 When we don't give our power away, we don't make the other person responsible for the relationship trajectory. When two emotionally healthy people come together, when two, we'll call them quality people come together and we said quality is retaining one's power and having mutual respect for one another. These couples co-create a relationship. Yet sadly, I've witnessed so many women who give their power to a man. In other words, it's all predicated on whether or not he loves her and he's directing the relationship.