You might look a lot like the Bryce family, but you got a lot of benefit in you. Now I can play my macabre, my macabre fascination on the side of the family. She's gonna say, love me some Louise. Thank you Louise for cleaning up a cemetery for me. Cool. She loved her dead people, didn't she? Yes, she did. She was probably in there doing some seances. This was like spiritualism as well. This is when spiritualism was big. She was probably in there doing some seances, piano playing by day, cemetery cleaning by night. That's my girl. That's my girl. She's no more different than I am, honestly. Well, they were suffragettes too, weren't they, Millie? So, Bobby, do you wanna explain to our viewers who are not from the United States, perhaps, are too young to understand? Well, what was a suffragette? What were they? Okay, so until the, I'm gonna say probably like early 20s I think, women couldn't vote. I mean, we take it for granted now because we think people can vote, but women especially could not vote. And there was a big movement to allow women the right to vote. And women who were key to this movement were called suffragettes. And they did this push, let's give everyone the right to vote. So the suffragettes did this push. And then in the- They did, they marched. They were big for equal rights just in general too. If anybody remembers Mary Poppins, Mary Poppins, the mother was a suffragette. She had her banister on and she would martin their dresses- Because they did the song, I think it was the Suffering Suffragettes. Yes. It's the song. And I remember my grandmother telling me that her aunts were suffragettes, that they fought hard to get women the right to vote. I guess that's what happens when you educate women, Bobby. They start getting these crazy ideas. They want to do things and stuff. I mean, come on. They want to- And you know, I don't know if you're familiar with the case I covered with Angie, the Mahaley Lancaster case. Yes. Yeah. And I said, Mahaley Lancaster, I'll pin that down below to you guys if you're new to the channel. She reminded me, Mahaley Lancaster, reminded me so much of my grandmother's family from what I knew, because she was a suffragette. She was a very prominent woman. She was also a psychic medium, oracle. So, yeah. Yeah. Now the brothers, Spencer and Paul. I forgot about them. Yeah, I know, I forgot about them too. And this is where history starts to get shady because there's not as much about them as there are about everybody else. So it's where- I know. I know what you think. There's more about Spencer than there is about Paul. And I think, and it makes me wonder if it's because Paul just led a nice, quiet life. Yes. Or, or he had something to hide, but I think it's that he led more of a quiet life. I think maybe he just wanted to be away from the spotlight of everybody else. So, cause Paul is my, that's my line is Paul. So this is what I know about Paul. So my grand, that's my great grandfather. That is my grandmother's father. And Paul, so my dad, before my dad, before my dad left, he would tell me stories. My father would go and spend the summers on Paul's dairy farm. And he learned, like my grandfather, Paul, his whole family were attorneys and lawyers and Paul just wanted to be a dairy farmer. And so he was a dairy farmer. And he had, I think it was the Bennet, the Bow-Bin or Bin-Bow, it was named after Bennet, the Bennet, and then my great grandmother who was a Bow-Bin, which is also a French name. My sister's named after her, Mary Rebecca. They called her Maybeck. My sister goes by Mary Becca. But Maybeck, my great grandmother, I think she died in like the 60s, so I never knew her at all. But they had their dairy farm. And he, my dad would go and spend the summers down with his grandfather on the dairy farm. And he would tell me stories about how every month when the bills were due to be paid, my grandfather always taught my dad, now it's so different now, that it was important to him to go into every single business, look the business owner in the eye and pay them the bill in person. That was really important to Paul. And so my dad remembered going with him, that month when that month bill was due, driving around town and going into every single business and personally looking them in the eye and thanking them and paying the bill in person. I don't know what he would do today if he saw how we do it online. We have no human interaction. And of course he had his rogue chickens that would cross the road a lot. And what I remember, now guys keep in mind, he died in 1986. I was born in 1983. So I have a memory, one memory of him in his house and that house they lived in, that my grandmother grew up in always scared me as a child. I always thought it was haunted, it probably was, which we'll get to that because apparently I've got some hauntings with this family equipment as well that I've discovered. But I remember being a little kid and being kind of afraid of that house. It was beautiful. And I remember Paul, the one memory I have of Paul of him sitting in like a lazy boy recliner. And I guess he was like, it was probably right before he died because it's one of my first memories. So it was probably right before he died and he was just kind of sitting there in the lazy boy. And I remember playing on the stairs though of that house was all old like plantation style house with my dad's cousin. So my first cousin once removed, my grandmother's sister, Jane Campbell, my great aunt and her, and her son and her youngest son was between my, he was a lot younger than my dad. So he was closer to my age than my dad's age. And his name, he went by Corbett back then. But now he goes by Paul. He was Paul Corbett. He was named after Paul. But now he goes by Paul. And so I remember playing on the stairs with Corbett and because I called him Corbett back then, we would listen, guys, if you're young watching this, we didn't have tablets, phones, anything like that. We had fun just bopping our butts up and down stairs. We were really little. And I remember playing with him while the adults were in the front room talking. And I don't, again, I don't know if that memory is associated with the same