 I didn't really know I was any different probably until I started school and you know maybe in school maybe the other kids were celebrating different holidays um you know their parents didn't speak the language that my parents did um so that's when I started to realize that you know I was a little bit different than the other kids in school. Me as a parent I was always very active with my kids did all the the PTAs and you know my whenever my kids had activities I was always there at the sporting events and volunteering whereas I think my mom didn't do any of that only because she didn't know um she couldn't speak the language so she never really made friends with my friends parents because she there was a language barrier there that's what my parents knew they just didn't know how things were over here because they weren't brought up here and they weren't very strict with certain things like going out and dating you know I couldn't um you know my friends would be going out to a movie at midnight and I couldn't even ask my parents if I could go out it wasn't even a yes or no question I just never asked so you know my friends would be going out to parties and and doing things and I would kind of just be home most of the times I was babysitting you know and that's just siblings yeah babysitting my um you know my younger sisters and um but I was okay with it that just the way I was brought up and I didn't you know I didn't make a big deal out of it um when I met my husband I was very young um I met him just out of just as soon as I finished high school right after graduation so I kind of missed that whole college stage of going out and partying and stuff because you know at that point we were engaged and we were just doing our own things so I don't feel like I you know I miss any of that but I knew that my parents would never would never allow me to do any of that stuff