 Listen to me. No matter what is happening to you in life. Stay social. Do not isolate. No matter what is happening to you in life. Stay social. Do not isolate. I'm gonna tell you why. I wish somebody had told me this when I was 18 years old. Maybe I'll skip Parallel Universe. Quantum leap back to when I'm 18 years old. I'm talking to myself. Okay. Time's probably an illusion, but that's for another talk. Here's what I would say. I would say, look, the human brain has evolved and been built to over-exaggerate problems. Period. I was just in Dubai with 150. I did like a small group meetup in Dubai with some of my top students. I've been doing my courses, programs, learning for me for like a decade. One of them sitting on 20 million in cash, making a million a month, and he was telling me how depressed and anxious and how anxiety dominates his life and how it's getting worse. I was with another dude. He's got a software company that valued over 500 million bucks. It's 28, 29. So I'm going away. What's going on? And I've been there too. It's called Brain Hijack. Our ancestors, we evolved from grandparents. We are the grandchildren of grandparents who over-exaggerated their problems because if you over-exaggerated, worst case scenario, you're just a little bit over-reacted but at least you survived. Our grandparents who under-exaggerated didn't have many kids because if you under-exaggerate the problem, once in a while, once at a lifetime, it's catastrophic. So all of a sudden, I'm in Dubai and I'm going away a second. I got a quantum leap back in my 18-year-old self and be like, Ty, almost all the things you're freaked out about is an over-exaggeration. And the reason you must stay social is because the right people and life is mostly a social game. The right people check you. I had to check this dude. I was like, bro, don't be coming with your anxiety sitting on 20 million cash. You're perfectly healthy. You got freedom. As long as you have health and freedom, nothing's wrong. Now, that's one thing I'll tell you. But the thing about it's like health, physical body, supermodels. I know supermodels. All the supermodels I know that are thin. They look at women who are curvy and are like, yo, I wish I was curvy. Every curvy woman, almost every curvy woman, when they're alone, they're like, oh, what would it be like to have long thin legs? Dude, I have a friend who's 6'4". He's like, man, I remember telling him what I was like, dude, 6'6". That's the height you want to be. I'm thinking, you're over-exaggerating the problem. You're 6'4". You got a good man. Yeah, but 6'6". I got a friend. It's like, then you're always the tallest dude in the room. I'm calling over-exaggeration of the brain. That's why by him staying social, I'm like, come on, man, stop it. You need those people in your life. That's why when things are going wrong, the tendencies do isolate. Think about wealth. I was just telling about people sitting on 20. The guy who's the couple of people that I was with that are sitting on 10 to 30 million a cash, they're all freaked out now about losing it. My broke friends are afraid they'll never gain money and my friends who have it are worried they'll lose it because now they've tasted it and they're like, I can't go back. I don't ever want to go back. So they're anxious and not able to sleep at night. Love. I had a friend. He did not like the woman he was with. He had been with her for a few years. He is like, man, we should break up. I've been with her so long. And then she broke up with him. And I'm thinking, great, problem solved. He should be overjoyed. Nope. Over-exaggeration of the brain, like, well, wait a second. Maybe I've been wrong. Now that she's broken up with me, I think I lost the one. And by being in a social study, we were out with a couple of friends who were like, come on, bro, you're good. You weren't even happy with her. And so by saying social, you check, you diminish, you knock back the over-exaggeration. And that over-exaggeration goes crazy when you isolate. You sit, people, when things aren't going well, someone breaks up with them, they're not making money, career failure. I don't know about health. They look at their body. People that I have friends are like, yeah, I'm ugly, you know, it's like, dudes, that's the new thing. I think it's because of Instagram. And 20 years ago, guys didn't realize they weren't that good looking. But now social media, women are more aware they sat, read a scientific report where women are more aware of their act, even though women sometimes are shown on social media exaggerating that men actually over exaggerate their looks. But now social media, you're like, there's like male models on. So it's like my guy friends, they stop going out, stop meeting women, because they're like, yeah, I'm ugly, and I start over exaggerating, and they're fine. You know, and it's not going out, and they stop saying social, and all of a sudden it's a self-fulfilling dream. Prophecy, all of a sudden, yeah, they're not meeting anybody. And I'm going, that's because you're inside your head. And your head is, but your head's like a pit bull, can be your greatest ally to protect and save you, but can also can turn on you