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This is why the narcissist doesn't talk to you anymore That's what we're gonna be talking about in this video Because I know it can be very confusing You were talking with an arsicist for all of this time You felt like you had something with them This relationship this connection and then it's like all of a sudden out of the blue Suddenly the narcissist is nowhere to be found You're not hearing from them anymore They're not responding to your texts They're not blowing up your phone like they used to They're not Constantly asking you where you are who you're with what you're doing They're not doing any of that anymore And of course it can be a very confusing and difficult situation for you Because it's like at one point you had this person there they remained a presence in your life and now You are faced with their absence and you don't know the reasons why You don't understand what is really going on And of course that is why I'm cured to share some light on what you may be dealing with and I can tell you But there are actually only two types of people who narcissists prefer to associate with The first type of course are other fake people just like them people who are authentic manipulative deceptive and they choose to team up with these types of people and born over a target's destruction Marking them ridiculing them humiliating them That's what they prefer to do and they feel quite comfortable around people who are just like them And another type of person that they prefer to associate with Is someone who is susceptible to them at ablation And of course at one point that was you At one point you were susceptible To What they were putting out What they were trying to get you to believe At one point you were susceptible to that But you're not susceptible to it anymore Now it doesn't affect you Now it no longer phases you Now you see right through them Now they can't pull the ball over your eyes And I can tell you that nine times I attend this is the reason Why you don't hear from the narcissist anymore Yes, this is why they're no longer talking to you But a lot of times they won't want you to know But as soon as you start to figure them out you start to realize what's going on and what they've been doing to you Usually they will immediately sense that and they will Begin to plot and scheme In taking you down or they will just leave you all together And you won't hear from them again and the reason why It's because you're no longer susceptible You're no longer Validating their false character And of course that's all they really care about that's all they really look in fall They want someone who Is going to believe the lies that they tell them They want someone who is going to tolerate what they're doing Someone who will enable their behavior to continue What they don't want is someone who's going to continuously confront them Someone who's going to hold them accountable Someone who's not Gonna fall for it anymore What kind of a narcissist wants that? They don't want to deal with that Narcissists want it easy A lot of times they targeted you because they saw you as an easy target You were innocent You were naive And I know some of you may not like to admit it But just look back There was a time when you believed Everything that they said Everything that they told you You trusted them You confided in them Because you genuinely believed that They were someone who you could trust You believe that they was someone Who had your best interest in mind? And that is why you opened up to them That is why You shared your secrets and personal information That is why you did that and of course That our success was very accommodating of that They welcomed it into their lives Because that was exactly what they wanted Someone who would just blindly accept them because that's what they're looking for That unconditional love Where someone will just take them as they are Without trying to change them And just letting them be who they are and do whatever they want whenever they want to do it And yes, there was a time when that was you And when that was you There was no problem There weren't any fights, there weren't any arguments There weren't any problems The problems begin When you begin to see through them When you start to disapprove of what they're doing When you make it known to them that you don't like it That you think that they should treat you better Well, sometimes it's not just you, it could be that you're out at a restaurant And you don't like the way that they talk to the waiter And you tell them that You say that they should be more polite and respectful And you can see it in their eyes, it causes a narcissistic injury And then from that point on they become passive-aggressive They begin to treat you differently Because they don't want to be told what to do They don't want you Dictating their actions and behaviors And although that's not really what you were doing That is how they see it I mean, all you were trying to do is Just trying to improve the relationship You wanted things to be better between you and them And you wanted them to be kinder Or polite, more respectful And it's not really that you're controlling them There's really nothing wrong with that And that is what we should expect from anyone In a civilized society But of course they could never give you that They were always acting out, they were always causing drama and chaos They were always causing disruption And of course there was only so long that you could put up with that without saying a word At some point you had to say something about it At some point you had to try to correct them Because it was just going to get worse But they don't like it when you do that They don't want to be told what to do Even if you do have their best interest in mind They're not going to see it that way They're not going