 Hey, we're still on day three winding down Coming to the stage next on the 21 convention London 2011 the conference of The century the men's conference of the century that is a four-time speaker This is fourth time on stage here at the 21 convention and he was once voted best new instructor and you may recognize him from MTV's made Please welcome speaking on sexual escalation Jared psych Lawrence Thank you Now all of that sounds really great when he puts it all that way But I want to go back a few short years with you guys before I was psych and all that I Want to share with you guys a story That kind of symbolizes where I was back when I first started all this Back when I first started I was dating this girl Gabby Now how I got her I have no idea. It was literally like handed to me from God above right and Gabby was my everything She was the perfect girl. That was a girl who's gonna marry. That was a girl who's gonna grow old with I my whole heart was devoted to this one girl and Gabby didn't believe in premarital sex and I respected that For an entire year. We did not have sex. I was the nice guy. I was a gentleman About a year and a half of dating her We broke up and then in a few short months. I remember she started dating this Fucking arrogant Army guy eight years older than her and within a month. She lost it to him. I was devastated My heart I don't wish this on anyone here in this room. My heart literally went from here to my gut right and I thought this was maybe like I don't know, you know a fluke or something right like it's not anything on me Maybe it's just Something that happened, you know with her she's just a bitch to me. How could she do that to me, right? I saw maybe it's just a fluke Well a year later I Started there's a prom going on a prom is basically a big dance that we all have in high school And America it's a big deal because this is it. This is a night where we could lose our virginity If we ever lost it yet tonight tonight and for me, this was it This was my big moment because I was the last of my friends who have lost his virginity already. I Was actually lying about it to all my friends. I was saying I lost it to Gabby because I was too ashamed of what actually happened so at prom night I find my girl I Last second I found one and I believe looking back the only reason I was able to even get that girl was because she never got to experience a prom night So the whole reason she was even there was just for the experience nothing to do with me and At prom I take I take with the after-party and I got a kiss. I'm so happy This is this is like the greatest moment ever right now tonight tonight I might my spirits are incredibly high and I'm gonna clown nine Well at the after-party I see her go outside and start smoking a cigarette have a few drinks and I see her start talking to this guy. I still remember his name. I Daniel and She's talking to him and they're flirting Now I'm thinking hell now this can't be it's not good right so I go inside cool off a bit and go back out and Then I see her giving him her number And I'm like no no no not again. This is not happening to me not tonight. This is my night So I go back out. I told my look my best friend John and I say dude go just go in there and tell her look I'm leaving now. She can come with or without me. I drove her two hours. I Did everything for this girl to try to get her to come for this night He goes in there and he comes up to me and I still remember the look He comes right up to me. He's like Dude Just go I'm like, what do you mean? Just go. I can't just go Right like I drove this girl He's like no Dude, just just leave I'm like why tell me like what why should I just leave this girl here? He's like I just watched her walk in the bathroom With Daniel following her inside and the door closes Just go and Again heart here Devastated I found out the next day that actually is a night Daniel lost his virginity Good for Daniel Not me. I just I just kept thinking, you know, what's wrong with me. It's not a fluke anymore Something is wrong here something is just utterly inherently wrong with me and I got into the deepest depression. I've ever had in my life. I look back and I don't even remember vague Memories of it. I remember falling down the floor just crying just shattered I did there was no community for me back then. I didn't know about this. I didn't have the answer All I knew was I went to go see a psychologist to help myself get over this depression and I found a specific type of psychologist I found one I can do hypnotism hypnotism and I told him I remember point blank. I looked him in the eye. I said Sir, make me forget Gabby and that happened. Make me forget. She even existed Make me forget my prom. Make me forget All these bad things that have happened to me in my life. Make me forget everything That's the extreme I was going all because I couldn't sexually escalate. I couldn't move things forward. I Could be friends some girls Maybe not even that was not really But all it came is I couldn't escalate things in a romantic level and at the time I remember I Told myself. I'm never gonna be speaking of this to anyone Never gonna tell these stories Because I was incredibly embarrassed and if things hadn't changed I wouldn't