and destroy you, you know, as your choice, your choice. So be very careful with the isolation. There is a time to isolate yourself, you know, there is a time I once a month, you go on a preset arrangement shouldn't be spontaneous. When it's spontaneous, you're usually doing it incorrectly. Well, it's planned like, okay, the last weekend of every month I go camping, or I go out of nature, or, you know, something like that, why get I need two days away from people just to contemplate, that's good. But when it's reactive, like, oh, today I woke up and I, you know, I feel like I'm not making enough money. I don't like my, like, and then you isolate right then that's deadly. So stay social. Stay social. Now some people are like, I'm not good social, blah, blah, blah. I'm going to tell you this, flurries of activity is the solution. So people are like, yo, I'm lonely. I don't have a girlfriend. I'm like, go on 10 dating sites, go on, go to nightclubs, go to libraries, go to Starbucks, take a, take a class on how to meet people, like, do 20 things. Because what happens we have social media and this one person says, do this one thing. You know, some people are like, never do, you know, never do a dating website or never go to a nightclub or only me women this way or only not. And the truth is, there's multiple paths based on your genetics and your personality, it's going to work best. So flurries of activity, don't worry about what social said anything that social man. Go, I tell people, go to an old folks home. They're lost and deserted people, unfortunately, in moderate society. We've gone astray. In the past, everyone took care of their parents. They just moved in, they built them a little house in the backyard, like with homage. So you go to the old folks home, they're happy to see you. It's they're isolated, but you bring them together like I've done them before. And it's crazy. There's no security in an old folks home, nursing home. Why? Because nobody ever comes to visit them. And it's a sad thing. There's no worries of security because then nobody cares. So you walk in there, do stand up comedy, they'll laugh at all your jokes. If they can hear you, you know, they'll laugh at all your jokes. So it's like problem solved, people are like, I'll tie, I'm shy, I'm like problem solved. Go to people who are so happy for any social interaction. You know, maybe you have friends that are too picky. Maybe you're dating, it's like that Oli G. We're at where he's like interviewing the dude who's a whenever four year old virgin. He's like, are you a virgin? Because what did he say? Because you're shy or because you're going for honeys outside of your league. Stop dating out of your league, men and women. Pull it back. I've dated beautiful and I've dated, you know, it's all it's safe. If you're struggling, don't be going for the top, the top tier. Okay, I know that's probably politically incorrect, but whatever. You know, get social, go on a date with someone you're not even attracted to, you don't have to lead them on. It's like, yo, I wanted someone to talk to, let's go out. Guys always complain no one writes them back on Tinder, somebody will write you back. I mean, don't even have to use Tinder, go off to something, you know, post that as over media. Yo, I'm bored. Who wants to go out? All people, I'm interested in anyone. Start doing a weekly thing. I used to open up my house every Sunday, low barbecue when I told people you got invite two friends, get social, change your game, change your life. It will, it will fix this over exaggeration we had and ultimately, when you look at most of the problems that humans have now, it's isolation. Countries isolate, look at World War One, the history of World War One, the history of World War Two, the Franco-Personal War, the Crimean War, Vietnam War. It's isolation. People stop talking to each other, you know? I don't know what, you know, I got different people have different opinions on Donald Trump, but remember when he met Kim Jong-un, the dictator from North Korea and everybody said that's bad. I'm like, is that really bad? You know? Like, is that really bad? Like, I feel like, hold on one second. I feel like isolation is what's bad. So, speaking of I'm president, which I don't want to be, but speak to everybody. You don't have to agree with them. Get out. Social life will change your life and the over exaggeration bias will take you hostage when you're isolated in a room and so this depression is normal, but you must, you must knock it back to people. Okay? So, leave a comment what you think is the best way of somebody listening to this and they're suffering with crazy levels of anxiety and depression, isolation, what you found to be like the best. Like I said, I've found the best honestly to do something on a weekly set basis and invite people and it's first to snowball. I got my house and have a barbecue every, you know, 12 o'clock. I first started out with my two friends and I told them, you know, to bring two more friends and they kept bringing two more friends and the next thing you knew, it was like 40, 50 people every Sunday and I didn't have to do anything. So one of my best friends came out of that, you know?