time I saw Paul or if it was after he died. So they were discussing funeral arrangements. I don't know. But I do know that my grandfather also had, he loved his cows. That I heard my whole life growing up, that Paul, granddaddy Paul loved his cows. Like his dairy farm was not run like dairy farms today. They were milked by hand. He took care of his cows. They were his, actually they had a house in Florida, but it was only a few hours away because they were pretty close to the Gulf. And on alligator point, the house was called the Cow Palace. That's how much he loved his cows. And I think he was probably a lot of it. My father's a veterinarian, a large animal veterinarian. And if I had to guess, I would probably say my father got that inspiration to be a large animal vet because of Paul. Cause large animals handle, they handle horses, cows, dogs, cats, you know. And he, my father has to go out to farms to see horses and cows. Like that he has to actually still go out there. And that's probably where he got that inspiration was my great grandfather's love of cows. Well, my grandfather, when he died, he had two cows because my sister, I think my sister had just been born because she was born at the end of 86. He had two cows that he named after his great-grandchildren. So there is a cow out there named Bryce. And there's a cow out there named Mary Becca. Now, obviously Mary Becca was his, probably touched him that she was named after his late wife. But so yeah, he loved his cows. And my Anna Elizabeth, my dad's youngest sister, she has some hysterical stories to tell you about being on that dairy farming being chased by bulls. Cause they would just get, that's what she did back then, right? You didn't have helicopter parenting. You just went and if you got hit by, knocked out by a bull while you learned a lesson, didn't you? Don't mess with a bull. So she has hysterical, but that house, what I remember and that my memory could be fading hazy because again, this, I'm almost 41 and this happened when I was three or four when the last time I went, you had to go down a driveway and it was, the house was kind of covered by big trees with Spanish moss. So it's what like you, so when you say he kind of wanted to live a quiet life, that rings, that resonates, that the house was kind of hidden away by Spanish moss. Obviously the chickens knew the escape route and they were quite a problem. He had two daughters. He had my grandmother at first, my grandmother Mary Ann and then my great aunt Jane. So we had two little girls. He was the only one out of all the children to have children, wasn't he? Yeah. Yeah. And there are two things that I did find out about him. He was president of the Rotary. And he, like his brother Spence, were also presidents at one time of the country club, which you've talked about. Now, I would like to touch a little bit on the country club just for a second because the equipment country club, I found this little tidbit about equipment country club that I thought you would be abused by and I just wanted to share it for a second. When the equipment country club was established, there was a certain bylaw put in place that no member, I'm quoting, no member or invited guest shall dance what is known as the shimmy, cheek, camel walk or any dance of similar character and also no alcohol was allowed on the premises. Bryce, you would have been in trouble. I would, well, that's wild because something is launching. My grandmother was Roseanne all day before Roseanne all day was a thing. I learned about the pink wine for my grandmother. You could not have been doing that back when the country club was established. You can't twerk. You can't twerk. It can't now, girl. I'm wondering if either Paul or Spence changed that rule because back when it was established, you could not do that. And, well, that makes sense because that was a very musical family. I mean, they were all piano players. My grandmother was an incredible singer. She could harmonize. My grandmother, my sister and I took piano lessons from the time we were in first grade all the way till the time we left high school. So over a decade, weekly, yes, guys, I can play the piano. We had to because it was compulsory, like it was mandatory. My cousins did as well. I actually have a male cousin, my Analyst's son, who's an incredible pianist now. So that family was, and you would think that a family that's really into music would also want dancing and that kind of stuff as well. And it's funny you talk about the new alcohol rule, too. I mean, my grandmother, I learned what pink wine was, Rosé, for my grandmother. And I also learned about box wine from my grandmother. As wealthy as they were, she always had boxed wine. It's usually the wealthy ones that do have boxed wine, isn't it? I mean, she always, I didn't know that that was not classy until like I was in college. I was like, my grandma always had boxed wine. She always had. Wow. So you think I could pitch up at the Equipment Pantry Club today and just be like, I've arrived. And I'm here to Camel Walk. Watch out. With my PBR, my Rosé. I was also interested because, and we'll talk just, we'll touch on Spence. Spence's wife was also a part of the beautification committee for the country club. So she was a big fundraiser for the country club. That's what rich women did. That's a very common job for rich ladies. And Spence was an attorney. Didn't he follow in his father's footsteps? Spence was an attorney. He was also a big military guy. Oh, I didn't know that. Yeah. Yeah. He was big in the military. And I don't know if it was like formal military or if it was, because I know he was enlisted in World War I or if he just kind of like stayed on. Yeah. Cause most of them, Paul was enlisted. Spence was enlisted. And of course his dad, but I mean, they don't really serve at that point cause they're old. But, but he, I don't know if his like, and I don't know if they called it ROTC, but like junior, whatever it was back then. And if he kind of stayed involved and then he did law, because he didn't get married until he was 38. Yeah. I have some speculations about Spence too. I know you do. And I kind of have him too. Because