be able to stand here in front of a convention full of guys With tons of people watching at home. I'm able to share those things with you So no matter how bad you think things are I want you to remember I've been there. I know what you're going through So that brings me to my talk here on sexual escalation now when I do talk I'm gonna want to keep this interactive for everybody All right Because I've actually it's actually been proven that people don't learn just from a guy standing up here and talking to you Well, you're just listening You're not gonna learn that way. I need participation So you guys want to get ready for this? Come on. We just I just saw the energy in the room earlier. Come on. You guys ready for this? That's what up to a good participation. That's what I want from you guys now I want I'm gonna put a question your head Because this is step one of understanding how to sexually escalate correctly. What is the purpose? Why do we sexually escalate other obviously yes to get laid to have sex with the girl granted But when it comes to game it always has to be for a specific purpose of what are we trying to achieve from the girl? For the girl. What do we want to create with her? someone Comfort okay arousal Comfort we can do a lot of way and it's true though if you escalate correctly She should be comfortable and anytime you escalate you have to reserve her comfort levels always right However, the purpose of sexually escalating in and of itself is simply to get the girl aroused because if she's aroused She's going to be down It bypasses anything If she's aroused does it matter if your high value or low value if she's aroused for you does that matter? No Right Does any of the other stuff really matter if she's aroused and she wants you when it comes at least to sex relationships Something different but at least with sex does any of the other stuff out there even matter If she's aroused no All the stuff you learn beforehand all is just to get to this point of getting her aroused Now there's a big problem though. I want to go over the inner game of sexual escalation The number one thing stopping you guys from really getting good at this is sexual anxiety and it's real We all know we have a lot of people here know they have approach anxiety because it's belated in your face You see a girl you want to go and talk to her but it's holding you back. It's stopping you. You're scared You're shivering right Sexual anxiety a little bit more deceiving We could come up with new ways right a lot of people think I don't really have sexual anxiety Right, I'm fine with it. Some people know it. Some people do understand But I guarantee everyone in this room has or unless there's a speaker Has or has have one of these three inner game problems. I want to stress and I've had all three When I started I had every single one of these top three inner game problems when it came to sexually escalating I'm going to uh detail them for you and I'm going to show you the solution Inner game problem number one The fear of failure after getting attraction This was the first thing I encountered I get the girl attracted. She's you know giggling. She's laughing. She's looking at me longingly Why do I want to mess this up? Right if I escalate she could be like no, no, I'm not interested. I don't want to uh do anything like that Why would I want to mess that up? It's scary To have to have worked so hard. I had to approach. I had to transition. I had to win over the friends I had to get attraction from her. I had to get her isolated someplace. Why would I mess that up? by doing something like escalating And it is a legitimate fear Now the way to get out of this a solution is twofold one devalue the situation that's happening It's not that serious. Uh, you've all heard the expression that naturals like to use Don't put the pussy on a pedestal, right? And it's true all it comes down to is devalue the situation The key little rule here is don't value the girl more than she's valuing you Why should you keep it equal? The other thing is invest in your game not in the girl Too much of us get this blinders on where we're like, oh my god. We got this one girl attracted I can't lose it Right. I can't lose this one girl that comes from scarcity That's it. You get abundance. You have more women in your life. You start approaching more, right? You start getting these uh, this area of your life handled that goes This one girl, right? My answer to you my solution for this invest in your game make a conscious choice now Not to get blinders on with the next girl you meet invest in your game invest in yourself Invest in a skill set that it takes to get good at this Because if you don't every girl you meet will be the one girl All right, didn't work with her now the one girl Didn't work with the one girl. It's like it's not that serious. There's lots of the one girls There's an abundance of them and that's the beauty of this The only thing to worry about is the skill set Because if i'm investing in a skill set, I can't not escalate Because that's going to help my game. I need to mess up. I need to fail. I love failure I love failure because the more I fail the more I learn If you succeed on a girl and it goes really well Okay, cool. It worked. Hey