to look at it like that They just want to do whatever they want to do They want to behave how they want to behave Without having to consider how it affects other people They don't want to have to care about that They only care about themselves They never cared about you They never cared about anyone else They may have made you believe that they did And I know in my own experiences Because it's almost like in the beginning the narcissist could see What type of person I was And just looking back at what I've experienced with narcissistic people I remember one girl I met very early on in our relationship She would tell me about how She would always give money to the homeless When she would see them on the streets And it just seemed so obvious to me even at that time That she was just reflecting my own qualities and virtues back to me And then I remember another girl I met This was on our first date A blind man walked into the restaurant And this was so obvious the way that she did it She was looking at me And then she looked at the blind man Who came into the restaurant with the glasses and the stick And then she just made the sad look The sad expression on her face And then she looked at me And then she looked back at the blind man again And then she looked back at me again And it was just so obvious that this was fake And it makes me wonder sometimes if maybe they do recognise That we are empathic That we are kind, compassionate people And that is how they're able to reflect These virtues back to us When they first meet us Or maybe they do think that we are liars We are a little bit later And yet we believe that we are empathic And we recognise that about ourselves So maybe that's why they reflect this back to us Who knows? I mean I'm sure it's not a one size fits all It could be different with different narcissists But this is why they don't talk to you anymore They don't talk to you anymore because you don't see them in the way that they would like to be seen But there was a time when you used to And that is when they would talk to you They were there But now the narcissist looks at it like What is the point in talking to you? What's the point in having any conversation at all? What's the point in calling you on the phone? Texting you? What's the point in doing any of that because you're not going to see me how I want to be seen You're not going to validate the false character You're not going to make them feel good about themselves As though they're perfect, as though they've never done anything wrong As though they never hurt you, they never did all of those things to you So they look at it like, what is the point? But of course some narcissists, like the malignant narcissists They will still talk to you and remain in the relationship Because they may use it to hold power over you The things that they've done, even when you're aware of it Maybe there's not really much that you can do about it So they may just use it to trigger you and make you feel bad about yourself Even though there's really no reason for you to feel bad I mean you may feel guilty for being with them But even then that's really just shame on them Not you But of course as we know they disown these parts of themselves that they don't like And assign them to their victims Because they don't want to have to deal with that themselves But yet this is just how it is This is why the narcissists doesn't talk to you anymore Because you're not validating the illusion You're not seeing them how they want to be seen If you were then they would have kept you around I mean why would they stop talking to you if you were doing that? You would have been an excellent source of supply But you cut off the supply By no longer validating their false self By confronting them and maybe even threatening to expose them They do not want to feel invalidated They don't want to feel constantly pressured to act right and treat you right And they don't want to be around someone who they feel has the power or ability to expose them They don't want to be around someone like that So of course they're going to avoid you They're not going to remain around you They're going to cut you off They're going to cut communication with you And also what they might do I mean what you have to understand as well Is that just because they're not talking to you anymore That doesn't mean that they're not lurking in the shadows That they're not operating from behind the scenes Because in a lot of situations they will be doing that They will be spying on you They will be stalking you covertly And you may not even know about it They may have put tracking devices on your car There may be spyware on your phone or computer And there may even be cameras in your home I don't know this might sound quite scary But it's something you need to be aware of Because these are typical things that narcissists will often do And it's more common than people think Just do some research on Google or YouTube And you will see how often this happens Because they don't like losing control They want to remain a constant influence in your life But at the same time they don't want to get too close to you If you're no longer validating them Or you're threatening to expose them So they will prefer to watch you from afar They'll monitor you They will Get other people to spy on you And they may even be plotting and scheming behind the scenes To sabotage your progress in moving on And it may seem like they don't even care Like they've just forgotten about you They don't really care what you're doing But even though it may seem that way And they may be acting indifferent towards you They may still be watching you from behind the scenes And plotting to destroy you You have to remember that narcissists are very envious and jealous They hold grudges, they're very resentful They can't let things go So it may seem that they have disappeared