he married, well, his wife was 24. He was 38. She was, she owned a beauty shop. And they had no people. And then you don't hear anymore about them. But then the obituary lists his nieces. No children. My grandmother. And yeah. Okay. So I think Spence died like 1980, right? Like right before I was born. 1980. Yep. He lived 1897 to 1980. So, and I know that that was a big thing about, cause my mom's family side of the family, everyone dies young. Everyone dies young. They're all, that's the joke. Like the doctor's kids are always the sickest. Everyone dies young. My dad's family, those people, they just live and live and live and live. I'm hoping I have the longevity of that side of the family. But Spence, so I know Spence and Paul were close as brothers. I mean, Equipment was in small town too. So who else you can play with as a kid, but your siblings. And that's why my grandpa, that's why my dad, my dad had a lot of really nice things to say about as great uncle Spence. They had no children, which is kind of strange too, for a married couple, and Equipment are in a high brow society at that time. You're almost expected to have children. And it wasn't like they got married when he was older-ish, but she wasn't. No. Unless there were fertility problems that you don't even spoke about, you know, you sent me, and I will say, I was quite, I remember pictures of, now when I remember I have a Paul, he was old that, right? But like, I've seen pictures of Paul when he was younger, just like in my grandmother's house. And I was like, oh, he was really good. You know what? There's a joke about that. There's a community that talks about that when you're going through all pictures and you see a picture of granddad, and you're like, granddad was kind of hot. Well, I've seen that with Paul. Paul was really good looking. And then I found a picture of Spencer. You spent a picture of Spencer. He was very attractive, very good looking man. He was way better looking than his sisters. Which, and that's why I'm like, why did he wait till 38 to get married? He's in a, now I met my husband and I got married when we were older too. And my husband was first married to him as well, but that's cause now in society it's not, it's looked at differently. Back in 18, like in early 1900s, you got married. Yeah, 24 was old to get married. 24 was old. He's 38. And this is his first marriage. This is not his second marriage. This is his first marriage. But what was he doing? For a man that looked at, weird. A man that's very prominent, that comes from a very powerful family, a very wealthy man. And I'm like, was he out just fucking around with other guys? I don't know. You know, like I have no idea. I'm just speculating it cause, and that's the thing you're right, Bobby. If this was the story in 2024, I wouldn't speculate about the sexuality. But because this happened at a time when that was strange, I speculate. Cause he was an eligible, like if you were a young lady in equipment, Georgia Spencer Bennett, was like the catch. Because he came from a really good family. You're hot. He was hot. You were set. Like if you married him, you weren't gonna have to worry about anything. Cause that was a very prominent, wealthy family that had a lot of rank and pull with the law of equipment. Like you were gonna be fine. And then to not have children. I find that strange that my grandfather Paul was, my great was the only one to have kids out of that whole litter of children. Now with Millie and Louise, yeah, women didn't have as much pullback then. So you could say rather unfortunate, they died Spencer's or at least Louise died of Spencer. But I actually do think they, I mean, my grandmother even said that. She was like, I think they were, when she was later in life, she was like, I think they were lesbians. But the fact that, well, I mean marriage was so important. The fact that my grandmother as a little girl was very concerned about the fact that her aunts were not married. She was very concerned about that. And she really thought it was because the town was so small and they just couldn't find husbands. And that was her goal for going to university was because she wanted to find a husband. She didn't want to end up like Millie and Louise. Women in college in, when I went to college in the South. So they still were there for the MRS degree. Yeah, that's very common, very common. I mean, it's, yeah, it hasn't changed when they, and I mean, I knew people that were like, well, I'm really here for such and such degree. But if I meet a man, I'll probably quit. And I'm like, what, what are you gonna waste your, and I mean, maybe that was my mindset. But I'm like, there are still people that were of that thought. And there were people that would say to me, well, what family are you from? Yeah. Are they of the such and such of Mississippi? And I'm like, no, I'm from the such and such family. I'm like, they're not from anything. It's like, because they still hold that regard even in this age of that old Southern tradition. And these are the things that you have to follow. And it hasn't changed in all of these hundreds of years. No, I laugh about it, but I'm sure now if I were to go to equipment, which I am planning, because I drive by equipment all the time when I go to Florida. I just never pull off because... Make sure you put the, I'm equipment royalty. I gave you a white bumper sticker on your car. I'm a default of Bennett through my grandma. But no, I'm sure if I went knocked on the door of the Chamber of Commerce and said, I'm Paul Bennett's great granddaughter, they would probably, they would probably be like, oh, come in. Let's, you know, they would still, because that's how it is in the South. I mean, that's why I've told the story with my mom, someone with the name Bryce, Williams Bryce, Williams Bryce, can't speak stadium at the University of South Carolina. When I was applying to university and my school, I was basically told by my college advisor at a private school, preparatory school, if you wanna go to the University of South Carolina, you don't need to do anything. We just call them up because of your name. And none of us, not myself, not my