Awesome, but did you learn something what not to do there? No failure is a is a guide to learning correctly Have a good relationship with it All right intergame problem number two She doesn't want sex Right, this girl is not going to want sex. Look, why would this gorgeous girl over here want a big fat? Harry slob like me flopping around on top of her. Let's be honest, right? Why would she want that? I mean this she's not like the other girls. This is a good girl Right. She's innocent. She doesn't do that those nasty sex stuff that those other girls do She's probably waiting till marriage. I don't even know anything about her. I bet she's waiting till marriage I bet she's gonna probably be a nun one day, right? Sweetest girl ever never held a guy's hand before You think like this, of course you're gonna freeze out when it comes to escalating you can't You built her up again So what's the solution? Assume sex. Let's just assume it's on If you're wrong and you fail good you now got a good relationship with failure. It doesn't matter Assume it's on if I'm alone with a girl. It's on and she's in my bedroom. It's on if she's naked in my bed You bet your ass it's on all right I just assume sex Even in the beginning i'm assuming attraction I'm doing it for a reason. Let's say i'm right awesome. I assume attraction. I'm right. She's into me. Let's say i'm wrong I'm still doing the best thing for my game. I'm still doing the best thing I can do here Because even if i'm wrong even if i'm delusional I'm still doing all the actions that are going to help me create the attraction by assuming it I'm going to be more confident. I'm going to be more comfortable. I'm going to be more at ease doing what I want to do It always helps so be delusional. It's on assume sex assume attraction. I give you permission Problem number three in her game number three All right You know i'm not afraid of failure You know i'm Going to go for it right and i'm assuming sex it's on she wants it awesome But how do I go about it just the right way? Should I put my arm around like this should I try to you know kiss her neck for no no no No, maybe I should like Cuddle up a little bit for no that that would freak her out a little bit I should just go for a caveman style, but then maybe I should You started getting all this analytical shit goes to your head I remember this I remember lying next to a girl. She's there. She's waiting for it I'm thinking all the you know, how do I go about this way? How do I do it just right? You know I have to do it just right You don't have to do it just right The solution is immersion get in the moment get out of your fucking head if there's any time To be out of your head. It's now right You've got all the rest of the time in your head get out of it Now how do we do that? How do we immerse ourselves in the moment our senses? And this was actually told to me by the psychologist who was trying to help me Get over my depression is like just get in touch with your senses stop being in your head so much And the idea is when a girl's there, uh, just look at her Look how hot she looks just lying there Listen to her breathing or listen to the things she's saying. How nice is that sound her giggle? Smell her perfume. How good is that smell? Feel her. How nice is she how soft is she? How good of touching is that? When you allow yourself to just experience what's going on through your senses It cuts out the head. That's the direct line into getting in the present moment Now who here has not been dealing with at least one of these intergame problems Exactly All right outer game When it comes to outer game you the first step obviously is to know what are the places to touch? Where is my escalation ladder so to speak so can I have a volunteer? Awesome come up. Like I said one participant. Yeah, get up All right, so this guy is going to be my da Vinci man. All I want you to do is bam All right, here's to the Vinci man, right now with a girl The erogenous zones are here and here, right? So The farther we get away from the erogenous zones the more comfortable The girl is with touch. So where's the farthest place we can possibly get here? The hands right hands and feet, but a little bit weird touching people's feet socially So the hands that's why when we introduce some someone so say hi to me Hey, what's going on? Right, we go for the shake what we don't do is. Hey, how's it going? Hey, right? It's just weird You wouldn't do that So again the Vinci man We go from hands to elbow to shoulder Now we're going back because again, we don't want to do front back back of the hand the stomach middle back lower back legs face and face and hair ass boobs vagina right Simple steps. These are the little escalation of what's the most comfortable for a girl All right, I quote you to that. Thank you Now there's two types of ways we can escalate on this girl We can do smooth Or we can get a little bit ballsy Smooth escalation is simple Keep going step by step and we're making well step by step and we're making sure we're preserving the girl's comfort levels at all time If she's not liking it, we remove If you like it it we escalate Right We're always calibrated. I'm always watching is she tense or is she down okay with it Now ballsy escalation