for a few months Maybe even more than one year And then before you know it Here they pop up again The narcissist is back in your life And they could be taking you to court They could be bringing all of these problems into your life And it may catch you off guard It may come unexpected Because it's like for all of this time They weren't even talking to you You didn't even know where they went You didn't care from them for all of this time You see because a lot of times Narcissists can hold on to their targets for life You are the external regulator They're very insecure But when they feel like they have control over you They feel like they have control over themselves So they may still be watching you for a very long time Still checking in on you Still observing your life To see if you're healing And especially to see if you're still suffering Because that's really the ideal situation when they do come back After they've not talked to you for a very long time When they come back They're hoping to still see you in pain They're hoping that you haven't moved on From what you went through with them That's really what they're hoping to see They don't want to see that Things have gotten better for you They don't want to see you being happy without them When they come back When they're checking in on you again They're hoping to see negative things They're hoping to see that You haven't moved on Things have gotten worse for you That's really what they're hoping to see The problem is that Even though you may want to prove them wrong And not give them the satisfaction Even if they do see that you've moved on And you're happy When they come back They're only going to try to sabotage it They're not going to respect it They're not going to be happy that you've moved on Remember narcissists are very envious and jealous They do not want to see that They do not want to see things getting better for you They hoped that you would get worse That your life would fall apart That you would be miserable That you can't move on because you're constantly ruminating You're constantly thinking about them and what they did to you That's what they hoped for That's their ideal situation for you And they hoped that your life just Deteriorates And continues to get progressively worse for the rest of your life They don't ever want to see it getting better If it does get better then They're just going to find pleasure and satisfaction In bringing you back down again That's just how it goes with a disorder Because they are very envious and jealous They may have said that all of these things are wrong with you But they never actually wanted you to fix those things And make it better They never actually wanted you to do that They have a lot of internal chaos Which they project onto the outside world Particularly in their targets So that they can feel stable and secure within The problem is that if you become stable and secure They're going to feel out of control So then they've got to try to regain that control Through you By tearing you back down again 238 live viewers If you're finding this video helpful Please hit that thumbs up button down below I'm seeing only 37 thumbs Thank you But yeah A large part of this message is to inform you That just because they're not talking to you That doesn't mean that it's all over That doesn't mean that they've just forgotten about you And they've moved on As I've said before, they never move on They only pretend to move on Narcissists base their entire identity around their targets So how are they meant to move on? I mean some of them might move on if they do find another empath If they find someone who is similar to you But then we have to remember that that is very rare I mean what are the odds that they're going to find another empath? That's highly unlikely Statistics show that only 1-2% of the world's population are empaths So the odds of them finding another empath are very slim It's very unlikely that they're going to ever find that again So of course they're going to keep watching you Of course they're going to be monitoring you They may be stalking and harassing you They may put tracker devices on your car They may put spyware on your computers and your phone They may put cameras in your home in your car They may start smear campaigns And have flying monkeys watching you wherever you go Because that's how rare you are It's very difficult for them to find someone else like you To them this is like a dream come true To find an empath To find someone who is more likely to doubt themselves Over what is being said or displayed to them Because most people aren't going to do that So that's why they will maintain a constant presence in your life And they may never go away Even though right now it may seem like they're not talking to you anymore I mean as I said earlier they want to be around people who are susceptible to their manipulation But even if that's no longer you Then they're just going to see you as their enemy, their opponent They're going to turn against you And they're going to be spying on you Plotting to tear you down Because that's typically just what happens When the empath starts to see through them When you're no longer validating the illusion That's typically just, sorry just switched the camera there by accident That's typically just how it goes That's just how it is with these narcs They are predators Narcs are like sharks The only difference is they're not as big, they're not as strong They really have no strength at all, they just rely on their manipulation Whether they're manipulating you or they're flying monkeys To get them to do their dirty work So I would say to be very careful Even if they're not talking to you anymore They can be unpredictable They may come back when you least expect it And you just never know what they're going to do They'll always have some trick up their sleeves