cousins, not my mom, not her sisters, went to University of South Carolina. For me, that would have been more defined. I would have been embarrassed by that because my name is Bryce. And being from the South, everybody would have known all the kids who are from the South would have known that that's my, that's very common in the South to reuse names and family names. I mean, no one in my family has a name that's not a family name. We all have family names. In fact, my mother wanted to name me Laura after the character in Dr. Javago. And my grandmother was like, absolutely not. You're not doing that. You're giving her a family name. So that's very important. So yes, when you are in the gentry, the aristocratic gentry of the South, you're kind of in a lot of ways born into a prison because people watch you. They know more about your family than you know about your family. You have to mind, when I got my tattoo, it was like mortifying for my family because that's, you know, we still do debutants. You know, I don't think I was ever expected to work even though I was expected to go to university because I was expected to marry another man of the same gentry that would then continue to provide. And I would just be the perfect little housewife that hosted parties. You know, the fact that I live with a man now and I'm almost 41 and don't have kids, back then I would have been labeled as something strange, right? But that's just, it's such a different, it's such a different world we live in now. But yeah, those little cultural, there's just deep cultural, there's a book that somebody, I can't remember the name of the book, I remember reading the book, it's about Charles in South Carolina. And I just remember the writer explaining the aristocrats of Charles in South Carolina being like a shadow that creeps behind you watching always. And I thought that was such an incredible way to describe like the gentry of the South, it's this shadow. So even though you think these people are born to privilege and opportunity, in which they are, I'm not gonna deny it, there are privilege and opportunity, there's also a lot of pressure. What would happen if Spence had been caught with a man? Oh, he would have not been only disowned by his family, he would have been disowned by the town, probably by the county. The family would also have probably tried to pay off the man to keep him quiet. Cause they had the money for it. Yeah. You think, if you're thinking about great-great-grandpa Bill, who's the state senator, they don't want that out there. I mean, you've got Spence, the gay man, and we've got possibly two sisters who were lesbians. We don't want that out. No. So maybe they let Paul just live a quiet life because with his chickens and his cows, because they're like, at least he procreated. They're like, well, you know, I know you want to be a farmer and that's really not what we want you to be, but at least you're not gay. And that's the lesser of two evils at that point. Yeah. Cause that was always an anomaly that in my, it's funny, I was telling you before we signed on my great-aunt Jane, who I knew, my grandmother's sister, she's no longer living, my cousin Corbett's mother, Jane Campbell, now I know where Campbell comes from. She married a Georgia Superior Court judge, my great-uncle, Mac. That was her one marriage from, and he ended up becoming a big judge, which was always nice. I remembered that when I lived in LA, having conversations, like knowing that I have somebody that high up and like, even in California, knowing I have an uncle who's a Superior Court judge of Georgia made me feel more comfortable because I felt like I had somebody in the wings that could help if there was a situation that needed help in, you know? I mean, so that, so she even continued to marry my great-aunt even married into the same, the same type of family. And she lived in Valdosta, which is 15 minutes outside of equipment. So she stayed in South Georgia. Yeah, it's, yeah. But Spence, man, he was good looking. I'm like, damn, he should have procreated. He should have made some babies. And Austin. Yeah, he was a really good looking man. Like he got a lot of the love. I mean, plus that must have been so frustrating for Millie and Louise to have a brother that was like, really stinking good looking to be the women of the family. And then all their friends were like, what's Spence doing in their thirties? They say, shut up, I don't want to hear it. Right, I'm gonna talk to Spence. I mean, Paul was good looking too, but Spence just had a certain genocide quality. Spence had a certain like, which I looked, I mean, the minute I saw his picture, I was like, oh yeah, he was totally gay. I was like, Paul, when you look at pictures of Paul when my great-grandfather, when he was young, he was like straight, good looking. But Spence, he was like, he was hot, he was hot. And he, but he and Paul had a great relationship. I mean, they were very close as brothers and that's how my father knew his great-uncle because he again, against Spence died in 1980. My father was born in like 57, so he spent a lot of time with Spence too as he got older. I don't, I haven't seen pictures of Spence as an old man. I've only seen the pictures of him in his youngen days. I haven't either. And that's the thing. It's like, he kind of just dropped off as he hit a certain age and it was probably like middle age, you don't hear anything about Spence. After he was president of the country club, no more about Spence. He just lived his gay, fabulous life with his beard wife. Right. Which makes you wonder, did he establish himself in society and then be creeped? Probably, probably. And I don't, and now I wonder, like, what did Paul know? What did Paul cover for him? Like, what did Paul know? Especially after Stanley died, their father died. Like, what did Paul know? Because literally there's all these details about the sisters, all the way through their lives, everything that they did and the brother's radio silence. I'm gonna have to send this to my aunts and see. And even my mom, my mom, my mom actually surprises me sometimes when my mom knows about my dad's family because she'll say stuff sometimes