is a little bit different in this step We're doing a little bit and then we switch it up. All right. We jump a few steps Now, why would we want to do ballsy escalation? When would it ever be useful? It's useful for well. Okay. What do you think? SNLs perfect If I want to do an SNL I need to make sure at some point I'm doing some ballsy escalation Otherwise it's taking too much time. I want to I want to screen and see how down she is for escalation I wanted to progress it So that's one case, but what if we're not doing SNLs? What would be another reason? Let's say This is the girl of my dreams Say Right I'm not going for SNL. Yeah Okay, also screening, but why would I need to get away with stuff if I'm planning on dating this girl for a while? But it is true that screening is a useful tool Make it feel comfortable. Well the ballsy escalation You're it's a helmery pass, right? Basically, it's going to go bad or it's going to go well, right? So the other reasons why you want to do this is because if she's resisting the smooth escalation if I can't reach this wall I have to bypass it It's a helmery play if that's the move I got to go with And if she accepts or she doesn't I'm going to show you a ballsy escalation later on kiss closing I'm going to show you what I mean by that On the other one is let's say he's not going anywhere Maybe I need to do something ballsy To escalate attraction because women respect that women want a little bit of ballsyness sometimes If you feel things are getting are dying down and you you need to break rapport If things are getting too comfortable too boring you need to do something to spice it up and ballsy escalation is good I remember I was one sitting out of club talking to this girl, but it was literally Like this was a girl. It was I was here and she was there Right there like I can't do anything. It's not a big distance But in a club when you're sitting down with a girl, this is the abyss of doom right here. Okay, I can't do anything So I had to go ballsy escalation in this case all I did pick her up put her on my lap It could have blown up in my face Right, thankfully it did it. She instantly turned the traction on she wasn't feeling me that much before I was trying to run all this stuff, but because of the distance it wasn't on as soon as I did that Her eyes lit up. She's like, oh my god, most guys wouldn't do something like that. I just said I'm not most guys Get big smile on her face and she was following me around the rest of the night Again one of those hair married type plays all right Now when it comes to escalating I basically looked back at every single girl that I was successful with Escalating wise and I literally broke down what I do into three key phases or three steps At least my non-verbal game or my escalating game And I realized it has a lot to do with actual psychology. So I gave it the actual psychological terms here The first step is just comfort based. I have to get the girl comfortable when I touch It's the it's fundamental for everything with escalation If she's not comfortable, you're not escalating Right, it's just not going to happen. I have to preserve her comfort levels. So the first step I do is touch everybody You heard this it's there. It's gone. I'm touching everyone. I'm getting used to the fact. I'm a touchy feely guy. That's it Um some quick ways to do that Is to show low investment in my touch now. What does that look like? I need another volunteer There up This is the key with comfort touching low investment touch if I'm touching with everybody. Hey man, how's it going? Hi, how you guys doing? Oh awesome. That's so cool, right? If I'm doing with everyone. I'm not investing in anyone. Am I Right low investment if I'm touching there and it's gone. Hey, how's it going man? Right. I anyone of these touches that I care about If I'm like, hey, how's it going? Awesome, right doing really well. Yeah, it's getting a little bit weird. Isn't it? Yeah a little tiny weird Yeah, that's because I'm investing a lot of my touch Now I could do something like this touching him and it's not getting as weird right now There's some time there, but it was okay. However, if I'm explaining touching and I'm just doing this It gets a little bit more awkward as I stare at my hand cropping this man, right? It gets a little bit more awkward My friend adam really uh emphasizes when he showed me this little move Basically, I want you to tell me as soon as you get uncomfortable me touching you Whenever you're uncomfortable, okay All right, but he got there. So I didn't even need to touch him. All right He was automatically uncomfortable. It's nothing to do with the touch. It has to do with the investment So time how quickly are you doing it? Are you drawing attention to it? Are you doing it with everyone? All right, and do it frequently. That's going to help you with comfort. All right. Thank you now Uh, this now once your girl's comfortable. We have to get her actually wanting our touch. This is a big thing At least back when I got started this they didn't really teach us They just told us girls are going to want our touch. Use it as a reward system The next step is crucial We have to classically condition the girl to want our touch To the psychological term classical