 Hey everyone welcome to the VIP Q&A. I hope you all enjoyed the live celebration earlier. Something different for a change and as I mentioned at the end of the live I said I was going to be doing a Q&A later so here we are. So please let me know what are your questions. What would you like to know? Multi Powers asks, how old are you? I'm 32. Sandra asks, do you feel better today than even a year ago? Definitely. Without a doubt I feel so much better now and as time goes by I continue to feel even better. I feel more aware of myself and other people. I just feel really good you know and I feel like the older I get the better I'm going to feel. Cupcake Explosion asks, does your family support what you do? Yes and no. I think they did mention that they do watch my videos and stuff but they also don't fully approve of it. You know this is a thing when you get on here and you start talking about the narcissist in your life they're not going to take it seriously. They're not just going to come out and say yes I'm the narcissist. No they're not going to do that. If anything they're going to point the finger at you and say that you're just making it all up. You're crazy. You're delusional. You're just imagining it. It's all in your head. That's what they're going to try and make you and everyone else think. Occult Candy Stardaga asks, why do narcissists think their fantasies are real? They have to think their fantasies are real. It's essential for their emotional survival. If they didn't think their fantasies were real then they would be in reality and reality is something a narcissist cannot deal with for long periods of time. Daniel Vibes asks, what time did you notice that the narc was bad for you? I knew the narc's were bad for me when they started devaluing me. When they started putting me down and manipulating me, gaslighting me. That's when I knew that something was wrong. I don't know how to say a name but the question is, what have been your most common workplace morbing techniques? I find that in the workplace, narcissists will often group together and they'll display some kind of superiority over you. So they think they're better than you and they look down on you but it's really just because they feel threatened by you. Callum says, my ex-girlfriend abused me and she was a narcissist. How can I let go of the pain she caused me? Will she ever pay for hurting me? To let go of the pain, you do need to process it but then you also need to take time to yourself and to focus on things that you like doing. There has to be a balance between both of those things and of course you need to work on healing as well. I do have a playlist of videos that will help you with healing but of course I also recommend that you speak to a professional in trauma recovery and as many of you may know I work with BetterHelp and I have my link as well as I am partnered with them. It's betterhelp.com slash NARC Survivor and it's definitely a service I trust and have used myself in the past. I believe it's very effective so you know if you want to let go of the pain from dealing with a narcissist and healing then definitely check out BetterHelp. There's lots of good doctors and qualified therapists on there to choose from. Will she ever pay for hurting you though, Callum? I definitely believe that they all pay for it whether it's karma or the law of cause and effect. I believe it all gets them in the end but if you look at them they're paying for it right now. The fact that they would even try to hurt you means that they must be suffering. They're miserable people. They've been getting their karma since before they even got involved with us. They're living in hell and that's why whenever you're around them you feel like you are too. Kenny asks where do you live? I'm currently living in the United Kingdom. Vintage Rose asks how long were you with the narcissist? Someone with for around a year. Others I was with for up to four years. So I understand all of the different lengths that one might deal with when they are with a narcissist. Angie Green asks did you ever want to destroy the narc? Of course. I've been there. I wasn't always like this. So forgiving and compassionate. There was a stage where I was angry and I've analyzed what happens you know after we leave the narcissist we go through all sorts of stages. We might feel anger, denial, guilt, depression. There are specific stages that we will go through and in my coaching that's what we will work through. For those of you who would like to work with me on healing, I will take you for the stages. Something we do gradually until you get to the final stage that I have outlined where you go from just being a victim or a survivor to being someone who thrives. Livo asks do you think there's a difference between an unhappy and secure people who hurt others since they've been hurt and narcissists? Yes, definitely. People who are just unhappy and insecure and maybe they're just victims. They might be angry in the beginning. I mean, as I said, I was angry in the beginning. But I'm not so angry now. I'm not going out looking for revenge years later. Because if I was doing that, that would mean there's a serious problem. That would mean that I must be suffering from some kind of mental illness. So I think that is one of the main differences really. You see, all the person is going to know when to let it go. They're going to have a cut off point for the abuse. But with these narcissists, there is no limit. It's never enough. You become like they're life support. The emotional punching bag. The emotional tampon. Whatever you want to call it, they can't let you go because they need you to survive. That's the difference. Norma asks, can a narcissistic person ever care or love a person for real? In my opinion, no, definitely not. The shame based individuals doing everything they can to avoid reflecting on their shame. And shame is the lowest emotional vibrational frequency. Love is one of the highest. And it's a level that they will likely never achieve. Because to experience love, you must first recognise and accept your shame. You must be able to look at the things that you've done in your life and say, yes, I did that. And I feel bad for doing that. Only then could you let it go and then go up the vibrations. The accountability is very important. I don't think there's any love without accountability. Just looking for the comments here. Princess High Frequency asks, did you ever involve law enforcement? And what were the results? No, I never really did that. It's up to you really if you want to try that. But the truth is law enforcement isn't really going to understand anything about narcissists. They're not trained to recognise these kinds of things. And in fact, many people in positions of power are narcissists themselves. Kenny asks, where did you first hear the term narcissist from? It was just over three years ago when I stumbled on one of Sam Vaknin's videos. And that was when everything suddenly made sense. That was when I first heard the word narcissist. Vintage Rose asks, does the narcissist know they are a narcissist? That really depends on what level of a narcissist they are. The lower levels don't really know. But then the mid to the higher levels are aware of what they are. They might not know that they're a narcissist. Maybe they've never heard that word before. But they do know that there's something wrong with them. They do know that what they're doing is wrong. And they understand the effects that they are having on you. They just don't care. Multipowers asks, do you still watch Sam Vaknin? Yes, I'm still subscribed to him. I still watch some of his videos. I'm always interested in learning more. Every day I spend at least one hour researching about narcissism. It's a very complex topic, you know, you can never really know everything about it. There's always more to learn. Chris on Knox evil or mentally ill. The DSM five states that they are mentally ill. Doesn't say that they're evil, of course, but by the definite definition of evil, it seems pretty accurate to a narcissist. Planet Pat asks, so you are a survivor of community harassment? Yes, definitely. I have experienced that. I have been a target of gang stalking for many years. I do have another channel gang stalking survivor. I have real video footage of some of the things I've experienced. Gang stalking is just another level of a smear camping with a lot of flyer monkeys. Yes, Lenny, I am 32 years old. Anyway, that's all for this Q&A tonight. I hope you all enjoyed the live celebration for 100k subscribers earlier today. And there will be two more premiers tomorrow. So I look forward to seeing you there. Thank you all for joining this live. And you will have a good evening.