about my dad's family. But again, my mother came from a prominent family. She married my dad, who came from a prominent family. So, boom, they know about each other's families. And, but, you know, it's interesting though, Bobby, my grandmother for the, for the fluent lifestyle that she came from, she worked really hard her whole life and she never, never, I never saw her treat anybody without respect. I never saw her flaunt. I will have to say that about her. Like, and of course she had big diamonds and she had pretty jewelry and she always dressed nicely. Went to the beauty parlor once a week because that's what they did. Got her hair set once a week. When did she went to see Spence's wife? I mean, well, maybe that's, I don't know more about Spence's wife. Like, girl, were you a lesbian too? Is that how this worked? Like, I don't know what's going on here. Like, I would not be happy being in a sexless marriage like that, you know, especially if your husband's that freaking hot. Right? You know? So I want to know her story, but yeah. My grandmother was very, she was very humble, very, very virtuous in a lot of ways. Very, she was, her and my grandfather both were just very good people. Very, very good people. And it's amazing that she grew up with such power and privilege that she ended up being such a hard worker herself and just a really good person. Everyone loved her. Every time you came to, what can I get for you? That's what she would say. Every time you came to your house, what can I get for you? What can I get for you? And when we would go, I remember when we would have dinner at their house sometimes like after my mom's parents died. So they were my only grandparents. My mom would get mad at my dad a lot because anytime my dad wanted something or anybody wanted something, my grandmother would get up from the table and go get it. And I remember my mom yelling at my dad in the car and be like, you need to actually get up and get stuff for your mother. Like, you don't need your mother does not need me getting up and getting people stuff. You need to be the one to get up and get your mother stuff. Cause she was always just trying to make sure everyone was okay with her iced tea, her South Georgia iced tea that she put pineapple juice in a very specific form of iced tea, sweet tea, we had pineapple and drop biscuits and, you know. So I remember I asked her Bobby once right when she got Alzheimer's. So I made sure and I have it on video somewhere where I asked her cause she tried to teach me how to meditate when I was like eight years old. I remember that. This was before meditation was and yoga wasn't a thing. Nobody knew what that was in the nineties. And I asked my grandmother, I just got back from my first trip to India. And I was like, grandma, I remember you trying to teach me how to meditate when I was a kid. And I was like, how did you discover meditation? I was like, how did you growing up in South Georgia discover this? This wasn't a thing back then. And she goes, you know, it was so damn hot in South Georgia growing up. I think all we could do was just sit, sit and stare. All we could do was just sit and stare. I think that's how I found meditation. Bless her. It was so damn hot down there. Yeah, she, and I remember her one time she was very supportive of, well that's interesting now that I think back. She was very supportive of gay rights even though she was a Republican, she was very supportive of gay rights. And now I wonder why. What did she know that she didn't tell us? She told me once that there was a little boy. She remembers when she was a young little girl that this little boy would come over and play with her and her sister. And this little boy loved playing dolls with her and her sister. And now she wonders. But I'm like, did you know about your aunts? Well, obviously you suspected your aunts, but did you also know about your uncle? Because I never heard her talk about Spencer. Only my dad talked about Spencer. So yeah, different times. We're so, in a lot of ways we're not lucky living when we live now, but in a lot of ways we are. Because a lot of these insecurities they had are just not a problem. I mean, what do you think Stanley would think of me, Bobby, with all my tattoos and living with a boy? Oh, that whole living with a man thing. He's got a sleeve of tat. My boyfriend's covered in tattoos. Like, I don't even know what some of his skin looks like because he's got so many tattoos. He might say to him, what my mother said to me when I got my first one, well, at least we can identify your body in the mord when we find you dead. Just throwing that out there. She didn't care. She knew my nose was pierced. She knew I had piercings all up my ear. You know, again, I think that was probably her spirit coming through. She probably wish she could have done that. She did a lot. She wore pants suits, but I always say Hillary Clinton and pants suit naced and that was my grandmother. I will tell you a real funny story though. I don't know if I told you this, Bobby. So in the South, we take our religion real serious whether you're a Protestant or a Catholic. It's a very big deal between Protestant and Catholic. Bigger deal at that point. Bigger deal than Republican or Democrat. And the Bennets were Democrats. They were Dixie Democrats. And my grandmother, when she first came up to shorter college, she started dating a Democrat who was a Catholic. Well, my great-granddaddy Paul had a huge problem with that. Huge problem with him being a Catholic. That really was, I remember my grandmother talking about that. That was a huge deal. My grandfather was not happy about him being a Catholic. There was a lot of tension because of her dating according to this man as they called it back then. My grandfather, Watson, a granddad, he was in the military at the time. He was about five or six years older than my grandmother. And he came through a house party. They were stationed in the area. And there was a house party. And he went to the house party. My grandmother was playing the piano at the house party for the entertainment. And he said to his buddy in the military, I'm gonna marry that woman one day. And