conditioning has to do with associations Uh, how many people are familiar with nlp here nlp terms? Then you know a lot about anchoring. Yeah All right anchoring is the same thing as classical conditioning essentially Uh, what I do is I'm going to boost her up with good emotions So can I actually climb my girl up here quick? Real quick Yeah, I should run. Sorry So All right, hand applause for yeah All right So, uh, well, I'll do is I'll start gaming the girl. I'll be talking to her and then I'll get her to laugh Hi, it's right one more time. So I'm talking to the girl and then I get her to laugh And I'm like, I know how funny is that right and then I start escalating And then I'll see something really interesting and I'll get her go. Wow. Oh, how cool is that right? It's so amazing And then I start escalating on her Right when I see key positive emotions, uh, coming with her That's when I want to start escalating because she's going to associate those good emotions with my touch Eventually what I look for is every time I touch her I get a smile Bam Now I know she's conditioned right. All right. Thank you All right Now Once uh, she's classic conditioned. I go into the third and final phase here That one is opera conditioning opera conditioning is simply rewarding and punishing. That's it rewarding and punishing So she's comfortable my touch She likes it now. It's something she actually wants Now I'm going to make her work for it because the more investment I get the more attracted the girl will become to me The more she works for something any guys do the more people work for something the more they want it It's a simple fact So I get her investing every time she does stuff. I like she works for it. She invests. I'm going to reward I'm going to amp up the escalation when she doesn't do something. I like I start removing it Now here's where a lot of community guys fall into a trap Our goal is not to punish the girl that we don't want this Most of you or most guys I've seen will punish the girl and they'll be like now I'm a badass Make you come back. Come on girl. Right. That's not what it's about I want to be rewarding because I want to keep it going forward. I want to go happy. I want to keep it progressing So if I do punish, I'm going to give her a smaller thing to do a smaller hoop or something that I can then reward her on Right. That's the point. We learn through reinforcement. We don't learn through punishment Which are at a very superficial level More way more through reinforcement. All right. So those are key three phases get her comfortable Classical conditioner make her associate good emotions with our touch Use that a touch as a reward system to get her to work for more and we keep rewarding and it's hard It's hard and and it's an intergame issue Why it's hard because when you got a girl that likes your touch every time you touch her She smiles and sticks your chest out a little bit more, right To not just be like a caveman and go. Yeah, she likes my touch. Oh, come here yet, right? And I've seen it. I've seen guys fall for this trap They'll just start escalating like a man man because you're like she likes it now. This is great And then what happens? He's touching her a lot. She likes it. He's making out with her. She likes it. She starts grabbing her ass. Okay And now she's a selector She stripped you completely She's the one putting brakes to it now. She's the one using her Sexuality as a reward or not not you now. You're just please. Let me get something. Please give me more Please give me more. Please give me more all the work ruined All right, so I showed you three phases phases of Uh, physically escalating but you can escalate verbally funny enough How is that possible? How can we verbally sexually escalate? Well, let's go back. What's the purpose of sexual escalation? What's the purpose of sexual escalation? Arousal do I actually need to touch her to achieve this purpose? No, I can use my words. I can verbally escalate. So how do we do this? One way is stories Talk about sexual stories get a topic going on get in her head Mindsets, how do I view sex? Funny things are insights of sex Her views on sex I guarantee to be a much more interesting conversation than yes, please tell me what it's like teaching awesome Oh, johnny was a bad kid in your class. That's horrible. Wow Much more interesting topics, right? So get the mindsets going qualifiers Qualifier and sex Okay, Rick challenges ask your questions that lead to more sexual context. What's the craziest thing she's ever done, right? What was your first sexual experience like? If that's too much you can go to something even simpler. When was your first kiss? What was it like just get her thinking and sexual terms and getting her to open up about it Uh, something recently I've tremendously added to my game Uh, within the last six months or so is uh, so eyes I should do the much later on I'm doing them a lot quicker now SOI statements of intent Something like wow, I'm thinking really inappropriate thoughts about you. This is not good Or oh my god, you have no idea what I want to do to you right now. This is bad I'm totally gonna be kissing you later. It's it's happening. I've gone kissing you, right? I'll start these statements of intent