Something you just didn't even see coming So be very cautious Anyway I'd like to hear from you in the live chat Let me know if you have any thoughts or any questions about what I've said I will read them out and then I will respond to it DruidVW says they are the undead True, they are like zombies I don't know if any of you have seen the TV series The Walking Dead I used to watch that a lot It's a really good series And the undead really do remind me of Narcissus Keanu Golden says they act like babies That's what's funny Catherine Corbin says he's trying to destroy our kids As a way to hurt me I think he's a demon Sadly, that is what a lot of Narcissus will do They will try to get to you through the kids If they know that you care about them And you love them I mean even just The kids being around a Narcissus That's going to cause them a lot of damage psychologically To where they may develop personality disorders Or mental illnesses of their own Because Narcissus will use their kids as a source of supply So they will be constantly drilling all of this garbage into their heads These false narratives They will be alienating the other parent Saying all of these things about them Portraying them in a bad light Because that's how Narcissus regulate Through putting people down, talking about them And they will use the child as a source of supply Michelle Wallace says can you talk more on them Feeding off of a person's energy About the Narcissus cannot handle order in their lives How they have to cause chaos in others to feel their own lives in order Sure I can talk more about that As you said they do feed off other people's energy In fact How I originally Discovered about this disorder And narcissistic abuse Is from searching energy vampires on YouTube When I did that I then found one of Sam Vakinen's videos Which then exposed this disorder to me And then I realised what exactly I've been dealing with So yes, Narcissus are energy vampires They leech off your energy They have very little energy of their own They're negative They operate primarily on negative frequencies Emotional vibrations on the lower scale such as Pride, desire, fear, guilt, shame And of course with these emotions that leads to actions and behaviours Where all they're really doing is trying to take away from you And they want to project their condition onto you By discerning parts of themselves that they don't like And assigning them to you So that they can see themselves in a different light And feel better about themselves By doing that they automatically Operating from a false reality with a false character Because that's not how things actually go in reality As I've said before they hate reality, they hate the truth They'd rather just remain asleep for the rest of their lives It's much easier for them But of course for them to do that they need a source of supply They need someone to validate the false self And to do that that requires your energy They use your energy to validate it But you're constantly giving this energy to avoid Because it's a false character It can't generate its own power or energy from within They have no inner sense of value because it isn't even real So because of that they have to get it from you And that is why you mentioned You can feel them feeding off your energy So that's my description of how they feed off a person's energy I hope that was helpful Michelle Isabel Caputo says one knock I know Try to put spyware on my phone, it didn't work Yeah as I said I saw from what they will do They're very creepy And they have this rapist mentality They'll do things to you that you don't want to be done to you They will try to control you And there will be no boundaries when you are dealing with a narcissist That's typically how you know exactly what you're dealing with Because a normal person knows where they end and you begin With narcissists they prefer enmeshment And with their spyware Their tracking devices, their cameras All of this technology that they abuse Through the use of these devices They can then garner their supply Because remember they get supply through your reactions Through your facial expressions, body language and tone of voice And even just looking in your eyes, your eye movements Or if your facial muscles are tense If you're walking on eggshells So of course they always want to be monitoring you Seeing what you're doing in any given moment See how you're reacting, see how you're feeling Because all of this is giving them energy It's giving them supply And they are hooked on you like a drug They can't get enough of it, they never satisfied So of course they want to have As many, they want to open up as many avenues as they can Of gaining access to your life To your mind, your thoughts, your feelings So that they can get as much supply as they can Because you're like this energy bank And they're constantly making withdrawals I can see there are a lot of questions and comments in the live chat But unfortunately today I am quite short on time I do have a pre-recorded video to make And I've got some other work to do as well So although I would like to stone you along Unfortunately I do have to go But I hope that this video has been beneficial to you I hope that you have enjoyed spending this time with me Hearing this message And if you did You can give it a thumbs up down below To help get this message out there Let me know Your thoughts and any questions that you have In the comment section And if you would like to show your support to the channel You can donate by leaving a super chat in the live chat A super thanks in the comment section Or by going to my PayPal Which is PayPal.me.com Also hit that subscribe button And click all notifications So that you will be notified when I upload a video in the future If you need more support I am available for one-on-one 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