that's how he met my grandmother. Well, at that time, this was scandal because she was dating a Catholic boy at that time. They were headcourt. And my grandfather came in and basically really like pursued my grandmother, even though she was a, men just don't do that anymore. Do that. They don't fight for women anymore. He pursued her and pursued her. He would not give up. He would not give up with my grandmother. And finally, she dumped the Catholic boy to date my granddad, but brought my granddad down to equipment to meet her family. And my granddad was a big Republican, but he was a Protestant. And my granddaddy, Paul, my great-granddaddy Paul was just so relieved that he was a Protestant. He did not care that my grandfather was a Republican. He was just glad that he was a Protestant. So it was just different times back then, wasn't it? It was. You're right, because religion was huge. And now you look, think about it. Think about big, great-granddaddy Billy, the Baptist minister, that had to have been playing a key factor in it. We come from the Baptist. You think of being married in a Catholic? Well, that makes sense too, because if they were Huguenots originally coming up from New Orleans, it had to flee quickly to get to English territory where they could be safe and was Protestant. That trauma... The last thing you want is a Catholic. Is a Catholic. That trauma would have stayed in their psyche. And so, yeah, it's interesting. I just, well, I read too somewhere that Paul, my grandfather, Paul, and his wife, made back, went to two different churches, but they were both Protestants. So they both went to two different... That's not unusual, because my great-grandparents did the same thing. Yeah, she was like a Methodist. And so, and I think I actually read it in my great-aunt Jane's obituary, where she would go to different churches because she went to her church and he would, but at least they were both Protestant. That was the important thing is that they were both Protestant. Wild, wild. Should I talk about the hauntings? Do it. So the big house you were talking about, I think, correct me if I'm wrong, if you're from equipment Georgia, I'll tag equipment in this. I think it's a flower shop now. I might be mistaken. I definitely want to stop there at some point or just take a trip down there. It's only like three hours, four hours from Atlanta. And it's haunted apparently by Stanley. Seems Stanley lived such a good life, equipment, he don't want to leave. And I thought that was so bizarre. And there were also stories about Paul potentially haunting some land, equipment. I don't think Paul's haunting anything, to be honest. I think Paul's too nice. Yeah, and I think Paul would have been one that would want to move on, just move on. He wanted to be, and you might be right too, because Maybach, his first wife, he did remarry. My grandmother hated her stepmother. She would tell me, because my dad married a woman and that's part of the reason why my dad abandoned us is because of his second wife, which is, she's been atrocious. And my grandmother was very well aware of the situation especially when she got Alzheimer's, she would use the C word a lot in reference to my stepmother, which was hysterical, because I didn't even know she knew curse words and she was dropping that C word, I mean, it was awesome. But she told me one time that when her father remarried his second, that her and her sister did not like their stepmother. Because their stepmother was really nasty to them. Now, here's the thing, this second wife married Paul Bennett. There was a lot of money there. And on top of that, there was a huge dairy farm, a lot of property. And my step, my mother said that she used it, my stepmother, my step grandmother, great grandmother, her stepmother, hated fake flowers. So my grandmother would constantly place orders for fake flowers to be delivered. And because it was Paul's daughter, she had to keep them displayed. So my grandmother, Mary Ann, was petty. And she told me that flat out. She was like, she's like, tee-hee-hee. And she said, when Paul died, when my grandfather died, they were, my great-grandfather died, they were, her and her sister were very stressed about the will because they were worried that their stepmother had weaseled her way into collecting everything and cutting Jane and my grandmother out. And that was not the case. When they read the will, my grandfather left like nothing to his second life. Everything was left to my grandmother and her sister. I don't think the same can be said with my dad. To be honest with you, I don't think that's gonna happen with my dad. My dad doesn't even remember he has children at this point or grandchildren, which is sad for him. But, you know, but for Paul, his daughters were very important to him, that they were taken care of in his will. And so, yeah, I think, and I think it just his first wife, I think Maybach was his love and the fact that she died early, I think he was excited to be with her and to be back with Maybach. My grandmother used to have, I don't even know who has it now, but upstairs in their house, she had this beautiful picture painting, oil painting of Maybach, my great-grandmother, with my grandmother and her sister when they were little girls. It was this beautiful, like oil painting of her with her daughters. So, yeah, it's, Marianne can be a little, well, that's what I liked about her. She was as sweet as pie. She would fix you that sweet tea. Can I get you something? But you piss her off, she'll send you some fake flowers. Which makes me more thinking it was her, as opposed to him that might be on the place. Maybe, maybe. I mean, I don't know. I was looking at equipment's map, because I found, I don't even know. Like if I were to go to equipment, equipment's a tiny town. I might could just find the dairy farm just on my own, but I don't even know where it is, equipment. I don't, you know, I don't really have, I mean, I guess I could ask my mom, she might remember, but I don't, you know, I don't have contact with my dad. So, but I think from what I read, I think they sold the dairy farm to another dairy company that actually still runs it