now. What happens if she doesn't accept it? What if she's like, oh, okay, you wish or no, it's not gonna happen or whatever it is Um, well if you use something I stole from our buddy sin, I'll just say we'll see Right, we'll see. I'm very charming Or uh, we'll see the night's still young Totally just devalidated So I'm going to throw in those. Oh SOIs to sexually charge it. She knows what I'm about. I'm not hiding anything Uh, and finally dirty talk One of the most powerful ways to turn a girl get a girl around dirty time if you do it properly Uh, a lot if you're like me back to that, you know, you used to experience a lot of lmr Who here has or currently experiencing lmr? Right, I know I did but I was trying to get into this lmr all the time Well, the way lmr works is you try to escalate on the girl and she pushes it away Right, it doesn't happen. She tried to escalate again. No Transcolate again. No Not happening can't touch this Well, how would you guys like to know a way you can sexually escalate that she can't stop? She can't turn it down, right dirty talk She can't stop that she can't shut me up Unless she like verbally takes a pillow and like goes no stop talking dirty talk to me No, right. She can't stop it. I might not be able to start doing all the things I want to do But I can talk about them. I can paint a picture. I can get her thinking about it visualizing it experiencing it emotionally And a more dirty talk. I'm I just keep going and going and going until I hear those five magic words Do you guys want to know what those words are? what But not sure Do you have a condom? All right, five magic words. I will dirty talk till I hear those five words done lmr all right all right Now let's get into some fun little tactics you guys can use when you go out tonight whenever you're out there Uh, how to sexually escalate properly some fun little moves that you guys can get to see what it's about Can't have the lovely assistant up again Yeah, you are the other cute girl all right Stand over here real quick. All right Now the first thing is sexual eye contact the biggest thing you want to create with a girl is sexual tension That's number one The more sexual tension you create the more routes he's going to get So we can use our eyes for this now. I could so I just wanted you to tell me how you feel, okay? All right, so I could look at her normally Right, and I want you to tell me if you notice any difference when I start talking. Okay, so normally Right All right, see how you got a little giggle. All right I'm going to hold my hand up, right? I want you to tell me or just mention as soon as you feel a little bit of difference All right, all right It just transfers now I don't know how I can break this down or like maybe it's my newt eye muscles going on But I can explain what it feels like how I go about this a sex to write sexual eye contact I'm not thinking any sexual thoughts. I'm feeling sexual emotion I'm really feeling the that motion you get when you look at a girl like I want that Right just I want that If you do with a guy it should feel uncomfortable So try it real quick right now just look at the guy next to you and try and it'll work if you get them to feel uncomfortable. Try it See if you can do it Literally look in your eyes and be like I want that All right Come on You guys getting what's a little bit about I'll give you a hint. All right. I'll give you a little bit of a hint when you When you're looking someone's eyes quickly just normally just normally look in your partner's eyes real quick Real quick. What eye did you look at? Which one of their eyes? All right, your left right you look at the left Their right left, right? I look at that eye the intimate ones over here on your right When you go like that this side of this eye much more intimate So I want to get sexual escalate I change it up. I look at her. I look at the right eye or her left, right Uh, so this is normal. I'll switch you here and get a little bit more intimate And maybe my eyes narrow a little bit. Maybe a little bit of a cocky smile there Whatever it is now we can even amp this up more. We got the sexual eye contact down. Let's get more sexual tension The first way we can do is changing the she's like Get ready for it She's like, okay Get ready All right, so we get the eye sexual eye contact down Now the next thing to do is change the voice to naughty. We start slowing it down We make everything smoother change our voice. Basically, we're doing bedroom talk All right, so once the sexual eye contacts down she make me laugh a little bit. All right Once the sexual eye contacts down our voice changes it gets more deeper slower than the space You come in now notice the distance from here any guy this creates massive awkward tension If it feels awkward with a guy it's sexual with a girl if she's attracted And she's not attracted it gets a recoil emotion like whoa not ready for it Why could she not even so much of an attraction thing? It's because she's not comfortable If you get that all for example if I come in and I try getting section she gets freaked out or tense You just back off Preserve comfort love just back up And then start trying again all time preserving comfort levels But those three things massive sexual tension