as a dairy farm. And that, but the house that Stanley built, Stanley's house is haunted by Stanley. And that was gnarly, Bobby, when you realize your ancestor is haunting a place, like a recent ancestor, that's kind of gnarly to read those stories. Yeah. I'm like, do I have a karmic duty to go talk to Stanley? Be like, brah, brah, look, yo, brah. But supposedly there's quite a few places that Stanley might be haunting equipment. I'll find them all, I'll just go talk to you. Like, grandpappy. Because there's a creepy old bridge equipment, and then there's that cabin equipment. Yeah, I saw that on, there's a Paul Bennett, what was it, there's some land that's named after Paul Bennett. Right. Like a marshland. Right. To South Georgia. But that was all, that was all Stanley's land at one point, which I wonder if he maybe sectioned it off to the kids. Probably. And that was maybe that was Paul's cabin on Stanley's land. Probably. I want to go down there. I really do. I need to reach out to the Chamber of Commerce and just be like. Well, if you reach out to Chamber of Commerce, you tell them that you're Louise's niece. Great, great niece, because you know she was on the Chamber. That's a good idea, I will. I'll say I, cause I was thinking I could just say I'm Stanley Bennett's great, great, great granddaughter, but no Louise Bennett. Or you tell them you're Williams. Great, great, great, great, great granddaughter. Yeah, that I'm through Mary Ann Bennett, who became Watson, I'm through her. She's my grandmother. I wonder, and I've even thought about that. See, that's the thing, like that's what's so sad. I was really close to my dad's parents, but I'm not close to my cousins. I don't have any contact in for, I know my cousins, but I don't have their phone numbers. I don't, that's what's so weird. Like my mom's family, my cousins are like my siblings. It's not weird, Bryce. Honestly, it's not weird because there are so many families where you will realize and discover that you have family that you don't know about. I'm learning about cousins that I didn't realize that I even had as I'm doing more genealogy research. So don't feel like you should be closer to anybody in your family that you don't know about. It's straight, well, and I often blame it on my father. And I don't, again, I don't know what, I've gotten to a point in my life where I can realize my father never loved us. Like I can say that comfortably now, like I understand that he just did not have the capacity to love his children. I totally get that. He has the capacity to love his stepchildren, but he does not have the capacity to love his own children. And that's been a huge therapy thing I've had to go through with the daddy issues. And I've been able, you know, I like to say two things can be true. I can have a really bad dad, but also really great grandparents. And I was really close to my grandparents and the two things can remain true. That I am okay with the fact that I don't have a dad. I'm totally made, I've made peace with the fact that I actually don't have a dad. That I have a sperm donor. I had someone that's biologically my father, but I did not have a father as far as the emotional sense of the support system of a male. And I think too, Bobby, my father, even when I was a little child, I remember being keenly aware that my dad was very upset he did not have a son. That we were not, that he was a girl dad. And it's interesting because I used to say that I'm glad I didn't have a brother, even though I wanted a brother, I'm glad I didn't have a brother because if my brother had been gay or effeminate, I don't think my father would have been able to handle that. And that's interesting looking at his family now. Now, with my dad's family, as a child, I always felt like my dad prioritized, even though I didn't know the word prioritize, I felt like his sisters and their kids and his parents always took precedence over my sister and me. As a child, that was how I felt my nephews. My male cousins and my female cousin were more important to my father than my sister and me were. His sisters were way more important to him than his children. And he made us feel like we were a burden to my grandparents. And I actually remember that specifically being said to my sister and me. And I don't know why. Now looking back through with my therapist, I do understand that that was abuse. I do get that. And that was not how, I know that's not how my aunts see us and I know that's not how my grand, and unfortunately I don't have a relationship with my aunts, I wish I did. And there's also a different dynamic, right? I think there is a different dynamic between a father and a mother, like of the mother's family, like a mother's sister. So my mother's sisters are closer to biologically, genetically, or closer to my mom, right? So there is gonna be a different genetic connection, biological connection, I think, like my nephew and nieces, I'm their mother's sister. So there's a different relationship that I have with my nephew and nieces than my brother-in-law's siblings. Because it's your mom's sister, right? So you're the next best, I'm the next best thing to their mother, is what you need to eat, right? So, and with your father, your father's sisters, I think there is a bit of a different relationship anyway, just a dynamic anyway. But, and so I don't really have contact with my aunts or my cousins at all. And it's not no fault to them, they're really great people. I wish I knew my male cousins better because I follow them on Instagram and they're one of them is hysterical, like he posts the funniest shit. You know, he's so funny. And I'm always like, oh, he's so funny. I don't even know their birthdays. It's like, I don't even know their birthdays, you know? But my mom might, so yeah, it's, and hopefully if I could share this video, maybe this will bring us closer together. Maybe we can all go down there as the next generation. I can get them to come down with me to Quitman and see everything with me since they're- You'll have the first annual reunion. Of this generation. This generation. I can't be the only one with tattoos. I don't know if they have tattoos, but I would not be surprised if they've got some tattoos too. So, yeah, it's interesting and it's, yeah. And then, you know, they didn't grow up with us. I will say too. They did not live around us, so maybe that's it as well as they've lived in different parts of the world and the country and, you know, it's, but it's a shame. I look at my, I don't understand, I look at my nephew, my nieces and I think, what a shame that my father's missing out on his actual grandchildren because they're really cool kids and, you know, so. That's his loss. It's his loss. And my grandmother would say all the time and my grandmother got to know, she met my nephew and my oldest niece, Charlie and Jacqueline and she got to hold May, the new, May's two now and May was before she passed away. And she would say, she loved being a great grandmother. She would say all the time when she was putting the old people home when she needed constant help because of her Alzheimer's, she would walk around telling the nurses all the time when they would come visit. These are the kids that made me great because she was a great grandmother. So she's like, these were the kids that made me great. I wasn't great until they were born and she was so proud of these. So, you know, I'm so glad she got to witness like the next generation. She, you know, when May, she would get confused with May because that's when May was born. She would hold May and be like, now, who's baby is this again? Cause she, you know, her mind was, my sister would be like, grandmother, that's, that's my baby. That's May. That's your great, great granddaughter. You know, that's your great granddaughter May and who's baby is this again? And she'd be like, so, you know, so it's just, and that's cool too. You think about all the way back to old Billy, P-Paul, Billy, the- P-Paul, I love it. P-Paul. P-Paul. He's got, and you look at my nephew and how many, and how cool that is to see just the generations, the flow of time and how if somebody didn't marry somebody, if my grandfather wasn't eager beaver and broke up my grandmother or if that high tower, the coroner didn't, many didn't meet Stanley. You know, it's just interesting how, I think that's why people love genealogy so much. It's just these, these little choices people make that domino effect and change everything for all of us. Not one split decision. Yeah. That changes. Everything. Travellery of life, honestly. I say that about us Americans. And I think that's true for the Australians and the South Africans and the Canadians. If I, I've said that a lot, well, the most fascinating thing about being an American is if somebody didn't get on the boat, when he or she did, if somebody did not make that decision, a really big decision, I wouldn't be here today. Bobby wouldn't be here today if one of her ancestors didn't get on the boat when they did. They missed that boat or decided the last minute, not to take the chance. So it's fascinating. Definitely no lack of fear when it comes to it, honestly. Very courageous. And, and Bobby, this has been, I thank you so much. I cannot wait. If you guys want to see, I hope this was fun for you guys to get to see the scan. We all have scandals, guys. Don't worry, Bobby. Everybody's got scandals. Nobody's innocent. Nobody. Nobody. And I see so many people get all upset when they find out a YouTuber has family in the Freemasons. It's like, have you checked, have you looked in your backyard? Bet you you got some too, right? Like no, and that's what's so fun is we get to read these scandals and speculate what their lives were like. And if you guys want to hear part two about old Billy, old Billy, P-Paul. Can you say? P-Paul, Billy. He had kind of a, kind of a interesting life. You know, when people don't have TV to distract them, they get up to some mischief, don't they? They get bored. They get bored. They get to do something. Yeah, and that's what they do. Get on another job or they take on a scandal. I mean, it's one of the two things. Have a mistress. You know, all of a sudden you're doing 23 and being, you find cousins. You really didn't know existence. You joined the Masons, hook up with the Klan. I mean, you got to do something with your time. You got a boat go to France. So guys, if you want to know more about my family scandal, let us know. We'll do something old P-Paul, Billy. I know that I'm going to be connecting Bobby with Catherine as well. So that nothing about like, like being an open book for your audience, Bobby, and being like, here's my family secrets. So, so, and Bobby, you eventually want to offer this service for people as well. Is there an email address that people can contact you if they want you to do like a private, do a business with you and do a private research into their genealogy? Yes, crazygraveladyatgmail.com. And I know you're going to put that link in your description box too, but yeah, crazygraveladyatgmail.com. Let me know if you would like me to talk about the dirt in your family. Let me know. We all have that one corner of our family. We're like, what's that about? Who that person? I found some Hatties in my family. I was like, you know, we've got some really cool names in this. I think the Bennett's has some actually really cool names. And I'm like, and you picked Bryce. I could have been a Hattie. I could have been a Minnie. I could have been a Millie. So anyway, guys, well, thank you, Bobby. This was so much fun. And I know I'm going to tease it for our audience. You're working on a really big story right now for your channel. That's kind of part of our American history, kind of a more of a cob part of our American history. And I know Bobby's working hard on it. And I won't say any more, guys. So make sure you're subscribed to Bobby's channel. Hit the notification bell. So when those episodes do drop on her channel, you'll be the first in line to see what scandalous information she's found out about people were not. Well, you're kind of connected to the case, but you're not related to the actual subject of the case. Just part of the more American macabre history. So, all right, you guys, well, we hope you have a wonderful day and we will talk to you all soon. Bye, everybody.