the eye contact watching my voice change and getting slower building uh Bridging the gap between us. All right Uh, usually this takes place when you're isolated with a girl All right next thing uh clubs I'm not hugely like clubs or anything But in miami that's pretty much the entire scene everything's a club type scene So I got really good at it And what I've used I found a way to make turn lemons into lemonade because the club scene is tough But there's ways to uh that it helps you for example. Who likes loud music in a club? You like the loud music, right? Most people actually don't funny enough because they can't talk that much right it talks loud music I can't talk I use it to my advantage So I want you to come up like you're talking to me. All right Now notice where she stopped I didn't I didn't tell her to stop here perfectly arms distance This is the perfect place of personal space. There is a bubble right here. It's unspoken, but she just knows Arms distance. This is the perfect place to stop in a club. You can't we would not be able to talk to each other In a club. I have an advantage. I can breach personal space very quickly So let me go on this side actually in a club when we come up talk to her We could say hey my huh. What I come in and I talked like this I'm merely going to that moment. I'm not doing this. Most guys are scared as hell. They'll just go, huh? What? What right instead of pecking I can say stand up straight and go me like this Hey, right now it gives me an excuse to get personal space and notice where my hand goes immediately And I'll go right here because there's two pressure points on a girl that help cause arousal Is one right here where I squeeze that and there's one on the bottom of the foot So if I give her a foot massage back at home, you usually get this reaction, right So is that in here? So that helps me the side squeeze go in and squeeze your side talk to her I get a breach personal space very quickly The next thing if I'm already kissing a girl and I want to amp it up even further I can put her in a submissive frame Now I'm not trapping her in this. I'm just putting her I'm guiding her in a submissive frame She's still it's still completely her choice and she feels comfortable to leave at any moment So what do I do? Uh submissive frame for the guy for a girl is hands above head when a girl's hands are above her head She's automatically in a submissive frame So what I might do is if I'm talking to the girl and I'm already escalating I push her against the wall and then I would guide Her arms up like that and then kiss Now if she's not now notice what I'm not doing is this I'm not holding it, right? I'll guide the arms up while kissing and put the hands above the head now if she wants to get off So I'm just trying to get away. Okay, right totally easy. I'm not holding the hands. I'm just like this Right, so move out Easy I'm not holding it. There's nothing forced about this. I'm just simply guiding up Usually you want to do that after you've already kissed her Or like right before you want to get a little bit bossy with it, right? Because it just puts them more into that submissive frame. It's a primal reaction to it I'm not there's nothing about like misogynistic. It's just sexually men should be the dominant ones women should be submissive in a sexual sense Uh, the other one the back is they're coming in back scratch Uh, this one has to be behind but if I'm talking to a girl that you're facing me So I'm talking to so I'm talking to a girl and whatever I can make my nose across her back To amp it up a bit. I'm not like massively scratching her just a bit of a scratch, right? Fuji had another little nice one where like if they get things going a little bit He can ask a girl to give him a scratch here, you know, she scratches your back or something just to get her escalating on you a bit Uh, personally, I like to just again it's kind of a screener also I want to see how down she is while we're talking or something I'm rubbing. I'm playing with the back the little finger stuff here And then out of nowhere. I just rake and I can see where her reaction is They get a smile like ooh Or is it like whoa tense again tense back up preserve comfort levels All right Another one day two. This is what I use on pretty much every day two I have Uh, so let's say we're here and we're walking along we're arm in arm. We're walking along I would say I go wow, you have an amazing ass Look at look at her hair, right? And then she gets embarrassed and then she turns like hiding the ass and I go even better Oh my god, right now. She's you don't want to do Poses. What's that? I don't know what to do at this point. Just hug and go now. It's okay, you know That's it We're walking along go. Oh my god. What amazing ass stop. No even better All right every time We're not talking about every day two another one. I do on every day two is to be walking off This is kind of me But I just do this for more for fun. We're walking along and let's say I want to like spice it up We're getting too boring Dady frame because a lot of first dates give kind of boring I'll see something like a little bush would be like, oh, yeah, be my friend bush And then really bring her back and like just like I'm joking with her, right Usually they'll punch me in the arm or they tease me. I'll tease them back I don't do that everyone. That's more for amusement Hair grab most girls most guys have learned to pull a girl's hair I've seen them do horrible things with this move horrible things I've seen girls the guys just like put hey, right and her girls like what the fuck I've I've really saw a student I kid you not. I've really saw a student pull a girl's hair. She was what the fuck was that? She freaked out All right, so I'm removing this from the whole community doctrine a whole idea of hair pull It is now officially called hair grab Okay, it is a different. I'm not pulling shit. All right All right, put my hands up here and I grab I'm sorry. Yeah, it's a nice little happy face. That's what I want. I want to Up there grab right think about you it's same same feeling if someone put their hand in your head and grabbed your hair Pull pulled your hair down be like what the fuck Right. Well, I think this guy's like I can't experience that but all right ball guys aside Ball men inside Uh, when most people pull their hair and just squeeze it or hair squeeze hair grab Uh, the last one that this is I warn you now This is advanced technique not for the faint of heart if you have any kind of pregnancy issues or heart conditions do not do this I call this the because you're wet routine. There's something I should develop for my ex-girlfriend Uh, all right, so this is basically after you Kissed a girl you've made out with her whatever and you want to see if she's ready to come home with you that night At this point I look at a girl and I say I can totally tell you want me right now And usually to get this cocky look like how can you tell or like why is that? I'll take my hand and I'll put it out. I'll just slide a finger right between her legs And I go because you're wet I see Now I see Of course not a respectable girls like this, but no, of course not But I watch the reactions right and usually the jaws is dropped He just don't even know what to do the jaw just drops and then escalation becomes a joke uh from that it's it's Normal to pull within the next five ten minutes if she's if she's receptive and she's there talking to you right after that You're good to go um, the funniest reaction I've had for that and they did that to a girl and she's like please you can't tell I'm wearing jeans So I'm like I'm like granted. I'll check again right So you can just start playing with it a little bit All right, all right now for the kiss closing, right? I talked to you about a little bit of sexual tension Actually, I have a guy come up here also with the girl There you go. Thank you round of applause Very thank you. All right Now, how do you know when it's okay to kiss a girl? I have the distance test for the distance test I basically go what distance do I have to be where it'd be gay talking to a guy? So right now is this comfortable talking to you? All right about here not bad not bad. It's a bit of a vaser, right? At this usually it's about three hand uh hand spaces is awkward distance for a guy if it's gay like this Yeah, it's just awkward So if I can get a girl about this distance and I can talk to her and she's comfortable and she's smiling And it's I feel that it's on if I can wait 10 seconds Without dynamic going It's on I'll go for the kiss There's no gambit. There's no routine. There's no a little trickery. I'm just seeing I'm I'm basically watching her comfort levels Her attraction levels. How well is it on? Uh now what is okay. Thank you sit down. Thank you. Yeah now. Yeah, you're still up Uh, I promise you a ballsy escalation thing if the girl uh for a kiss, right? So I'm gonna go for a kiss and I want you to act like you're not really attracted me and just reject me Okay. All right. I noticed. Yeah, so I'm gonna go over the kiss. You're gonna reject me by turning your head that way So I go for the kiss boom, right? Now. I don't get her lips. I can't kiss her like this But she also gives me her neck Right, I can work with that If I go for the kiss I get rejection. I can start kissing her neck again. It's a ballsy escalation move I just bypass it. Just go on the next steps Uh from there I can escalate even more so Uh now what about the dance floor? Because it's a different dynamic here and the dance floor we're already like really close with each other, right? I can't do the distance test because it's not it's already socially appropriate to be that close In this case, I need a new indicator. I need a new way of seeing, you know, is it down or is it not? And for this I use the forehead to forehead If she's willing to dance to me by pushing her forehead of my forehand, we can dance like that. She's ready to be kissed I ask the compliance I'm looking for if it's forehead to forehead. She's ready to be kissed All right, you can sit down. Thank you hand applause So I basically broke down the inner game Uh going with you guys I showed you the outer games step by step of what to do I gave you some fun useful tactics you can use tonight Is that helpful to anyone? Yep, is that helpful? All right, now I have a really exciting announcement. I want to make with you guys All right announcement. 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